Another Fight Today

[FinallyLeaving]

I don't have the time for a long post, but would appreciate any advice.

All my life in the USA I've had to fight, I guess some people don't have this problem but I do. I'm now 46 years old and just cannot take it anymore, if I do I'm going to just go all out and kill somebody and go to prison or just take my own life, but one of them is going to happen for sure.

Just today I got into another one, let me just say that it was him, not me, who is the bully, who was looking for a fight, I was very nice and tried to just get out of it but he just kept on, so I had enough and came after him.

What I'd like to know is this, and please just be honest, if I go to Thailand, or Philippines, or Europe, or South America, am I going to have to deal with this? Or is this just the way life is?

I'm afraid I'm at the ropes end here, I'm ready to purchase a 9mm and shoot the next man who messes with me like today, and I'm not joking around. I realize this is wrong, but you can only push a man so far, no further, I'm at my breaking point now.

I can leave anywhere I want to go in the world, any suggestions?

Thanks in advance.....

[zboy1]

I don't have the time for a long post, but would appreciate any advice.

All my life in the USA I've had to fight, I guess some people don't have this problem but I do. I'm now 46 years old and just cannot take it anymore, if I do I'm going to just go all out and kill somebody and go to prison or just take my own life, but one of them is going to happen for sure.

Just today I got into another one, let me just say that it was him, not me, who is the bully, who was looking for a fight, I was very nice and tried to just get out of it but he just kept on, so I had enough and came after him.

What I'd like to know is this, and please just be honest, if I go to Thailand, or Philippines, or Europe, or South America, am I going to have to deal with this? Or is this just the way life is?

I'm afraid I'm at the ropes end here, I'm ready to purchase a 9mm and shoot the next man who messes with me like today, and I'm not joking around. I realize this is wrong, but you can only push a man so far, no further, I'm at my breaking point now.

I can leave anywhere I want to go in the world, any suggestions?

Thanks in advance.....

No way dude! Outside of most Anglo countries, people don't act like dicks most-of-the-time. You don't have to worry about that, for the most part, as long as you don't act like an 'Ugly American' or like an obnoxious Brit or Aussie overseas....

[RedMenace]

Depends on where in Europe. In England it's relatively safe. Also I think you need to learn to control your temper and walking away from conflict. Sometimes you can't but most times you can. Anyways if you have the funds take a trip to Thailand. So much p*ssy for you to "ease" your pain. Don't kill someone lol. To much fun to be had outside America. If you have the funds you will have plenty of fun and even find a nice wife to settle with. People in Asia on average are less confrontational so you shouldn't have problems there. However this statement is kind of dependent on which part of town you go to and who you associate with. Try to avoid where foreigners congregate because you will most likely find the same type of assholes in America. Also it increases the competition for women. Anyways try to stay out of trouble man and go see the world. Not worth going to jail because of some asshole.

Now where you go depends on what you life. If you like big butt and breasts then South America would be the best choice. If you want tight ass and medium breast the Europe I would say. Asia is if you're into petite, nice body and good aging. You're more likely to find a loyal wife in the Philippines. Just don't bring her back to the sh*t hole you left behind because you risk westernising her. Thailand is best if you want to have fun. Personally I would head first to Thailand to ease the tension for a few weeks. Then move to Philippines to find a good wife.

[FinallyLeaving]

I don't have the time for a long post, but would appreciate any advice.

All my life in the USA I've had to fight, I guess some people don't have this problem but I do. I'm now 46 years old and just cannot take it anymore, if I do I'm going to just go all out and kill somebody and go to prison or just take my own life, but one of them is going to happen for sure.

Just today I got into another one, let me just say that it was him, not me, who is the bully, who was looking for a fight, I was very nice and tried to just get out of it but he just kept on, so I had enough and came after him.

What I'd like to know is this, and please just be honest, if I go to Thailand, or Philippines, or Europe, or South America, am I going to have to deal with this? Or is this just the way life is?

I'm afraid I'm at the ropes end here, I'm ready to purchase a 9mm and shoot the next man who messes with me like today, and I'm not joking around. I realize this is wrong, but you can only push a man so far, no further, I'm at my breaking point now.

I can leave anywhere I want to go in the world, any suggestions?

Thanks in advance.....

No way dude! Outside of most Anglo countries, people don't act like dicks most-of-the-time. You don't have to worry about that, for the most part, as long as you don't act like an 'Ugly American' or like an obnoxious Brit or Aussie overseas....

