Women don't respect black men even if they're good

[skateboardstephen]

I just went on a small trip to Virginia to visit some old high school friends who where all white males and i stayed at the house of one of those friends with his wife and made this observation.In the rare cases that American women do exhibit good behavior it seems to only be reserved for a white man and if you are a black man in America and deal with American women it seems as if you are doomed to come home to deal with a belligerent women every day when the white guys get the "honey your home i got diner ready" type of women.

Women in America don't respect black men nor take them serious as far as anything long term even if he is a good black man that works 40 hours a week has no felonies and is trying to provide for his kids,so it is really no wonder why black men in America say "f**k it why bother"even black women when they have good looks education and are well to do they save this behavior for white men while black men get the sassy,chicken necking ,stomp her feet black women.

And with black men saying they are going to get a white American women we come back to the same thing due to the way black men are viewed in society it seems as if only the bottom of the barrel trailer trash white women seem to want to co-habitat with black men but they tend to be ghetto wiggets that just follow black women's behavior in how they treat black men.

If you are a black man in the country that does have a good head on your shoulders you really don't have much of a choice other than to go abroad if you want to settle down and have a family.

[DarkMinxMish]

Hey Skate,

I don't necessarily agree with that actually. In my personal life I've seen black men with women in their lives who stick with them and respect them. On the opposite spectrum there's the more dysfunctional relationships where both parties are just bad for each other regardless.

Take for example my cousin "was" married to this man who couldn't keep a job to save his life, but he was pretty good with the kids. He kinda just stayed home and didn't do much when he was "between" jobs.
My cousin was the one who brought home the paycheck a majority of the time; while working two jobs or whatnot.
She would come home to a dirty home, have to cook, clean, make the kids do things, and etc...
While her hubby laid up mostly and if things went south he went to his mothers.

While I sympathized with her this situation was mostly of her making.
She knew the type of guy he was before getting with him, but she needed him and so tried to make it work.
But in the process she was driving herself crazy....
I can say she really loved him and probably did respect him.
She tried to save something that wasn't going to work w/o effort from both parties.

That's obviously not the greatest of situations, but she wanted the best for both of them.

To say that no women respects a black man is false and misleading just, because you see just one perspective.
And there is no "type" of women that only ends up with a black man.
Black men are capable of getting all sorts of women and they do.
Plus black guys who have a good head on their on shoulders do quite fine to me.
Sure they may not find someone to be with right away or meet someone who's not the best, but that's what sifting through people is for.

Also stating people see black men as the bottom rung isn't true. If some do feel that way then their f***ing ignorant period. There are plenty of black men who make good husbands and fathers, so that isn't true.

[Introvert]

The dude in DMX's story wasn't a good man.


Probably a re-post since it's over 3 years old but I couldn't help but think of this. This could also go in that other thread, but I've already said my piece there.

[Blue Murder]

Steve is right here. Where I live, only the not-so-f***ing-gorgeous white and non-black girls have had a genuine interest in me -- and even that faltered!

Most girls in this city "don't date black guys". They aren't racist though (psyche) -- they just pre-judge an entire ethnicity as being unattractive to them.

Black women are white-washed. That's why that behaviour is reserved for white men. I've seen minor examples, but they're still relevant. I'll watch those videos later and make another post.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

I just went on a small trip to Virginia to visit some old high school friends who where all white males and i stayed at the house of one of those friends with his wife and made this observation.In the rare cases that American women do exhibit good behavior it seems to only be reserved for a white man and if you are a black man in America and deal with American women it seems as if you are doomed to come home to deal with a belligerent women every day when the white guys get the "honey your home i got diner ready" type of women.

Women in America don't respect black men nor take them serious as far as anything long term even if he is a good black man that works 40 hours a week has no felonies and is trying to provide for his kids,so it is really no wonder why black men in America say "f**k it why bother"even black women when they have good looks education and are well to do they save this behavior for white men while black men get the sassy,chicken necking ,stomp her feet black women.

And with black men saying they are going to get a white American women we come back to the same thing due to the way black men are viewed in society it seems as if only the bottom of the barrel trailer trash white women seem to want to co-habitat with black men but they tend to be ghetto wiggets that just follow black women's behavior in how they treat black men.

If you are a black man in the country that does have a good head on your shoulders you really don't have much of a choice other than to go abroad if you want to settle down and have a family.

