Some deep questions I have about life.
Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does every choice seem to lead to suffering? It's like when you make a choice, you find yourself wishing that you had made the other choice!
For example, if you are single, you will long for the love, companionship and stability of marriage and committed relationships. You will often feel lonely, like no one really cares about you or is there for you.
But if you are married, then you long for the freedom of being single and feel like a caged bird with obligations and responsibilities, unfree to meet other exciting women and develop new connections, or pursue your passions.
If you are a perpetual traveler wandering around the world, after a while you may long for the stability of a home, family, routine, stable friends, etc. But if you have a normal stable routine life, then you may long for adventure, new experiences, freedom, seeing new lands, etc.
If you have a blonde girlfriend, after a while, you lust for brunettes, and vice versa. If you have an Asian wife, you may begin fantasizing about having a white wife after a while, and vice versa if you have a white wife.
Or, take these simpler examples:
If you stay home too long, you will feel bored, like you need to get out and have some fresh air and move around. But if you are out for a while (esp if you are an introvert), you will feel tired and miss the comfort of a cozy home. Isn't that weird?
If you stop eating junk food, you will crave it after a while and miss the flavor. But if you stuff yourself with junk food, then you will feel guilty and wish you hadn't. At that point, you will realize that staying healthy and not eating it would have been better. But if you hadn't eaten it, then you would have felt the craving for it! So either way, you lose and suffer!
It seems that whatever choice you make leads to suffering. Why is that? Is the universe playing some cruel trick on us? Are we meant to suffer and crave and feel dissatisfied?
Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does the grass on the other side always appear to be more desirable? Why do we always regret the choice we didn't make?
Is this what Buddha meant when he said that "the nature of life is suffering?"
Why is the grass always greener on the other side?
Why is the grass always greener on the other side?
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"because the mind is an exquisite torture machine by utilising duality.
This is why the grass is always greener on the otherside, because you never want what you have, (that would be gratitude) which would put you in a neutral nondual state of mind where there is no suffering."
"because the mind is an exquisite torture machine by utilising duality.
This is why the grass is always greener on the otherside, because you never want what you have, (that would be gratitude) which would put you in a neutral nondual state of mind where there is no suffering."
Check out my FUN video clips in Russia and SE Asia and Female Encounters of the Foreign Kind video series and Full Russia Trip Videos!
Join my Dating Site to meet thousands of legit foreign girls at low cost!
"It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne
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"It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne
Winston, you might find these pages interesting:
http://luminousemptiness.blogspot.hu/20 ... ering.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dukkha
http://luminousemptiness.blogspot.hu/20 ... ering.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dukkha
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Re: Why is the grass always greener on the other side?
Winston wrote: Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does every choice seem to lead to suffering? It's like when you make a choice, you find yourself wishing that you had made the other choice!
For example, if you are single, you will long for the love, companionship and stability of marriage and committed relationships. You will often feel lonely, like no one really cares about you or is there for you.
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If you stop eating junk food, you will crave it after a while and miss the flavor. But if you stuff yourself with junk food, then you will feel guilty and wish you hadn't. At that point, you will realize that staying healthy and not eating it would have been better. But if you hadn't eaten it, then you would have felt the craving for it! So either way, you lose and suffer!
It seems that whatever choice you make leads to suffering. Why is that? Is the universe playing some cruel trick on us? Are we meant to suffer and crave and feel dissatisfied?
Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does the grass on the other side always appear to be more desirable? Why do we always regret the choice we didn't make?
1. If you think the grass is greener on the other side of the river, then cross the river and go look for yourself.
2. You can have a stable, long-term relationship with someone without getting married or having children. Marriage has meaning to those with religious, cultural, or personal believes, such as the Sacrament of Marriage. A marriage is a lifelong union where you need to think more in terms of "we" as in you and your spouse, and less of "I". Culturally, many desire a family and will not have children out of wedlock. If you're incapable or unwilling to think more in terms of "we" with your spouse, then you're probably not suitable for marriage.
