I would have never thought...

[davewe]

...I would end up sad and depressed...in the Philippines! I came exactly for the opposite reason. To conjugate hard work with some fun and the opportunity to find the kind of young woman I have always wanted.

Nowhere to go where I won't find the same faces, the same behaviours, the same rituals...the same s*it.

Do you guys really feel like rockstars because a few dumb 20-something with no chance in life are interested in latching on to you and give you what you want in exchange of all they can get?

IMHO this admission is a great sign and hopefully a turning point. It was clear to me that several of your recent threads about the women you were or were not meeting were not about the women but more about whatever is going on with you. Now none of us truly know you and therefore can't assess whether this is general dulldroms or true depression. Since you are not a kid and pretty self-aware I suspect you know yourself well enough to know what action to take to get out of your current malaise. If you don't know it might be time to talk to a professional.

Perhaps this is a good time to deal with your core feelings and not just to find the latest girl.

[Adama]

You know what I would have never thought? That a man could bring up the same issues and make threads about them repeatedly. That many members could offer their good advice repeated. That good advice bounces off a man's heart like a stone. That people continue to give advice to someone who is incapable of receiving it. And I patiently await further threads on the same topic of how it is so hard to find the perfect woman while having unreasonable expectations, to request the same advice which was already given numerous times by numerous people. Just complaining and spinning the wheels without any hope of getting off the Merry-Go-Round. I do find human psychology quite interesting. Just the patterns involved and how they repeat endlessly. Shall we set the timer to see how long now?

[Adama]

...I would end up sad and depressed...in the Philippines! I came exactly for the opposite reason. To conjugate hard work with some fun and the opportunity to find the kind of young woman I have always wanted.

Nowhere to go where I won't find the same faces, the same behaviours, the same rituals...the same s*it.

Do you guys really feel like rockstars because a few dumb 20-something with no chance in life are interested in latching on to you and give you what you want in exchange of all they can get?

IMHO this admission is a great sign and hopefully a turning point. It was clear to me that several of your recent threads about the women you were or were not meeting were not about the women but more about whatever is going on with you. Now none of us truly know you and therefore can't assess whether this is general dulldroms or true depression. Since you are not a kid and pretty self-aware I suspect you know yourself well enough to know what action to take to get out of your current malaise. If you don't know it might be time to talk to a professional.

Perhaps this is a good time to deal with your core feelings and not just to find the latest girl.

Some men are forever learning but never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. They have rejected the truth and therefore are incapable of receiving it, seeing as they already rejected it. How can truth enter when the person who needs it rejects it every time? I don't feel sorry for them though.

[gsjackson]

A couple of components to the attitude problem. One, the proclamation of scarcity and unavailability. You don't have to be an adherent of positive thinking, the law of attraction, etc. to observe that this is often a self-fulfilling prophecy. It is also an insult to God, or Dame Fortuna, or the laws of probability, or whatever force you may think has some effect on circumstance, to turn your anecdotal observations into generalizations about what might be out there for you.

Secondly, you severely undervalue yourself, presumably because of your age -- ironically in a milieu where age is valued. You have an intellect and life experience that is miles beyond even what the best educated of these young Philippinas can imagine. They couldn't dream of navigating their way through the City of London financial world. You have a political perspective that is sophisticated way beyond their experience. You have a story of heroic and idealistic entrepreneurship to tell (regardless of how it may be going at the moment, or end up, you're doing something very admirable). You're willing to do what's necessary to improve your physical presentation. What's for them not to like?

Women will accept you at your own self estimation. That's why "bad boys" and assholes often do well -- they think their shite doesn't stink, even though they may have absolutely nothing going for them. If you, who have everything gong for you, present with a down in the mouth, "I have no value to you" attitude, they will take you at your word. And as long as that's what you're thinking, they will see through any facade of false self confidence. "Stinkin thinkin," son. You've fallen into it. Pull yourself out of the muck, and see who you are.

[Zambales]

Duende.....

Were you advised or did you do any research in starting a business in the Philippines?

I was thinking along the same lines some years ago but I was advised by a number of folk who are well versed over there not to bother as it's quite difficult for a foreigner to make a good income. They all said the same. Make your money in the west and go to the Phils to retire.

Also, if the number one attribute in a woman for you is intellect, why a Filipina? English maybe widely spoken in the Philippines but it's not their first language so obviously the majority won't be capable of engaging into intellectual conversations as a native English speaker could.

