PAG/Culture Whiz is running Romance Tours? LOL WTF?!

[StanfordGuy]

I actually have a lot of fans. Smart/cool people like me.



However, we cannot co-exist with stupid lame people.

https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

That' why the Jews made Israel and why we built a platform 5x better than anyone else..

[Spencer]

Movement about truth....aboarding....and the wiseton way

truthing mean not deny id.....2 duendes and a mak pretend 30 youthman asschef fob expater grand hotel manila but after weeks become instant hi knowings everythinf duende talk before philpine europe happy aboarders talk same old dog carbon copy midaging duende same alternating modesty then aroganceman softkindly follow by hawty meanman light to dark positivitynegativity so duendes need alterman name mak fit complexities contrading duality persona and moreso mak allow duendes retainmen of deeppride so not have make public saysorry that would need if still posting with duende but we say before wiseton magnanimity forgive back to pduende for redemptions and emracings reovering back happy aboard senority top status under old name.........and hypermak say truth this i can write much beter if want spend much more time but even so i can not so good as makduende even try hardest he have the better writings even sounding absurdity say need esl from happy aboard forum but still now i want write fast sloppy description styes use phone so i not make changes for my writestyle

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[StanfordGuy]

Lol, I'll be spinning up a NEW happierabroad and targeting old people with MONEY!

[Winston]

I have only met Publicduende once and can't judge him from a couple of hours of conversation. We did talk quite a bit about our mutual experiences in the Philippines and our fortunes with the young ladies. I think part of the disagreements were more to do with us being at two stages of our lives, rather than different culture or personality.

For example, as I continue to live here and interact with Filipinos, I get more and more of his warnings about Filipinos to be generally friendly and warm until they drop the bombshell: they need money from you! I told PD I am not rich and I always have the excuse ready that I have no spare cash for them, or for anyone else for that matter. I read that you too, @Winston, have been frustrated about Filipinos and Filipinas asking for cash handouts and other gifts for no other apparent reasons that they were "your friends" (or sex buddies) after all.

Of course I wouldn't want to be so black and white, since I did meet a lot of smart Filipinos who would rather kill themselves than having to beg for money. I just wanna say I get PD since the negative traits of Filipino people are more visible as one lives here.

As for this massive drama about you being in Europe, I think I told you my opinion on one of my first posts. I am not sure what tones PD used in his exchange with you and I can't be bothered digging through old threads. In a way I would agree with PD that Europe isn't this amazing place you seem to have in mind. Perhaps you were talking about the "social scene" of backpacking hostels, or those "melting pot" kind of places that are common in the large and tourist cities: the capitals, the university towns, etc.

Can you remind me what exactly was your position? You would be able to move to Europe for some time and find a girlfriend, or "just" some friends, or both? In any case, have you actually paid that trip to Europe to see for yourself? I guess you'll never know until you do! Let's all hope this lockdown craze ends soon.

Yes I agree with you about Philippines. Many girls just want your money. Perhaps most do. There are some good gems and nice girls, but they are a minority. If you meet enough girls, you do find some. But the modern world is like that, most people today only care about themselves and just mind their own business and aren't gonna care about you.

But that's not what my post earlier was about. Did you even read it? Why did you change the subject?

My position was that in Europe it's easy to meet people naturally. People are more willing to talk to strangers there than America and NE Asia. And since I've been in Europe before, I know this too. Remember my photos and videos in Eastern Europe? Did you see them? Here's my video in Poland: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYI7nVAfHbU

So yes I have been in Europe. I don't have a girlfriend there, but it's easy to meet people, socialize and find people to hang out with. At least you can use Couchsurfing and meet people too, as well as Meetup.com. And hostels as well. That's all my position was. Don't you agree with it?

PD said that since I don't look young and handsome, that I have a zero percent chance of getting dates or making any real friends in Europe, that all the people I meet would be acquaintances only. 100 percent of them. With absolute certainty. Do you agree with that @hypermak? Why or why not?

