Problem with American girl and her unclear signals

[ihatebadgirls]

Ok so there this American girl that been acting like she really likes me when we first met and always stares and even gotten sad over me and shown me to her friend.

She cried and was sad when she I was mad at her before and avoided her glance but was back to normal after I responded to her again.

But the werid thing with her is she never makes small talks with me when we were alone in her office. I don’t know whether she been nervous or something.


But there was this time when I went to talk to her, she thought I was going to ask her out and got really excited briefly and when she realized it wasn’t that, she calmed down. I just asked about why she was always looking at me. and she made up some excuse which didn’t make sense like its her job to check students whether they in class. Cuz she was like stealing glance like 80% the time. And if that’s the case, why the hell did you cried ?

I just asked her whether she wanted to talk about things and she shook her head with a smile.

Then I left her alone and she seemed miserable for a while. But I mean she has my email, I don’t know why she didn’t even email me to ask or something.

I don’t even know what the hell her prob was. I mean I tried and she didn’t even slightest.

And then like she still tried to draw my attention when she saw me and at one point even tried to make me jealous with guy she didn’t even like. And she had gotten mad when I ignored her. My guess was she want me to go to talk to her instead of coming to me. I mean so damn difficult.

What the hells wrong with this girl? I want to hook up and befriend her and all since she appeared to like me and I thought having connection with a school staff would be beneficial. So I thought hey could be a good deal and I thought she really like me much cuz she cried over me and all.

But man was I wrong. Right after she try made me jealous with different dudes, I was looking at the picture of this girl for class work and I dunno if hse got jealous of my paying attention to that. She seemed more sad than usual right around time I still putting out the picture.

But later she seem ok. So I decide to ask for her number like over email and she was like I dunno where this coming from and it was never my intention to get with you and I don’t get involve with student. Now I don’t think theres a policy against that. And we both adults. Now I dunno whether this cuz she mad at me looking at picture of the girl. But that was unexpected. And went kinda bad cuz I kinda lectured her, and told her to stop giving me problem and stop with stupid jealousy.
At first I went about it in civil manner but she was like you are out of line and I went into more aggressive mode. Jesus Christ!


I mean with European girls , its social, friendly, easygoing. Just easy to communicate and figure things out. I had easy time with some of them.


But American girls by comparision are just crazy. I was tempt to have someone as a staff who seemingly happen to like me. but man did I pay for this. I had not had many dealing with American girl and man did I pay for this.






zhit!

[The Arab]

First ...

Your English is horrible.

Please explain.

Second ..

From what I gathered from your mangled post, you clearly have atrocious social skills. Trying to hook-up with a teacher can cost her her job, and you fumbled all the way like an Asperger's sufferer.

E-mailing her and asking for her number ... *facepalm*

Where is your confidence ? Be a man kiddo, your behavior was embarrassing and weak and I don't see what it has to do with American women.Your social skills are weak, and you clearly don't understand women well.

Others will sugarcoat things and give you worthless "advice", but I tell it as it is. While there are certain truths about AW, everything you struggled to write in 3rd-grade level English ( and I struggled to read) just confirms your Aspergers and cluelessness about women in general, rather than anything AW specific.

[ihatebadgirls]

ok, so the punctuation off, but i did that on purpose as the length was too much to refine and was understandable enough despite lack of perfection grammer. so don't judge too much just on mere lack of care on grammer. you may think you are suppose to ask in person, but i already did once so asking for way to contact her by emails not really more or less manly in my view. and with european girls this was never an issue. they seem to not care how you ask them out as long as you ask.

so your view about asking out by email being less manly or whatever isn't universally shared. and i beg to differ on your comment about lacking understanding in women, with european women, socializing and connecting easier, it is with american women that you have to guess signs and this and that like a puzzle which i'm not a big fan of.

and she is not a teacher, she like a secretary. and while some companies are against this, for some , the view is that as long as its does not interfere with job function, there is no problem. its no different than a secretary dating a client.

[Rock]

First ...

Your English is horrible.

Please explain.

Second ..

From what I gathered from your mangled post, you clearly have atrocious social skills. Trying to hook-up with a teacher can cost her her job, and you fumbled all the way like an Asperger's sufferer.

E-mailing her and asking for her number ... *facepalm*

Where is your confidence ? Be a man kiddo, your behavior was embarrassing and weak and I don't see what it has to do with American women.Your social skills are weak, and you clearly don't understand women well.