3. If you have impaired control over your junk food (or any other foods) consumption despite the consequences, seeking immediate gratification coupled with delayed deleterious effects (long-term costs), physiological dependence on the junk food (or another food) with withdraw symptoms (mental/emotional/physical), those are all signs of addiction and has nothing to do with grass being greener on other side.
4. If I buy an investment house or stocks today, I'm 99% certain that there are better investment homes and stocks elsewhere. Successful investors don't spend all their time chasing the better investment. They define their investment goals and find a good investment that fits their goals and objectives. For example, if I set the goal at $500 positive cash flow per month with $30,000 down payment, I'd go find SFR's that sells for $90k-$120k that can be purchased for 25% down and rented for $1200+/month. When I find one in a desirable area (good school district, walking distance to shopping center and parks) that doesn't require too much repair costs, I'd instruct my agent to go put a bid in. I would not sit on my ass and spend the next 6 months looking for something better, or cry and moan if I see a better one on the market after I buy this one. However, at the same time, I would not settle for less than my per-defined goal, and I don't mind spending the next 6 months looking for an investment that fits what I want.
5. There's an old geek joke about decision making process, where you make the best decisions based on the best data available within the time parameters allowed. B.A.D. = "Best Available Data". Decisions made with B.A.D. doesn't mean the results will always be the best, sometimes it can even lead to a BAD result. But the BAD result doesn't mean the B.A.D. decision making process itself is BAD, so long as you can say that, given the same scenario with the same data and parameters, you'd make the same decision again. Doctors working in emergency rooms make life or death decisions based on B.A.D. every day, and sometimes a patient will die from those decisions. But that doesn't mean the doctor should stop and call for a 2 day meeting to discuss a better course of action, while your patients are bleeding to death (time parameters).
Do doctors feel bad when patients die under their care? Yes, they offer their condolences and move on. It's not their job to stand around and regret the decisions that they made in the past. Their job is to save the lives of new patients being rolled into the emergency room right now. So, ask yourself how you want to live your life. Do you want to stand around and regret the past, or live for today and the future?
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Re: Why is the grass always greener on the other side?
Winston wrote:Some deep questions I have about life.
Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does every choice seem to lead to suffering? It's like when you make a choice, you find yourself wishing that you had made the other choice!
For example, if you are single, you will long for the love, companionship and stability of marriage and committed relationships. You will often feel lonely, like no one really cares about you or is there for you.
But if you are married, then you long for the freedom of being single and feel like a caged bird with obligations and responsibilities, unfree to meet other exciting women and develop new connections, or pursue your passions.
If you are a perpetual traveler wandering around the world, after a while you may long for the stability of a home, family, routine, stable friends, etc. But if you have a normal stable routine life, then you may long for adventure, new experiences, freedom, seeing new lands, etc.
If you have a blonde girlfriend, after a while, you lust for brunettes, and vice versa. If you have an Asian wife, you may begin fantasizing about having a white wife after a while, and vice versa if you have a white wife.
Or, take these simpler examples:
If you stay home too long, you will feel bored, like you need to get out and have some fresh air and move around. But if you are out for a while (esp if you are an introvert), you will feel tired and miss the comfort of a cozy home. Isn't that weird?
If you stop eating junk food, you will crave it after a while and miss the flavor. But if you stuff yourself with junk food, then you will feel guilty and wish you hadn't. At that point, you will realize that staying healthy and not eating it would have been better. But if you hadn't eaten it, then you would have felt the craving for it! So either way, you lose and suffer!
It seems that whatever choice you make leads to suffering. Why is that? Is the universe playing some cruel trick on us? Are we meant to suffer and crave and feel dissatisfied?
Why is the grass always greener on the other side? Why does the grass on the other side always appear to be more desirable? Why do we always regret the choice we didn't make?
Is this what Buddha meant when he said that "the nature of life is suffering?"
