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[Cornfed]

While everything about his assessment is true, his prescription is still doing what the scum want and letting evil win.

[Jester]

I was a bit surprised by this article.

Me too!

jeez

In the past he was not so bitter against marriage, just AW.

Wow.

[Cornfed]

I was a bit surprised by this article.

Me too!

jeez

In the past he was not so bitter against marriage, just AW.

Wow.

Eh, he has given similar advice in the past, and the advice is directed at American men who would generally marry AW skanks. He has however often praised expatting.

[Hero]

The only part that I disagree with is where he says that young, single women in the USA are knockouts. Attractive women of ANY age in this country are few and far between. Sometimes I wonder where all the pretty girls have gone.

[MrMan]

As a Christian, just living with a woman and having sex with her without marriage is not an option. The article is based on the assumption that one's primary goal is to please oneself. That should not be a man's primary goal. We should seek to please God. Being in a state of continued fornication is not pleasing to God.

Being single and masturbating sounds like a dreadfully unfulfilling life. It's a good thing to come home to a house when you are the head of it. It's different to be a bachelor than it is to live with a family. My wife is always cooking gourmet stuff. From a sexual perspective, she can do stuff to me that I wouldn't be able to do for myself if I tried. There's nothing like having all the skin contact. It's just a good experience. I guess those who 'shack up' could enjoy some of these things, like cooking and sex. But sin is the issue there. And if a woman just lives with you, there is less keeping her with you than if you marry her-- assuming she really believes in marriage.

The key thing about choosing a wife is to get a woman of good character who actually believes in marriage. The Bible has a lot of good advice and warnings about wives.

Proverbs 27
15 There is this
A continual dripping on a very rainy day
And a contentious woman are alike;

16
Whoever restrains her restrains the wind,
And grasps oil with his right hand.
(NKJV)

There are a couple of other Proverbs on this, that it is better to live in a desert than with a contentious wife/woman, or better to live on a rooftop that with a contentious woman/wife.

When dating a woman, a man needs to determine if a woman is contentious. Does she like to argue? Does she get upset about small stuff and pout about it and give you the silent treatment? Does she nag and not drop stuff? If you do something that would offend a normal person (e.g. a man), and apologize, does she forgive? When we are getting to know our partner, our mood is generally good and we put on our best face. So do women. If she is hard to get along with when you are dating, how are you going to get along for life? Women who are humble and want to reconcile with you if you disagree are easier to get along with than proud women who want to drag out an argument.

There is also an element of submissiveness that helps a woman get along with a man. If she's submissive, then she'll drop arguments at times, especially small stuff that isn't a matter of principle (not stuff like disagreeing over whether to help you buy illegal drugs or rob a liquor store.) You can see if she is respectful and submissive toward her father. American culture is pretty messed up with couples introducing partners to parents just right before a proposal when its serious. Get to see how she interacts with them fairly early on in the relationship if you can. See if there are any signs of respect or disrespect toward her father. If she can handle male authority gracefully and submissively, that's a big plus. If she shows disrespect for her parents who raised her, especially her dad, why would she respect you?

Something else about being contentious. if you say something about women cooking or something a bit stereotypical, and she starts turning all feminist on you, that's something to be concerned about. The more feminist a girl is, the more contentious she is likely to be. It's a philosophy that breeds contention. if you start dating a girl and she starts going on about 'the patriarchy' as a bad thing, and she's serious, break it off right away. Who needs that?


Proverbs 31 describes an industrious wife who does her husband good and not harm all the days of her life.

Here is a key verse:

Proverbs 31:30
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (NIV)

I can tell you in my own marriage that the fear of the Lord is very helpful in keeping a marriage together and growing stronger. My wife is getting better and better as a wife over the years. One reason is because my wife really wants to do what is right in God's sight. She gets PMS, like a lot of women, and she can get moody. But if she gets into a bad mood and is grouchy toward me, she wants to be in right relationship with the Lord, so she'll realize if she's spoken harshly toward me and apologize. Those are the little things that you have to overcome in marriage that make a marriage work. Even the PMS grumpiness problem has declined over time as she's grown in her relationship with the Lord and realizes not to blame me for it. I know to back off and leave her alone now.

I wouldn't want to trade my married life for a single life, especially not for a lonely chicken choking, porn viewer's life.

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[Teal Lantern]

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Even an American judge is unlikely to award child support for imputed children.

We can hope, at least.