Is Dianne clinically insane? Why is she f***ing doing this?

[Winston]

For the past 6 months, after Dianne's family took my baby stroller when we weren't home, I keep asking to see it again so I can walk my baby around in it. But she keeps stalling and making excuses, despite the fact that I bought it and so it technically belongs to me, a fact she has zero respect for, which pisses me off (which she only gets pissed in return if I get righteously pissed at her, which f***ing pisses me off further, instead of conceding to "right" she prefers to get into a neverending pissing contest).

I keep asking her to bring it, but she keeps making strange excuses and stalling, and I can sense something is wrong. I've asked her hundreds of times already.

She swears that she did not sell it and that she still has the baby stroller though at her house.

So last night, during Christmas Eve, after singing at her house, I ask her to bring out the baby stroller as she said she would. She kept saying "later" and continued to stall, and then acted tired, distracted and moody for no reason. She said that it's in the storage shed in the yard though. Then when I got mad and asked her why, she acted as though I were speaking blasphemy and not allowed to talk about this. So I said, "What? Did someone borrow it?" and she said "Yeah, my cousin borrowed it" which contradicted her prior claim that it was out in the shed. A sudden change of story prompted by me! Of course I didn't believe her.

So later I go out and ask her mom about where the baby stroller was, so I could cart my son around in it for a while, since I miss doing that. Her mom pointed to the shed in the backyard and said it was there. But when I asked her to bring it out, she looked a little confused and indecisive for a second. Suddenly Dianne stormed out and yelled "I told you that my cousin borrowed it!" After hearing that, her mom concurred, probably to side with her daughter since their family will lie to cover each other without regard for right or wrong, I guess.

Then Dianne changed her story again and said that they lost the key to the shed and can't open it.

I should have asked her mom to get it when Dianne wasn't around, but then again, her mom looked confused and indecisive about it for a split second even before Dianne interrupted. So I'm not sure what's going on. Smells fishy.

Outside, Dianne made a scene in front of everyone and acted like a pissed off moody scorned woman.

Apparently, she wanted to prevent me from seeing my baby stroller at all costs, as though I would have to get to it over her dead body.

I can't for the life of me figure out why? What the f**k is this?! The Twilight Zone? Why is she so insistent on not letting me see my baby stroller and would rather fight and cause a scene over it? Is she f***ing insane? Mentally ill? What explanation could there be for this f***ing God damn ridiculous behavior of hers? God damn it! f**k!

It's not like I'm going to steal it back. I just want to use it for a while and see it, since it was abruptly taken from me.

Dianne doesn't provide any explanations herself. She only gets pissed if I ask about it and evasive and if I push then she gets angry. Doesn't she f***ing realize that she's in the wrong? And that this stroller is technically mine since I bought it? Why do I put up with this f***ing insanity?

Maybe someone here can talk to her for me or call her and find out what the problem is? Jesus Christ. I don't know what to make of this.

Why God? WHY??????? Why do you have to create such insane people?????

NOTHING about this makes the slightest sense. It's just a damn baby stroller, a little thing. I shouldn't even be tripping over this, cause it's no big deal. But why the f**k is she so damn insistent on not letting me see it or use it, and acting as though asking for it is blasphemy? What the f**k is that?

Why can't I be with someone normal?

Can the smartest genius in the world explain this ridiculous behavior of hers? f**k!

Asking Dianne herself only results in a pissed off look on her face. But what right does she have to be pissed? I don't get it.

I kind of sense that something strange is going on here. She and her family either have lots of dirty dark secrets going on there (maybe they are part of a criminal or mafia ring?) or they are just delusional and insane (remember they claim to have fought real vampires, mananangals, several times, seen old beggars vanish like phantoms after giving coins to them, etc. so their sense of reality might as well as credibility be suspect?). Either way, I smell a lot of fishy things going on, which she refuses to discuss and avoids and gets pissed if you probe further.

Again, f**k Man! What the f**k is her f***ing problem? My God!

Sorry for venting about something so trite and trivial, but this just makes no f***ing sense. It's the most f***ing insane thing I've ever seen. Even the f***ing Twilight Zone seems normal compared to this.

What ticks me off is that whenever I tell Dianne "You are wrong to do this" or "That's not right" with righteous conviction that would appeal to someone's conscience, it has no effect on her.

[mobstersreport]

It seems like Dianne is always up to something out of the ordinary with you in almost a ton of situations than you can count my friend.

[Izzy]

Winston, this is great. I have been following your web site for some time, and feel the need to chime in. Not only is the content of your web site absolutely outrageous, but your ability to average more than one cuss word per sentence creates the kind of Internet sensation that will no doubt bring hordes of new visitors and hence advertising revenue. All you need now is some genuine "pron" and you've got it made.