Everyone's biological program is the following:
1. The need to avoid pain.
2. The desire to gain pleasure.
The meaning of our life is made up of the following three things:
1. To Learn
2. To Love
3. To Do
If you have pleasure with your current situation then you wouldn't continue to learn, and to do.
Life is about a constant struggle, like "chasing the wind", you are chasing after something with which you will never catch, but the pleasure comes from the experience and the challenge along the way.
The pleasure comes from the struggle, not from the outcome. You will never reach a place or a point in your life where it will be "enough", there will always be another mountain to climb, another challenge to overcome, another carrot that you want to get....
Perhaps humans are fundamentally religious; our correct function is to utilize our minds to seek reconnection with our true nature as immortal, spiritual beings. However, because the modern world is filled with such a diverse range of material distractions, humans have inadvertently replaced religious curiosity with material curiosity, the latter of which can never meet the standards we mentally set to it as we are mistaking it with the divine.
Also, why does Murphy's Law seem to control the universe? It seems like the universe is always against you, giving you the opposite of what you want.
For example:
- What you want the most is always the hardest to get, and what you want the least is the easiest to get.
- By the time someone becomes financially independent, they will have lost their youth, be over the hill and less attractive, so that they can't enjoy their freedom as much as if they were young.
- By the time you finally get what you want, it's already too late. Or you don't get what you want until it's too late.
- Great jobs that involve travel usually go to men with families, rather than to men who are free and single.
- Desirable women don't want you unless you are already taken or attached. You are more likely to meet your soulmate when you are already married than when you are single.
- Opportunities to meet girls you like don't come unless you are already taken. When you are single and alone, they don't come.
(In Angeles City, the hottest girls only came out or sat in my jeepney if I was with my girlfriend, who got pissed every time I looked at another girl. But if I was alone, they didn't come out. This happened every time!)
- You always find something the last place you look. If you look for something and it can be in five possible places, you always find it in the 5th place rather than the first through fourth.
- When I am at an intersection and don't know which way to turn, and take a random guess, 90 percent of the time I make the wrong turn. How can a 50/50 chance go wrong 90 percent of the time?!
- Why do interruptions come at the worst times?
- Why do important calls come when you are not available to answer the phone or when you step out for a minute?
- Why does traffic increase when you are late? Why do other cars in front of you move slower when you are late?
Have any of you noticed this? Why is the universe always against us? Why does Murphy's Law rule the universe rather than some fair and just God? Is the universe some kind of a trickster?
For example:
- What you want the most is always the hardest to get, and what you want the least is the easiest to get.
- By the time someone becomes financially independent, they will have lost their youth, be over the hill and less attractive, so that they can't enjoy their freedom as much as if they were young.
- By the time you finally get what you want, it's already too late. Or you don't get what you want until it's too late.
- Great jobs that involve travel usually go to men with families, rather than to men who are free and single.
- Desirable women don't want you unless you are already taken or attached. You are more likely to meet your soulmate when you are already married than when you are single.
- Opportunities to meet girls you like don't come unless you are already taken. When you are single and alone, they don't come.
(In Angeles City, the hottest girls only came out or sat in my jeepney if I was with my girlfriend, who got pissed every time I looked at another girl. But if I was alone, they didn't come out. This happened every time!)
- You always find something the last place you look. If you look for something and it can be in five possible places, you always find it in the 5th place rather than the first through fourth.
- When I am at an intersection and don't know which way to turn, and take a random guess, 90 percent of the time I make the wrong turn. How can a 50/50 chance go wrong 90 percent of the time?!
- Why do interruptions come at the worst times?
- Why do important calls come when you are not available to answer the phone or when you step out for a minute?
- Why does traffic increase when you are late? Why do other cars in front of you move slower when you are late?
Have any of you noticed this? Why is the universe always against us? Why does Murphy's Law rule the universe rather than some fair and just God? Is the universe some kind of a trickster?
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Wonderful song and lyrics.
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"It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne
What do you think of this? Isn't it so true? No wonder why older people tend to be better and more attuned with having deep conversations than young people are.
