Winston wrote:Jackal wrote:Winston wrote:
I also don't like that you pretty much have to sacrifice the rest of your life just to become a "good father" and get a thank you from your children someday. By then, your life will be over and you cannot get it back, no matter how many times your children thank you for being a good father.
That's one possibility. Another possibility is that when you are old you will think, "Wow, I've really been a terrible father. I wish I had done things better, so that my son wouldn't hate me so much now."
I think it should be possible to balance having fun with being a father, but that probably means being away for a few days here and there and not for a few months.
My son is like a monster from hell, what to do?
Short answer: Be a good father.
How is being a good father going to change his attitude? He's still going to whine and bitch every minute. That isn't going to change. What's your solution? Can you come here Jackal and babysit him for a few hours and see if your solution works?
Jesus f***ing christ, you do not get it.
A few hours is not the solution. Your son needs a full time father, one who does not run off to Taiwan for 6 months at a time (that's 25% of his life!).
You can delete my posts and put your fingers in your ears and ignore what others tell you, but that does not change reality.
Boys become like this when their father is absent.
Ergo, he is like this because of you.
Judgments like that are not going to create solutions.
The hell they don't. You are looking for us to justify your bad choices.
I won't, not this time.
You are creating this. He is like this because of your actions, inactions and bad parenting.
A few hours is irrelevant. You need to be with him for months, years, to affect his behavior. Since he got like this from 3 years of your absense, either emotional or physical, it makes sense that to correct it will take 3 years of your presence.
You f***ed up and now you either need to correct this or accept that he will be like this because of you.
Or, you could continue to be an irresponsible parent and ignore wisdom you don't want to hear.
There are many things you can regret in life. Giving up your life and freedom, I think, will be more regretful than being seen as a "bad or absent father".
Wrong. You are creating a potential future criminal, one who may harm other people. This is known, Winston. Single mother children are 70% of the USA's criminals. This isn't even in question - why are you denying this fact to justify your life choices? You don't care about what your son will do to others in the future?
Globe, you have no proof that me being away changed his behavior. He was always oversensitive and crying more than other babies, long before I ever went away. He was born different. I am oversensitive too. He probably inherited a lot of sensitivities from me.
I am tire of your childish, teenager attitude. You are incapable of self-responsibilty and now you want us to rubber stamp your decision to not put any more effort into rearing your boy because he is difficult?
f**k You! Winston, really.
f**k You.
Globe, by the way, I've been hit by kids before too. But have you ever been hit by a kid in the face at full force? If you did, I don't think you would laugh it off. You'd get pissed off too. Come here and I'll prove it to you.
You cannot control your self around a 3 year old? You are not worth another second of my life.
I sincerely hope that your website fails and that you are the victim of crime at the hands of a boy reared by a single mother and a terrible father like you.
Not that that's a good excuse but...whatever.