Your former boss is an idiot and a mangina, who thinks women cannot do anything wrong. There is no obligation to listen to such nonsense, self defense is always OK, regardless if the aggressor is a man or a woman.Tapatio89 wrote: ...She and even my former boss said I am the problem as my former boss scolded me for hitting her twice and told me real men do not hit women
.....she has hitted me a lot of times for more than two years and I never fought back.
.....Two months is not a lot of months, although I told her that this is not how one solves problems as this is perfect recipe for destroying it.
.....I go after my wife because I truly love her. When I got married, I swore full commitment and never coward from it like my father did and abandon my mother, my sister and I for another woman and be an absent father
.....That is because most Japanese men and also from what I observed in North Americans when I was in the US is that once it gets heated bad, they run away and coward from it
.....Please read about my wife´s past and about her being a former escort. and let me know about it. I want to ask you how Japanese society views a man like me being married to an escort? In my country, society looks down a lot as this is a Catholic country
I also with my permission, you can tell to your wife my story and what she thinks about my wife´s behaviour and who is mostly at fault here? I thank you with anticipation, as well as for your advices. Well, I thank all of you for trying to help.
Openly said, 2 months is a lot of time, I would be careful if we talk about 2 days or even 2 weeks, but 2 months is too much to repair a relationship.
Love makes blind, and you should not compare your father with yourself - in your case you would divorce an abusive woman without children.
To 'run away' from an abusive woman is not wrong - it is much better to move away early than to wait until a violent situation escalates and ending in a hospital with emergency services, police and with courts and jail.
The Japanese society has very little consideration for any form of Christianity, which is a tiny minority, usually of Japanese people from the Southern Kyushu Island and of some Koreans born in Japan. Islam almost not existing.
This is a Buddhist/Shinto country and people - both men and women - do not see anything wrong with escort services, quite similar to Thailand. Many women try, many give up, some when getting older try to open a bar or similar business to act as a go-between for male customers and females willing to do this job.
About marriage in Metropolitan Tokyo with up to 38 million people during rush hours? Who knows who is who, and if you decide to live in a large condominium building, even your neighbor will not know who you are and has no idea about your past.
About your question, who is mostly at fault, I don't think, this question makes any sense. I do not know you personally and same with your wife. I do not know her either.
I can only say, what I read so far - you both do not fit together. Both of you should go their own way, looking for new contacts and to forget each other.