Falcon wrote:What's even more puzzling is to be so selfish solely in order to jump back into the repressive culture that you fought so hard to escape from. Ultimately most Chinese women will want you to be a boring conformist chump who isn't even allowed to think outside the box, while Filipinas tend to be much more laid-back about that kind of stuff.
Soft, delicate skin? Sophisticated? Refined? Come on now, let's be practical, and not continue to dream in Fantasyland.
I haven't been here in months as I've been in the U.S. but in catching up, I find that things haven't changed here much. In fact Winston seems to be worse than ever before. Now he's claiming that the Chinese are superior to Filipinos because of genetics??? And as usual, Winston is complaining about Dianne again, this time because she doesn't contribute a single peso to the costs of raising his son. And of course, he has to disparage Filipino society at the same time because he's lived in Angeles City for a few years so he's an expert in how Filipinos think and behave.
Winston wrote:I hate how dianne cant contribute any money at all, not even one peso of her own money to anything. She has to depend on me to pay 100 percent of everything. Its ridiculous and extreme.
Rock wrote:Out of the blue, I got a call today from Dianne. She told me she does contribute financially sometimes and is earning some money now. She has a small business where she buys ingredients at the market then sells sandwiches, puddings, etc. She can net as much as P500 a day from this.
Someone is lying here. I would tend to believe Dianne more than Winston.
Why can't anyone here just state the obvious truth here and be intellectually honest. Winston is a racist. Pure and simple. He indicts himself through his own words:
Winston wrote:I'm just stating the truth and my honest observations. Filipinas are less intelligent and have lower quality skin and genetics than Chinese. Everyone in Asia knows this.
To be more precise, I think he is a scientific racist. A person who uses scientific techniques and hypotheses to support or justify the belief in racism, racial inferiority or racial superiority. And by proclaiming that he wants to marry only a Chinese woman now, I think Winston believes in eugenics, the application of Darwinism to society. I guess he doesn't want to pollute the Chinese bloodlines anymore, even though he's already done that by having a child with a Filipina. Hence his quixotic quest to find a Chinese woman who will fall in love with him and marry him.
I respect Winston for starting this forum to help men who feel lost and unloved in Westernized societies. But based on what I know of him now, I have no respect for him as a man or as a human being.
Besides being racist, look at what he's written in this forum and see how often he denigrates Dianne, the mother of his son. Look at how he insults Filipinos and in essence, his own son. As Yohan said, what Winston said about his own son is disgusting. It's repulsive, repugnant and unforgiveable. Published words from Winston that will haunt him for the rest of his life. It wasn't always this way. Read threads from the beginning about how it was when he first got to the Philippines. Now read what he says about Filipinos. Hypocrite? What better example of one than Winston?
Look at his own words where he admits that he didn't want a child but "nature hardwires you to want them." What kind of stupidity is that??? He had no free will and was compelled to ask Dianne to bear him a child? He had no choice? What kind of a "man" is he that he couldn't control his own sperm? Total nonsense!!! Winston took advantage of a young, naive and ultimately foolish teen who believed him when he said he loved her. And he had to have a child with her.
Winston destroyed her life, leaving her with the responsibility of raising his son by herself while he goes around China, looking for the next fool to fall for his lies. Dianne has to constantly beg Winston to send her money because he's not always on time with his support. If he wanted to, Winston could easily set it up so it would be a non issue. Rock told him exactly how to do this and he's right. I know because I've set up my own account in BDO and it's not that difficult to do. But Winston said he already has a BDO account so what's the problem??? The honest truth is that Winston really doesn't want to part with his money. Winston is always and forever, trying to justify his own actions, forsake his responsibilities by blaming anyone, anything, other than himself. But he always tries to hide this by stating how he tried but somehow it couldn't get done. Excuses, excuses, excuses ....
Falcon, you're wasting your breath if you think your words, my words or anyone's words has any effect on Winston. He doesn't care. He's a free thinker, remember? All he cares about is me, me, me. He's one of the most selfish, narcissistic and arrogant people I've ever come across. Forever complaining, whining about all the bad things that happen to him in his life, never taking responsibilities for his own actions. How he's always right and everyone else is wrong. And if he disagrees with you, he'll try to insult you, disparage you in profanity laced diatribes. Winston will never change and I believe he's a lost cause, doomed to wander the Earth in search of true love and happiness but never, ever finding it. Even if he finds a Chinese woman foolish enough to marry him, I believe that in the end, Winston will regret it immensely. But this time by marrying a Chinese woman, he won't be able to escape and he will live out the rest of his life in absolute misery. But hey, that's what he deserves.