I completely agree. Don't let anyone tell you differently because you speak from experience, as do I. BM should check out of this country by working hard, saving and investing and getting their due.

Don't let the naysayers cause you any doubt, you are correct!

[OutsideoftheBox]

I just went on a small trip to Virginia to visit some old high school friends who where all white males and i stayed at the house of one of those friends with his wife and made this observation.In the rare cases that American women do exhibit good behavior it seems to only be reserved for a white man and if you are a black man in America and deal with American women it seems as if you are doomed to come home to deal with a belligerent women every day when the white guys get the "honey your home i got diner ready" type of women.

Women in America don't respect black men nor take them serious as far as anything long term even if he is a good black man that works 40 hours a week has no felonies and is trying to provide for his kids,so it is really no wonder why black men in America say "f**k it why bother"even black women when they have good looks education and are well to do they save this behavior for white men while black men get the sassy,chicken necking ,stomp her feet black women.

And with black men saying they are going to get a white American women we come back to the same thing due to the way black men are viewed in society it seems as if only the bottom of the barrel trailer trash white women seem to want to co-habitat with black men but they tend to be ghetto wiggets that just follow black women's behavior in how they treat black men.

If you are a black man in the country that does have a good head on your shoulders you really don't have much of a choice other than to go abroad if you want to settle down and have a family.

Why are you searching for a female in America? Why is it that you believe white males are "treated better" when they are the main males being married and divorced by females? Most American black females don't even get married. Most American black men hate American black females (as do most other males) Thus the main males getting shafted in divorce court must be white males by white American females.

I've never agreed with the "They love the white male more than me" spiel that seems to be going around the "good black man" crowd. American females love NO ONE. They don't even love themselves. If a white male is willing to bend over backwards and shell money out for p***y (which most are) then they will go for the white male.

Its all about dating who is the WEAKEST for American females. They want a male they can CONTROL. Black MEN refuse to be controlled by females. Nor do they run around trying to chase females down. Or sit around worried about what females in America think of them.

American men need to grow some balls. Stop all this "good man" crap.

[OutsideoftheBox]

Steve is right here. Where I live, only the not-so-f***ing-gorgeous white and non-black girls have had a genuine interest in me -- and even that faltered!

Most girls in this city "don't date black guys". They aren't racist though (psyche) -- they just pre-judge an entire ethnicity as being unattractive to them.

Black women are white-washed. That's why that behaviour is reserved for white men. I've seen minor examples, but they're still relevant. I'll watch those videos later and make another post.

I find this hard to believe since in every area I have lived it is the other way around. Black men are hard core and don't take American female's shit. I don't even see the black men in the areas I have lived paying attention to American females. Personally, I have crossed the street a few times when I see American females coming.

American white females try to strike up conversations with me all of the time. And I don't even answer them. From what I have seen it appears you have the desperate "good black man" crowd that does everything it can to kowtow to females. Then you have the brothers, which the "good black men" hate and have labeled "thugs", that have no problem attracting American skanks; but don't want them.

I'm part of the latter group. I'm not attracted to American females in the least. And it has been years since I saw a brother around my way try to talk to one. No wait, there is ONE mangina (and he happens to be a "good black man" LOL) that constantly sweats females. He's so horrible to be around. He's like a desperate child seeking a mother.

He's just one guy though and most black men I know have no problem beating skanks off of them.

[OutsideoftheBox]

Hey Skate,

I don't necessarily agree with that actually. In my personal life I've seen black men with women in their lives who stick with them and respect them. On the opposite spectrum there's the more dysfunctional relationships where both parties are just bad for each other regardless.

Take for example my cousin "was" married to this man who couldn't keep a job to save his life, but he was pretty good with the kids. He kinda just stayed home and didn't do much when he was "between" jobs.
My cousin was the one who brought home the paycheck a majority of the time; while working two jobs or whatnot.
She would come home to a dirty home, have to cook, clean, make the kids do things, and etc...
While her hubby laid up mostly and if things went south he went to his mothers.

While I sympathized with her this situation was mostly of her making.
She knew the type of guy he was before getting with him, but she needed him and so tried to make it work.
But in the process she was driving herself crazy....
I can say she really loved him and probably did respect him.
She tried to save something that wasn't going to work w/o effort from both parties.