But to the point.

Quite obviously (is it only obvious to everyone but yourself, he who can do no wrong?), Dianne is selling everything she can in order to make up for the lack of financial assistance she and her baby otherwise receive from you. She sold or pawned her cell phone(s) because baby milk is more important than texting, and made up a kidnap/rape story to cover for it because an outrageous lie is often easier to believe than a standard fib. She sold or pawned your baby stroller because there's no point in taking a baby out if you can't afford diapers. Now she is leading you around by your winky while you still half believe that she's got the stroller stashed somewhere...

And you wonder why she is "acting like a woman scorned"? Could it be that she has been scorned, many times, and continues to be scorned several times a month when you go out with your "friends" for "socializing"? When you take your 1-week "breaks" (aka whoring sessions) every so often, with the emphasis on often?

How would you behave towards Dianne if you were in her shoes? Being forced to work in girly bars because her afraid-to-commit "husband" refuses to provide adequate financial support, and then goes on to spend it on whores? I think you'd be a tad cheesed off. How can I know that? Well, you throw this nuclear fit over a baby stroller, so one can extrapolate to what you would do if you had it as bad as she does!

Aren't you the one always complaining about people wasting your money? Baby milk, diapers and a few trinkets to keep a girl happy are a "waste", yet $25+ spent with a virus-riddled hooker who often fails even to give you a good time is a good use of money? Or are you applying a double standard here perhaps?

[Winston]

Izzy, I've lost respect for you. You appear to make a lot of baseless statements and act as though they were facts. If you don't know something, you are suppose to ask me about it, not pretend that you know the facts when you don't. I hate that. And I generally do not waste my time debating or reasoning with such types of people.

FYI, Dianne does not buy baby milk herself or diapers. I DO. I have been buying them for the baby regularly. If she is pawning all her stuff for money, it's not because I don't buy things that the baby needs, you dumbass (seriously, you've earned that), but because her family needs money for their food and her sisters' school tuition. And of course, Dianne is brainwashed to feel responsible to support them.

Why did you say I can't spare a little money for the baby's needs and a few trinkets? I've bought all the baby's supplied, and spent hundreds of dollars on clothes for Dianne. The problem is, that's not enough. She also needs a big allowance so she can pamper herself and support her mom and sisters too.

Is that clear to you now?

If you ignore this, and repeat the lie that I don't buy my baby's supplies, then technically, you are lying deliberately, and that of course, is grounds for being banned, even on an uncensored forum. Do you understand the logic behind this? If someone spouts a lie about me, such as you did above with the "Winston doesn't buy baby supplies for his son" false statement, and continues the lie AFTER he's been told that the statement is FALSE, then how the f**k can I reason with such a person?????? Think about it.

Would you like me to lie about you and continue repeating the lie, even if it's been disproven??????? If not, then why would you do that to others? Think about it.

Here's a question for you. Suppose you had a forum, and someone made a false statement about you that you KNOW 100 percent if false, yet when you corrected it, the person continued to repeat the lie. What would you do then? Huh? Would you ban him or let him continue repeating the lie and wasting your time in having to correct him again and again? ANSWER!

What do you want me to do, scan the receipts of the baby supplies I bought, and send them to you or post them here? My God. I am generally known as a very honest person, too honest in fact, and so my credibility or honesty is not in question.

Of course, the bashers love calling me a liar, not because I have any record of lying (quite the contrary) but because that's what they WANT to believe, and what they NEED to believe to FUEL their HATRED of me! That's why they will falsely claim that I am a liar even though I have no record of lying, but in fact a record of being too honest for my own good. Got that?

It's your choice. Do you want to continue to lie about me or not?

[Winston]

By the way Izzy, right now I am making around $200 or $250 per month from multiple sites, a huge improvement over last year. That covers most of my expenses, but not all of them. So what do you expect me to do about Dianne's mom and sisters? Feed them and pay them every month forever and ever? Yeah right. We've already given them a ton of money, more than what Western standards would say is necessary.

But even if I went out and starting working and earning more money, I'd rather save that for my own plans, such as future trips to Europe or China, not just give it away for free to her family. If I became super wealthy, then maybe I'd help them. But I can't at this point.

So what do you expect me to do? And why do you blame me? Could it be that you're just looking to spin the situation any way you can to fire shots at me? Is that the type of dude you are?

[Grunt]

If insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result, then the only insane person in the equation is Winston.

The female always seeks to overplay its hand and thus exert dominance. Dianne is successfully doing this by abusing you with little to no adverse result.

Thus, Dianne is perfectly sane and in complete control of the relationship.

