MarcosZeitola wrote:You are too focused on the money issue. Your criteria contradict themselves... you will not find what you are looking for this way. You want:mentor wrote:I was discussing with a friend the 'money' matter, and he told me:
" it is not a 'tradition', it is called 'poverty' " !!! And he continued: " They search for a fool, one man to work, and feed all the family back in their country! "
Quite shocking point of view, but I examine everything, as we do not live in a world of angels.
I don't know, maybe it's a good idea to declare somewhere in the profile, something that some filipinas already say in their profiles, 'not ask for money', or something like that.
May be this could discourage filipinas with this topic in mind, as a primary priority.
It is a different topic what I will decide about it later. But just back off the ones who search primarily for sponsors.
-A simple, traditional Filipina = tends to not come from a well-to-do family
-A girl who does not require financial support for her family = a financially independent, middle class girl
-A girl who does not want children = almost always an educated woman, almost always a career woman and not traditional
You can't have your cake and eat it too. Sorry, but this money issue is going to bite you in the a**. You won't find a "simple" Filipina girl who has no career, wants to stay at home and be a housewife, when you refuse to give her parents any support and refuse to give her children. This is why you are failing. You will have to look for the higher income Filipinas, or else you will fail. Mark my words.
I can see too, that there is a conflict in what I seek and what is out there. I cannot say that what you say are not based in the reality.
I have to find a good pathway and set a proper settlement, in order to make a good choice, not the ideal for me, but at least a far better choice from a western counterpart.
Your experience and advice are valuable for me, and I hope that I can position myself in the scene, somewhere in the middle of what I want and what exists.