My friends turned their backs on me

[dtran93]

So my friends recently turned their backs against me because I told them that I am marrying an foreign woman from asia. I told them that I was tired of american women and so I went abroad and found someone. They criticized me for it and wanted me to marry an american woman. All american women rejected and I couldn't even get anyone to date me. I am turning 27 this december and I don't want to waste anymore years of my life with american women and their games. Has anyone had their friends turned their backs against them like mine did ? What is your opinion on my friends doing this ? I seriously feel really suicidal.

[drealm]

You should feel honored that you've earned criticism for thinking sanely. This means that you are not a spineless sheep. All my friends from elementary school to high school also turned their back on me. Every single one. 100%. You have a new chapter in your life now. Forget your "friends" and never look back. You'll find other people like you if you look in the right places, like this community.

[Wolfeye]

They turned their backs on you for marrying an Asian woman? That's kind of bizarre. Especially since most of the shit they simply can't live without is made there.

[fschmidt]

dtran93, you are so lucky that your friends only turned their backs on you. My (former) friends lied to me, screwed me in business, chased after my wife, and said nasty things about me behind my back. You are lucky to be rid of these scum, members of modern culture, so easily. Now I suggest you look for a culture whose members are not scum.

[Ghost]

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[Adama]

I think Winston Churchill was a puppet and a sociopath. However, he did make one good statement which I happen to agree with:

You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.

You have to realize that everyone has some deep seated beliefs which they cling on to for dear life, and people will react emotionally any time their beliefs are challenged. They do not even know why they believe what they believe most of the time. Mostly it is just how society has brainwashed everyone to believe certain things, like the USA being the greatest country on earth or the most wealthy nation on earth, or even that American women are good.


In the future, you simply can not give out non-politically correct information about yourself. I am not saying lie or be phony. I am just saying certain details should be kept to yourself. You'll have to filter what you are going to say to certain people, and those are the people who do not believe what you believe on a certain topic. So if you are in a room full of blacks, you do not go around saying how much of a racist you are, for example. Likewise when you are talking to the idiots who believe in patriotism, you don't want to go around telling them how 9/11 was an inside job and how they've murdered millions of innocent civilians in unjust wars for peace over lies. When you are in a room of women, you might want to avoid using the B and C words. I think you get it now. (But if you are in a room full of heretics and non believers, you should correct them on their false doctrine.)

Even when you're friends, you'll realize you can not entirely speak your mind because you will not see eye-to-eye on some subjects. (Now some friends can enjoy a friendly banter and disagree without getting emotional over it, but you'll need to know in advance that your friend won't get butthurt because you think differently. Or if you simply don't care you can say whatever you want, whenever you want, to whomever you want.)


Another thing you should realize is that your center of gravity should be within yourself, not outside of yourself. That is, you should not live or die by the opinion of other people. You've yielded too much power to others. This is power which only you should have over yourself.

In fact you could have been letting other people manipulate you all along, through their disapproval of your opinions or behaviors. Now that you have finally disobeyed, they are punishing you by ejecting you from the group. Yes, easy way to manipulate others.

The simple fact of the matter is, you wanted a wife and you went out and got one. That is an accomplishment no matter how you did it. You went to the ends of the earth to find your bride. To me, that is commendable. That is not something for which a man should be condemned.

[traveller]

So my friends recently turned their backs against me because I told them that I am marrying an foreign woman from asia. I told them that I was tired of american women and so I went abroad and found someone. They criticized me for it and wanted me to marry an american woman. All american women rejected and I couldn't even get anyone to date me. I am turning 27 this december and I don't want to waste anymore years of my life with american women and their games. Has anyone had their friends turned their backs against them like mine did ? What is your opinion on my friends doing this ? I seriously feel really suicidal.

Sounds exactly the same as how people would persecute someone for worshipping Jesus Christ and accepting Jesus as his/her Lord and Savior. Apparently, going foreign with the women dating scene is like becoming a Born Again Christian and accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.

I even seem to get it that an American man dating an Asian woman is also like openly preaching that gay marriage/homosexuality is a sin.

I've personally even gotten scolded a couple times by Facebook friends for saying that Illinois women are terrible quality and need to be avoided, especially when I said that I'm moving to Florida where the women are better quality.

[WorldTraveler]

You are very lucky to get rid of these losers! My "friends" are all jealous of me having the balls to travel and live overseas. They like giving me advice that would be detrimental to my life, so that my life will be as bad as theirs. You're better off without them. You need to meet some new international friends, people who travel, or have foreign wives.

[Yohan]

dtran93, you are so lucky that your friends only turned their backs on you. My (former) friends lied to me, screwed me in business, chased after my wife, and said nasty things about me behind my back. You are lucky to be rid of these scum, members of modern culture, so easily. Now I suggest you look for a culture whose members are not scum.

When I read Fschmidt's comment, I was asking myself if he wrote this or if I wrote this comment. Exactly my own experience, and I am happy that some of my so-called (former) friends and also some of my relatives disappeared ... I really do not miss them.

[E Irizarry R&B Singer]

I can trump all of your guys' familial dysfunctional relationships.

Disclaimer: please pardon my fragmented, run-on sentence.

My father disowned me, my mother had my back but she's no longer with us (died of complications of a gastric byass surgery a year later), my aunt on my mother's side is a Master's Degree-holding, staunch feminist (yet her husband (my uncle) was bi-sexual and they divorced over that when she found out) and told everybody in the family that I'm a piece-of-shit yet I have no jail record yet both of her sons do - she still lets them live with her (and they are in their 30s) - one of them - got a divorce and still lives with his divorcee and she's mentall-ill and suicidal, the cousins don't speak to me for 11 whole years since our grandmother died and even she threw me underneath the bus without sufficient proof, now to my father's side of the "family", he respected my cousin on my father's side of the family because he was more street smart than I, I was looked at as a corny, a geek, socially-awkward, and just a failure that looked almost like him, I really think he wished that my cousin on the father's side of the family was his son in lieu of me; that's real talk.

Summary: all the women in the family are unyielding feminists whom have/had no respect for me because I looked like my sociopath father whom was masculist/evil man (which he kind of is) but because I resemble him, I'd been ex-communicated and castigated for it.

So that's why you guys are perplexed to why I ended up in a homeless shelter when I had run out of money; no family around to have my back. And due to the advent of US healthcare, do you think I should stay here? f**k to the no!

I'm putting away money, and I will be abroad for forever and a day. I pissed off 40K in 3 years from 2007 - early 2010 going abroad getting a taste of life, and I'm going to be a lotttt smarter this time.
My full-blooded sister is the only family I have left, and I cannot even live with her because she wants her privacy when she's f***ing her man nightly.