The 'you'll find someone' cliche

[mattyman]

A situation that's all too common in the UK and US. Nice girls being so few and far between, difficult to find anyway. The situation of being unable to find a nice, sweet, amicable girl who you'll get on with naturally. When questioning the odds, you've almost certainly been told 'you'll find someone' don't go looking, it'll happen when the time's right, it'll happen when you least expect it'. I'm sure when many of you were dateless and in that boat, these automated lines seriously pissed you off.

Now, due to the fact that nice, sweet, feminine, amicable, cultured, deeper, non-bimbo, non-slutty, quality girls are so few and far between (especially if you don't have the right social networks) then once every few years (or months if you're lucky) you might meet a half-decent girl who's easy to get on with and might actually want to date you. Once every few years!

It's understandable if that has been you, you've probably questioned the odds of finding one like that, and of finding one who'd want to date you. I'm sure many of you have been there.

In a way, due to the atrocious dating scene, and shortage of nice, sweet, quality women, it's of no surprise that so many men end-up settling for someone who's not necessarily the best choice for them, or even clinging-on for dear life to a toxic relationship, out of fear that they won't find anyone, or that there's no better out there. I have reason to believe that this happens more often than not. It's a rather sad state of affairs.

Do you think these types of cliches are most popular in countries/cities with atrocious dating scenes and shortages of quality women?

[??????]

Yes. Most of the people who have made those comments to me already had girlfriends/wives. My brother Rob says these things to me all the time. I love my brother, but he just doesn't have a clue on how few the good women are here in the US due to the feminist influence and how many laws that are on the books designed to screw western men. He has only had one girlfriend/wife his whole life, so that is also a factor.

Dana grew up in a traditional nuclear family on a farm. She was the last of 5 children and it was an unexpected pregnancy when she was born in the late 80's. Their oldest child is almost 50 now, just to give you an idea on how old Rosie and Jerry are. Jerry farmed and did all of chores. Rosie cleaned, cooked, and would help with chores when she wasn't doing any of the house work. Rosie does not believe in feminism and did not transfer those ideals to her children. They didn't have time to get plugged into American TV because they were working on the farm most of the time. Dana's brothers and sisters also have similar traditional families with 2-3 kids. He talks about how I can find the same thing here. I could, but come on!! How common is it to find a woman like that in American society today? Not very common. Rob just doesn't get it.

But all that doesn't bother me. What bothers me is that he thinks the idea of me having to move abroad to find a decent girlfriend is too extreme. And then that's when we argue. The argument starts with dating and then goes way off topic when he starts preaching about how the US is the greatest place on Earth and blah, blah, blah. He and I are just on two completely different wavelengths. He thinks this place is rosy and I think it's not. And that's why I also can't talk to anybody else about it because I just get the same kind of shaming and ridicule. The only place I can talk about it, is here. I just have to keep it to myself in public.

[Temprano26]

+1 for both comments.

I just want to tell people that the America that you grew up in is not the America I grew up in. That is why going abroad is the only option.

[innovatorsclub]

in the box guys who have bombarded girls with online dating... at coffee shops ( now more guys in Starbucks than girls) with tender etc just continue inflating American bitches egos and they are now just too good for 90% they thingk. A 7 thinks she is 9 holding out for a 9.5

Last night in san Francisco I went into a starbucks briefly and talked to two asians and they gave be the bitch attitude and i said both of you aren't even average in Asia where I am practically a rock star..my youtube channel alone proves it..

So done with Americanized bitches who are not as feminine..talking trash being judgemental and trying to be a guy isn't feminin

meanwhile i get lots of girls telling me that "every girl would dream of their guy singing them a love song in front of a large crowd" after i suggest it

no every girl in Asia not the masculine women in America

[Banano]

'Last night in san Francisco I went into a starbucks briefly and talked to two asians and they gave be the bitch attitude and i said both of you aren't even average in Asia where I am practically a rock star..my youtube channel alone proves it.."

True but you have to rmbr that in SF they can date much higher quality men than yourself, lets face it, in Thailand you are up against piss weak competition, place where average white man act like he is 8 or 9.

[manly5000]

When I sit back and think about how things will be in a few short months... when I head south of the border... when I immerse myself into Latin America and become part of the culture...

...I realize how little any of this bullshit means.

Find your place in this world.

Find your heart.

And to hell with Western culture and all things that make it suck. Leave the West and you WILL find someone. And she will be both everything you ever wanted, and everything you never KNEW you wanted, in one amazing package.

/cliche

[Hero]

Rob just doesn't get it.

But all that doesn't bother me. What bothers me is that he thinks the idea of me having to move abroad to find a decent girlfriend is too extreme. And then that's when we argue. The argument starts with dating and then goes way off topic when he starts preaching about how the US is the greatest place on Earth and blah, blah, blah.

I've had the same argument with my mom, a woman who hasn't even dated in 53 years! She thinks it's still 1960 and has no clue how much the world has changed since then.

