I'm not sure which girls you're meeting but I'm post 80's myself and I've gone out with both post 80's and 90's girls over here and I would say the vast majority of them can cook. The exception would probably be native Shanghainese girls but that's no surprise.
Also I see many Chinese girls here who typically just buy local brand clothing or even clothing without brands, often even at stores you can bargain prices at. Only a minority go exclusively for international brands and even then it's the lower end mass market types like Zara, Uniqlo or H&M. Compare that with their counterparts in developed Asian countries for instance where many women are obsessed with luxury brands like Prada, Gucci, Hermes, Louis Vutton etc. and would never be seen outdoors wearing clothes that are not at least of an international brand. In Singapore for instance, the minimum quality of handbag that every girl expects to be seen out with is a Louis Vutton bag which typically costs at least 1500 USD or so - just for a handbag. In China, most girls don't give a dam. Try living in Singapore for a while and you will understand how bad Asian materialism can really get. Chinese levels are benign.
I'm guessing you've spent lots of time at Chinese cybercafes (网吧) where there are lots of game addicts who practically live there, but then again these guys are a sub-segment of society. If young mainland Chinese guys on the whole were as lazy as you claim, I doubt the Chinese economy would have grown as quickly as it has over the last 5 years. While it may no longer be achieving 10% annual growth rates, that's only natural because it's starting from a much higher base, but in absolute terms it is still growing as much as before.
Mind you us happierabroaders might not want it to grow that quickly as we all know what tends to happen to first world countries.
Come on married life is tough and it's difficult (some may even say unnatural) for you to spend the rest of your life seeing the same person everyday. When married men and women get a chance to get together with their friends for drinks it's common to have a good whine together about married life and focus on the negatives over drinks. The positives are often not talked about, because the positives are often taken for granted and don't make good conversational topics.
The_Adventurer wrote:What was it 5 years ago? And 5 years before that? You can't tell me the post 90's kids aren't f***ed. Girls can't cook worth a damn, don't know what a broom is, expect a man to do everything for them. They are spoiled and materialistic to a T. I think the comparison with American women was quite fair.ethan_sg wrote:the divorce rate in America is 53% while in quite a few Western European countries, it is over 60%. It is only about 20% in China. There is no comparison.
The guys are spoiled and lazy and have no work ethic. If you're not constantly standing over their shoulder, they'll be playing video games.
Post 80's are almost as bad.
EVERYTHING that I left American to get away from is easily found or fastly creeping in here. The one difference is the girls are more femenine, but there are cultural differences that bring about other evils to compensate for that.
Winston talked about insults. I see this everywhere. They all do that because their mothers did it to them. Their teachers do that. It is some kindnof weird, reverse psychology thing that is supposed to instill in the recipient a, "Oh yeah?! I'll show you!" attitude and make them work harder to give the other person what they want. If not that, it's the comparison. "Why can't you be like so and so...?" "He got his wife an iPhone" "He got straight A's" Yes. They do it to their kids too. I see this everyday. Everywhere.
I sit around at the bar with my married colleagues. It doesn't matter where they are from, Shanghai, Beijing, Henan, Guizhou... The stories about wives are all the same. The "appearance" of sweetness ENDS when they got you!
The guy in here with the Indonesian wife said they describe Chinese women as "cerewet". i see it everywhere. This is a CULTURAL thing. It is not a good or bad thing. Most Chinese guys are used to it and pay it no mind. I'm pretty adaptable as a foreigner and, though it can be grating, I can deal. I can assure you, Winston, that you are not ready. Falcon and your dad know you better than I, but I have read most of your work. I believe you should listen to them.
