"There are plenty of other women out there"...

[Temprano26]

This is another in a long line of automated responses that don't actually help anyone but gives people a sense of satisfaction in saying it. Or a variation that there are "plenty of fish in the sea" and if you've been to that site, no that is not true either.

Five years ago, I was in love with a girl from Bangladesh for a few months then she went back to her country and got married and I never saw her again. Meanwhile my life was falling apart anyway and my depression, which was already not doing so well, intensified over that summer. My friends who are no longer my friends now all assumed that I was depressed about some girl from Bangladesh getting married as if one thing can send a person's mental health crashing down. The fact is I was in a never-ending cycle of perpetual loneliness at that time. I applied for jobs, couldn't get one. I called friends to hang out, they had something else to do. I went out to nightclubs, bars because I thought that was how to meet people but as we all testify, that is not the case. People are either drunk or they have bad attitudes. There is no connection to be had there. And every woman I met was either living with somebody or married or a single mother with a kid that doesn't date.

Of course nobody understood any of this so I hear the same crap that there are plenty of other women out there. I went to Costa Rica because I could no longer tolerate where I was. Even this girl from Norway said the same thing - "don't be depressed because you were heartbroken. Find someone else." Not that anyone puts any thought into what they say but if they did they would understand that I was trying to find someone else in the US. It is not a ****ing coincidence that the only girl I met then was from Bangladesh and then five years later I dated another girl from Bangladesh. I met ONE American girl that I really liked and she was in my massage class. You know what, she has a boyfriend too. The people that tell me there are plenty of people out there are the people who have somebody or have been married long-term. They have no empathy for single guys because they don't have to just like the rich don't have to have empathy for the poor.

So I am at a point where this little cliché pisses me off so much I have to leave the room. It is not true in the USA, it is true on GLOBAL SCALE. There are plenty of women out there if you leave the USA for Latin America or any number of countries hence HAPPIER ABROAD!