studies show that virgins have just as much adultery as non virgins after marriage. Id say character and personal chemistry is more important than whether or not she is a virgin. although it would be nice to get a virgin also. She can be the sweetest virgin ever but if she isn't genuinely into you or doesn't have enough character to continue through the marriage she probably will cheat on you (or at least come close).MrMan wrote:Newlifeinphilippines,
As a man in my 20's (at the time) I had to pay attention to keep my mind from thinking on lustful thoughts. Jesus taught against looking at a woman to lust after her. I'd prayed about that and I think the Lord had done a work in me on that. When I met my wife, maybe it was having that relationship with her, but struggling with lustful thoughts wasn't as big of a struggle, even though our relationship wasn't sex-focused.
There wasn't anything about her that made me think she'd be sexually passionate, although as we got to know each other, I could tell there was some interest and curiosity about sex from a few discussions. We were both virgins and didn't talk about much, though I did say I wanted a once a day frequency. I don't think she remembers that now.
We both sensed that we'd be married after we met. She went home and wrote about it in her prayer journal. I went home and prayed asking if I'd met my wife. We each were seeking to discern God's will about whether this was the one.
Btw, I think with marrying a virgin, if a man marries a woman who is attracted to him, who submits to him and follows him, that's probably a pretty good groundwork for having a good sex life later on, and for having a wife who won't try to have a sex life with someone else.
Do you really believe marrying a gold digging virgin who will leave when she gets a better deal is better than a slut who genuinely loves you and has no ulterior motives? Im not so proud that i can't accept someones previous mistakes.