Therefore, I'm curious in why you chose the Philippines. If I was in your shoes and sought after your goals, I would have stayed in the West.

Lastly, I hear that mathematical brain bunny, Carol Voorderman, is now single, although admittedly she's no spring chicken anymore.

[starchild5]

You know what I would have never thought? That a man could bring up the same issues and make threads about them repeatedly. That many members could offer their good advice repeated. That good advice bounces off a man's heart like a stone. That people continue to give advice to someone who is incapable of receiving it. And I patiently await further threads on the same topic of how it is so hard to find the perfect woman while having unreasonable expectations, to request the same advice which was already given numerous times by numerous people. Just complaining and spinning the wheels without any hope of getting off the Merry-Go-Round. I do find human psychology quite interesting. Just the patterns involved and how they repeat endlessly. Shall we set the timer to see how long now?

I agree totally...Its due to HOPIUM....PD is doing the same mistake again and again..Instead of getting new perspective from people, he thinks nobody can help him and he has biased views on Filipinas.

He has also clubbed filipinas into various categories which is really WORSE when it comes to breaking new grounds. He has unfortunately created a LOOP around his mind.

I don't see a turn around here..Its gonna get worse and more new threads on how Philippines made PD more miserable would be the order of the day.

Out of 200 or so countries...Philippines is like the Number 1 or Top 5 countries where Alternative thinkers, free spirits, "odd balls", social outcast, Conspiracy nutters aka whomever the government does not like can easily find solace in Philippines.

Only way he can turn around his life in Philippines is by contacting the God of Philippines aka Winston Wu from HappierAbraod.

Winston could have settled in over 200+ countries...If he chose Philippines...There MUST be something that Winston found out that PD is missing.

[publicduende]

Hi Starchild,

I know you mean no harm, you never do, but it's got to the point where I don't know if your statements are sarcastic or you really mean them.

Why do you call Winston "the God of the Philippines"? And you believe that he has the solution for all of our problems in the Philippines?

I know you guys have been helping me and giving me not good, but excellent advice. And you are mistaken if you think I don't take your advice on board seriously. Far from bouncing off my heart like a stone.

You people keep telling me that I need to lower my standards and my expectations, and that's what I always do - in fact have been doing far before this piece of advice came to me. I tried and I keep trying, and fail. Some of you are looking to have fun or short term relationships, so they're not too concerned with the quality of the girl, besides her ability to please them in bed and maybe offer some eye candy as they take her around malls or exotic resorts.

Those, like Pete, Outwest or Dave, who were looking for a wife, understand my plea much better. They know I am an adult and not prime material anymore. They know that a girl who has options wouldn't think of hooking up with me for any other reason than the curiosity of a one-night-stand or, more predictably, getting some cash favours from me. So their advice focuses on maximising my potential for arbitrage, by looking as fresh and in shape as I possibly can, and by looking for hidden gems way off their beaten path. They all found their wives several years ago in small towns of Southern Visayas and Mindanao. I am stuck with Davao now, and my target girls are millennials, with all the shallowness and entitlement issues they carry with their generation.

My problem isn't in my head, as Adama, you and some others think. It's the statistical impossibility of finding a young woman who matches me. My expectations are indeed too high for what I can achieve, given my age and status. Simple as that. No need to summon up spiritual theories about karma, dharma or hopium.

About clubbing Filipinas in categories...if anyone gave me evidence that, all things being equal, they can get Filipinas outside those categories I listed...then I would worship HIM like a god! But I haven't found one. Here in Davao, even foreigners younger than me with financial stability are paired up with girls of the type I had before, aplenty, and couldn't consider for a long term relationship. Of course they're perfectly fine girls for me and good for them if they like them. It's just that I couldn't see myself with any of them.

You know what I would have never thought? That a man could bring up the same issues and make threads about them repeatedly. That many members could offer their good advice repeated. That good advice bounces off a man's heart like a stone. That people continue to give advice to someone who is incapable of receiving it. And I patiently await further threads on the same topic of how it is so hard to find the perfect woman while having unreasonable expectations, to request the same advice which was already given numerous times by numerous people. Just complaining and spinning the wheels without any hope of getting off the Merry-Go-Round. I do find human psychology quite interesting. Just the patterns involved and how they repeat endlessly. Shall we set the timer to see how long now?

I agree totally...Its due to HOPIUM....PD is doing the same mistake again and again..Instead of getting new perspective from people, he thinks nobody can help him and he has biased views on Filipinas.