Winston, you have been soundly and totally defeated in all possible ways.

You have but two choices left.

End the relationship, or begin enforcing rules of behavior.

You will, of course, do neither, and thus remain Dianne little whipping boy/slave/bitch/emotional punching bag/walking ATM machine.

Better you then me!

P.S. My wife took out the trash, made brownies, cleaned the house, and went out into the freezing ice and snow to make sure the car would start.

[Jackal]

Winston, I would recommend asking a native Filipino about these things. I don't know much about that culture, but somehow I suspect that Filipinos might have a completely different ideas about private property and family obligations than Americans do. And I'm sure they do see you as the "rich American."

I think a Filipino problem requires a Filipino solution. You're in their country, so I would suggest trying to play by their rules. Perhaps try to learn the language and act respectfully towards her parents (or at least pretend to). I don't think simply saying "Damn it, why can't they think like Americans?" will help. They obviously are not Americans and you won't be able to change them. I would suggest either getting a local to help you understand them better or move out of town, since I don't think all this conflict is healthy for either of you.

If I may ask you a question Winston, why did you get married in the first place? You seem to always have wanted a life free of obligations, but marriage is a huge obligation.

[Grunt]

Winston, I would recommend asking a native Filipino about these things. I don't know much about that culture, but somehow I suspect that Filipinos might have a completely different ideas about private property and family obligations than Americans do. And I'm sure they do see you as the "rich American."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! ROFL! Oh man, thats classic.

"Resistance is futile. We wish to improve ourselves. We will add your biological and technological distinctiveness to our own. Your culture will adapt to service ours." -- Dianne of Borg

[Mr S]

I'm in a somewhat similar situation as Winston and understand what is happening to him, however I do believe that his woman is mentally deranged rather than just being uneducated, ignorant and immature which is what I tend to only deal with. He is also dealing with a woman who seems to act bi-polar and he doesn't or isn't willing to put a stop to her crazy antics, mainly due to hoping she will eventually calm down enough to deal with her yet another day.

Essentially Grunt is correct as there can be no shades or gray, only black and white. Woman are for the most part physically mature children and you need to treat them as such or they will run all over you. This rule is especially true in the Philippines where western values are generally not adhered to in parts of the middle class and below, which means a large population of the woman in the Philippines are difficult to deal with on a daily basis once you getto know their true selves. When a guy first meets a woman and decides to date her or attempt a relationship, how he treats her and reacts to her demands will outline the course of the relationship together and determine who leads who. Woman deep down generally don't respect guys that treat them as equals, whether they consciously know it or not. I'm not saying treat women like crap but put them in their place when they act out and be a man. If you don't know how to say no and put your foot down they will always push the limit a little bit more and more and then in the end you're screwed.

Winston needs to set up some rules with her and if she breaks them there are consequences. In the Philippines most people believe rules are made to be broken and not adhered to and this is where the problem arises between westerners and locals. I understand from his perspective why he is allowing her to do this as he feels sorry for her and is hoping she will change some day, but generally once people hit their early 20's their character is pretty much set, especially if they are uneducated as education is one of the few things that can change a persons viewpoint of reality.

If Winston wants to have any semblance of control over her he has to do it through legal means to scare her into submission, its the only way. If he isn't willing to do that or doesn't want to, then she will keep pulling these types of shenanigans and it will keep going around in circles until he leaves her to her own fate finally.

I predict nothing will change for both parties involved. I also believe she doesn't have the stroller and probably sold it or gave it to someone else and never got it back. It's quite common here for neighbors to just borrow things and forget to give them back on purpose. I have to constantly argue with my live in why she let's people borrow our things and they don't give them back by their own volition. Unless you can afford to live in a place that rents for 30,000P and above in the Philippines, you will have to deal with the lower ends of society on a daily basis as many families or people will live together in one apartment to pay rent, like over 5 people to a one bedroom! Are they rich or higher educated? No, they just are pooling their money together to live in a decent place, which they in turn bring the class of the place down by their uneducated low-class demeanor. This is why a westerner, if possible, has to live in an area where the average local has trouble affording the rent on a monthly basis, even if many people live there.

I'm living in a decent place filled with this same activity, lots of people living in one bedrooms which normally they wouldn't be able to afford by themselves, most have crass social skills and behaviorisms. I don't particularly enjoy it, but I have to bite the bullet as the private school I send my kid to is located nearby and decent schools are rare in the Philippines.

