This isn't an honest culture. So no, you cannot expect an American woman to flat out say, "I like you" from the start. Besides that, it sounds desperate to make such confessions so early, and even if she felt that way, she wouldn't say it like that. But if you do have time alone, specifically alone, and she can have a conversation with you, if she is interested, she will make it clear to you that she is interested, and usually with her words. If the two of you are alone, and she's interested, she will inquire about your relationship status, she will tell you how available she is, and she may even briefly skirt around the topic of sex (and if she starts directly talking about sex, then it is almost guaranteed she's interested).GoingAwol wrote: If you are saying that women will "drop subtle hints" I can agree with you. However, you will never get me to believe that women make it very obvious or outright say "I like you". Women will always operate in a way that gives them plausible deniability in case they change their minds tomorrow or 10 seconds from now. Of course, I guess it just depends on what you consider a heavy hint. I think I have an example of what you might consider a heavy hint. A couple of years ago I worked with this one girl who I was very attracted to (We'll call her Amanda). Anyways, one day I was telling a guy I worked with that I liked her (We'll call him C.J) and he lied and told me they (him and her) were already dating. Obviously, this was very awkward for me and it ended any thoughts I had of asking her out. Anyways, apparently word got back to Amanda that C.J had told me they were dating and she made it a point to flag me down at work one day and ask me "Did C.J tell you we were dating?" to which I replied "Yea he mentioned that" and she responded "Well he lied, we aren't dating. we are just friends" and I simply said "Oh ok" and went back to what I was doing. In retrospect it appears she was basically saying "Hey i'm single! Ask me out dummy!" but in the moment that wasn't so obvious. In fact, maybe it's not obvious at all. Her making it a point to let me know she wasn't dating that guy could mean she just didn't want rumors spreading around the workplace that they were dating. It appears that she was dropping a heavy hint, but her actions could be interpreted several ways. The bottom line is trying to read women is usually an exercise in futility. And let's suppose you think you are getting green lights from a woman and decide to act on them. You only have a very limited time to process them and act before she loses interest and moves on. So even if you are getting "hints" you are still taking a shot in the dark if you decide to act on it. And add social anxiety and/or ASD into the mix and it becomes even more scary/risky. It's not as simple as you make it out to be.
Women will say things like, "I'm about to break up with my boyfriend." Or, "My boyfriend won't talk to me," or "I haven't seen him." or whatever to signal she has broken up with her boyfriend. SHe's signally her availability, most especially when you never even asked her that question! Most times when women don't like men, they go out of their way to mention their boyfriend immediately before the guy gets any ideas in his head. So if she is denying the existence or talking about ending it with him, there you go. Some women will even talk about sex they've had with other men. Or how much other men want them, just to seem more desirable to you. These can be real or made up by the women. That's because they believe in the scarcity principle, that everyone wants what everyone else wants, increasing its value thereby.
She may also ask if you are single, have a girlfriend, what kind of women you like, etc.
Has any of this ever happened to you before? Yes, you told me above that it has happened to you. You just didnt know how to follow up on it.
Women are better at conversation and they desire to have conversation. They talk a lot.