To Swincor and Grunt, something to think about

[Winston]

To Swincor and Grunt

I just wanted to say that I am glad that I do not listen to your so called "good advice" or attempt to tell me what to do or how to run my life.

You see, if I did, I would be weak, have no backbone, and stand for nothing. Only such a person would listen to and obey every single person's advice on the internet without discernment.

But me, I stand up for what I believe in, even against what others say and what a majority think, that's why people admire me and find me an inspiration.

Therefore, at the end of the day, you may not agree with me, but at least my pride and dignity are intact.

And another thing. Right now I have the following:

- A steady beautiful girlfriend that is always there for me, despite her bad habits or character flaws
- A beautiful baby son
- I am able to sleep with hot sexy girls on the side once in a while too!

Isn't having all these things at the same time what every man dreams of? We all want to have our cake and eat it too, yet that's exactly what I have! So what more could I ask for?! And thus, since I have what other guys wanted, aren't I an "inspiration" to them then?

Finally, understand this.

People who are considered "great heros or inspirations" do NOT tell other people what to do with their lives! Only the ignorant know it all person, or the closed minded, judgmental type does such things.

Great people, such as Anthony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Martin Luther King, Muhammad Ali, Rocky Balboa, Uri Geller, etc. who inspire others in some way, or are heros to people, do not do such things. Instead, they try to give others hope, strength, endurance to overcome obstacles and failures. And they deliver the "never stop believing in yourself and your dreams" message, and try to plant seeds in others. They not only do that in their public statements, but to their own personal friends as well, one on one.

Those are the kind of people I admire and respect who have wisdom, not some self professing know it all expert on the internet.

I hope this tells you something and gives you something to think about.

[Winston]

Swincor, again you distort the picture and do not even prove your point in your quotes from me, but thanks for digging them out anyway. Shouldn't you let ME draw my own conclusions instead of drawing them out for me? That is not logical.

FYI, yes I complained about things about Dianne, but I NEVER said I was 100 percent miserable. You said that. I am often happy with her too. And as you know, humans are not usually 100 percent happy or unhappy, but mixture of both.

See the recent thread in this section I just posted. Dianne is back with me now and seems to have changed, so there is hope.

Thanks for being so "optimistic"

[Winston]

Swincor,
Experiences like this are subjective so of course my conclusion or interpretation of it is going to make it what it is, not you as an outside observer. That should be obvious. Would you like me to tell you things about your life and then act like I know more about it than you? That would be crazy.

Don't you realize how ignorant it is to try to claim that your interpretation of my life has more validity than mine? You should be asking questions, not making declarations and casting judgments. That's the behavior of a know it all, not a truth seeker.

FYI not all problems have an exact solution. Some problems are simply meant to be endured, not "solved". Wise people know this.

You have not proven how my consultants' advice was worthless and how yours was solid. Plus I have the right to discern the wheat from the chaff and exercise my personal discretion. Otherwise, I'd be a fool.

[Winston]

Swincor, I'm getting tired of this. You seem unable to grasp simple points.

I am not an inspiration because I'm a great parent or very responsible or whatever. I am an inspiration because I cured my loneliness in America by daring to go abroad, and slept with many hot girls I could never have gotten in the US. To many guys, that alone is an inspiration because it's what they've dreamed of. You are missing the message of my site. Haven't you read any part of my ebook? Sheesh. You are barking up the wrong tree and missing the central theme. I never said I was perfect, but I got things I wanted and dreamed about by doing certain things, and that's the bottom line.

[Winston]

It doesn't matter what personal problems I talk about on here. The material on the home page and all the pictures and collages, etc. are inspiring. It does the job. You miss the point again.

[Winston]

It doesn't matter what personal problems I talk about on here. The material on the home page and all the pictures and collages, etc. are inspiring. It does the job.

For some, maybe. That's all you've really got because the fact is, that's not an accurate reflection of your situation.

You're not even able to carry out the very fantasies that made you travel thousands of miles to the Philippines in the first place.

And what's worse, you brag about it too.

That's not inspiring in my book. That's incredibly self-defeating.

W: I already told you that I still DO bang other hot chicks and fulfill my fantasies here, from time to time. I am living in adult disneyland after all. You just didn't listen. It appears you are only believing what you want to believe. Either that, or you are one of those people who enjoy bringing others down.

The point of this site is that men in the US can have a better love and social life abroad, and the material on this site provides a mountain of evidence to support that. That's the main theme and mission statement. And NONE of your rants or even your assessment of my personal problems discredits that. PERIOD.

[Winston]

Swincor, again you focus only on parts you want and you fail to see the big picture. I haven't shifted away from anything. I merely pointed out many aspects and angles to you, all of which are true, and are not mutually exclusive.

Just to clarify.

It's ok to give advice, but it's rude to act like I'm obligated to listen to it or obey any self professed expert on the internet as though I were a drone. That's not reality. The point is that you acted as though I did something wrong or stupid by not listening to you or following your recommendations. I have a right to make my own choices and exercise my own judgment. You failed to respect that.

Your advice would not "fix" most of my problems. It doesn't work that way. There is no solution that lets everyone win. It's always a trade off. You don't get it. I wasn't looking for a fix anyway. There's no such thing.

I didn't WANT to leave Dianne and my baby cause I love them. You didn't get that. Why would that fix anything? It's not a math equation. If you think it is, then you have no people skills or understanding of human relationships.

I did not lie when I spoke of my family in glowing terms. Nor did I speak in "glowing terms". I merely emphasized the positive aspects of it, honestly too.

It is you who is fixated on the negative, not me.

You are choosing to see the glass as half empty and not half full, not me.

So you're saying that I contradict myself now? My God. You don't get it do you? I have to clarify this too? Yes my freedom is impaired here, but not all the time and not completely. I still get opportunities to bang hot girls.

Instead of acting like an expert on me and telling me how it is, why don't you ask questions? It's my life after all, and I have the answers not you. Your misunderstanding does not render my statements false. You merely do not see the complete picture, or you jump to conclusions too fast.

I should not have to explain this. This is getting ridiculous.

[Grunt]

First off Winston, you present a bad image for and about American men. I dont tell anyone that I read this site.

Second, I have a successful marriage. My wife goes to work every day, keeps the house in order, and me well fed. I have not 1% of the insanity and drama you deal with.

If anything, you have given me a greater appreciation for my wife and my life.

That said, you add insult to injury with the assumption I mean you ill will, or worse, harm. I want everyone to be as happy as I am. Conversely, I dont expect from others anything I have not done myself. You have a responsibility to Western men, you started out good, but have devolved into childish antics that are a miserable reflection on us all.

[Winston]

Yeah but Grunt, I only talk about these problems on this forum. They have nothing to do with my main page and my promotion of global dating as a key to success in the dating field. That has not changed. And that is the content that newcomers see.

It doesn't matter what happens to me or my results. What I stand for, is what attracts people to this site, and that still stands. It's the principle behind it.

Just like with Star Wars fans, a lot of them may hate Lucas and the decisions he made on a lot of things, but they love the concept of Star Wars.