Stressed due to a Filipina claiming her baby is mine.

[Yoleo]

Spent 4 days with her in Manila ( Met her online) the condom broke\slipped on the last day and 3 weeks later i get a text saying she took the test and is positive. I asked what's next? what do you want to do about it?she wanted an abortion, I payed for her ticket to come to the city where I was staying at in the south of the Philippines and took the test in front of me and it was positive, we had an abortionist come to perform the procedure and I stepped outside of the room (big mistake), I came back into the room and she had put fake blood on the toilet and trashcan to lead me to believe she had an abortion.

She ended up never having it, now months later she's flooding my email or sending me random messages from different accounts on facebook with the pictures of the baby and attempts to make me feel guilty with keywords like "i'm taking care of the baby all by myself and you aren't helping".

The woman had relationships with foreigners before I met her and would get defensive
when I would ask her who they are.

She also is a liar, lied about having a job as a marketing executive for an american company, lied about living in Makati (shes from some province upnorth), sent fake pictures of her vacationing in Singapore to make me feel like she's of high status.

Now after no contact for almost 1 year she sent me a message trying to make me feel guilty saying "that her baby is going to be 1 year old, that i'm
invited to the babies birthday" and nothing else.

The problem is the baby kind of looks like me, but she had mid age foreigners on her page and also lied about not having a relationship with some co worker who recently left to the states for work, when i translated the tagalog to english, they were going out on dates even though she said it was just a co worker.

So basically the woman is a liar and not someone I want in my life, lied about having an abortion and now is bothering me for support, i want nothing to do with her or her baby but I feel bad about that creature because they live in some slums up in the north.

(weird thing is) the baby has nice clothes, nice shoes, $20 dollar baby milk bottles, drinking western formulas, looks well fed so obviously someone is supporting it? this woman is 30 years old and i think only makes 5,000 pesos at some retail job, she couldn't possibly be able to afford that on her own.

What's the opinion of you guys?

[Hero]

Be a man and get a DNA test done. If the kid is yours, then support it. You're still responsible for where your sperm goes, no matter how much of a ho your friend is.

[Yoleo]

Be a man and get a DNA test done. If the kid is yours, then support it. You're still responsible for where your sperm goes, no matter how much of a ho your friend is.

I would never send her a cent, the only thing I can do is offer to bring the kid to the states if a DNA test determines is mine and offer him a better quality of life, I will NEVER send that woman anything. That slut is not going to get a free meal out of me.

But when ever I talk to her is always some sort of argument, last time I spoke to her she straight up cursed me and disrespected me, I really do not want anything to do with her, she obviously doesn't need me.

The problem is i keep thinking about this whole situation, seems like I'm putting too much thought on to this and even though the kid sort of looks like me, she's not the one initiating contact after she realized that she can't get anything out of me, it's been me initiating the contact, i'm the dumb one in here that keeps walking into the knife.

[Cornfed]

Be a man and get a DNA test done. If the kid is yours, then support it. You're still responsible for where your sperm goes, no matter how much of a ho your friend is.

That is not the traditional belief. Men were not generally seen as responsible for the bastard children of whores prior to feminism. I would just sever all contact with the female.

[Hero]

That is not the traditional belief. Men were not generally seen as responsible for the bastard children of whores prior to feminism. I would just sever all contact with the female.

Not all traditional beliefs are correct. Don't you have any pity for that poor kid that Yoleo brought into the world, assuming it's his?
Doesn't it bother you that he's helping to ruin the reputation of Western men over there?

[Cornfed]

Not all traditional beliefs are correct. Don't you have any pity for that poor kid that Yoleo brought into the world, assuming it's his?
Doesn't it bother you that he's helping to ruin the reputation of Western men over there?

It is not his problem. Paying for the kid would harm the reputation of Western men by making us look like mangina saps that whores can sponge off.

[kai1275]

Cornfed unfortunately does have an excellent point. Question is whether or not does the Philippines force men to take paternity test and what kinds of legal messes can she do to this poster to prevent him from ever coming back etc.?

If he just absolutely feels torn about the kid and it is killing him in a morality/personal faith related sense, you need to make a good effort to take the kid in from her and make some kind of arraignement after a DNA test, to keep in the US with you. If it might cost a couple thousand dollars to make her give him up, then maybe you can try that. But the key is that you ONLY make a good smart offer ONCE! The more you drag this out, the worst things will get. If she says absolutely no to even the DNA test or gets too flaky, drop it. Go get counseling and block all communication with her, if it bothers you badly enough and work on moving on in life.

This poster is far from the first and wont be the last guy to get played by a Filipino woman. Do not think you must do some kind of a ideological favor for the rest of us trying to make a fuggin point. Just do what makes sense to fix the problem for yourself.

[Hero]

I hope this thread will serve as a warning to other guys not to sleep with strangers.

A year ago, I dated a hot Ukrainian woman who wanted to go to bed with me on the very first date. I turned her down precisely to avoid the mess that Yoleo got himself into.

[zboy1]

This is why Filipino women are overrated in my opinion! Most only use foreigners for Green Cards or to scam foreign men of their money.

[Yoleo]

This is why Filipino women are overrated in my opinion! Most only use foreigners for Green Cards or to scam foreign men of their money.

Not all but the ones from low socioeconomic status yes, it sucks that this happened to me, I was blinded.
I should've dropped her the moment i caught her on her first lie.

Now I have to live with:

(A) A kid by someone who tried to f**k me over and has no respect for me and only sees me as an ATM machine.
(B) If sever all contact, the thoughts of some kid who might be mine crawling in dumpsters in Manila.

I'm in a lose lose situation, I was stupid.. let her take me to the hotel right after I landed there we had sex right away, she also did something to make the condom break\slip out.

28 days later exactly I got the text (I'm pregnant)

She showed up with her Passport and all her bags expecting me to bring her out of the country after doing her "Abortion" which she lied about.

Crazy right? she had a master plan.

I was going through a severe depression and I just wanted to feel loved, i walked right into the mouth of lion.

I showed the pictures of that baby to my mother and she says it doesn't look like me, she told me to forget about it..

But that woman planted a seed in my mind.. it's hard to explain, she uses a combination of words that attempt to make me feel guilty or pity? i'm not even sure.

It's hard to explain wtf is going on with me right now, I'm maybe going insane?

[Jester]

So many lessons here.

I have nothing to add to wise advice here and what you have figured out on your own.

I just want to say thank you for sharing the story. I too have had birth control failures of 4 sons born this way) and this reminds me one again: if you wouldnt want a baby from her, don't do her at all -- with OR without a condom.

Good luck to you Yoleo.

[Yoleo]

So many lessons here.

I have nothing to add to wise advice here and what you have figured out on your own.

I just want to say thank you for sharing the story. I too have had birth control failures of 4 sons born this way) and this reminds me one again: if you wouldnt want a baby from her, don't do her at all -- with OR without a condom.

Good luck to you Yoleo.

Thank you, ultimately this makes me stronger, i'm still in my 20's.. it's nothing but a life learning lesson.
If it's too easy is not good enough for me, and that goes for anything in life women and business included
If the barrier to entry is very low it's not because I'm special.
Advertising has f***ed the world up.

[Teal Lantern]

The sun never sets on women who know the quickest way to retirement is banking a Western man's baby gravy.
DNA >> IRA/401K (without all that pesky 'working')

[Yoleo]

The sun never sets on women who know the quickest way to retirement is banking a Western man's baby gravy.
DNA >> IRA/401K (without all that pesky 'working')

I don't understand?

[royalism]

Geezus. What a story.