He has also clubbed filipinas into various categories which is really WORSE when it comes to breaking new grounds. He has unfortunately created a LOOP around his mind.

I don't see a turn around here..Its gonna get worse and more new threads on how Philippines made PD more miserable would be the order of the day.

Out of 200 or so countries...Philippines is like the Number 1 or Top 5 countries where Alternative thinkers, free spirits, "odd balls", social outcast, Conspiracy nutters aka whomever the government does not like can easily find solace in Philippines.

Only way he can turn around his life in Philippines is by contacting the God of Philippines aka Winston Wu from HappierAbraod.

Winston could have settled in over 200+ countries...If he chose Philippines...There MUST be something that Winston found out that PD is missing.

[publicduende]

Duende.....

Were you advised or did you do any research in starting a business in the Philippines?

I was thinking along the same lines some years ago but I was advised by a number of folk who are well versed over there not to bother as it's quite difficult for a foreigner to make a good income. They all said the same. Make your money in the west and go to the Phils to retire.

That, or what I choose: offer services to first-world countries using Filipino staff. The challenge is not just Philippines-related, it's about starting a business that is not "lean", that is, has some non-trivial operating costs (office and infrastructure, staff salaries, taxes etc.) and suffering while your client pipeline is full and you can cover costs, then chip a profit, then grow and finally thrive.

Setting up the office, with all associated overheads and paperwork, including PEZA registration, has been a minor nightmare. But, at least judging from the past few weeks, things are getting better. As suspected, the very fact of having an office and full-time staff, the fact we have been partnering with Microsoft and been running developer community events for more than a year now, the fact of having a professional profile in Davao: all of this seems to be finally paying off. Just in the Philippines we have clients of the calibre of ABS-CBN, Century Properties and Asia United Bank. And this is just the beginning. We have made some inroads with some powerful people in Manila who are starting to give us projects. And while margins are surely lower here than from a UK client, everybody agrees that, as soon as we will have gained their full trust, we should be able to get bigger projects and, most importantly, make our price.

It's hard to set up a new business from scratch. I did not know how much, and how much this would bear on my mind and even physical sanity! But hey, even fewer people who start businesses if they knew the pain in advance

Of course the path of least resistance for somebody here is, as you say, to stay abroad and seek a relationship with a quality Filipina, until marriage looms. That is a good idea and I even got convinced (as expressed in one of my earlier posts) that men like me abroad have more chances to impress the top end of what they can get if they leverage their "live/work abroad, can bring her home" status. The issue is see is handling a distance relationship, with all the frustrations and trust problems that come with it.

The other alternative is to be here as a tourist and find a source of income online. Still possible, albeit increasingly difficult, from what I can see. The "best" example of this life choice I know in Davao is a nice chap from the UK who works for a UK web company. He is not paid bad money, but he is forced to work UK time, so mostly at night, with pretty devastating effects on his body and mind. Last time I saw him, at his birthday party at one of the few girly bars in Davao, he looked visibly overweight and stressed.

Also, if the number one attribute in a woman for you is intellect, why a Filipina? English maybe widely spoken in the Philippines but it's not their first language so obviously the majority won't be capable of engaging into intellectual conversations as a native English speaker could.

Therefore, I'm curious in why you chose the Philippines. If I was in your shoes and sought after your goals, I would have stayed in the West.

Lastly, I hear that mathematical brain bunny, Carol Voorderman, is now single, although admittedly she's no spring chicken anymore.

That's a good point...Filipinas can be intelligent and intellectual, they can be well educated and even wordly/cosmopolitan. I met several of such girls, so I have proof that they do exist. If they weren't all taken or uninterested in me, that would help greatly!

Ih short: I chose the Philippines because I thought I could get a good platform for an IT business and, at the same time, build myself the kind of social/relational/love life I should have really aspired to in the first place. The former assumption is proving itself right. It's a bigger and harder nut to crack, but I am cracking it and I can finally see the coveted fruit behind the cracks.

The latter assumption is proving itself wrong. My age and status just doesn't allow me to reach the kind of girls I need. Intellectual but troubled and unattractive (ie. boner test fail!). Or cute but really dumb and/or with an agenda that has nothing to do with love. If all I wanted was s*x and constant ego-titillation, yes, I would consider myself fully satisfied.