No I'm a very quiet and non confrontational person, but in the USA it seems as if it's a bully culture, where people seem to get off by trying to bully you, and today the bully bullied the wrong person. This happened at Whole Foods too....

I've never really ran into any Brits before or an Aussie, so I don't really know what they're like, but I'm a very nice person never looking for any trouble at all, it always just seems to find me.

I guess I need to expedite myself out of here and leave, and I just really hope you're right about what you're saying.

I wanted to go to an Asian country because not once in my whole life has an Asian ever messed with me, not once. So I figure if I go over to an Asian country I won't have a problem, and I sure hope that's going to be true, it will be like paradise I guess.

When I was 10 years old a guy put together a gang and they wanted me to join, when I said no they tricked me and locked me in a basement, I remember being scared at 10 of that and they were going to beat me up, so I lied to them and told them what they wanted to hear just so I could get myself out of there and then when I got home I stayed in all summer long afraid to see those guys again.

When I was 16 and driving my car home from taking my girlfriend home this Biker guy flipped out at me on the highway and started kicking my door of my car on his Bike, then he pulled out a gun and I flipped out, slammed on my brakes, he hit his brakes, so I hit the gas pedal and got out in front of him, then he quickly would catch me, then I slammed on the brakes again, not wanting to give him a clear shot at me, then this kept happening for about 8 miles down to highway 805 where I then went North from 94 in San Diego, then not long after getting onto 805 he tried to cross over and come onto my right side instead of my left, he did this right as I slammed on my brakes, he slammed into the back of my truck doing about 80mph and fell on the ground, a semi truck then ran over him.....

That was when I was 16, it only got much worse from there.....

I cannot take anymore, I've had enough, I must move and do so very quickly, now the question is where I should go, I guess I'm just going to get on a plane and first get out of this country, then maybe I'll go wherever the wind takes me.....

I hope you're right about going overseas.....

[sfexcellence]

Hey man,

First off, I know exactly how you feel. Here in Vancouver Canada, over the past two weeks I have had a thought about killing myself, and I'm a VERY tough person, the people here are dead meat, they are virtually animals, and the hyperaggresiveness and hyperanimalistic behavior from them can get to me sometimes. I've been to Switzerland, Mexico and other parts of the world, and I can tell you without any hesitation, based on my travels and online research into other countries, that what you encounter here is largely kept to North America + Western Europe + Eastern Asia (to a certain extent, some countries in Asia are filled with good people, but from what I've heard on this forum, most of them aren't).

Solutions? Go to South America (Columbia, Peru, especially Chile), the safe areas of Mexico, Central America (check out ladislav's most recent trip report on this forum, I think it was to Nicaragua), Eastern Europe (especially Bulgaria and Lithuania), and Georgia in central Asia. I'm probably missing other places, the people on this forum can add input. Check out rooshvforum.com travel section for trip reports from al over the world, as well as this forum for trip reports on Mexico, Asia and South America.

If you need to go soon, head to Mexico City, it's close by and filled with friendly approachable people, proud Mexicans with a distinct national identity and culture, with feminism and americanization having made some inroads but not a lot, not enough to really notice a lot of similarities between here and there. Study up on Spanish (download Michel Thomas Spanish courses off of the internet for easy access, or Pimsleur Spanish, whichever one suits your fancy), and here over there ASAP.

[FinallyLeaving]

Depends on where in Europe. In England it's relatively safe. Also I think you need to learn to control your temper and walking away from conflict. Sometimes you can't but most times you can. Anyways if you have the funds take a trip to Thailand. So much p*ssy for you to "ease" your pain. Don't kill someone lol. To much fun to be had outside America. If you have the funds you will have plenty of fun and even find a nice wife to settle with. People in Asia on average are less confrontational so you shouldn't have problems there. However this statement is kind of dependent on which part of town you go to and who you associate with. Try to avoid where foreigners congregate because you will most likely find the same type of assholes in America. Also it increases the competition for women. Anyways try to stay out of trouble man and go see the world. Not worth going to jail because of some asshole.

Now where you go depends on what you life. If you like big butt and breasts then South America would be the best choice. If you want tight a** and medium breast the Europe I would say. Asia is if you're into petite, nice body and good aging. You're more likely to find a loyal wife in the Philippines. Just don't bring her back to the sh*t hole you left behind because you risk westernising her. Thailand is best if you want to have fun. Personally I would head first to Thailand to ease the tension for a few weeks. Then move to Philippines to find a good wife.