That's obviously not the greatest of situations, but she wanted the best for both of them.

To say that no women respects a black man is false and misleading just, because you see just one perspective.
And there is no "type" of women that only ends up with a black man.
Black men are capable of getting all sorts of women and they do.
Plus black guys who have a good head on their on shoulders do quite fine to me.
Sure they may not find someone to be with right away or meet someone who's not the best, but that's what sifting through people is for.

Also stating people see black men as the bottom rung isn't true. If some do feel that way then their f***ing ignorant period. There are plenty of black men who make good husbands and fathers, so that isn't true.

Excellent post. It appears that the "good black man" who is always downing other black men in some form or another (with a bumch of Eurocentric hogwash; such as "black men are the bottom of the rung/only the white man gets women") is just another self-hating sambo.

This is quite evident merely looking at what qualifies as a "good black man" in the mind of the sambo.

Eurocentric dress code, Eurocentric education, Eurocentric mannerisms, etc.

This is the same male that would turn his nose up at someone embracing African culture. Therefore I don't take "good black man" posts too seriously.

[Introvert]

Nah. Thugs don’t try to convince other men to be thugs. They’re greedy and they DO want the skanks as well as the good girls (foreign or otherwise) from what I’ve seen. Thugs are just about getting it in.

On the other hand...

This is similar to what Bakari was talking about. “Get off the ‘good black man’ bandwagon.â€￾ It’s kind of like a sense of entitlement for being ‘good’. Come to think of it, this is also similar to the whole ‘nice guy’ backlash.

But, OotB, I understand and agree with your over-arching point, “Why bother with ANY AW in the first place?â€￾

[OutsideoftheBox]

[E_Irizarry]

I just went on a small trip to Virginia to visit some old high school friends who where all white males and i stayed at the house of one of those friends with his wife and made this observation.In the rare cases that American women do exhibit good behavior it seems to only be reserved for a white man and if you are a black man in America and deal with American women it seems as if you are doomed to come home to deal with a belligerent women every day when the white guys get the "honey your home i got diner ready" type of women.

Women in America don't respect black men nor take them serious as far as anything long term even if he is a good black man that works 40 hours a week has no felonies and is trying to provide for his kids,so it is really no wonder why black men in America say "f**k it why bother"even black women when they have good looks education and are well to do they save this behavior for white men while black men get the sassy,chicken necking ,stomp her feet black women.

And with black men saying they are going to get a white American women we come back to the same thing due to the way black men are viewed in society it seems as if only the bottom of the barrel trailer trash white women seem to want to co-habitat with black men but they tend to be ghetto wiggets that just follow black women's behavior in how they treat black men.

If you are a black man in the country that does have a good head on your shoulders you really don't have much of a choice other than to go abroad if you want to settle down and have a family.

I completely agree. Don't let anyone tell you differently because you speak from experience, as do I. BM should check out of this country by working hard, saving and investing and getting their due.

Don't let the naysayers cause you any doubt, you are correct!

Basically, Stephen made a case and point in his rant so basically he solved his own problem. Since it happened so recently, it's fresh on his mind, and he likes to come here to vent it out - like many of us do from time-to-time. Hey, Stephen, I know we may not be eye to eye on the differences between Blacks and Afro-*, but we concur on everything else pretty seamlessly.

[djfourmoney]

Steve has GF from Brazil.... What do you mean why is he searching in America? He didn't he went to Brazil...

[E_Irizarry]

I just went on a small trip to Virginia to visit some old high school friends who where all white males and i stayed at the house of one of those friends with his wife and made this observation.In the rare cases that American women do exhibit good behavior it seems to only be reserved for a white man and if you are a black man in America and deal with American women it seems as if you are doomed to come home to deal with a belligerent women every day when the white guys get the "honey your home i got diner ready" type of women.

Women in America don't respect black men nor take them serious as far as anything long term even if he is a good black man that works 40 hours a week has no felonies and is trying to provide for his kids,so it is really no wonder why black men in America say "f**k it why bother"even black women when they have good looks education and are well to do they save this behavior for white men while black men get the sassy,chicken necking ,stomp her feet black women.

And with black men saying they are going to get a white American women we come back to the same thing due to the way black men are viewed in society it seems as if only the bottom of the barrel trailer trash white women seem to want to co-habitat with black men but they tend to be ghetto wiggets that just follow black women's behavior in how they treat black men.