[innovatorsclub]

'Last night in san Francisco I went into a starbucks briefly and talked to two asians and they gave be the bitch attitude and i said both of you aren't even average in Asia where I am practically a rock star..my youtube channel alone proves it.."

True but you have to rmbr that in SF they can date much higher quality men than yourself, lets face it, in Thailand you are up against piss weak competition, place where average white man act like he is 8 or 9.

Insecure jealous posters like you bring this message board down.
One reason I won't provide the link to my youtube channel with 52 likes and no dislikes is because you would be the first to click dislike
I can't remember a singer with a song on youtube with no dislikes chump

I also have green eyes black eyebroows and still get many compliments..on my eyes and my muscles ..Lets see if you can show even half the amount of compliments I get every week...I would bet against it but keep dreaming jealous clown

[Banano]

'Last night in san Francisco I went into a starbucks briefly and talked to two asians and they gave be the bitch attitude and i said both of you aren't even average in Asia where I am practically a rock star..my youtube channel alone proves it.."

True but you have to rmbr that in SF they can date much higher quality men than yourself, lets face it, in Thailand you are up against piss weak competition, place where average white man act like he is 8 or 9.

Insecure jealous posters like you bring this message board down.
One reason I won't provide the link to my youtube channel with 52 likes and no dislikes is because you would be the first to click dislike
I can't remember a singer with a song on youtube with no dislikes chump

I also have green eyes black eyebroows and still get many compliments..on my eyes and my muscles ..Lets see if you can show even half the amount of compliments I get every week...I would bet against it but keep dreaming jealous clown

innovatorsclub,

Are you on some sort of medication? I pointed out some facts and realities and you are reacting like total AFC:)

BTW, send us link to your u-tube channel, I promise I will like it unless its complete garbage

[innovatorsclub]

you along with Insecure in bangkok and especially the repatriate turd were heckling my success in Thailand several months ago. I will get the same success in at least a few other Asian countries and no it wasn't luck and yes it was the real deal..

guess what women still are turned on by amazing singers like me

[C.J.]

You know, I was told that as well, "You'll find the right person for you" and whatnot. And I didn't believe them at all... until just a couple months after that, I found a beautiful angel at a party I attended.

Straight, brown hair down to her lower back... a thin, perfectly round face and a fantastic blue dress covered with red, blue and green roses, which only accented her average/very slightly chubby, but somehow very appealing 5'4" body with an average white complexion.

We exchanged glances often, eventually introduced ourselves and she asked me to dance with her. We clicked immediately, and got along very well. She wasn't foreign, just an average white girl. There was a catch - her personality quirks were, um... a bit twisted. Not prison material, but she'd definitely elicit a couple WTFs. However, she was also a kind, compassionate person who practiced great hygiene(who do you know, that wears not only right type of fragrance, BUT THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF IT!? lol) and we shared many similar interests, as well as a mutual desire to get it on. I got bitch-smacked by Cupid!

Nothing went wrong at all that night - it was perfect. Thanks to the dumbest mistake ever on my part(I never expected to meet anyone who would be romantically interested in me), I may never find her, or anyone even similar, ever again. I suppose God has a different destiny in mind. :/

If I could have her, I would never want a MILF, a stripper, an escort or a sow with fleas from the 3rd world. Just HER.

That's why after dealing with stupid Asians, I decided that there has to be something else out there, something better. I mean, there's dirty, English-speaking sows for dirty westerners to bang all over the world, there's gotta be at least ONE decent English-speaking woman with the right look somehwere out there, that I can have! One cannot honestly write off over 4 billion people when all you need is one.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

When questioning the odds, you've almost certainly been told 'you'll find someone' don't go looking, it'll happen when the time's right, it'll happen when you least expect it'.

I have found that usually women (not too bright ones) and wimpy men (not too bright ones) use that line of reasoning.

A MAN never has life just happen to him by chance meetings when the time is right. MEN actively hunt opportunities and take things into their own hands. It is the feminized man who pines for the woman of his dreams to stumble across him while he's leaning against some wall somewhere.

[Temprano26]

Actually Contrarian Expatriate, when I went to Costa Rica women would approach me when I least expected it but that is because I took the initiative to go to another country.

If I had stayed in the US waiting for a woman to talk to me I would have quite a long wait.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

Actually Contrarian Expatriate, when I went to Costa Rica women would approach me when I least expected it but that is because I took the initiative to go to another country.

If I had stayed in the US waiting for a woman to talk to me I would have quite a long wait.

As do I have women approach me. The point I was making is that waiting to be CHOSEN by women is a weakness in a man who should be actively doing the CHOOSING of his women. Granted, it is nice to be chosen by women, but that modus operandi rarely yields you the women that you really want.

[ChampionKaji]

That's bullshit. If you have good genes, you'll find a whole lot of people, but if you have shit genes, you're probably going to be incel for life.