I'm going to take your advice and do exactly as you just suggested, Thailand here I come, then the Philippines....

Thanks a lot for the advice, I'm taking it....

[FinallyLeaving]

Hey man,

First off, I know exactly how you feel. Here in Vancouver Canada, over the past two weeks I have had a thought about killing myself, and I'm a VERY tough person, the people here are dead meat, they are virtually animals, and the hyperaggresiveness and hyperanimalistic behavior from them can get to me sometimes. I've been to Switzerland, Mexico and other parts of the world, and I can tell you without any hesitation, based on my travels and online research into other countries, that what you encounter here is largely kept to North America + Western Europe + Eastern Asia (to a certain extent, some countries in Asia are filled with good people, but from what I've heard on this forum, most of them aren't).

Solutions? Go to South America (Columbia, Peru, especially Chile), the safe areas of Mexico, Central America (check out ladislav's most recent trip report on this forum, I think it was to Nicaragua), Eastern Europe (especially Bulgaria and Lithuania), and Georgia in central Asia. I'm probably missing other places, the people on this forum can add input. Check out rooshvforum.com travel section for trip reports from al over the world, as well as this forum for trip reports on Mexico, Asia and South America.

If you need to go soon, head to Mexico City, it's close by and filled with friendly approachable people, proud Mexicans with a distinct national identity and culture, with feminism and americanization having made some inroads but not a lot, not enough to really notice a lot of similarities between here and there. Study up on Spanish (download Michel Thomas Spanish courses off of the internet for easy access, or Pimsleur Spanish, whichever one suits your fancy), and here over there ASAP.

Yes, something is happening, something is taking place right in front of our eyes, and there has been a big change just within the last 5 years....

People are becoming vicious, as if they are watching Breaking Bad or whatever these shows are on TV nowadays and acting them out in real life, you cannot believe what's happening here. Just the other day this big bodybuilder guy started yelling at this women with her 10 year old daughter and started cussing her out and wouldn't stop, right in front of everyone.

Now today it's me, this guy calls me a p***y and tells me to watch where I walk and he is the one who hit me with his cart and meant to do it, on purpose, and then blamed me for it.

But let me tell all of you here, these people who do this stuff are sissies inside, they do not want to fight, if you fight them you will find they are horrible fighters with no skills whatsoever. It's the most ironic thing, the bullies only pick on those who they think won't fight back.

All you have to do is hit them right smack in the mouth, catch their nose, or even chin and watch what happens.

Real men won't ever mess with you, or the guys who can fight won't mess with you....

It's just that there are so many now, too many, I cannot just fight all the time anymore, the USA is going down....

[RollingStone]

Hey man,

First off, I know exactly how you feel. Here in Vancouver Canada, over the past two weeks I have had a thought about killing myself, and I'm a VERY tough person, the people here are dead meat, they are virtually animals, and the hyperaggresiveness and hyperanimalistic behavior from them can get to me sometimes. I've been to Switzerland, Mexico and other parts of the world, and I can tell you without any hesitation, based on my travels and online research into other countries, that what you encounter here is largely kept to North America + Western Europe + Eastern Asia (to a certain extent, some countries in Asia are filled with good people, but from what I've heard on this forum, most of them aren't).

Solutions? Go to South America (Columbia, Peru, especially Chile), the safe areas of Mexico, Central America (check out ladislav's most recent trip report on this forum, I think it was to Nicaragua), Eastern Europe (especially Bulgaria and Lithuania), and Georgia in central Asia. I'm probably missing other places, the people on this forum can add input. Check out rooshvforum.com travel section for trip reports from al over the world, as well as this forum for trip reports on Mexico, Asia and South America.

If you need to go soon, head to Mexico City, it's close by and filled with friendly approachable people, proud Mexicans with a distinct national identity and culture, with feminism and americanization having made some inroads but not a lot, not enough to really notice a lot of similarities between here and there. Study up on Spanish (download Michel Thomas Spanish courses off of the internet for easy access, or Pimsleur Spanish, whichever one suits your fancy), and here over there ASAP.

Yes, something is happening, something is taking place right in front of our eyes, and there has been a big change just within the last 5 years....

People are becoming vicious, as if they are watching Breaking Bad or whatever these shows are on TV nowadays and acting them out in real life, you cannot believe what's happening here. Just the other day this big bodybuilder guy started yelling at this women with her 10 year old daughter and started cussing her out and wouldn't stop, right in front of everyone.

Now today it's me, this guy calls me a p***y and tells me to watch where I walk and he is the one who hit me with his cart and meant to do it, on purpose, and then blamed me for it.