Unfortunately, I want more. Much of my state of misery comes from the realisation that I can't compromise. Tried many times, failed as many. Yes I do feel sad and depressed (albeit not clinically depressed, as Dave was hinting at), but I guess I have no choice than suck it up and continue to build my status, hoping I could get a great girl with a fetish for older men some time soon.

[publicduende]

...I would end up sad and depressed...in the Philippines! I came exactly for the opposite reason. To conjugate hard work with some fun and the opportunity to find the kind of young woman I have always wanted.

Nowhere to go where I won't find the same faces, the same behaviours, the same rituals...the same s*it.

Do you guys really feel like rockstars because a few dumb 20-something with no chance in life are interested in latching on to you and give you what you want in exchange of all they can get?

IMHO this admission is a great sign and hopefully a turning point. It was clear to me that several of your recent threads about the women you were or were not meeting were not about the women but more about whatever is going on with you. Now none of us truly know you and therefore can't assess whether this is general dulldroms or true depression. Since you are not a kid and pretty self-aware I suspect you know yourself well enough to know what action to take to get out of your current malaise. If you don't know it might be time to talk to a professional.

Perhaps this is a good time to deal with your core feelings and not just to find the latest girl.

Just one clarification, Dave. I am not clinically depressed. I am perfectly fine and able to function to the best of my abilities, including meeting people (lots of people!).

My sadness is more of a background noise. I am obviously using this forum as an outlet because I know there are plenty of people, just like you, who are able to understand and advise me. I am taking good advantage of the camaraderie and kindness of many HA members and, believe me, that I do profoundly appreciate, beyond any bunch of words that could be written here, in anonymity.

Yes I agree with you, it's about me, not about the girls. I can't change the shape of a country just because I want it. The kinds of young women I would like to pursue are a very scarce commodity and I constantly fail to compromise.

The situation is getting "worse" with every passing year: the arbitrage window is closing, and fast. Every girl who has a smartphone and the usual flurry of social media apps, is exposed to the wider world. She knows how a Westerner should look like to be considered gwapo, so a 50-something pot-bellied with a kind attitude just won't cut it anymore (besides his ability to provide for a poor girl and her family). Her aesthetic canons are being heavily biased towards the baby-faced heartthrob so en vogue with Korean pop culture, but are hard to replicate with an adult Westerner. The Philippines are growing as a tourist and even business destination, so young and good looking foreigners are no longer an unusual sights in cities other than Metro Manila and Cebu.

Finally, the rampant materialism means an adult man will be seen at "face value", not for the experience or maturity or quality of feelings he can bring to the table. Whether it's a young Pinoy or a mature foreigner, the questions are always the same:

- do you look good based not just on my canons, but those of my friends and peers?
- will I embarrass myself if I go out with you in public?
- can you help with money when(ever) I need it?
- can you entertain me continuously, cover me with attentions several times a day and satisfy my whims?

In short, nothing that different anymore from what a girl in the West, or in China, would be looking for.

The fact some girls, in fact a lot of girls in the Philippines would be willing to cut on those requirements doesn't necessarily mean they are girls with good moral values. It simply means they know they can't find better, or they life experience thus far showed them that.

Believe me I have seen and heard it, I have seen girls leaving their mature boyfriends whom they swore eternal love (and from whom they are enjoying a distance relationship and financial help) fall into another man's arms just because he's younger, has more "face value" and is right there with them. And to the lover's surprise, they even have the guts to say things like "yeah I have a bf but he's so old and boring". Another girl I recently chatted to on DIA looked really cute and was a pleasure to talk to. She told me she did a short study period in the US and has many friends there. She was looking for friends in Europe, so I said I am from there and told her a few things about Europe and Europeans, which, I believe, she appreciated.

Then out of the blue she told me she was waiting for her passport to move to Australia and I made an ironic remark on how that would stop me from courting her properly. She hastily told me that "that's cool as it is" and gave me her goodnight. I never heard from her again, despite contacting her again for the following couple of days.

Hypergamy in women only needs one observation, and the bar is set. If a girl had a single foreign boyfriend who is young and good looking, or she is being chased by one, she will be very reluctant to downgrade to an adult foreigner. Girls who live or work or study abroad, who make friends with men considered "cooler" or more handsome. Once their mind is set at that level, we become invisible.

So you guys' theory of going off the beaten path, hoping to find girls who haven't been exposed to men better than us, may work, but up to a certain point. Internet-enabled smartphones and social media are available even in rural areas, and any girl who doesn't literally live under a rock can easily put herself in a shop window and set her standards to the best "face" she's been approached by.

