RedMenace wrote:To answer both of your questions. She is 26 i am 19. She isn't smarter than me even though i am 19 because i am not your typical 19 yr old who lives in a bubble. I have a lot of hobbies(programming, electronics, politics, music, a small business that i have made money from, e.t.c) and life experience so maybe she likes that. initially she said i was too young(most likely because she is scared i will change my mind in the future, she said this many time) but then she started to let go of that idea after i speak more with her and she learnt more about me. Since she is a graphics designer and i have programming experience, we made a website together and its looked pretty kl so maybe she sees that we can do kl things together. btw her friend also likes me(but i am not interested in her) so once she got kind of jealous/mad when her friend told her she would marry me blah blah and she said she is not speaking to me and her again lol because western culture is too open. i was confused because chinese people like to beat around the bush so it took some questioning to get to the cause of the problem. that's prob when i knew she was serious(before i thought she was just playing with me) about it.
I managed to talk her into not leaving(because i want to at least meet her in rl) since then we've just been speaking about daily life stuff and/or future plans. she isn't super rich(i think
) but she is financially stable as she has been living either with her friend or alone for some time now and was planning to buy a house. her dad died when was 12(because of overworking i think, never asked her more about it). a lot of the time i speak to her until she goes to bed, then i continue to speak with her until she sleeps(my voice makes her want to sleep she says
). once she told me how her mom found some dude for her but she wasn't into him e.t.c i think she will be very loyal because she said has only had one boyfriend while she was in uni and that ended quite quickly(i believe this 80%) and based on my analysis, she just needs someone. i never asked her if she is still a virgin(i think she is but should i?
).
sorry about the wall of text and non existent structure to this but i forgot one more thing. she once offered to buy me a plane ticket(she sent me a jade necklace a while ago) to go to china and live with her but i said no because i will never be in such a position again(already am) where a women has overall financial superiority because she will push you into a pit when her daily, weekly or monthly emotional surges start where for a few minutes she is unable to think logically and acts irrational. i will gladly receive help from a woman but only when i have laid my own financial foundations.
Wow! You are definitely not a typical 19 year old. You remind me of myself, but you might even be smarter than I was when I was 19. I can tell you are super mature for you age too. 26 year old woman with a 19 year old one will be a little challenging in a way, but if I had to pick a certain kind of older woman to marry she would have to be Asian and more specifically Chinese/Japanese except Filipino women. Since you are serious, smart, and disciplined, you can handle any of them!!
With your young age, you should have good enough cardio shape and good stroke/motion power to make her bond completely to you, so you better f**k her good after you get her use to your size. If you were anyone else, I would say no, but I think you can do this actually. Here's why:
1. Her father is gone. So with only a mother left, she has more freedom to marry anyone she wants. Especially at 26, even her mom would be less likely to care you are a laowai because she has already started searching for her daughter. Men come first in China. So if the man is gone, the family must re-center eventually and mom knows it will just get worse if she keeps waiting.
2. You are smarter than her probably, but not too much so that you would be mismatched!
3. You two work well together as a team it seems and get along well. Perhaps you two can run a business together...... Just a thought!
4. If you are both virgins, bring it up in conversation. It can make for that beautiful connection/moment Tsar talks about here on HA in some of his posts. If not find a smooth way to segway into that...
5. You must have a serious discussion upfront about, whether or not, she will allow you to be head of household, and what her expectations of a husband are to be. Do not wait until you f**k before clearing the air. Good dick can make any woman sing your praises submissively for a little while... You also need to express what your expectations of a wife are to be as well.
6. Give each other enough time to think about step 5 if necessary. If you two find a fault in expectations, take a quick timeout to think about what the other one really meant.
) to see if we really liked each other. since i am unable to travel to china this year, she said she is going to come to the uk in september because we will meet quicker then. she has a some what decent job as a graphics designer and lives a relatively comfortable life(unlike me who is still a student : | with lots of ambitions) anyways i personally would rate her a 6.5/10 but i really like her sense of care(she takes care of her friend when she is sick and can cook) so i think she would make a good wife. i often have political and social debates/arguments 
