E_Irizarry wrote:@Rome86,
I feel that most Black American women are the posterchild for feminists in this country. It's so much to the point now that even White American women of all socialeconomic statuses look up to them.
And he was right about everything until he said that Black American women are beginning to expand their options. Yeah they are but, but due to the waning synergy in the nuclear Black American family households due to neo-feminism and the new societal programs introduced in the 60s, now they are opting out for non-Black men.
Brazil was the last country to abolish slavery in the Western Hemisphere, yet you don't see Afro-Brazilians, especially the Afro-Brasilian women, act so damn entitled and delusional like Black American women do.
There are a few Afro Brazilians that feel that way because they see Black Americans "making it rain in the club" and are "balling with their money out of control" that they are "Black" like they are. Afro-*put the respective nationality here* do not equal Black Americans. Not even AFro-Canadians equal Black Americans.
Black Americans are a entity of their own. Yes, they came up with the ingenious musical genre of jazz and there was George Washington Carver that did wonderful things with peanut butter, but what has yielded from the great accomplishments of Blacks is a "1985 alternate Black to the Future" that Doc & Marty McFly had stumbled upon.
I would agree and as Dr Julia Hare has often said, we have been sold on the illusion of inclusion. Also other Afro communities do look up to us (strange as that sounds to many) so we do have a responsibly we're not living up to at the moment. Finding a Black Women that attractive and doesn't have the entitlement bug is very hard, which explains why so many Black Men are single in the first place.
The media is also irresponsible with the reasons of why as well. They blame Black Men for problems in the Black Community. They blame Black Men for doing the "Westley Snipes", the "OJ" or the "P.Diddy" (Hook with Asian, White or Latinas) as the reason why 70% of Black Women under 40 have never been married. They don't see a problem with them demanding the brothers be over 6 feet tall and have equal earning power. But its also that desire to find the mythical "Black Thug".
You would think Brothers that just have to have a dark skinned Woman would be beating a path to Colombia, Dominican Republic, Brazil or Africa. Some are, but many aren't and rather complain.
I'm solutions oriented so I can bitch and moan with the rest of them but there comes a time to actually DO something about your situation. You also don't need to "Make It Rain" around most women outside of America, but just be that -
[center]i like my man undercover
smooth dark brotha
fly to the bone
you don't need no fly jeep
to come and scoop me
you can drive what you own
(thats the way i like it)
a man undercover
smooth black brotha
fly to the bone
don't need no Coogi sweater
to make you look better
you can wear what you own
i, i, love, love the way that you smile, smile
you, you the type of guy
that got his own style
all i want to do is be with you
you, you got me feelin
the way that i do[/center]
They just like the idea that their man COULD be cool like some famous people out there, they don't demand it. Its like guilty by association but in a good way...