Video: China's Leftover Women CRYING as Dating Is a DISASTER | No Man Wants Them

[MatureDJ]

[MrMan]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBPAFKCWWvY

I really don't get this. There are a lot more marrying-age men than women in China. They show lots of women who are better-than-average looking to quite pretty. Maybe she wants a man as educated and successful as herself. You'd think a lot of men left without brides would want to wife her up just to get a woman.

If these 36-year-old got married right now and pumped out a baby, she might still be in the age range to do that.

PhDs may be a liability for an East Asian woman wanting to marry. They want the men to be on the same or higher level. I knew a South Korean woman earning a Ph.D. in the US. She was tall, which probably limited her dating pool, and also quite stout. Her father was trying to set her up with a man who was the son of someone in his social network who had an MBA and a good career, with a high ranking profitable expatriate job. Finances offset her degree. So there is some flexibility. Her husband didn't have to have a doctorate.

Personally, I agree that it doesn't matter what a woman does for a living. A woman with a middle school education who is virtuous, kind, has good sense, is in good shape, and pretty can make a good wife. But I do think east Asian parents wants some sort of similarity in terms of social status.

This is an interesting clip.

[youtube]https://youtu.be/Y3kTYCLSgsg[/youtube]

[WanderingProtagonist]

I don't care, women have shit standards and expect too f***ing much...These people are also idiots and go through life believing they'll remain young forever. Eventually they get to a point/age where men pay them less attention because the 20+ and 18 year olds are getting it all. I hate my single life but I have no interest in competing with a woman. If she makes more than me and see that as a flaw or problem, then the asshole deserves to be lonely and crying like the sorry judgemental bitch that she is.

[Yohan]

I really don't get this. There are a lot more marrying-age men than women in China. They show lots of women who are better-than-average looking to quite pretty. Maybe she wants a man as educated and successful as herself. You'd think a lot of men left without brides would want to wife her up just to get a woman.

The situation in Japan is quite similar compared to China, but not to such a huge difference between men and women.
In Japan the difference between the number of men and females is not so huge, distances between rural area and cities are much shorter and good streets, often these Japanese women have been married/divorced already, some with children and are more modest and are less demanding from men.

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It is true that in China there are about more than 33 million males than females, but this count is from birth up to death and not very informative.

You have to check out first of all, where are all these men and women located and you will find out soon, that the majority of single men of all age are living in rural areas which can be rather remote located - and the majority of females are living within larger cities.

As next step you have to check the age of these men and women - you will notice that the marrying-minded single men are mostly younger than 40 years old, and the marrying-minded single (left over) women are mostly older than 40.

You will see soon that the majority of 40+ Chinese men are either married but if still single they are looking for a female not older than 30 years old, and indeed, Chinese men who are still single or widower and available are only few...by far not so many as you might expect.

There are other unpleasant issues too in China - parents often interfere as their unmarried daughter is still living with them.

Another point is that by educational standard, women in the cities have a higher education level and often higher income than men living in rural areas....

In China still there is a big business going on with match making - marriage brokers - but such companies also acknowledge that to match these left-over women 40+ with men is a very difficult task. The main reason they mention is the fact that these women have unreasonable expectations because in the past they spent their life solely alone or with their parents who also show up with them and insist on various conditions.

This goes so far that even their parents are showing up together with their daughter for the first meeting, and in some excessive cases only the father or mother is showing up without their daughter for the first check....

However marriage is clearly a different situation than living alone or with parents as a 40+ spoiled daughter and even if those marriage brokers succeed to persuade to meet men interested in them, they always find a reason not to continue to meet them again just after the first meeting.
No compromise, no tolerance, no man is good enough for them.....

Even if a rich foreigner is showing up, their condition is that despite he is being rich etc. he must be an overseas Chinese, no other ethnicity is acceptable and so on...even if this foreigner is living in HongKong...

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Personally I have no compassion for these left-over women - these women are left-over because of choice and their unreasonable behavior, expections and demands.

Just forget about them.

[Yohan]

Older single women in China are becoming increasingly anxious!Foreign girls are starting to compete

[MrMan]

I really don't get this. There are a lot more marrying-age men than women in China. They show lots of women who are better-than-average looking to quite pretty. Maybe she wants a man as educated and successful as herself. You'd think a lot of men left without brides would want to wife her up just to get a woman.

The situation in Japan is quite similar compared to China, but not to such a huge difference between men and women.
In Japan the difference between the number of men and females is not so huge, distances between rural area and cities are much shorter and good streets, often these Japanese women have been married/divorced already, some with children and are more modest and are less demanding from men.

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It is true that in China there are about more than 33 million males than females, but this count is from birth up to death and not very informative.

