drealm wrote:
djfourmoney, I don't care about white women in the US. My experience in this post with was with non-feminist foreign white women. I very aggressively approached white women abroad and my response rate was less than 1%. The number of approaches is large enough to confirm I'm not their type.
drealm wrote:
I know I'm ugly because unlike everyone else on this forum I have the statistical data to back it up (which I won't share). I'm not fat, so that's not my problem. I don't care know what my specific problem is. But I know it's permanent. Going to a gym isn't going to change my genetics or bone structure or facial proportions or whatever it is that women disqualify me by.
Stop the pity party right now. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I very much doubt you are uglier than the average bear. Believe me, I know some really unattractive dudes with some above average looking women. This stuff is mainly in your head.
The real problem is you do not know how attraction works. You can not just randomly hit on 1000 women and expect to get a woman 100 times. Life does not work this way for most men. For some men that can work, but not for most men. And if you try it, you better have a mind made of steel, because if you fail in the mass approach method, it will devastate your self esteem.
Does that sound like what has happened here?
Here's why you didnt succeed. It is because the women must decide first. You have to wait for a woman to send you signals to approach her (or you can tell her to come over to you). Most women will not accept a guy who just randomly hits on them, regardless of whether he is attractive or not. Their choice is removed in the matter and surprise is introduced. You must understand that the woman must first have her buzzers going off in her head before you bother with her. If you just randomly approach a woman, she hasnt had a chance to press the buzzers in her mind so that she can experience the feelings she needs to feel about you first. And if you are going hard and fast, enough time may not transpire for her to generate interest.
To get a random woman for the average man would take an extremely high level of skill, which would probably take years to master. You would have to know exactly what to say, when to say it, how to gauge women's responses, etc. You'd have to turn yourself into a real female guru, by spending countless hours trying to master this skill. This is what you set yourself up against. Just trying to hit on 1,000 chicks at random isnt going to get you a yes. It will just get you a major blot to your self esteem, damage your view of women, and cause you to make radical decisions afterward out of unnecessary feelings of rejection.
As for women sending signals, expect to wait a while, but if you went out fairly often and didnt put pressure on yourself, probably within two weeks at least one woman in public will make eye contact with you and let you know. The key here is patience in waiting for a woman to send you the signal. You don't get to choose the woman. The right woman will choose you. Then it is your choice whether you like her enough to proceed from there.
Men and women both have to make some compromises even if they don't like it. Women have to depend on the man being willing to approach. They can not approach every man they want. Cultural norms state that women must not do that. That is a compromise for them. Men must wait until women send the signals first. So men only get to choose from those women who would choose him. Luckily there should be variety contained therein.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.