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[ladislav]

Can You Really Find Love on Pina-Love? Here's the Real Deal.

Yeah, you can find love on Pina-Love. It’s possible. But here’s the truth: the place is also crawling with scammers, liars, and fakes. Honestly, I’d say about 40% of the people on there just can’t be trusted.

You’ll run into plenty of women who seem interested at first, chat for a few days, then just vanish. No explanation, just gone. A lot of ghosting happens there.

But even worse than that are the ones who stick around—not because they like you, but because they’re playing a long con.
How the Scam Usually Goes

These scammers know what they’re doing. They won’t ask for money right away. Instead, they’ll:

Message you consistently for weeks.

Build up trust, flirt, say sweet things.

Make you feel like maybe this is something real.

Then slowly it starts:

“Can you send me some phone credit?”

“My phone camera’s broken—I want to video call you, but I can’t.”

“Can you help me fix it? I’ll pay you back, I promise.”

“The store doesn’t give receipts, but I used the money for what I said…”

Yeah, it’s all BS.

They’ll lie to your face, sound super convincing, and when you catch on—you’re already out hundreds of dollars. And guess what? You’re not the only one. They’re running the same play on multiple guys at once.
It's Sad, But Common in the Philippines

Unfortunately, this kind of scamming is pretty common in the Philippines—especially on dating apps and websites. Some of these women are really patient. They’ll become your “friend” for months or even years before asking for money.

They’ll call it a loan, or say it’s for:

A sick family member

Emergency rent

School tuition for their sibling

Whatever tugs at your heart. But it’s usually just part of the act.
One Big Tip: Ask for ID

Seriously—ask her to take a screenshot of her government ID. Not a photo she already had saved. Make sure she’s showing her real name and age, because a lot of that stuff is faked.

And if you’re thinking about flying over to meet her?
Hire a local investigator or background checker to confirm her ID is legit. Fake IDs are super easy to get in the Philippines, and scammers use them all the time.

It might sound like overkill, but if you’re planning to spend money, travel, or make big life decisions based on this person—it’s worth it.
Not Everyone’s a Scammer, Though

Now, to be fair—not all women on Pina-Love are like that. I’d say about 60% are actually real, decent people just trying to find love or connection.

Interestingly, in my experience (and others’), the more “model-looking” someone is, the more likely it’s a fake or a scam. Same goes for really young profiles that come on strong right away.

On the other hand, women who are a bit older or more average-looking? Often much more genuine. Not always, but enough to notice a pattern.
So, What Should You Do? Here's My Advice:

Never send money. No matter how sweet or convincing she is. Don’t do it.

Video chat early. If she keeps making excuses, that’s a red flag.

Ask for a screenshot of her ID. A real person won’t mind proving who they are.

Check her photos. Use a reverse image search to make sure they aren’t stolen.

Set boundaries. Be clear from the start: no money, no phone credit, no “favors.”

Talk to a few people. Don’t put all your hopes in one chat right away.

Take your time. If it’s real, there’s no rush.

Join expat forums or Reddit threads for advice from other guys who’ve been through it.

Trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is.

Hire a local sleuth ( you can find those on FB) to check things out including if her ID is not fake, if you’re planning to visit or get serious. It could save you thousands.

Final Thoughts

Online dating in the Philippines isn’t for the faint of heart. There are some amazing women out there, but you’ve got to get through a lot of nonsense and scams to find them.

So stay smart. Don’t get too caught up in the fantasy. Keep your head clear, your wallet closed, and your heart guarded—at least until you really know who you’re talking to.

If you play it smart, you might just find something real. Just don’t fall for the games along the way.
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[kangarunner]

@ladislav What happened to just meeting women the normal way? In person.

The only problem with online dating and apps is that over 35 a lot of women carry baggage and have had bad experiences with men. They've felt burned in the past and now it's hard for them to build trust again with a man.

[ladislav]

@ladislav What happened to just meeting women the normal way? In person.