If you are a black man in the country that does have a good head on your shoulders you really don't have much of a choice other than to go abroad if you want to settle down and have a family.

Why are you searching for a female in America? Why is it that you believe white males are "treated better" when they are the main males being married and divorced by females? Most American black females don't even get married. Most American black men hate American black females (as do most other males) Thus the main males getting shafted in divorce court must be white males by white American females.

I've never agreed with the "They love the white male more than me" spiel that seems to be going around the "good black man" crowd. American females love NO ONE. They don't even love themselves. If a white male is willing to bend over backwards and shell money out for p***y (which most are) then they will go for the white male.

Its all about dating who is the WEAKEST for American females. They want a male they can CONTROL. Black MEN refuse to be controlled by females. Nor do they run around trying to chase females down. Or sit around worried about what females in America think of them.

American men need to grow some balls. Stop all this "good man" crap.

Whoa f***ing whoa. A lot of Black men are some of the most matriarchal ANDDDDDDDDDDDD hypermasculine men on the planet!! It sounds like a contradictory paradox, but a lot of Black people in general are walking contradictions: one moment they are looking for a strawman argument, another moment they are so charlatan when it comes to their accolades just to get "one up on ya" so they can feel better about themselves (e.g. a classic Black woman example, "I got a degree in such-in-such!" WE ALL HAVE HEARD THAT whether provoked or not!!!), one moment it's "I hate Whitey" or "I'm a Kemetic all-true Nubian Black man", or "Jesus died for me and my sins" rhetoric depending on how they feel and/or the situation they are in at that moment and they were raised primarily by spineless Black men and/or single mothers whom inoculated Black men with "you better respect a woman; disrespecting your Black woman is like disrespecting yo' momma!".

Yes, many White people act frivolous just so they can remain "one up on ya", too. It's an American idiosyncrasy.

Don't you know that a lot of non-Black BUT NON-WHITE ("in the middle" ethnicities in America) that do date Black men is usually because they are in shape ( many "in the middle" races frown upon fat Black men), and/or dude has "bank" (i.e. he has a stable career (not a job)) and (not and/or, but AND) because a lot of Black men become some of the biggest manginas to non-Black-but-non-White (Latina-Americans, Indian-American women, Middle-Eastern-American women, etc) because of how feminist Black women have become and/or because of how self-loathing those Black men are because they don't feel a connection with Blacks whatsoever due to being ostracized from the Black diaspora!

Those type of women ALSO see how matriarchal in the treatment they receive from the Black men because most men in their own communities are patriarchal and don't let the women get away with shit. Sometimes it's because those "in the middle" ethnicity of women have no options in any race but the Black race because Blacks accept all body types and almost have no standard (which is pretty open-minded in a lot of ways but also reverts Blacks to being at the bottom of the barrel due to lack of communal structure).

If Blacks had communal structure of their own GDP being retained within their community, then it would be okay to have an open-door policy to women of other ethnic groups.

I had a Korean American BBW the other day, I met online, decide to meet me. She had no ass, smoked like a fish (Newport LIghts are nasty!) and had facial moles all around her face. I couldn't do it; she was too ugly. I guess she assumed I was a DJ IV Money type that was going to go for her just because she thought I was Black just because I met her on BlackPLanet. I swear I need to leave that site alone. LMAO!

[OutsideoftheBox]

Steve has GF from Brazil.... What do you mean why is he searching in America? He didn't he went to Brazil...

And yet he's still on here whining about how American black females, whom he's obviously still watching with romantic inclinations in mind, treat HIM in the states. Let's be honest most of the guys on here are bitter. If American females gave them play they would take it.

I happen to be one of the ONLY men on here that sincerely has NO interest in American females. I see them as trash, the bottom of the barrel. This is in contrast with many posters here who hate American females for not wanting them, and at the same time glorify these females by CONSTANTLY talking about them over and over and over.

You'd think American females were god's gift to the world with the way these males on here talk about them over and over and over. MOVE ON, GROW SOME BALLS, AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. Cut the "we are lower than dirt" because American females don't want us crap. Its old and stale.

[skateboardstephen]

Steve has GF from Brazil.... What do you mean why is he searching in America? He didn't he went to Brazil...

Thank you dj for money these fools have not been paying attention to my post they are newbies here.