My 28 year old daughter doesn’t approve of my girlfriend who

[amanoftruth]

My 28 year old daughter doesn’t approve of my girlfriend who is only 4 years older than her


I met this amazing woman on this website called Loveme. Her name is Yulia, she’s from the Ukraine, and everything about her is just great. She’s so smart and funny, and we just connect on so many levels.

I’ll be the first to admit that we have a significant age gap I’m 59, and she’s only 33 years old. But the age gap has never been an issue. We’ve always been upfront with each other. We had been dating for almost 18 months before I decided to introduce her to my family. I have 3 kids, the 2 sons and 1 daughter.

My eldest daughter is 28 years old, she’s never really been open to the idea of me dating someone who’s only a few years older than her. My two sons, 25 and 23, don’t really mind, they’ve actually been pretty supportive.

I’m starting to seriously consider proposing to Yulia. I want my entire family to support the two of us. I’m asking if there’s anything I can do to make the two of them get along? Even though my daughter has her own place, she comes over fairly often, I really want us all to get along. Do you have any advice or suggestions on what I can do about this situation? I’d really appreciate it.

[LFL]

Winston, delete.

[MrMan]

Did you meet her on the AFA website? Oh please, do tell.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

My 28 year old daughter doesn’t approve of my girlfriend who is only 4 years older than her


I met this amazing woman on this website called Loveme. Her name is Yulia, she’s from the Ukraine, and everything about her is just great. She’s so smart and funny, and we just connect on so many levels.

I’ll be the first to admit that we have a significant age gap I’m 59, and she’s only 33 years old. But the age gap has never been an issue. We’ve always been upfront with each other. We had been dating for almost 18 months before I decided to introduce her to my family. I have 3 kids, the 2 sons and 1 daughter.

My eldest daughter is 28 years old, she’s never really been open to the idea of me dating someone who’s only a few years older than her. My two sons, 25 and 23, don’t really mind, they’ve actually been pretty supportive.

I’m starting to seriously consider proposing to Yulia. I want my entire family to support the two of us. I’m asking if there’s anything I can do to make the two of them get along? Even though my daughter has her own place, she comes over fairly often, I really want us all to get along. Do you have any advice or suggestions on what I can do about this situation? I’d really appreciate it.

Clearly a female troll posing as a male.

The feminine diction betrays her.

[Adama]

I never understood why people care about age gaps.

I used to have this friend who was the same way. He was around 45 yrs old, but when I told him I was looking for younger women, he told me I should only look at women within my age range.

Excuse me? Why am I going to limit myself to a woman who's older when younger women are available and willing, and I find them more attractive? This just makes no sense to me.

However, it seems to me there is strong cultural brainwashing that people must stick to a small age range of between 0 and 7 years.

Anything else is taking advantage of a weak willed, naive person, in their minds. Basically they are conditioned to be the enemies of relationships that aren't in the favor of older women. Because to go with a younger woman, in their minds is disgusting, because you're dating a more naive person.

Basically that means that I would be more abusive by default than a man her age, which is rather ridiculous. That is almost like an assumption that men are evil and looking to hurt women.

This is just cultural nonsense, and I am glad I was never irrational enough to let culture, especially US culture, dictate the things which I should do in my life. For what reason should I follow the herd? Seeing as the herd doesn't have my best interests in mind? The herd actually wants to diminish me and my happiness in favor of some lofty goal of female liberation and exaltation. To do what comes naturally would be to oppress women, and we can't have that. We must exalt women and oppress men instead, especially by forcing them to conform to standards and liberating women from all standards.

It's not even worth conversing with people sometimes. And I don't really care about people's approval or disapproval. There's always someone who thinks they are smarter than me who's going to issue swift condemnation for things that are not crimes before God. They don't know, condemning the innocent and the righteous is a crime. And if I have done no crime before God's eyes then man should not condemn me for something that is not a crime before God.

Older men and younger women marriages are not crimes before God. They are just as holy as any other marriage. Age is irrelevant.

That's what a man should ask himself: Is what I am doing natural? (And don't be deceived by the current cultural standard of natural, because perversion is considered normal by fools.) Is God against it or in favor of it?

[Adama]

I met this amazing woman on this website called Loveme.

I hope this isn't unadvertised advertising. That's almost insulting to put an ad in story form for people to believe it.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

I never understood why people care about age gaps.

Oleg Nosolov's book on women explains why older women hate age gaps between older men and younger women. Post-wall women know instinctively that younger women are at a beauty and fertility premium, thus they are higher value than older women. Older women therefore seek to shame men or stigmatize older men as "creepy" or "dirty old men" so that these men stay with women in their older age bracket. Without this stigma, older women could never stand a chance at landing a man of her own age.

Older men who are married hate older men with younger women out of envy. As a 50 year old man who has dealt with married men 20 years my junior sneering at my going with 20 year olds, I have seen this dynamic at play. These married men try to shame me to no avail with "Robbing the cradle" quips which is simply an expression of the young women they will never get.