But let me tell all of you here, these people who do this stuff are sissies inside, they do not want to fight, if you fight them you will find they are horrible fighters with no skills whatsoever. It's the most ironic thing, the bullies only pick on those who they think won't fight back.

All you have to do is hit them right smack in the mouth, catch their nose, or even chin and watch what happens.

Real men won't ever mess with you, or the guys who can fight won't mess with you....

It's just that there are so many now, too many, I cannot just fight all the time anymore, the USA is going down....

Yes, people are horrible now. You must stop acting weak or passive, then guys won't mess with you. Other than this, you must film everything and press charges. But if these don't work, just go and see the world - even to Mexico if that's all you can afford.

[Taco]

People in wealthy countries are never friendly, moving to a poor country can easily solve that problem for you. I worked with some people that were so nasty I had to find another job just to get away from them. Filipinos are the friendliest people I've ever met, I've seen Filipinos get mad but its rare.

[steve55]

Man, don't lose it! If you do, you'll never see the beauty of foreign people, especially the Philippines. Thailand is an easier adjustment since it's more modern and you'll at least have a lot more x pats you can make friends with, which in a foreign land, trust me, you'll be yearning to connect with your own kind after a while. But the Philippines is hands down the friendliest people in the world. If you want an idea, just look at the sweet nature of my fiancée (see my avatar). You can't find an adult American woman with that kind of sweet look.

Whatever you do, don't lose it until at LEAST you've seen some other cultures out there. It will change your perspective, you'll probably realize that life can be great with great people. If you lose it, you'll be going crazy in 12x12 jail cell and get gang banged on every day. So, don't so anything dumb that will prevent you from seeing what life can be like for you in other countries.

As far as adopting to new cultures, every man is different. Take me for example, while I love the very friendly Filipino people, I'm too much of a wuss to adjust to the poverty, the lack of clean air, the smells, everything. But many guys have no problem at all. So, you'll just have to see where you fall in that regard. But Thailand is no where as poor as the Philippines and the country is more modern and clean in general, which is more like the US. But, you'll be restricted in socializing with the friendly locals in Thailand as most people don't doeak English in Thailand. In the Philippines, 90% of the people speak English, so you'll be able to enjoy the friendly social scene more. Cebu Philippines is probably the nicest place to go if you want a cleaner more modern city to live in. As others have said, check out what Ladislav has to say. He tells it straight. Good luck to you!

[Mr S]

I wouldn't go to Thailand if you are trying to avoid temper tantrums and anger management issues. Thais act friendly but they don't know how to blow off steam so they hold their emotions in until they explode and sometimes you will get the brunt of it.

You're better off going to Philippines, people don't get mad easily and as long as you don't bother them they generally don't bother you except for typical stuff one deals with in a poor country.

If I were to compare regular angry emotional outbursts, it was way more common in Thailand on a daily basis whereas living in PI for a long time now I hardly run into that issue.

The largest issue in PI is incompetence and getting hit on by gays if you are a decent Western looking guy.

[zboy1]

No offense, but I've always noticed how competitive and as*holish White people acted towards each other, whereas Blacks, Jews, Latinos and Asians tend to 'stick together' and try to support one another as a race...

Take the way Whites treat other White kids in High School; on the other hand, Koreans and Chinese kids stuck together for support. With the Blacks, they've adopted many of the 'White culture' in terms of treating people like crap, such as ostracizing 'non-jocks,' or teating intelligent and well-mannered Black kids as "sellouts," and hating them for "acting-White."

Whites almost seem to react in a hostile manner towards each other, for some reason--especially when overseas. Take, for example, all the White expats I've met in Asia: they tend to view other Whites usually in a negative manner, and when together with their Asian friends, almost always view another White person as a threat when they try to 'move in' with their group of friends.

I've also noticed White female expats tend to get really nasty with each other, for some reason. White men also act the same way as well; for example, I've seen so many examples of White men actively trying to 'man-up' against each other--almost like a d*ck measuring contest, wherever there is a large group of White males together in a place. Why do they act like that?

Also, Whites don't actively try to 'stick together' in terms of cultural unity, whereas other groups do. Why is that? Who knows...

I also know many White men hate White females when abroad. LOL!

[argaluza]

There are as many arseholes in China, Korea, Philippines etc - how I had less drama with people abroad than I do at home (and it is true, there is less macho stand-off bullshit abroad than back home with the local men) is that I never understood a word anyone was saying.

