Getting your Wife to Submit to and Obey You

[MrMan]

I had a look at this old blog post: https://manwithapurpose.com/how-to-get- ... omment-537

There is a bit of crude language. But I think he has some legit advice about having your stuff together and having a plan. But there is more too it than that. Being the boss in the relationship has a lot to do with how you interact with a woman.

Also, it really helps if she is on board with the idea of you being the boss. If you have that as common ground, then you calling her out if she isn't acting out her role may work out better. I'm not sure how that would work at all if you marry a radical feminist or an egalitarian. Also, if a wife does something disrespectful, the way she talks to you or interacts with you in private or especially in public, you have to call her out on it and set boundaries so she knows what is expected of her and what is unacceptable.

I suppose you can start while dating. I was quite a 'nice guy' while dating and had to assert myself after being married.

I'm not sure if anyone would want to talk about this here. But I thought I would open up the discussion in case anyone is interested.

[fschmidt]

I don't think we have a lot of married guys here. Anyway, I mostly agree. The thing is that I don't really like obedience but I do want to make sure that needed things get done. Having been married a long time, I have a few thoughts.

Never argue with a woman. This will never help and can often do harm. If you really feel like arguing, go argue with your neighbor's barking dog. That would be less counterproductive.

Stand your ground without getting emotional. If I want X, I tell my wife that for her to get Y she must do X. No debate. If she asks questions, I simply answer. If she gives arguments, I shrug my shoulders and leave.

[Tsar]

Stand your ground without getting emotional. If I want X, I tell my wife that for her to get Y she must do X. No debate.

Can you give an example of X and Y?