Others will sugarcoat things and give you worthless "advice", but I tell it as it is. While there are certain truths about AW, everything you struggled to write in 3rd-grade level English ( and I struggled to read) just confirms your Aspergers and cluelessness about women in general, rather than anything AW specific.

Yea, why do certain posters come across as being semi-literate even though they are presumably native US English speakers? Is gadget obsession and social network style of communication causing the new generation to skip learning how to write? I don't mean that posts need to be grammatically and error free. I for one make plenty of stupid mistakes in my writing. But you should at least express your sentences in a way which is easy for anyone with common sense to understand. Some of these posts look like they were written by South Korean middle school students.

[The Arab]

ok, so the punctuation off, but i did that on purpose as the length was too much to refine and was understandable enough despite lack of perfection grammer. so don't judge too much just on mere lack of care on grammer. you may think you are suppose to ask in person, but i already did once so asking for way to contact her by emails not really more or less manly in my view. and with european girls this was never an issue. they seem to not care how you ask them out as long as you ask.

so your view about asking out by email being less manly or whatever isn't universally shared. and i beg to differ on your comment about lacking understanding in women, with european women, socializing and connecting easier, it is with american women that you have to guess signs and this and that like a puzzle which i'm not a big fan of.

and she is not a teacher, she like a secretary. and while some companies are against this, for some , the view is that as long as its does not interfere with job function, there is no problem. its no different than a secretary dating a client.

You're clearly not a native English speaker ... syntax and sentence structure is all wrong ....why not shed some light and tell us where you're from. You speak of European women being easier to socialize with, so I'm assuming you're from a European country.

I'm not defending American women here. I've said many times, in general, American women suck and are confused and unaware how to interact and flirt with men naturally.

[The Arab]

First ...

Your English is horrible.

Please explain.

Second ..

From what I gathered from your mangled post, you clearly have atrocious social skills. Trying to hook-up with a teacher can cost her her job, and you fumbled all the way like an Asperger's sufferer.

E-mailing her and asking for her number ... *facepalm*

Where is your confidence ? Be a man kiddo, your behavior was embarrassing and weak and I don't see what it has to do with American women.Your social skills are weak, and you clearly don't understand women well.

Others will sugarcoat things and give you worthless "advice", but I tell it as it is. While there are certain truths about AW, everything you struggled to write in 3rd-grade level English ( and I struggled to read) just confirms your Aspergers and cluelessness about women in general, rather than anything AW specific.

Yea, why do certain posters come across as being semi-literate even though they are presumably native US English speakers? Is gadget obsession and social network style of communication causing the new generation to skip learning how to write? I don't mean that posts need to be grammatically and error free. I for one make plenty of stupid mistakes in my writing. But you should at least express your sentences in a way which is easy for anyone with common sense to understand. Some of these posts look like they were written by South Korean middle school students.

I can tell this guy is not a native English speaker. That other guy on the board, ssjparris, has no such excuse.

Yes, the whole Facebook generation really lost the art of communication, what with texting and smileys and slang. But ssjparris clearly did not graduate high school and maybe didn't go past the 8th grade.

Now, if I am speaking English as a second language and have to see horrible English by native speakers, what should I think ? It's annoying, it reflects poor education and gives a bad impression of the person.

[aozora13]

I have to agree with The Arab. It is not hard to explain how you like an American woman and you are unable to progress because you are nervous.

OP: The Arab is basically saying that it should not be hard to tell us your problem/rant.

I also think that he is not a native speaker either.

[Fenix]

First ...

Your English is horrible.

Please explain.

Second ..

From what I gathered from your mangled post, you clearly have atrocious social skills. Trying to hook-up with a teacher can cost her her job, and you fumbled all the way like an Asperger's sufferer.

E-mailing her and asking for her number ... *facepalm*

Where is your confidence ? Be a man kiddo, your behavior was embarrassing and weak and I don't see what it has to do with American women.Your social skills are weak, and you clearly don't understand women well.

Others will sugarcoat things and give you worthless "advice", but I tell it as it is. While there are certain truths about AW, everything you struggled to write in 3rd-grade level English ( and I struggled to read) just confirms your Aspergers and cluelessness about women in general, rather than anything AW specific.

Bingo! Yahtzee!

The problem is you, not the girl. You should have made the move when you said she thought you were going to ask her out. Women will move on to the next guy if you do shit like this. She has moved on. You took too long to make a move. It's your fault. Yeah, you have to be aggressive at all times IN PERSON. Emailing? I agree with the Arab on this one.

[pete98146]

Ihatebadgirls...

Are you sure you don't live in the Pacific Northwest because this part of the country is crawling with the type of behavior you just mentioned. It's called Passive Aggressive behavior.