If someone calls me a wanker in Cantonese - I don't understand and I don't care, I have been badly insulted in places like South Korea - but because I didn't even attempt to learn their language then they can say what they like and I live in blissful ignorance, the only time it kicked off in Korea is when Koreans switch to English and start being verbally abusive. Point being, 99.9% of all unpleasant encounters and physical violence start verbally.

So, my advice is go to a country where you have no intentions of learning the lingo (plenty do this and survive, trust me) and you will find you have less of these problems than you do in America, and another thing, you need to learn to live and let live and let things go. xxx

[ringspun]

I don't have the time for a long post, but would appreciate any advice.

All my life in the USA I've had to fight, I guess some people don't have this problem but I do. I'm now 46 years old and just cannot take it anymore, if I do I'm going to just go all out and kill somebody and go to prison or just take my own life, but one of them is going to happen for sure.

Just today I got into another one, let me just say that it was him, not me, who is the bully, who was looking for a fight, I was very nice and tried to just get out of it but he just kept on, so I had enough and came after him.

What I'd like to know is this, and please just be honest, if I go to Thailand, or Philippines, or Europe, or South America, am I going to have to deal with this? Or is this just the way life is?

I'm afraid I'm at the ropes end here, I'm ready to purchase a 9mm and shoot the next man who messes with me like today, and I'm not joking around. I realize this is wrong, but you can only push a man so far, no further, I'm at my breaking point now.

I can leave anywhere I want to go in the world, any suggestions?

Thanks in advance.....

Hi I am sorry to hear this, I kinda know how you feel, I have had to way more than once back down to keep the peace and to prevent Jail and losing jobs, which does eat you up in the end.

Having traveled extensively to South American, Philippines and Thailand... I have found people without a doubt are generally better and I'm talking fellow American/English/Australians, I think one reason is they too have had enough and left their countries and as you are now in a neutral territory there is less attitude, I mean don't get me wrong you still get the odd prick but guess what they get rooted out quickly and move on fast... unlike in your home town for instance.

I found the Dominican Republic to have an excellent ex pat community and the same with Pattaya in Thailand (although more bums here).

Another big factor in my opinion is the "keeping up with the Jones effect" is gone and also there are so many hot women you would be very unlucky to ever get into a fight over a woman as there are just so many there interested in you.

I too have faced the thought of suicide in a number of times in my life, however getting out of the mix certainly changes your whole perspective on life, don't even think about ending up in a jail cell for life as this would be worse than anything you can dream of, when you can simply board a plane and go to another country, if you just take 6 weeks out you will come back having all kinds of opportunities that you never had. If you own a house, rent it out...

In the DR or Thailand for instance you don't need much more than $1500 a month to live reasonably well, unless your a raging alcoholic.

I hope this reaches you in time as you seem on the edge, I would lock down, stay in and get the money together asap and get over to Thailand, P.I or DR or even all 3? see which you like best. One other thing 46 in the DR or Thailand you will be considered young still which does a hell of a lot for your ego too.

Good Luck!

[ElReyBoludo]

Latinos tend to 'stick together' and try to support one another as a race...

We're not a ''race"; you've swallowed a great big made-in-USA blue pill if you honestly believe otherwise. Some of us ARE "white people"; and in the countries of origin, the whole subject is all but moot in the first place. If you traveled down there and started banging on about "personas blancas", "la raza blanca", "matrimonios interraciales" between people of the same exact ethnic background, or if you called all Latin Americans "gente morena", or "criollos", let's put it this way: You wouldn't have a pleasant stay.

You speak English, and have ties to the US; yet you are Asian, are you not? If you find a girlfriend overseas and decide to marry her someday, would you two be an "interracial marriage" because she's Asian, but you're somehow "of the Britanic race", or a "peach-skinned man" because you speak English and have the US connection? Do you not see how crazy, insulting and stupid that sounds?

Also, Whites don't actively try to 'stick together' in terms of cultural unity, whereas other groups do. Why is that? Who knows...

You are confusing "whites" with US Anglos. Ever met any Portuguese Americans, for instance? Trust me, they aren't cold and alienated. They don't eat Kashi granola bars for supper, or brag about their "granddogs". They don't live in mansions and throw their relatives into the gutter.

You hammer the shit out of types like odbo and Cornfed, yet you, yourself, blurt out some of the darnedest things at times.

The next time that you get the urge to go tearing off on another one of these "people of color" rants, just keep in mind that you don't speak for this Latino...