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"As you get older, you learn to appreciate life a bit more.
As you experience a wider range of what life has to offer, you start to find your niche. You can only do that with experience.
When we are young there is a tendency to form idealistic notions of things we think we want. Relationships become a search for the perfect partner. We look for dream jobs or set ourselves ambitious goals to achieve before we get too old.
Once you have done a lot of those things they often lose their sparkle. That's when you are able to view your own existence from a distance and ask yourself What do I really want out of life? Suddenly you find you don't actually need that much in order to be happy.
For that reason - The older I get, the more I enjoy life.
Don't worry. It gets better."
Check out my FUN video clips in Russia and SE Asia and Female Encounters of the Foreign Kind video series and Full Russia Trip Videos!
Join my Dating Site to meet thousands of legit foreign girls at low cost!
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Winston wrote: - What you want the most is always the hardest to get, and what you want the least is the easiest to get.
- By the time someone becomes financially independent, they will have lost their youth, be over the hill and less attractive, so that they can't enjoy their freedom as much as if they were young.
- Great jobs that involve travel usually go to men with families, rather than to men who are free and single.
- When I am at an intersection and don't know which way to turn, and take a random guess, 90 percent of the time I make the wrong turn. How can a 50/50 chance go wrong 90 percent of the time?!
- Why does traffic increase when you are late? Why do other cars in front of you move slower when you are late?
1. See: Supply and Demand model of price determination.
2. For women, yes. For men, not necessarily. A women who spends 12 years to become financially well off will never recover her lost sexual market value and cannot date young men easily. A 35 year old man who is financially well off is still a good catch and can date young women.
3. Why do you think "great jobs that involve travel usually go to men with families rather than men who are single"?
4. Look at the sun and time of the day to determine your direction. Or buy a GPS.
5. Check traffic online or get a GPS with live traffic feed and traffic avoidance feature.
Trying to anthropomorphize a hurricane won't help you understand it any better, so why do some people think that anthropomorphizing the entirety of the universe is going to help them understand it?Winston wrote: Have any of you noticed this? Why is the universe always against us? Why does Murphy's Law rule the universe rather than some fair and just God? Is the universe some kind of a trickster?
You are not an independent unit which is completely separated from the universe. Everything is interdependent. Even if you're a hermit in a cave, the weather and small insects can still affect you. And even if outer things no longer affect you, your thoughts, many of which are a result of your interaction with the environment in the past, still affect you.
You also don't have some "fixed" destiny: You can make at least small changes to your life by doing different actions at any moment. But habits are hard to break, so most people stay stuck in the same mental and physical habits. And mental habits also influence how you see the world and what types of labels you are always trying to attach to things.
Some enlightening responses I received from the David Icke forum:
http://www.davidicke.com/forum/showthread.php?t=217957
As you get older, you learn to appreciate life a bit more.
As you experience a wider range of what life has to offer, you start to find your niche. You can only do that with experience.
When we are young there is a tendency to form idealistic notions of things we think we want. Relationships become a search for the perfect partner. We look for dream jobs or set ourselves ambitious goals to achieve before we get too old.
Once you have done a lot of those things they often lose their sparkle. That's when you are able to view your own existence from a distance and ask yourself What do I really want out of life? Suddenly you find you don't actually need that much in order to be happy.
For that reason - The older I get, the more I enjoy life.
Don't worry. It gets better.
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I'll do my best to recall some of Steve Hagen's teaching on the Twelvefold Chain. To pick up one link, is to pick up the whole chain.
Bondage is...to conceive a world of mind objects, external to the body and mind, as being taken in through the senses.
Liberation is...to SEE sensation as a function of mind alone - that the objects of Mind are never external to Mind, but are always Mind itself.
Bondage is...to react emotionally to the objects of mind, while remaining isolated from them.
Liberation is...not being swept away by emotion. Since nothing is perceived as external to Mind, feeling is ever intimate.
Bondage is...to experience wanting and craving, since mind objects are conceived as being apart from "me", the subject.
