Simply, if you want to divorce the heifer as you have had enough of living with that burden, or if she wants to party and sleep around and is divorcing you, or you simply realise you are better off raising your kids without her decadent values, then you have no need to fear of losing your kids. Use their own liberal laws against them.
Divorce was not common here until the 'new' south africa. Since then it has ballooned to western levels as heifers have been given more and more rights to graze but also run the farm. After a period of a growing epidemic of single moms and kids raised without fathers as mothers obstructed he fathers, and all the social problems that have resulted from fatherless children, the laws are catching up.
This I cut and pasted:
I have one and all is in there. Drawn up by a lawyer and a child psychologist that told her she cannot oppose certain things as the courts see it as in the best interests of the children. I had no problem at all getting something fair. Visitation schedule, who pays what, holidays, forcing the mother to consult with the father before making major decisions affecting kids, what church they attend, how they are raised etc. Anything you like that is within the law."The Children’s Act offers parenting plans as a method to assist parents with how to exercise their parental responsibilities and rights after separation or divorce. Parenting plans are a relatively new concept in South Africa, but are already popular in countries such as the United States and Australia, and in certain European countries. A parenting plan sets out how parents will exercise their respective responsibilities and rights. It must comply with the best interests of the child principle as set out in the Act, and must be in terms of a prescribed form and include the following issues:
where and with whom the child is to live;
the maintenance of the child;
contact between the child and any other person; and
the schooling and religious upbringing of the child.
A parenting plan is essentially a roadmap directing how children will be raised after separation or divorce. As a co-parenting solution, it is a written agreement drafted by both parents with the help of a neutral third party, usually a social worker, psychologist or family lawyer, acting as a mediator.
The Act requires that children also be consulted when such a plan is drafted so that they have an opportunity to give their input on who they wish to live with, how much time they wish to spend with each parent and where they wish to spend special occasions, as well as any other areas in which they feel they should have a say. The age of the child will determine the level of input allowed/required. Once the plan is finalised, it is signed by both parents."
Then what you do is submit it with the divorce settlement to the High Court. It then becomes a High Court Order. if she breaks any clause you can go to a police station with the order and have her arrested for contempt of court and the police will remove the children to you. Best of all, the court costs won't be yours but the state's as the state will prosecute her for contempt of court. I have threatened to use this once and her lawyer told her to comply or she will go to prison. I have never seen her so silent and so compliant and asking my opinions
It is getting easier as both the lawyer and the female child shrink said there is a growing awareness by the courts that children put with single fathers do better than with single mothers, and children with single moms with no access to their father do the worst of all. There is also a law against turning the children against the father under denying the children of their right to a father
So more and more courts award children to the father, if the mother tries to trample on the father's rights. Feminist freedom and party lifestyle is undermining women since they let their emotions rule.When you make your application, use all their liberal jargon: 'it will be in the best interests of the children', 'in keeping with my family responsibilities' 'rights' etc. Sound like a PC shill
The US laws must be similar? Is a family plan not drawn up and made an order by the court when children are involved? Or is it a state issue so if a mother moves to another state there is nothing you can do? In SA no parent can apply for a child passport, or even take the child on holiday outside the borders without a signed affidavit from the other parent stamped by a Commissioner of Oaths. This came about because so many women were taking the kids and skipping the country, and the laws for extradition are hard to enforce, take time and lots of money, which few men can do.
None of this came with the first jew laws granting all rights to women and making divorce easy and profitable, especially for jew lawyers. The destruction such laws caused brought about changes. Darkies are a very patriarchal culture, so being forced to pay up and no right to see their kids didn't sit well with them. So over time, the courts changed things.
This means you can breed with western women, even if impossible to live with them, But it will cost you financially and emotionally to win your happiness back and still insist on your rights as a father. You may lose your assets and future income, but you are doing your bit to ensure your race survives and is raised with manly values. It is not easy, and is very stressful. But what about being a man is easy? The reward is you will see your kids grow up strong and proud and grateful to you for your sacrifices, not weak spoilt brats raised by single moms.
