Kradmelder wrote:Adama, you are a good person with a good heart and I wish in 20 years we are still in contact and that you still think the same and are happily married. The odds are against it.
You are making a mistake not allying yourself with other men. Men friends last. Women will come and go. If you don't have good men friends, when a woman leaves you you will be left high and dry with all the bridges burnt. Yes God is a salvation, but good mates who understand how things are are a great comfort. You will find far more kindness and support in men than you will find in women. Don't burn that bridge.
When I was broke and destitute in Europe, I had women give me money, and I stayed with women. Those weren't even good women. Those were evil women, but they still helped me in my times of need.
Just as many of the slanderous women, the men I've known as roommates and former friends were actively trying to destroy me while pretending to be my friends. I was rooming with one guy, and he was trying to get me fired at our job. It didn't work, but he was still trying to destroy me. Other men at jobs were spreading rumors about me to get others to refuse to work with me. I had male roommates who said that if I ever get a woman I better hope she does it from behind cause she won't want to look at my face.
And especially, my best friend since age 17 has turned out to be a complete traitor, hiding his hatred of me from me. He is a man. So what is this camaraderie you write of?
So listen. I have absolute faith that God will bring me through AND destroy those who try to destroy me. Almost everyone who ever tried to destroy me wound up getting destroyed, often by the same trap they had set for me.
Seriously, I don't know why you worry about ANYTHING. I have stopped worrying long ago. All this fear you have of what people can do to you. THEY CAN'T DO ANYTHING UNLESS GOD ALLOWS IT.