Liberation is...not to want. Since nothing is perceived as being "out there", there's no sense that anything is lacking.
Bondage is...to grasp at what appears to be "out there". It's the hopeless wish that this moment will either vanish or last.
Liberation is...to SEE all of experience as utter fluidity and, therefore, as nothing to grasp, own, or fear.
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It seems a part of human psyche to always think that the grass is greener on the other side. This is why I think that setting goals is pointless and self defeating. Once you start chasing goals so your goal starts moving away - it's a bit like chasing a mirage in a desert - the water always looks like it is just a little bit further.
I think regret is the mirror image of this. You look back and think "why did I do this, if only I'd done that things would be better". Regret relies on hindsight which is something we never have the luxury of when we have to make decisions in the present.
I think one way of dealing with these things is just to accept they are strange quirks of the mind and regard them as such. Just accept the fact that if you make a decision then sooner or later that nagging voice of regret will start - or if you reach a goal accept that sooner or later that voice that tells you to crave more will speak.
The key is to distance yourself from these nagging voices - just accept that they will always be there but regard them as useless and self defeating.
Advertising, marketing, politics and religions capitalise on these nagging voices and teach us to listen to them and act on them. Advertisers, religions and political parties condition us us to believe and act on the voice that tells us that the grass is greener on the other side or the voice that tells us to regret. In so doing we are manipulated and these voices of dissatisfaction become much louder than they would be naturally.
For example political parties get most of their power by tricking people in to believing that the "grass will be greener" if they vote for them. Advertisers tell you that the "grass will be greener" if you buy their product. Religions tell you that the "grass will be greener" and a place in heaven will be reserved if you believe them.
The psychological phenomena of regret and the "grass is greener on the other side" is exploited, manipulated and encouraged to grow in our minds by groups seeking power everyday. The key is to just accept regret and the "grass is always greener" mentality but don't pay to much attention to it, realise that paying heed to these nagging voices will lead to greater unhappiness and will hand enormous power and money to certain groups.
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Because you will never get fulfillment from materialism!
You have to understand thats all an illusion.
True fulfillment comes from home. Where we really came from. Where our essence is. From Source, from the divine. The creator of the freaking universe! In this language he is called "God" In that state there is no suffering, because you are at one which everything, there is no discourse, no separation, because you have realised the essence of reality!
This is why you are sad and miserable. Because you make your happiness conditional. For example you say, "if x,y,z happens then i will happy". But that is stupid because, we attract what we vibrate, we are like musical instuments.
So instead we should be unconditionally happy, and love unconditionally. That means you make no conditions on it. Therefore you will be vibrating happiness!, thus you will attract to you the things you need!
You physical mind may not even be able to concieve of what truly makes you happy. But when you just decide you are going to happy unconditionally, just because you exist, it is then when you will begin to attract, everything postive, whether it be opportunities, relationships, abundance, joy in whatever you need.
JUST BE HAPPY, because being sad sucks anyway. Know that the universe is always working to serve you. But you will only attract what you are the vibration of. So you want happiness? Well just be happy, don't put a condition on it, just be happy, and you will find everything you could ever want comes to you anyway.
When you go astray, from righteousness and justice, which is what unconditional love is, the universe delivers to you pain, as to show you this is not what works, this is not what you need. You need unconditional love, so just do it. And the universe will take care of everything else. no need to worry.
You plenty of oxygen to breathe, you just have to go to a tap for water, you eat like kings, so what have you got worry about? Just remember there is always someone in this world that has "worse conditions than you". But remember conditions don't matter, only your state of being matters, because you state of beings determines your conditions, via the "law of attraction" You reap what you sow, you manifest what you vibrate.
http://www.davidicke.com/forum/showthread.php?t=217957
As you get older, you learn to appreciate life a bit more.
As you experience a wider range of what life has to offer, you start to find your niche. You can only do that with experience.