[publicduende]

A couple of components to the attitude problem. One, the proclamation of scarcity and unavailability. You don't have to be an adherent of positive thinking, the law of attraction, etc. to observe that this is often a self-fulfilling prophecy. It is also an insult to God, or Dame Fortuna, or the laws of probability, or whatever force you may think has some effect on circumstance, to turn your anecdotal observations into generalizations about what might be out there for you.

I have been here, continuously, for 18 months. I have been to Makati dozens of times and engaged with hundred of people: men and women, young and old, rich and poor, top-notch and bottom scraping intellect and education.

I am generalising because I don't know anyone who is a foreigner like me and, in recent times at least, has been able to bag a girl of the quality I would like to be with. Which, as I said many times before, is not Liza Soberano (below, for those who don't know her) with the mind of a Maths PhD: a 6 + 8, 7 + 7, or 8 + 6 in looks/brains department is all I am looking for.



I know exceptions do not confirm the rule, yet I would be curious, in fact elated, to find one such example. So far I have not.

Secondly, you severely undervalue yourself, presumably because of your age -- ironically in a milieu where age is valued. You have an intellect and life experience that is miles beyond even what the best educated of these young Philippinas can imagine. They couldn't dream of navigating their way through the City of London financial world. You have a political perspective that is sophisticated way beyond their experience. You have a story of heroic and idealistic entrepreneurship to tell (regardless of how it may be going at the moment, or end up, you're doing something very admirable). You're willing to do what's necessary to improve your physical presentation. What's for them not to like?

Quite the opposite, actually. It is precisely because I give myself some value, that I don't want to compromise. And it's because I won't compromise, that I feel miserable. Like I told in my reply to Dave above, I realise that younger women, even the good and smart ones, are not prepared to see a man past his "face value". The hell they care if I built system that manage billions in flow for investment bank. They couldn't care less of how hard I am working on the business, or how successful I could be in a few years if everything goes well. They focus on the here and now.

The questions they ask themselves are: are you "polite flattering" handsome, or "I wanna show you off to all my friend" handsome? Are you successful here? Do you own a condo? A SUV? Do you have money and free time to throw at me. They ask themselves those questions not because they are stupid bitches, but because they know they can find a rich kid from a Fil-Chinese family who will treat her well, any time. Money first...if the man is mature or old, they go into sugar daddy mode.

You may consider this attitude shallow and almost cruel, and you would be right. Unfortunately, these are the Millennials and, thanks to globalisation and the social media, a Filipino millennial won't be that distant from her counterpart in Australia or China.

Women will accept you at your own self estimation. That's why "bad boys" and assholes often do well -- they think their shite doesn't stink, even though they may have absolutely nothing going for them. If you, who have everything gong for you, present with a down in the mouth, "I have no value to you" attitude, they will take you at your word. And as long as that's what you're thinking, they will see through any facade of false self confidence. "Stinkin thinkin," son. You've fallen into it. Pull yourself out of the muck, and see who you are.

That would be right if it weren't for the fact that values are relative. What you or I consider of importance might be of no importance for the girl. The bad boy/asshole titillates a girls idea of being dominated and controlled but if said bad boy is ugly looking or at some point can't show the cash, they won't be getting the time of the day no matter how much tattooed skin they have or how long their criminal record is.

If a girl is looking for a handsome man, I am not it. I am in shape and if I get more in shape, I could be a solid 7. If they're looking for youth, I am not. I am 42 and signs of age are starting to show, despite my relatively healthy lifestyle and food/drink options. I thought being without kids mattered. It doesn't: a lot of pretty girls I know are happy to be with a guy with kids from previous relationship, again, so long he is young and good looking.

Such is life, mate.

[gsjackson]

Oh well, we're all screwed then. But I'm almost a quarter century older than you, and I guarantee you if I saw that Liza Soberano in person I would be on her like a cheap suit (assuming her body was acceptable), until she either relented or called the police. Wow.

I'm not one to tell you to lower your standards. Aim high. Let DNA tell you who to go for. People (of whom women are a subset, which may come as a surprise to some) want all kinds of different things. A lot of them want you. When you find one you'll realize the absurdity of your generalizations about age being totally dispositive. You're quite liable not to find one of them, though, if you keep moping around and instructing the fates about what they can and cannot deliver up.