You have to check out first of all, where are all these men and women located and you will find out soon, that the majority of single men of all age are living in rural areas which can be rather remote located - and the majority of females are living within larger cities.

As next step you have to check the age of these men and women - you will notice that the marrying-minded single men are mostly younger than 40 years old, and the marrying-minded single (left over) women are mostly older than 40.

You will see soon that the majority of 40+ Chinese men are either married but if still single they are looking for a female not older than 30 years old, and indeed, Chinese men who are still single or widower and available are only few...by far not so many as you might expect.

There are other unpleasant issues too in China - parents often interfere as their unmarried daughter is still living with them.

Another point is that by educational standard, women in the cities have a higher education level and often higher income than men living in rural areas....

In China still there is a big business going on with match making - marriage brokers - but such companies also acknowledge that to match these left-over women 40+ with men is a very difficult task. The main reason they mention is the fact that these women have unreasonable expectations because in the past they spent their life solely alone or with their parents who also show up with them and insist on various conditions.

This goes so far that even their parents are showing up together with their daughter for the first meeting, and in some excessive cases only the father or mother is showing up without their daughter for the first check....

However marriage is clearly a different situation than living alone or with parents as a 40+ spoiled daughter and even if those marriage brokers succeed to persuade to meet men interested in them, they always find a reason not to continue to meet them again just after the first meeting.
No compromise, no tolerance, no man is good enough for them.....

Even if a rich foreigner is showing up, their condition is that despite he is being rich etc. he must be an overseas Chinese, no other ethnicity is acceptable and so on...even if this foreigner is living in HongKong...

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Personally I have no compassion for these left-over women - these women are left-over because of choice and their unreasonable behavior, expections and demands.

Just forget about them.

One of the videos was showing 36 or 38 year old 8 plus looking women. There is a big difference when they put a 4 in front of their age. It just sounds older. If a man wants a child, somewhere around there, late thirties or early 40s or later, having a baby starts to get harder.

If these masses of single men are lower status and far from the single women... and younger.... that explains why they don't match up.

[Yohan]

@MrMan

The main reason is because of persistent interference of parents of these spoiled not so young daughters and their unreasonable requirements and delusional demands from the woman looking for a husband. It is almost like human trafficking.

Parents and their not so young left-over daughters insist of a huge bride price, a large house in a prime location in the city, cars, monthly allowance, employment of a maid as unwilling to do any housework, registering the house additionally with the name of the bride in the land title....a large party for marriage with expensive gifts...and all this should be paid by the groom and his parents.

There are plenty of videos out in Youtube and similar websites, explaining the situation.
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For example a woman near her 40s insists on a bride price of yuan 5 million, this is about USD 700.000,- to be paid in her private banking account.
But if the marriage is ending soon in divorce, of course this money is gone....

About herself she is working in a company, her salary is yuan 3500,- (about USD 500,-) and she is living in a rented one-room apartment.
She has nothing to offer otherwise.
He told her to visit a temple and to pray for good luck - and the man (who was introduced by an agent) left immediately.
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Another woman about same age had a lot of money and was not into a bride price but had requirements which can be called extensive controlling of the husband. He should do all housework, should never come home later than 10:00 PM, has to provide an additional comfortable room in his house for her mother (minimum 5 bedrooms and 3 cars) and has to pay her an allowance monthly of yuan 30.000 (about USD 4.200.-) which is only for her own needs like cosmetica, fashion shopping etc.
The man told her, he is not a poor man at all, but for accepting such requirements he can find a woman 20 years old and not 40 years old and left.
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Of course, in China there are also ordinary women who do not expect such a life-style after marriage and are modest in their behavior - but the rich women have requirements from men, which often are plainly ridiculous.

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Not all Asian countries women are so deeply materialistic like in China.

Also here in Japan such demands are unknown at all.

In Thailand a bride price is only expected from a groom, if the bride is still a virgin, very young and still living in the house of the parents.
A woman 40+ for marriage means no bride price at all.

Vietnamese people consider a bride price as reasonable, but they do not expect anything else - to provide house or car etc. is not a requirement.
Bride price it seems (I have no real practical experience about it) is around dong 50 million to 100 million (somewhat USD 2000 to 4000-)

Also never heard about such requirements from Chinese people in Malaysia. More or less no requirements....(at least not from the Malay Chinese I know personally) some gifts maybe for parents, some little money, but by far not such high demands as in China.

[Yohan]

Some stories from women who filed for divorce, regret it and later on want to re-marry the divorced husband again, but he refused.

I am supportive to these Chinese men, I would never accept a wife again who filed for divorce and left me and comes back later after a year or so and claiming tearfully she made a mistake and wants to re-marry me. No way!