Love is seen as a zero sum game by the losers; in other words one older man's gain is a loss for older women and unhappily married man.

Our own Mr. Man, who is married to an older Indonesian woman, laughably tried to shame me into leaving my 20 year old dime piece in a recent thread. . I get it though, because one never wants to feel short shrift so you have to sometimes demonize those who have what you know you can't.

It's like attack the millionaires because you know you will never be one. This is the same principle at play with age gap hatred.

[gsjackson]

When the "age appropriate" harpies get on me my response is: "Whether I'm in the U.S. or not I'm determined to abide by the spirit of the laws of my country and not discriminate on the basis of age."

[Adama]

I never understood why people care about age gaps.

Oleg Nosolov's book on women explains why older women hate age gaps between older men and younger women. Post-wall women know instinctively that younger women are at a beauty and fertility premium, thus they are higher value than older women. Older women therefore seek to shame men or stigmatize older men as "creepy" or "dirty old men" so that these men stay with women in their older age bracket. Without this stigma, older women could never stand a chance at landing a man of her own age.

Older men who are married hate older men with younger women out of envy. As a 50 year old man who has dealt with married men 20 years my junior sneering at my going with 20 year olds, I have seen this dynamic at play. These married men try to shame me to no avail with "Robbing the cradle" quips which is simply an expression of the young women they will never get.

Love is seen as a zero sum game by the losers; in other words one older man's gain is a loss for older women and unhappily married man.
I get it though, because one never wants to feel short shrift so you have to sometimes demonize those who have what you know you can't.

It's like attack the millionaires because you know you will never be one. This is the same principle at play with age gap hatred.

That's the thing though. Why should I have to short change myself to please the scorners and mockers? My life is between me and God. It isn't between me and the people who put their noses in my business.

However, when someone comes up with scorn and shaming language such as this, it is quite clear whose side they are on: that is they are marking themselves as enemies. How? Because they are intentionally giving deceptive advice to take down my happiness for their personal gratification.

And how is it that they derive pleasure from me not doing well? That's what I simply can't understand, except that, many of these people are so prideful that they've lost their humanity and understanding.

It reminds me of the best friend I had, who was trying to deceive me into thinking that I am unattractive, by getting me to think I was misinterpreting the things that women do and why they do them. He didn't want me to realize the reason they behaved a certain way is because they were attracted to me. Instead he wanted me to be confused and paralyzed by that confusion. He didn't want me to interpret women's signals positively but negatively. And of course the flakiness of many American women helped reinforce his deceptions.

I figure now the whole game of evil people is to get men to hate themselves and to have low self esteem, low standards, and low confidence. They also want to remove and impair any form of a man's discernment and discretion. Men aren't allowed to discriminate between women. Men aren't allowed to have standards. Men aren't allowed to be choosy. Men aren't even allowed to feel confident in themselves.

Evil people want to tear down the soul because it delights them and uplifts them. This is how you know these people are evil. They love to issue unrighteous judgment when they should really keep their mouths shut.

Just like when this obese woman was chasing after me uninvited. I made the mistake of discussing how this obese woman was chasing me with another obese woman. The second obese woman simply began to diminish me with scorn. She said that I should feel lucky to have attention from any woman at all.

This is the kind of stuff that will make you despise people who speak this garbage. Most of these people are going to hell because they are thieves and murderers. They'll steal your glory, your confidence, your self esteem through mocking to exalt themselves and feel mighty. That is theft of the soul (stealing confidence), and without confidence in yourself, it's a living death, because the person is too ashamed or confused or depressed to take advantage of good opportunities.

[Yohan]

My 28 year old daughter doesn’t approve of my girlfriend who is only 4 years older than her
.....
I met this amazing woman on this website called Loveme.

Looks like advertisement.

About the story, true or not, it is not the business of an adult daughter to 'approve' any personal relationship of her father.
Same is true also the other way, the father has no right to interfere in the private life of his adult daughter.

He can choose his own way, and she can choose her own way.
Of course many parents and their children have a good relationship, but if not, then not...

[Bao3niang]

She's your daughter, after all, and she wants the best for you. It's understandable. However, I would also suggest that you tread carefully.

她毕竟是你女儿，她对你的担忧不是没有道理的，因为她希望你找到真正的幸福。我能够理解她的出发点。不过，我也建议你保持谨慎，每走一步最好小心点。

[Cornfed]

In the unlikely event that the OP is on the level, why wouldn't you tell your daughter, who is almost certainly a worthless slut, to go f**k herself?

[Jonny Law]

My 28 year old daughter doesn’t approve of my girlfriend who is only 4 years older than her


I met this amazing woman on this website called Loveme. Her name is Yulia, she’s from the Ukraine, and everything about her is just great. She’s so smart and funny, and we just connect on so many levels.

I’ll be the first to admit that we have a significant age gap I’m 59, and she’s only 33 years old. But the age gap has never been an issue. We’ve always been upfront with each other. We had been dating for almost 18 months before I decided to introduce her to my family. I have 3 kids, the 2 sons and 1 daughter.

