There is a female loneliness epidemic, but it's more fair to deem it self-imposed than you would for the male one. BecauseFalcon wrote:She does make a few very good points, but I disagree with her overall message that America has a female loneliness epidemic.
A) all of these women are still getting asked out
B) If they asked a guy out, he wouldn't mock them, bully them, insult them, or spit in their face
All of these "lonely women" are just 1-2 steps away from a boyfriend they want, all they have to do is ask. From the studies I've seen, women just don't get rejected much when doing direct escalation. Both in absolute terms (her ratios of yes-es and no-s will be far better than the ratios an average man experience). And not only will she experience a much lower ratio of NOs, but men are very, very, very nice when saying no. While, even the most polite, most courteous average men will run into mocking, humiliation and shaming if he asks women out. Women won't run into such a thing. Men just don't treat female askers badly - never happens.
Even in their cases they still get asked out. Isn't it amazing!?!? A guy can be the most outgoing and extroverted charming guy on the planet, and perfectly decent looking, but he could live a 1000 years on this planet and not get asked out even once.I do know very nice girls who are dateless and lonely due to shyness and introverted personalities, but such women are not very common.
I do know women who literally are hermits, and only leave their house when they have to - but they still get asked out This is without showering, wearing flip flops, being dressed in something no better than pajamas, but they still get asked out at least a few times a year. Any "nice girl" who is lonely is only such because he rejects the men who ask her out. And no, she isn't getting asked out by monsters or disfigured horses.
What she defines as men being spoiled, is men wanting to be treated like a human being. I've often heard this from women, and it's just absurd.they might not be 10s, they might in fact be a 5 or a 6, but should they have to suffer because of that? American men are spoiled and are used to having everything handed to them.
Whenever a male acquaintance of mine will explain in front of women why we men (as a gender) no longer pursue or ask women out , the females on the tables always come back with "OHHHHH YOU SO SPOILED, YOU WANT EVERYTHING HANDED DOWN TO YOU - you want a dating life without investing any effort!!!".
How did wanting a 50/50 deal get perverted into being spoiled? Men have opted out because they have tired of having to do 100% of the work, while women do 0% of the work. Men are asking that women take 50% of the burden, and that is met with "oh, you want everything handed to you". WTF?
These are the same people who LINK TO and support sex-harassment websites that propose mocking, humiliating and subjectively declaring men criminals, for cases such as saying hello with a smile (not touching the woman, not coming close, just saying hi while passing her by). Yes, these are the same people who say that it is sex-harassment to smile at a woman and say good morning. They defend women who insult men who had approached and introduced themselves in the most courteous of ways. They have pages and pages of submitted reports of women ranting about a man MERELY smiling at them (nothing more).Get up from your "well of loneliness" and ASK A GIRL OUT!
THEY SUPPORT a case where men risk, jail, firing, imprisonment, mockery, humiliation and leper-treatment when trying to meet women. And they don't SEE THE IRONY that they're telling men to take MORE risks? Incredible. If they did 50% of the asking out, they wouldn't be full of crap. But right now, as it stands, they're utterly full of crap. I've seen all the studies, women are faaaaaaar behind on doing their fare share. Look at the studies on how much women make first moves etc (it's embarrassingly low).
This should be an embarrassment for their gender. And until they get off their lazy behinds and start asking guys out, men need to boycott them. Laziness is not excuseable in the 21st century. I mean come oooon, we're going to have flying cars soon, but these people can't ask a guy out? Grow up.