Winston wrote:
Ive been visiting the big Buddhist monastery on the mountain the last few days and cleansing my karma in prayer and chanting.
Rock wrote:
Now you've just been to the Tibetan monastery to correct your bad Karma. But perhaps there is a critical follow-up exercise if you really want to get Mr. Murphy mostly out of your life. Step-up a bit more, appreciate what you have, and do much better as a dad to Angelo and friend/co-parent to Dianne. It's very likely that you will not have another child so Angelo is it and Dianne is your baby momma. Chinese girls by and large are not foolish enough to have a child with the likes of you given your character, track record, and age.
I actually laughed out loud when I read that Winston was going to a Buddhist monastery and trying to cleanse his karma by praying and chanting. Are you kidding me ???? Does Winston really believe that by simply going to a monastery and chanting a few prayers (and maybe throwing in a few Hail Marys too
) that his bad karma will suddenly change for the better? That's not going to happen, believe me! A few prayers and chants will not change a lifetime of negative actions by Winston.
I'm no expert in Buddhism but I believe in some of its core tenets. Buddhism is a philosophy of total personal responsibility. Buddhists believe that you have the ability to control your own destiny, including the state of your mind and body, through your own action or karma. Karma is the creator of all happiness and suffering. All of our actions lay down imprints on our mind stream, which have the potential to ripen at some time in the future. These actions can be positive, negative or neutral. These karmic seeds are never lost. The negative ones can ripen at any time in the form of problems or sickness; the positive ones in the form of happiness, health or success.
According to Buddhism, the basic root of a person's problems is selfishness, what they call "the inner enemy". Selfishness causes us to engage in negative actions, which place negative imprints on the mind stream. These negative actions can be of body, speech or mind, such as thoughts of jealousy, anger and greed.
Selfish thoughts also increase pride, which results in feelings of jealousy towards those higher than us, superiority towards those lower than us and competitiveness towards equals. These feelings in turn result in an unhappy mind, a mind that is without peace. On the other hand, thoughts and actions directed to the well-being of others bring happiness and peace to the mind.
What Rock recommended to Winston is a good start towards cleansing his karma, but based on what I've read on this forum, I think Winston needs to do much, much more if he wants to change his karma towards positive. How much more? I don't know. But it seems clear to me that Winston has a lot of negative karma to overcome. Simply praying and chanting isn't going to change anything.
Rock wrote:Dianne is there for you, to give you her time and and even body whenever you want it and raise your child while you are away.
NO, NO, NO, NO!!!!!!!!! Please tell me Dianne, that this is not true! Don't be stupid enough to ever give your body to Winston again. After all that he's done to you already??
Dianne, if you are reading this, here's my advice to you. Forget about Winston and give up any foolish thoughts that he might someday come back to you. He won't, and even if he does, he doesn't deserve you and he is not the type of man you want as a role model for your son, Angelo. You made a terrible, terrible mistake once by believing Winston when he told you that he loved you and he wanted to have a child with you. Don't compound your mistake and make it worse by waiting hopelessly for him.
Meet or talk with Winston once and for all and set up a monthly, regular payment schedule. Winston said in a previous thread that he already has a BDO account. If you already have one too, then it shouldn't be difficult for him to send you money. It can all be done online. If Winston was smart, he would park at least a year's worth of money in his BDO account and then he could transfer money to you every month without having to pay exorbitant bank fees.
Then find a good man who will accept you for who you are and will accept that you have a son with another man. I know that sounds like an impossible task but it's not! Yes, most men will not be looking to marry a single woman who has a child already but not all men. There are men out there who will marry you, but you may have to expand your criteria in terms of acceptable men. For example, there is a large population of divorced fathers in the world and some of them may be suitable for you. But you'll never find out, if you sit around and do nothing. Forget about Winston! He's just the biological father. Find yourself a real man who will be good to you and your son. If not for your own sake, then for Angelo's sake. Angelo is truly the only innocent victim here so it's up to you to find a father who will be worthy of him. It's not too late for you!
How do I know this? From my own personal experiences. I am a Chinese American and I was married for years to a Chinese woman before and the best thing that I got out of the marriage were my two boys. But I believe that because my good karma outweighed my bad karma, I was able to find love again and I am happily married now to a Filipina. A good woman who doesn't care about my past and loves and accepts me and my boys in spite of all of my past mistakes.
Things can change for the better Dianne. You seem like a good, responsible mother who loves her son dearly and there are men in the world who will appreciate and love a woman like yourself. But you have to take a chance on life again and put yourself out there so that a good man will find you. All you need to find is one good man. Forget all of the naysayers who think negatively and say it can't be done. They're wrong. You control your own karma. Anything is possible if you try!