I told him no one, not even God, can predict anything with certainty, and that the law of averages guarantees that some people I meet will turn into lasting friends. Even if it's only 1 in 20. There is no 100 percent absolutes when it comes to people and social situations. Don't you agree? Plus I'm outgoing and vibe well in Europe and am in my element there, so it brings out my best self too, all of which work to my advantage. Also I connect better with Europeans than I do with other nationalities, because my soul is European and I've had many past lives there I believe.

I've repeated all this HUNDREDS of times. Don't you remember reading all this? I'm tired of repeating it as if you never saw it before and I never told you this before. You're not stupid right hypermak? Sure you've heard me explain all this before.

Moreover, when you are in your element, coincidences and synchronities start working in your favor. You start meeting people you connect with and things begin to happen. We all know that. Don't you? So a lot depends on chemistry and synergy. You know what I mean?

PD was also dumb to claim that since Eurobrat couldn't meet any girls in Italy, that I can't either, because he's better looking than me. But by that logic, every girl that likes me must like him too, because linear logic would predict that. But we all know that's not true. Love and attraction don't work that way, in such simple linear logic. I explained why above. Did you read it? Did you even read my post? Why do I have to retype everything over again? Should I just use copy and paste? Or can you look above at my previous post and save me the trouble?

Can you take my points into consideration? Do you even understand me? I'm speaking clear articulate English right?

Do you agree with my points? Isn't PD foolish to make absolute claims with certainty? Especially since the law of averages would say otherwise, and especially since in Europe I would be in my element where I felt comfortable and connected with the culture, etc. Europe fits intellectual types a lot better than USA or Asia does. I've explained why in many articles and posts.

Can you address my points @hypermak so I don't have to repeat them?

[Winston]

Of course Spencer and StanfordGuy and PAG are all screen names for Shawn Blake, and I said so long ago in the thread about banning PAG. What the hell is the point of that Spencer unreadable writing style anyway? Anyway, I'm out of this discussion.

I doubt PAG and Spencer are the same person. PAG has too much pride to write that many fake posts impersonating someone else. It would be too much work for him. Hes too proud to do that. It would be a waste of his time and not accomplish anything. He prefers to show off and is full of himself and likes to talk about himself. Posting as Spencer wouldn't allow him to show off.

Plus Spencer has too many posts. No one has the time to post as two people like that. It would take too much time. Also trying to write in broken foreign English in that many posts would be too much work for PAG. He wouldnt feel it worth it just for kicks. It doesnt glorify him and would be too much work.

Bottom line is that PAG has too much pride to do that. If it doesnt glorify him he wont do it. At least not that many posts. If he were to fake some posts it wouldn't be as many as Spencer has posted. You gotta think. And analyze his character.

This or...StanfordGuy has way too much time on his hands. Plus, for a poster who joined just a few weeks ago, "Spencer" seems to know an awful lot about the history of the forum, including stuff about Publicduende, previous incarnations of PAG, etc. Either he has so much time and passion to go through dozens and dozens of old posts, or he is the same as our resident troll, StanfordGuy.

I agree with @Shemp, what is the point of writing in such broken English, mispelling simple words like "abroad" as "aboard" but then getting words like "hypocrit" and other more complex words always right. It's clearly someone faking broken English. Perhaps a non-native speaker like me can get it better, who knows...

Maybe Spencer is some lurker and fan who just recently decided to post and admires PAG? It's possible. But consider this: PAG NEVER compliments me or kisses my butt. I don't think he compliments anyone but himself. There's no way he could impersonate Spencer and start complimenting my wisdom and kissing my butt. It'd be totally out of his nature to do so. PAG is narcissistic to the nth degree. No way he would ever kiss someone's butt, even if he had an alternate persona online. Think about it. You gotta be a good judge of character and think in terms of psychology, like a good detective does. Be like Columbo or Sherlock Holmes or Magnum PI or McGarrett from Hawaii Five O. Those men would deduce things like that too.