When we are young there is a tendency to form idealistic notions of things we think we want. Relationships become a search for the perfect partner. We look for dream jobs or set ourselves ambitious goals to achieve before we get too old.
Once you have done a lot of those things they often lose their sparkle. That's when you are able to view your own existence from a distance and ask yourself What do I really want out of life? Suddenly you find you don't actually need that much in order to be happy.
For that reason - The older I get, the more I enjoy life.
Don't worry. It gets better.
-------------------------------------------------------
I'll do my best to recall some of Steve Hagen's teaching on the Twelvefold Chain. To pick up one link, is to pick up the whole chain.
Bondage is...to conceive a world of mind objects, external to the body and mind, as being taken in through the senses.
Liberation is...to SEE sensation as a function of mind alone - that the objects of Mind are never external to Mind, but are always Mind itself.
Bondage is...to react emotionally to the objects of mind, while remaining isolated from them.
Liberation is...not being swept away by emotion. Since nothing is perceived as external to Mind, feeling is ever intimate.
Bondage is...to experience wanting and craving, since mind objects are conceived as being apart from "me", the subject.
Liberation is...not to want. Since nothing is perceived as being "out there", there's no sense that anything is lacking.
Bondage is...to grasp at what appears to be "out there". It's the hopeless wish that this moment will either vanish or last.
Liberation is...to SEE all of experience as utter fluidity and, therefore, as nothing to grasp, own, or fear.
---------------------------------------------------------------
It seems a part of human psyche to always think that the grass is greener on the other side. This is why I think that setting goals is pointless and self defeating. Once you start chasing goals so your goal starts moving away - it's a bit like chasing a mirage in a desert - the water always looks like it is just a little bit further.
I think regret is the mirror image of this. You look back and think "why did I do this, if only I'd done that things would be better". Regret relies on hindsight which is something we never have the luxury of when we have to make decisions in the present.
I think one way of dealing with these things is just to accept they are strange quirks of the mind and regard them as such. Just accept the fact that if you make a decision then sooner or later that nagging voice of regret will start - or if you reach a goal accept that sooner or later that voice that tells you to crave more will speak.
The key is to distance yourself from these nagging voices - just accept that they will always be there but regard them as useless and self defeating.
Advertising, marketing, politics and religions capitalise on these nagging voices and teach us to listen to them and act on them. Advertisers, religions and political parties condition us us to believe and act on the voice that tells us that the grass is greener on the other side or the voice that tells us to regret. In so doing we are manipulated and these voices of dissatisfaction become much louder than they would be naturally.
For example political parties get most of their power by tricking people in to believing that the "grass will be greener" if they vote for them. Advertisers tell you that the "grass will be greener" if you buy their product. Religions tell you that the "grass will be greener" and a place in heaven will be reserved if you believe them.
The psychological phenomena of regret and the "grass is greener on the other side" is exploited, manipulated and encouraged to grow in our minds by groups seeking power everyday. The key is to just accept regret and the "grass is always greener" mentality but don't pay to much attention to it, realise that paying heed to these nagging voices will lead to greater unhappiness and will hand enormous power and money to certain groups.
----------------------------------------------------------
Because you will never get fulfillment from materialism!
You have to understand thats all an illusion.
True fulfillment comes from home. Where we really came from. Where our essence is. From Source, from the divine. The creator of the freaking universe! In this language he is called "God" In that state there is no suffering, because you are at one which everything, there is no discourse, no separation, because you have realised the essence of reality!
This is why you are sad and miserable. Because you make your happiness conditional. For example you say, "if x,y,z happens then i will happy". But that is stupid because, we attract what we vibrate, we are like musical instuments.
So instead we should be unconditionally happy, and love unconditionally. That means you make no conditions on it. Therefore you will be vibrating happiness!, thus you will attract to you the things you need!
You physical mind may not even be able to concieve of what truly makes you happy. But when you just decide you are going to happy unconditionally, just because you exist, it is then when you will begin to attract, everything postive, whether it be opportunities, relationships, abundance, joy in whatever you need.