The only problem with online dating and apps is that over 35 a lot of women carry baggage and have had bad experiences with men. They've felt burned in the past and now it's hard for them to build trust again with a man.

Plus, they are not that sexy. And many in the PH are separated. With kids. Having any intimacy with a separated woman is big trouble.

As far as meeting in person, you will need to devote at least a month or two going to different stores, restaurants, etc.

Do you have the money and the time to stay there and run around stores, etc?

[Yohan]

The big problem is always TIME and not money, if you want to meet women far away from the place where you are living. No suprise that many men are responsive to online services.
However such online-services are often loaded with scammers. You cannot trust them.

There is no other way but to meet the woman in person and to share time with her for a while. To see about how is really her daily way of life. To meet also other people next to her....to spend some time with her, but dating is time consuming.

About money, don't give her any money until you meet her in person. Also make sure after you meet her that you keep a certain limit of how much you might spend for her and for how long.

About Philippines, I am not sure - it might be nice to relocate but to earn money in Philippines is not easy. Situation might be different if you are already not so young and if you receive a good retirement allowance.

My advice was always, do not bring back a foreign woman to your own Western country. If you consider relocation to abroad, do it without even thinking about women, but secure first your own visa and otherwise necessary documents, your financial situation and your accommodation/buy or rent long-term - women should not be your priority until you are in a secure position yourself in your destination after relocation.

[Yohan]

@ladislav What happened to just meeting women the normal way? In person.

The only problem with online dating and apps is that over 35 a lot of women carry baggage and have had bad experiences with men. They've felt burned in the past and now it's hard for them to build trust again with a man.

Plus, they are not that sexy. And many in the PH are separated. With kids. Having any intimacy with a separated woman is big trouble.
As far as meeting in person, you will need to devote at least a month or two going to different stores, restaurants, etc.
Do you have the money and the time to stay there and run around stores, etc?

Still married but separated without holding a valid document of annulment of marriage and living together with such a woman can bring you in serious troubles in the Philippines should be husband show up even unexpectedly, claiming he was working overseas and his wife is cheating him, true or not does not matter.

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Question to Kangarunner:
Meeting women the normal way? In person? Where? How? In a nightclub or bar? What means 'normal way'?
You cannot just approach women 'somewhere' in the street, you should better not approch women at your workplace either etc. because if something is going wrong you might find yourself in trouble.

While still living in Central Europe, where age of consent is still 14 and where moral values are low - I never met a European girl, available, who did not have at least 3 or more boyfriends already - are you willing to line up as a backup, as her #4 or #8?

The first contact with any female is really a risk for every man, especially if there are no relative within the family, who might be helpful to introduce him to some available female they know from somewhere.

About kids, this is another issue and not only in Philippines. Women not taken yet and 35+ and no kids are worried about menopause and often have strange or materialistic demands.

Women with kids, 35+ but no husband, are often single mothers or they have otherwise serious issues they hide from you.

Do not believe all their stories about bad experiences with men, the woman as victim, as some women have a dark past of pregnancy and cheating and it is unclear who is really the father, other women have a tendency to violence, alcohol, drug abuse, even a criminal record.

I do not accept the tearmaking stories about women who are so badly treated by men. I am mistrusting and risk-averse. Not all men are bad and not all women are poor helpless little innocent girls.

It is (in most cases) the woman who is choosing and accepting the man who is approach her and not the other way round. It is also the woman who is refusing and rejecting often in a rude way many men who had good intention and would never harm a woman.

Women should stop to blame all men for their own shortcomings - the usual feminist way to go - if something in their relationship is going wrong and they should more carefully when choosing their male partners.

[kangarunner]

Question to Kangarunner:
Meeting women the normal way? In person? Where? How? In a nightclub or bar? What means 'normal way'?
You cannot just approach women 'somewhere' in the street, you should better not approch women at your workplace either etc. because if something is going wrong you might find yourself in trouble.

Yes, this should be the default way of talking to women. If we're at the point in time when this is not acceptable, then what have we become? Antisocial beings?