If You Live In Her Country, She's the Expert

[MrMan]

I did a little reading on manosphere 'theory' as it applies to marriage. Women tend to respect men who are respected by others, including other men. So if you are married and you get an award for work at some dinner, and they all clap their hands for you and give you a plaque, maybe it's hot sex with the wife that night. Some of the 'theory' kind of applies to marriage.

To keep a woman interested, you don't want to be too much of a pushover. Women are also looking for the provider/nurturer/protector types for marriage, so they don't want the anti-social alpha type who leaves them pregnant with no provision. But they don't want an uber boring 'beta' type either who just does what they want. There has to be some pushback, especially if they get out of line. Some of it makes sense.

I think there is something to this. Women get uncomfortable if they have too much power in the relationship. They get bored with the man who is too nice who acquiesces to everyone. This can come out in disrespect. Especially if her values about marriage aren't that great, it could lead to adultery or divorce. If she's faithful, it might still put some stress on the relationship.

Her husband being competent is turn-on, a plus in the relationship. She could really go for guys who fix or build things, the successful businessman, the successful leader. Not everyone is Elon Musk, a top-tier Hollywood actor, or the leader of a social or political movement, so these competencies may be small things that keep the regular woman interested. And even some of those top-tier men in their fields have gone through a lot of marriage problems. Men at the top tier often work so much it is hard to spend time with a woman.

Now to the specific issue:
Staying in Her Country Makes Her the Expert

If you have married a foreign woman and lived in her country, she is going to be the expert. In many cases, she knows the language well, and you are a non-native speaker. If you marry a woman who lives in a country where your native language, e.g. English, is a national language, this may not be an issue. But even in those cases, she will know cultural and legal things you are not likely to know.

If you bring her to your country, you are the expert, and she depends on you and defers to you about certain things. This sort of thing is a 'plus' when it comes to power balance in the relationship, you being interesting, etc.