I've discovered a lot of what my rights are as a foreigner living in this country just by going to a consultation with an embassy sponsored lawyer. It just helps to control the situation a bit easier and I can also make long term plans around the local laws, being able to follow my own life dreams and path, while ensuring the mother of my kid doesn't f-things up too much knowing what the consequences are. Most mothers find it a horrid prospect to lose their kids to the father and will do anything to keep them, EVEN BEHAVE PROPERLY, like a mature adult should! Technically here in PI a father can't gain full custody of a child until at least the age of 7, unless there are problems with the mother such as her mental status, lewd or immoral behavior, economically or physically unable to care for the child. Technically without my or Winston's support, the mother's could be taken to court and forced to surrender the kid to the father. However raising a young kid is a pain in the ass so keeping the mother in the picture until the child is older is probably the best option, just make sure she is on a short leash. There are pros and cons to this I know, but I myself is trying to make the best of my situation without causing tidal waves. My education and social class means the mother of my kid will never understand my viewpoints on reality and i have to accept this and hope my child as she gets older realizes the best environment for her will be. I am sacrificing now to ensure long term stability for her and myself. Going to a western oriented school system helps and me getting my ass out of this country with a legal agreement signed by both parties ensures I can go to other countries an work, and hopefully perhaps one day find a sold GF or wife that compliments me and not makes me lose my hair! (actually stress does make ones hair fall out, I'm living proof! My hair is thinning and I used to have long, thick hair, it sucks) I figure 5 or so years from now I should have my shit together and be able to provide a stable environment for myself, kid and possibly future family somewhere NOT THE PHILIPPINES!

The Philippines is good for playing around, but I wouldn't want to live here long term or raise a family, it's too f***ed up here and getting worse not better.

Anyways, fear works wonders on the uneducated and ignorant when applied properly.

[Winston]

Fuller you shitbag, I already explained that I am supplying all the baby's needs. That is not the problem. The problem is that no one is supporting Dianne's mom and sisters and they are probably in debt to 5-6 loansharks (according to a local well connected intellectual friend of mine) so they are unable to even leave the house and so they stay home everyday.

They are the ones that Dianne is trying to support, NOT MY BABY!

How many times do I have to repeat this before you get it through your stupid head? Sheesh.

Anyhow, I'm glad to know you're still alive after your long absence from here. NOT!

You forget that you are banned from here and confined to the flaming bashing board, so I'll have to move your post there. Please only post there you dimwit!

PS - Oh and I was not alone on Christmas, I have more friends here than you can imagine, including some powerful people whose families run the city and own most of the commercial capital here.

[Grunt]

Ok Winston, if the baby is "yours" as you assert, then go take custody of it.

[Winston]

Chemist,
First off, why are you using Chad R to post under, rather than your own user name? Weirdo.

Look dude, you obviously have amnesia since you're asking me questions that I've already answered long ago. I do not have time for your amnesia and to repeat the same answers to you again. You obviously and clearly are delusional. You don't even remember that you are NOT banned from this forum. I confined you to the flaming bashing board remember? For some reason, you always remember everything wrongly. And you cannot even admit that 20/100 is greater than 1/100. Clearly you are insane. No question about it.

Anyhow, like I said, you are confined to the flaming bashing board where you belong, and so your post under Chad R will be moved there, as was The Riddler's.

[mobstersreport]

Chemist,
First off, why are you using Chad R to post under, rather than your own user name? Weirdo.

Look dude, you obviously have amnesia since you're asking me questions that I've already answered long ago. I do not have time for your amnesia and to repeat the same answers to you again. You obviously and clearly are delusional. You don't even remember that you are NOT banned from this forum. I confined you to the flaming bashing board remember? For some reason, you always remember everything wrongly. And you cannot even admit that 20/100 is greater than 1/100. Clearly you are insane. No question about it.

Anyhow, like I said, you are confined to the flaming bashing board where you belong, and so your post under Chad R will be moved there, as was The Riddler's.

It looks like Winston has the better intellectual arguments in responses. Woah!!!

[ErikHeaven]

I must say this Winston and i say this with much love and respect brother. My son's mother when i went to the Army in boot camp, she allowed her family to run up the long distance (The phone was in my name). She would also allow her male family members when i was not there to drink my beer or liquor. It took me a long time to realize that she just did not have any respect for me.
In fact she was my enemy. I stayed with her for 13 years and decided to call it quits as the bullshit would never end. If this continues i hope you see the handwriting on the wall and just leave like i did.
Some people never change and love could be blinding you to who a person truly is. My son is still in my life and things are way better. Sometimes its better to cut your losses.

[ErikHeaven]

The bill was 800 dollars and none of her disgusting family members ever ponied up. You must insist that whatever you buy WILL NOT be taken out of the house without your permission.
I was angry reading what you wrote as i am telling you she just has no respect for you brother and you need to demand respect.
Then i think she will change. I think some women need to have that fear that you might hurt them to get them to stop doing stupid shit. Peace.