Like someone pointed out, my wife is Indonesian. She's a head-turner, too, but a faithful one. She tells m sometimes men look at her with interest. She'll look away or mention her husband if she has a conversation with them. She's in her late 30's now. I saw a girl I used to like in college whose a few years older than her, a white woman. My wife has 'held up' a lot better looks wise. I think that's a benefit of marrying an Asian if she takes care of her skin like my wife does. She's never been fat, except a pregnancy belly and just a few pounds of extra fat during that. Nothing like your typical American woman for gaining weight.
Honestly, though, my wife is the best looking woman in her whole family. I'm biased, I know. But I went to a family reunion of hundreds and hundreds of people. Back when we were in our 20's, she had a few, maybe four of cousins who were 'marriagably good looking' as far as my preference for looks. And a couple of them became my adopted sisters, so I'd better stop there.
I got 'adopted' by her uncle and aunt to join the people-group so I could marry her. They gave me a family name. Mentioning that is a good way to build rapport with the Batak if you meet one. Then they determine what relatives have your family name, ask what generation you are, and figure out what to call you (older brother, grandpa, etc.)
I'm picky about looks. Most women other men find attractive enough to date wouldn't have interested me that much when I was single. Of course, I was dating to marry and wanted to marry someone I was really attracted to. On a US college campus as a young man, I'd see lots and lots of women I'd find rather attractive. On a college campus in Indonesia as a young man, maybe I'd see a third or a fifth as many. That's just for my personal tastes. I really like Indonesians as people, though.
Culturally, though, there are a lot of pluses. It's considered the norm for both male and female to be virgins before marriage. Of course there are 'bad girls' and prostitutes in just about any city. There are slutty girls who sleep with multiple expats they meet in clubs and prostitutes on the side of the road In certain areas, or so I hear. Prostitution wasn't really all around and all that obvious. I did get hit up by the owner of a losmen (cheap inn) to hire a prostitute, once. I refused the offer. My wife told me some of the women hanging out beside the ramp of a highway were probably prostitutes. That stuff goes on.
But if you want to game girls into bed, I don't think Indonesia, even Jakarta, is right for you. I don't want you to go there and mess up the country where my wife's relatives and a lot of my friends live anyway. So if you are a monger, please stay away. It's a better place for looking for a non-slutty, traditional wife.
My wife told me if an Indonesian woman says she can't cook, she's embarrassed, because she's a woman and women are supposed to know how to cook. Islam is the majority religion. I noticed when I worked with middle aged women in the office how they'd talk about all the stuff they cooked at home, especially the special foods for night and morning meals during Rahmaddan, when they fast during the daytime. The women brought a hotplate once and cooked lunch that way. Other offices commented on the smell, so they did shabu-shabu in a boiled pot after that. I could tell even though they worked they were domestically oriented. And lots of women stay home with the kids, too.
If Indonesians made jokes about sex, they were usually jokes about sex in marriage, teasing newlyweds. Like I said, virginity is expected. There are jokes about newly weds having sex. Married couples are expected to have sex (not stop having sex at marriage, an idea that might actual implant itself in someone's mind in the slutty culture of the west). In general, it is believed that women should submit to their husbands. But like any marriage, you have to set the boundaries and expectations for that while you are dating and right after you get married. Women are women. Indonesian women can get PMS and they can get bossy if you let them just like any woman from any country, and of course there are emotionally unstable women and crazy women just like anywhere. The advantage is the cultural background and expectations are largely in line with what is needed for a good marriage when compared to US culture.
Even for women in their 30's, it's expected that her mom and dad have to approve of a marriage, and when you marry her, you marry the whole family, so to speak. (Not for sexual relations, of course.)
The food is good. My wife is an excellent cook, better than your average Indonesian cook, even. There are multiple cuisines there that aren't all that similar necessarily. My top three favorite are Padang, Manado, and Javanese.
Foreigners, especially Caucasians, are seen as rich. They could also attract gold diggers and slutty girls who (for obvious reasons) think they might have a chance with a rich foreigner when a nice local man wouldn't be interested because of the sluttiness. Some foreigners have low expectations when it comes to sexual virtue.
