Sex in modern society is really dehumanizing...

[Temprano26]

Yes, I get it. We are all biologically designed to have sex to keep the species going. That is why it feels so good and why it is on our minds from the age of 13. But society has perverted it to the point of being abusive and dehumanizing. I am talking about two people that don't love each other and probably don't even know each other's names just fulfilling their selfish needs which are ultimately never fulfilled.

I used to have this friend who was older than me, had two grown sons of his own. Two days before I left for Costa Rica he drove me out to a hotel in Dallas, told me to go up to a certain room and behind the door there was this woman wearing nothing but a necklace and silver heels. She didn't even give me her damn name. She just assumed I wanted to screw her because she was naked in front of me. No characteristics, no warmth, no love. Just a cold naked body. I didn't just want meaningless sex. I wanted quality female companionship and all she could talk about was her damn shoes. I felt the whole thing was dehumanizing to me because she fit me into her cookie cutter idea of what all men are based on her life of being abused by them. She was beyond the point of enjoying sex or for that matter enjoying anything. Maybe none of the men in her life have cared how she felt but I could feel her heart was eternally broken.

As for my friend that drove me there, he paid 200 dollars for that to happen so I basically pretended to be happy but over time I felt increasingly angry at how out of touch he really is to think such a meaningless transaction could have made me feel better. He thought I was depressed for six months because of some girl getting married in Bangladesh. I was depressed because a girl from the Middle East was the only person I could find who was not corrupted by a self-serving, artificial culture. Yes, there are a lot of hot women out there but those hot women have nothing inside of them. That is what he never understood and why there came a point I burned my bridges to him. Thankfully I discovered Costa Rica where people value relationships and human connections beyond monetary value. Love exists there because people are not using other people for their own selfish gain.

America is a business that has outlived its welcome.

[E Irizarry R&B Singer]

Yes, I get it. We are all biologically designed to have sex to keep the species going. That is why it feels so good and why it is on our minds from the age of 13. But society has perverted it to the point of being abusive and dehumanizing. I am talking about two people that don't love each other and probably don't even know each other's names just fulfilling their selfish needs which are ultimately never fulfilled.

I used to have this friend who was older than me, had two grown sons of his own. Two days before I left for Costa Rica he drove me out to a hotel in Dallas, told me to go up to a certain room and behind the door there was this woman wearing nothing but a necklace and silver heels. She didn't even give me her damn name. She just assumed I wanted to screw her because she was naked in front of me. No characteristics, no warmth, no love. Just a cold naked body. I didn't just want meaningless sex. I wanted quality female companionship and all she could talk about was her damn shoes. I felt the whole thing was dehumanizing to me because she fit me into her cookie cutter idea of what all men are based on her life of being abused by them. She was beyond the point of enjoying sex or for that matter enjoying anything. Maybe none of the men in her life have cared how she felt but I could feel her heart was eternally broken.

As for my friend that drove me there, he paid 200 dollars for that to happen so I basically pretended to be happy but over time I felt increasingly angry at how out of touch he really is to think such a meaningless transaction could have made me feel better. He thought I was depressed for six months because of some girl getting married in Bangladesh. I was depressed because a girl from the Middle East was the only person I could find who was not corrupted by a self-serving, artificial culture. Yes, there are a lot of hot women out there but those hot women have nothing inside of them. That is what he never understood and why there came a point I burned my bridges to him. Thankfully I discovered Costa Rica where people value relationships and human connections beyond monetary value. Love exists there because people are not using other people for their own selfish gain.

America is a business that has outlived its welcome.

Great rant! I'm glad that CR is giving you what you need over the U.S. of Gay. Try not to become too mad against your friend because he tried to help you, and he could have done other things with the two-hundred dollars.

[Cornfed]

Sterile sex with dirtbags using birth control is particularly dehumanizing for females. It implies that they are mere vessels for the dirtbags to masturbate into only and are unworthy of passing on their genetic material. I think it drives the females crazy over time even though they may not realize why they are being driven crazy.

[jtest28]

Man, I can relate to this post. And the shame of it is if a woman finds out you like a relationship more than sex, she hates you for being a "nice guy".

[Hero]

It's funny, the only people who criticize me for not wanting casual sex are all women! You would not believe the mockery and abuse that I get from them. There are also dudes who disagree with my beliefs about sex, but at least they don't act like dicks to me just because I think differently from them.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

It's funny, the only people who criticize me for not wanting casual sex are all women! You would not believe the mockery and abuse that I get from them.

That is due to the cognitive dissonance of you expressing that women's vaginas do not have the earth-shattering value that women want you to believe it is.

Most men would risk death just to partake in the golden vagina myth. You have defeated that myth, but the backlash is to mock you back into it.

Congratulations to you for thinking for yourself and not letting women's approval guide your path. Most men could never achieve what you have in this regard.

[Temprano26]

R and B, I was not mad at him about that particular deal as I was when I came back to the USA. He has been married for so long that he is totally out of touch with the way the dating scene really is. Just as pickup artists give bullshit advice and totally ignore how there are seven men competing for one woman.

When you are married and have a family, you don't have to go out alone week after week seeking love or companionship. People like that are out of touch with how I feel because they don't remember what it was to be in their twenties and single.