So you kinda dig this chick! Why not walk up to her and say this verbatim: Wow _______ you look really nice today! Hey I was gonna go check out this band at XYZ tavern this weekend. Would you like to come with me?

Easy as pie my friend. Don't beat around the bush. You had her on the hook and you threw her back into the water. She's no doubt lost respect for you because you didn't man up and ask her out.

[Truthville]

Awwww.......

While I also appreciate English properly written, I'm not going to sit and bust his balls for it.

Pete98146 has it right. It's the classic passive/aggressive behavior of the American female.

If you like this kind of thing, go for it! IMHO, it's also a classic sign of the "dramaholic" attention whore female.

This kind of female LOVES the emotional ups and downs that the her self-inflicted life provides her.

"It's like living in my own personal soap opera where I'M the star," she gleefully tells herself, in between multiple readings of the "Twilight" books and multiple viewings of "Desperate Housewives."

You better start brushing up on your "bad boy with a heart of gold" acting skills son!

Good luck with that!

[ihatebadgirls]

so you guys think i should 've acted when she was still interested? lol. picky, picky, picky. fastiduous. all this crap about acting should enough so you don't lose her interest and having to be agressive at the freckin time. geez, i feel like i have to be in a war zone all the time to get with american girls.

i have an easier way, thats european. friendly, social, easygoing. nice and easy. usualy its meeting at social event, we talk and show we like each other, hang out and have fun. ba la bin ba la bang! nice and easy and relaxing and smooth.

i don't have to be a frecking on-alert soldier all the time. and doesn't matter how i ask european girls as long as i ask.





whats all this crap about like strict rules on how to behavior , i want to live in a puzzle with american girls? no freckin thank you! i like an easier life , not a harder one!


how bout making yourself happy for a change instead of always catering perfectly to what the girls want? oh wait, i forgot, i don't have to do that so much with europeans. screw american girls!


you guys sound like you are so wrapped up in pleasing the girls you forgot to make yourself happy also. and just whats wrong with the girl taking the initiative after hes has started it? what a lazy ass bitch for doing nothing?








and i should note that you guys missed one very important thing thats carry meaning to men. if she really likes you, shes not gonna care how you ask her out, that the sign that she really likes you. and that what european girls have given me.


if its like you said that she felt you didn't manned up and asked her out and lost respect and all, that shallow. and a flat, meaningless interest. and even if you do hook up with someone like that, you will no doubt have to jump through a lot of her hoops to please her. a girl that expect to receive much and give little. fook that zhit!

[lavezzi]

and i should note that you guys missed one very important thing thats carry meaning to men. if she really likes you, shes not gonna care how you ask her out, that the sign that she really likes you. and that what european girls have given me.

Which specific Europene girls are you refering to?

[ihatebadgirls]

in general, european girls are more easygoing compared to american ones. for example, french, german, norwagen, swedish, spanish, and so on. weel the polish are more conservative when it comes to casual sex but its cuz they are catholic. but they are still very pleasant in demeanor.


american women seem so messed up no wonder america have higher depression rate. i can see how the women here make the men go wacko.

and this book talks about the problem of american women, i hope europe never becomes like this. i heard but didn't beleive it so much until i experienced it myself.

[DaRick]

Easy as pie my friend. Don't beat around the bush. You had her on the hook and you threw her back into the water. She's no doubt lost respect for you because you didn't man up and ask her out.

What is this crap about 'manning up'? Moreover, who cares about an AW's 'respect'? They don't respect decent men to begin with. This guy is lucky; this girl could have picked another time to 'do him'.

To The Arab, stop knocking people with Asperger's Syndrome. I'm firmly convinced that people with AS suffer in the Anglosphere because of the AW's inherent bigotry. In other words, they pick up that the guy is different and refuse to associate with him or at best have a terse, tense conversation with him. I've only had this problem with Anglo girls, believe it or not. Even the Scandinavian girls I met were pretty nice to me. There was one time that I became utterly embarrassed in front of a Chinese girl and her friend (I don't know why); she still gave me her contact details without me asking. It's no coincidence that people with AS do better elsewhere, simply because their quirks and mannerisms are more often (not always, mind) dismissed as them being 'foreigners', rather than being evidence of them having insurmountable character flaws.

[boycottamericanwomen]

Welcome to the club. You have realized how evil and horrible American women are. I guess you will never mess around with an American woman again? Do yourself a favor, and only date or marry foreign girls, asian girls. Don't touch American women, they are like the living dead.