I thought of a good reason why we are not losers for dating abroad. It's very simple.
1. Attraction is not a choice. You cannot make an American woman love you. It's not your choice. You cannot really influence her attraction to you, despite what PUA's say.
2. Nor can an American woman force herself to love you if she doesn't.
3. Whether or not an American woman likes you is dependent on HER tastes, preferences, feelings, emotions and other intangible factors. Not on what you do or choose. She looks at your whole package, not just your looks or personality, but the totality of who you are, and decides how SHE feels about you in accord with her feelings, tastes, preferences, emotions, etc. It's very intangible, personable, and subjective. Not something you can control or choose or influence generally. Nor can she control it. Think about it, do you choose what YOU are attracted to? Of course not.
Therefore, it cannot be not your fault or your choice if a woman you like doesn't love you in America. Because it's out of your control. Hence you cannot technically be at fault for something you cannot control. You cannot be a loser if you never had any choice or control over the matter. To be a loser, you have to be in the game to begin with. If you are not, then you cannot technically be a loser. For example, I cannot lose in chess if I am not even able to play a game. Simple logic. And if you find that you can find love or dates overseas, then that is the route that the universe wants for you obviously, so you are just following destiny and going with the flow. That has nothing to do with being a loser. Because everyone's path and destiny are different. Only narrow minded people think that everyone's path should be the same.
That's a very good logical reason why we are not losers, besides the reasons Ladislav and I gave here:
http://www.happierabroad.com/alternative.php
http://www.happierabroad.com/motivation.php
What's a pity is that in the 80's girls would flirt with me and approach me in school. But I was always too shy to do anything about it. Plus I always assumed that I had my whole adult life to date girls in the future, so there was no rush. I had no idea that after high school, there would be no opportunities really, not even in college, because by the 1990's Americans no longer were social and everyone stuck in their own bubble and were socially disconnected. Also, all the movies and TV shows of the time made it look like getting dates as an adult in America was super easy and natural, so I never imagined it'd be that hard or impossible after school. No one ever told me that of course. So it came as a total surprise. I never knew the dating opportunities in America were all in school only, and that afterward, there'd be no more dating opportunities because in the adult world no one talks to strangers unless it's business related. Very sad, and unforeseen too.