My eldest daughter is 28 years old, she’s never really been open to the idea of me dating someone who’s only a few years older than her. My two sons, 25 and 23, don’t really mind, they’ve actually been pretty supportive.

I’m starting to seriously consider proposing to Yulia. I want my entire family to support the two of us. I’m asking if there’s anything I can do to make the two of them get along? Even though my daughter has her own place, she comes over fairly often, I really want us all to get along. Do you have any advice or suggestions on what I can do about this situation? I’d really appreciate it.

Maybe you should listen to your daughter
QUESTION OF THE DAY???
Is Yulia, she’s from the Ukraine a Gold Digging Whore From Hell who is going to ruin your f***ing life?
https://www.cqmi.ca/en/russian-dating-n ... d-off-cqmi

[MrMan]

It is not a sin for a 90-year-old man to marry a 16-year-old girl, but there are practical concerns. Most age gaps aren't that extreme. 20-something woman with 40 or 50 something man is more realistic. If her dad agrees to give her away in marriage, and there isn't any other thing that makes it immoral, what's wrong with that?

If the couple have kids, then there is the issue of whether the man is going to be able to support his children until they are able to support themselves. That's more of an issue after he gets closer to or past 50, unless he's rich or is just able to pay for a decent life insurance policy. The chances of being there until they graduate high school or whatever is slimmer as he gets older. But if a woman married a man in his 20's, he could die young, and the older man might outlive her. Individual cases don't always follow the statistics.

But if it's 30's and 20's, that's not really that big of an age gap for raising kids. Anything under 50 isn't that big of a deal for that sort of thing.

What are other issues? Do they get along well? That's another issue. If an older man likes a woman who is in her '20's and they get along well, why would that be a problem. The 'man in charge' dynamic works out well in a relationship. The woman being in charge should definitely be avoided. Having an older woman be the 'mom' is just gross. I think it wears women out emotionally, too, to be in that type of relationship since women crave a man who is a leader whether it agrees with their philosophy or not.

Let's say a man is a widower and has a bunch of kids who are still small. He doesn't just need a wife. He needs a mother for the kids. If he marries a girl who isn't ready yet, that's an issue. A more mature woman might be a better mother. But she might not. A woman who wanted until 30 to consider marriage because she doesn't value marrying and having kids may not be as good of a step-mom as a 23-year-old who has always wanted to have a family. As far as adult kids are concerned, having a step-mom who is about the same age may be a little weird for adult kids, but they usually just have to visit and don't have to live together.

It is a good idea to marry someone who gets along with your relatives. If you have kids, they are included. So that is a practical concern.

I do suspect some women do not like age gaps in marriage if they see younger women as better-advantaged competitors. Women who spent their 20's riding the carnal carousel have no right to complain at all if decent men in their 30's and 40's marry better behaved women in their 20's.

All these things are practical concerns not moral issues.

[MrMan]

It is not a sin for a 90-year-old man to marry a 16-year-old girl, but there are practical concerns. Most age gaps aren't that extreme. 20-something woman with 40 or 50 something man is more realistic. If her dad agrees to give her away in marriage, and there isn't any other thing that makes it immoral, what's wrong with that?

If the couple have kids, then there is the issue of whether the man is going to be able to support his children until they are able to support themselves. That's more of an issue after he gets closer to or past 50, unless he's rich or is just able to pay for a decent life insurance policy. The chances of being there until they graduate high school or whatever is slimmer as he gets older. But if a woman married a man in his 20's, he could die young, and the older man might outlive her. Individual cases don't always follow the statistics.

But if it's 30's and 20's, that's not really that big of an age gap for raising kids. Anything under 50 isn't that big of a deal for that sort of thing.

What are other issues? Do they get along well? That's another issue. If an older man likes a woman who is in her '20's and they get along well, why would that be a problem. The 'man in charge' dynamic works out well in a relationship. The woman being in charge should definitely be avoided. Having an older woman be the 'mom' is just gross. I think it wears women out emotionally, too, to be in that type of relationship since women crave a man who is a leader whether it agrees with their philosophy or not.

Let's say a man is a widower and has a bunch of kids who are still small. He doesn't just need a wife. He needs a mother for the kids. If he marries a girl who isn't ready yet, that's an issue. A more mature woman might be a better mother. But she might not. A woman who wanted until 30 to consider marriage because she doesn't value marrying and having kids may not be as good of a step-mom as a 23-year-old who has always wanted to have a family. As far as adult kids are concerned, having a step-mom who is about the same age may be a little weird for adult kids, but they usually just have to visit and don't have to live together.

It is a good idea to marry someone who gets along with your relatives. If you have kids, they are included. So that is a practical concern.

I do suspect some women do not like age gaps in marriage if they see younger women as better-advantaged competitors. Women who spent their 20's riding the carnal carousel have no right to complain at all if decent men in their 30's and 40's marry better behaved women in their 20's.

All these things are practical concerns not moral issues.