Why do women get offended when you ask their weight?

[marklambo]

Women in America tend to get so offended when you try to ask them their weight. I am curious if this is the same for women in other countries. I also notice that on dating sites in America, you don't usually see a "weight" option. If you do, it's usually a category like "slim" "above average" etc. On international dating sites, I notice they have both, the category and the actual weight. Well I'm assuming that it's mainly the AW that are so sensitive because most are overweight whales. But either way, if a woman is slim and you ask her, she'll still get upset. I think women overreact about it. It's not a big deal. What are your thoughts?

[Ginger]

[OzGuy]

So why is it okay for women to ask men their height? I have seen countless profiles of women which state "must be over 6' tall". Why is it OK for a woman to specify the height of a man, but its not OK for men to specify the weight of a woman?

And as a woman, you better not ask me about my weight...or else

I could also say "as a man you better not ask me about my height, or else"

[Introvert]

Women in America tend to get so offended when you try to ask them their weight. I am curious if this is the same for women in other countries. I also notice that on dating sites in America, you don't usually see a "weight" option. If you do, it's usually a category like "slim" "above average" etc. On international dating sites, I notice they have both, the category and the actual weight. Well I'm assuming that it's mainly the AW that are so sensitive because most are overweight whales. But either way, if a woman is slim and you ask her, she'll still get upset. I think women overreact about it. It's not a big deal. What are your thoughts?

I've noticed this, too. There should be more American dating sites with numerical weight listed so that women can see if they are actually 'average' or not. How can someone claim to be average if they have no point of reference? The arbitrary categories are too ambiguous as they stand.

If the dating website designers want to stick with the PC way, they could always ask for the weight in private and then display a categorical label for weight in that range. They could even do that by BMI since they also have the height.

The very best thing they could do, in my opinion, is to require an unobstructed head to toe, standing photograph of all members.

I used to think that in the dating world, weight for women equals height for men. Now, I believe that weight is equivalent to money. She knows that she is being judged whether she is skinny or large... kind of like how we know we are being judged upon the asking of the question, "So, what do you do?" at the beginning of a conversation. No matter how much you make or what you do, you know the motive behind the early inquiry.

Let's add that both weight/money are potentially in a constant state of flux. Self-esteem also plays a part.

[Ginger]

[Teal Lantern]

Women in America tend to get so offended when you try to ask them their weight. I am curious if this is the same for women in other countries. I also notice that on dating sites in America, you don't usually see a "weight" option. If you do, it's usually a category like "slim" "above average" etc. On international dating sites, I notice they have both, the category and the actual weight. Well I'm assuming that it's mainly the AW that are so sensitive because most are overweight whales. But either way, if a woman is slim and you ask her, she'll still get upset. I think women overreact about it. It's not a big deal. What are your thoughts?

Same reason they wear war paint .. oops .. makeup.
Numbers are objective, not subjective.
Women know that giving you solid numbers (weight, age, notch & abortion count, etc) means you are no longer giving them the benefit of guessing in their favor. This is why one of their favorite replies to a question like this is "Guess."
Much like a used car* salesman, it's all about making you think you're getting a better deal than you really are.

They, however, have zero qualms about getting all up in your "Where do you live?", "What kind of car do you drive?", & "What do you do?" which is code for "How much do you make?"




*Except, you don't keep paying notes for a car long after you've stopped driving it and it has a new owner.
Oh, and you can get an accurate count of the number of the car's previous owners.

[Jester]

So why is it okay for women to ask men their height? I have seen countless profiles of women which state "must be over 6' tall". Why is it OK for a woman to specify the height of a man, but its not OK for men to specify the weight of a woman?

And as a woman, you better not ask me about my weight...or else

I could also say "as a man you better not ask me about my height, or else"

+1.

Case closed.

Close the thread.

[Jacaré]

From my experience, only women from NA or women who are obese have an issue with this. I've never had any bad reaction from Brasilians, Latinas, Thai, Pinays, Chinese or even J girls when I asked about their weight. That just says it all...

[Andrewww]

The questions is: why would I ask a women for her weight ? If she's a fat cow I detect her from a mile away. Most of the time it's them asking others if they're fat because they're so insecure about themselves.

[abcdavid01]

Weight doesn't matter. What if she's just a really tall chick? Body figure is what's important. Biologically speaking, hourglasses are naturally more attractive to potential mates. The whole weight sensitivity is a little annoying because I don't like the insecurity, but I get it, sort of, and I accept that most women are that way. What really irks me is lying about age. If a girl won't tell me her age then it's practically a deal breaker.

[marklambo]

Weight doesn't matter. What if she's just a really tall chick? Body figure is what's important. Biologically speaking, hourglasses are naturally more attractive to potential mates. The whole weight sensitivity is a little annoying because I don't like the insecurity, but I get it, sort of, and I accept that most women are that way. What really irks me is lying about age. If a girl won't tell me her age then it's practically a deal breaker.

Yes, that's another thing too. They get offended if you ask the age....well AW usually. I think it is stupid to get offended by it. Lying about the age just throws her credibility out the window too. It's definitely a deal breaker for me as well. As far as weight goes, I'm just basing it on as if it were a simple question. If she's a nasty fat cow, why bother asking of course but sometimes it's just a curiosity thing, nothing different than asking her how tall she is. But women blow it out of proportion for nothing. Women ask men how much they weigh so I don't see what's the big deal of asking them too.

[Renata]

if a guy did ask me my weight I would get a bit perplexed not offended, because i don't think it's a normal question socially. Then I may think he finds me fat or something lol. I've never been asked actually. Do you guys ask women this?

Personal Questions i do get asked are; my height, ethnicity, shoe size because i have really tiny looking feet.

[Voice of Reason]

if a guy did ask me my weight I would get a bit perplexed not offended, because i don't think it's a normal question socially. Then I may think he finds me fat or something lol. I've never been asked actually. Do you guys ask women this?

Well, I have a small body structure, and western women seem to think it's a normal question socially to ask me about my weight. But god help me if I ask them the same question...I would get the usual patronizing tone "It's IM-POL-ITE to ask women about their weight!"

So in answer to your question: NO...guys generally don't ask western women this, because the reaction is always hostile. But western women don't mind asking guys this.

It is all the same with most western women...they are sensitive when asked about their weight, but then they themselves will harshly judge men based on their height AND weight.

[drealm]

As an embarrassingly skinny guy I have the reverse scenario. Women ask me about my weight. They ask me this because they don't want to weigh more than me and they know I look as skinny as Gandhi. If they weigh more than me they feel fat, even if it's a pound over.

[Renata]

Voice of Reason I agree with you no need to get offended by such questions or be hostile, after all it's just questions' but some may find it a personal attack or something.

I brush off unwated questions with a joke like; if I answer u will u buy me my wieght in gold lol Then I'll go on to say I weight 250lbs or something ridiculous.

Questions are always a great way to get into someones physche.