Come talk to us like this once you get laid. It changes things, period.Tsar wrote:I could be strict and forceful but I don't think I could ever go as far as slapping. I am not a pushover.Jester wrote:Imagine a girl has been raised around thugs. She feels insecure unless she is with someone who can deal with the world forcefully, intimidating others.Tsar wrote:
You mention that Russian and Ukrainian women don't want a man that is "too nice." Can you define how a man can be "too nice?"
If she is physically intimidated, that's romantic to her. She wants to be swept off her feet, literally. It's OK with her if you slap her face, if she earned it. She wants a man with a rock-hard soul.
That and a lot of roses, wining and dining, etc. They do love material things.
If you handle things right, btw, no foreplay is necessary.
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Perhaps JTest or others here with real FSU experience will weigh in with some examples.
I know that if I found my ideal girl I am sure that I could be forceful. I wouldn't be talked into buying things unless I felt it was reasonable or I was giving a surprise gift. I see in many televisions shows how women disrespect their boyfriends and husbands, and I wouldn't ever allow myself to be disrespected. I will tell her that either she respects me or she can leave (and I will make sure I have the power in the relationship).
I have also learned to not fear losing someone. If a girl wants to leave after everything then I would tell her to leave and never think about coming back or getting a second chance. In my opinion a girl would be replaceable and I would try to let her know that. So if she wants to leave she would be losing much more than I would.
I think that by getting a virgin it would create more emotional connections in her mind. Being the only one earning money would make her dependent upon her man's income. Keep her away from opportunities to cheat. Don't pay for her to have a car, one car would be enough for a traditional couple. Accompany her to any appointments. Give her surprise gifts if she deserves them. The man should make her know and learn how she needs him. In the West this would be a "control freak" but i think that a man must control his girlfriend/bride if he wants to keep her. A man that gives his girlfriend or bride too much freedom and letting her disrespect him reduces his power in the relationship. When a man shows his girlfriend/bride that he needs her more than she needs him, he forfeits all power in the relationship and she can do whatever she wants because she knows he needs her (for sex, companionship, or whatever). I have learned that love and a girlfriend/bride is replaceable. The only thing that is special or unique is the memories. There are many other girls I could find that would be acceptable replacements. I want companionship, love, and my ideal bride but at the same time I see it similar to acquiring the most precious object for my happiness. I would do everything to make it work. But if she doesn't appreciate what I do, respect me, and bring me happiness by being affectionate and cheerful then I would call her out on it. Flirting with another guy would be cheating. I would also make sure she doesn't get an iPhone or one of those internet, app phones. I see many girls using those phones and that's all they do. She could have her own computer but I would block sites and have administrator privileges. All dating websites would be blocked and I would have a keystroke monitor as insurance she isn't trying to cheat.
I won't be a mangina or a pushover. I would take power and use power. I would be considered a "control freak" in the Western World but I consider myself as a designer and creating order. I am traditional and will make sure there is control in a relationship. Without control there would be anarchy. I would not have anarchy in a relationship because anarchy can destroy a relationship.
When dealing with other people, I would fight back or be aggressive if it came down to it. I do not seek out confrontations with people but I wouldn't back down from a confrontation. My view is that I will enter into everything with respect, try to resolve most conflicts with diplomacy. When I do not get respect then I don't give respect.
Do I sound like I would be forceful enough?
As far as not allowing her to have an iPhone and blocking her computer, to me, that's too much. If I have to do this, I don't want them. At least with me, the women have always known that catching them doing anything inappropriate means the end. If that doesn't matter, I don't want em anyway! Who needs that?
I definitely agree with you on the flirting though.