[publicduende]

Oh well, we're all screwed then. But I'm almost a quarter century older than you, and I guarantee you if I saw that Liza Soberano in person I would be on her like a cheap suit (assuming her body was acceptable), until she either relented or called the police. Wow.

I'm not one to tell you to lower your standards. Aim high. Let DNA tell you who to go for. People (of whom women are a subset, which may come as a surprise to some) want all kinds of different things. A lot of them want you. When you find one you'll realize the absurdity of your generalizations about age being totally dispositive. You're quite liable not to find one of them, though, if you keep moping around and instructing the fates about what they can and cannot deliver up.

I don't know, Mr Jackson, I don't know. There seems to be quite a bit of complacency on the theme of getting laid in the Philippines. Many of us, those who have never been down here, busk in the dream of eventually going there and diving in p***y for a few days or weeks, before going back to their grim suburban existence. A smaller subset, those who come over here to find solace, do get abundantly laid with bottom feeders and that's enough for them to have the time of their lives and tell the world what a Paradise the Philippines are.

The few who are serious about finding a top quality girl are, well, very few and far apart. Those I know, at least here in Davao, are with dark skinned not-to-smart and unattractive (at least by Pinoy standards) ladies. They are contented with who they found, basically. On the very rare sight of the occasional hot Pinay with a foreigner, almost exclusively in Abreeza (the most elegant mall in Davao, the equivalent of Greenbelt in Manila and Ayala in Cebu), the foreigner is always a hunky guy who would probably find hot girls anywhere in the world.

A lot of them want "us"...but are those the ones we would want back? So far all the ones who wanted me and I was with, be it one hour or 2 months, were never meant to be long-term relationships. Yes, it makes you happy and soothes you ego at the beginning. As soon as you lose your appetite for the quantity and look for quality, that's when the trouble starts. Once you ignore the vast bottom - the desperate and destitute, the single mom looking for support, the seasoned separated woman looking for fun, the brainy yet fugly who feels insecure - and aim for the top, that's where you find very little air to breathe.

[MrMan]

I got married over 15 years ago. I think a lot of young men in their 20's come on here and complain about how it is near hopeless to find a woman.

Have you ever been married?

[publicduende]

I got married over 15 years ago. I think a lot of young men in their 20's come on here and complain about how it is near hopeless to find a woman.

Have you ever been married?

I am still married

I don't know how Indonesia is now, but I can assume that both the Philippines and Indonesia had a different perception of (young, white, Caucasian) foreigners 15 years ago, in the pre-Internet/pre-social-media craze era.

Again I can't speak for Indonesia, but nowadays that's what I can see. If you're 35+, your chances of getting a young and pretty girl who wants you for you, not for your right to remain in the UK or US or Canada, or your money/status, or the chance of having light skinned cute babies, or a combination of the three, is slim.

I will change my relationship with Fate, or whatever Force that drives my luck right now, when I see statistical evidence that the opposite is true.

[Kradmelder]

There is more wine here than at the Stellenbosch wine festival. Do you want some cheese with the whine?

Fark, you are only 42 and whining about being washed up. That is an ideal time to find serious women. Many well educated biological clock types in their late 20s to mid 30s who now want kids will see your age and status as perfect husband material, unless you have limp pasta for a dick At that age I was pomping everyday, pulling very good looking women who wanted to settle. But I just got divorced so that was the last thing I wanted. I had a pick of hot educated ones wanting family and a good stable man.

Even for men older than you there are plenty of quality educated women available. What a sorry Mofo you sound like. You sound like an old man who has given up and are making all sorts of excuses for your failure. If you are are pathetic in person around women they will flee. That is what women see. Get up and sort yourself out and get a decent women. >95% of the world does it. The other 5% who sit and whine and don't need you to swell their ranks. They already have an entire faggosphere already whining that women dont want them, why would you want to join that pathetic lot? They make it sound like most men can't find women, but that is a crock of shyte as the vast majority of good men in the world are not single. Women also know that. Most men do find women. Only the whiners do not because women run away from them.

If you are an ugly fat fark with a bad attitude who expects young girls to worship you, you are out of luck. Why should they settle for that? They dont even need social media to know there is far better than that available. The attitude and fat you can do something about instead of just sitting back in your own dung complaining about it. The age and looks you can do nothing about, but many men your age and older pull in quality women that are relationship material. They are just not as pathetic in attitude. Even an italian woman would slap you if had that attitude and tell you to be man, whatever being a man in Italy means. Certainly filipinas don't see a man the way you come across.