JUST BE HAPPY, because being sad sucks anyway. Know that the universe is always working to serve you. But you will only attract what you are the vibration of. So you want happiness? Well just be happy, don't put a condition on it, just be happy, and you will find everything you could ever want comes to you anyway.
When you go astray, from righteousness and justice, which is what unconditional love is, the universe delivers to you pain, as to show you this is not what works, this is not what you need. You need unconditional love, so just do it. And the universe will take care of everything else. no need to worry.
You plenty of oxygen to breathe, you just have to go to a tap for water, you eat like kings, so what have you got worry about? Just remember there is always someone in this world that has "worse conditions than you". But remember conditions don't matter, only your state of being matters, because you state of beings determines your conditions, via the "law of attraction" You reap what you sow, you manifest what you vibrate.
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Jester
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This is not Murphy's Law. Rather it is something that is sometimes called The Law of Abundance, articulated by Jesus of Nazareth almost 2000 years ago:Winston wrote:Also, why does Murphy's Law seem to control the universe? It seems like the universe is always against you, giving you the opposite of what you want.
For example...
- Desirable women don't want you unless you are already taken or attached. You are more likely to meet your soulmate when you are already married than when you are single.
- Opportunities to meet girls you like don't come unless you are already taken. When you are single and alone, they don't come.
(In Angeles City, the hottest girls only came out or sat in my jeepney if I was with my girlfriend, who got pissed every time I looked at another girl. But if I was alone, they didn't come out. This happened every time!)
"To them that have, more is given. For them that have not, even what they have will be taken away."
The question is not "is it fair", the question is
(1) "Is it true?", and
(2) "how do I use it to my advantage?".
Like gravity.
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Jester
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Now THIS is good stuff!
Winston wrote:Some enlightening responses I received from the David Icke forum:
http://www.davidicke.com/forum/showthread.php?t=217957
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True fulfillment comes from home. Where we really came from. Where our essence is. From Source, from the divine. The creator of the freaking universe! In this language he is called "God" In that state there is no suffering, because you are at one which everything, there is no discourse, no separation, because you have realised the essence of reality!
This is why you are sad and miserable. Because you make your happiness conditional. For example you say, "if x,y,z happens then i will happy". But that is stupid because, we attract what we vibrate, we are like musical instuments.
So instead we should be unconditionally happy, and love unconditionally. That means you make no conditions on it. Therefore you will be vibrating happiness!, thus you will attract to you the things you need!
You physical mind may not even be able to concieve of what truly makes you happy. But when you just decide you are going to happy unconditionally, just because you exist, it is then when you will begin to attract, everything postive, whether it be opportunities, relationships, abundance, joy in whatever you need.
JUST BE HAPPY, because being sad sucks anyway. Know that the universe is always working to serve you. But you will only attract what you are the vibration of. So you want happiness? Well just be happy, don't put a condition on it, just be happy, and you will find everything you could ever want comes to you anyway.
When you go astray, from righteousness and justice, which is what unconditional love is, the universe delivers to you pain, as to show you this is not what works, this is not what you need. You need unconditional love, so just do it. And the universe will take care of everything else. no need to worry.
You plenty of oxygen to breathe, you just have to go to a tap for water, you eat like kings, so what have you got worry about? Just remember there is always someone in this world that has "worse conditions than you". But remember conditions don't matter, only your state of being matters, because you state of beings determines your conditions, via the "law of attraction" You reap what you sow, you manifest what you vibrate.
More from my dad on this topic:
Dear Win,
Having said that the changes may not necessary be good or bad, we don't know because we can't go back to undo them. I still want to say one more thing. If we apply this "greener grass" theory on relationship, it will bring trouble because the grass is always greener some places than here. When we get into a relationship, it will make us happy and excitement for a while. But, after some period, we start to get bored and tired of routines. If we always look for greener grass some where else, it will sure bring sufferings to us and to others we care.
Do you agree?
Love,
Dad
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"It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne
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