[Winston]

I actually have a lot of fans. Smart/cool people like me.



However, we cannot co-exist with stupid lame people.

https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

That' why the Jews made Israel and why we built a platform 5x better than anyone else..

Is that from Rooshv forum or Swoop the World forum? Didn't you eventually get banned from both? Says something about your social skills or people skills.

I don't understand why women would like you. Do they like pompous narcissists like you? Is it because you keep putting them down and making them feel low and insecure, so they fight to gain your approval? Isn't that a PUA tactic called negging and way outdated too? It would only work on the most insecure girls. You'd also have to deal with a lot of drama too. You also don't have any charm or charisma on video. So why would any girls like you? What's your appeal PAG? I don't get it. You aren't even naturally likable like Morgan Freeman.

[hypermak]

My position was that in Europe it's easy to meet people naturally. People are more willing to talk to strangers there than America and NE Asia. And since I've been in Europe before, I know this too. Remember my photos and videos in Eastern Europe? Did you see them? Here's my video in Poland: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYI7nVAfHbU

So yes I have been in Europe. I don't have a girlfriend there, but it's easy to meet people, socialize and find people to hang out with. At least you can use Couchsurfing and meet people too, as well as Meetup.com. And hostels as well. That's all my position was. Don't you agree with it?

OK, let me state it clearly and one last time, too. I am a European citizen but that doesn't make me the ultimate authority on predicting what would happen to non-European person A (you, an Asian-american) when they interact with people from country B. Of course it's easy to meet people in environments that are supposed to facilitate that: hostels, house parties, backpackers' events etc. In that case though you would interact with fellow travelers and tourists, who like you have all the interest to have randoms chat and socialise for the sake of having a good time.

Then, after a few days, everyone goes on their own way and sometimes they keep in touch, sometimes not.

If you are looking for fellow travellers/tourists to hang out with, I guess you could find plenty wherever you are, even in the US. But that is not because you are in Europe, it's because of the social situation you are in.

So this is the likely scenario you are in if you are around Europe as a tourist.

If you are planning to spend a few months in Europe, perhaps in a single location, say a Polish town, that is a different scenario. Right?

If you are planning to live in a place for a while, you can still hang out around hostels and be invited to parties and make those random acquaintances. However, in that case your target is to interact with locals and try to create stronger friendships, more solid bonds. At least that ismy assumption.

Now, this is where I kind of agree with Publicduende. It's not as simple as you make it, to socialise outside the tourist bubbles. You have to have some sort of "social identity". I wouldn't call it status, but it's more to do with "what you are up to" in that place. I have been living in Malta, which is seasonal worker heaven, and made a lot of friends, including some flings. To be honest, I met the first group of people to hang out with at work.

They were mostly fellow restaurant/hotel staff, or their friend's or siblings, and so on. True, some of them were seasonal workers like me and not from Malta (Italy, Greece, Morocco, Spain and Portugal etc.) so there was one more reason to bond...being all foreigners and on the same (work) boat. I also met quite a few locals but, being Malta a small island, I didn't meet an entire army of them...just few good ones.

If I didn't have a job that exposed me to quite a few people to interact with, and become friends to some of them (those I got along with), what would have happened? I don't know for sure, but I doubt socialising would have been easier. It would have been harder. I could have met some people randomly, perhaps in a bar, but without telling them exactly what I do in Malta and why I am there, I would have been seen as a tourist and I would have found it harder to socialise with the local people.

So what I think I agree with Publicduende on is that: you need to have some business where you are. You need to be seen as someone who is legit and not a fly-by-night tourist. You can still have pretty great interactions with foreigners and travellers, yet you may end up not feeling "integrated", if you know what I mean.

PD said that since I don't look young and handsome, that I have a zero percent chance of getting dates or making any real friends in Europe, that all the people I meet would be acquaintances only. 100 percent of them. With absolute certainty. Do you agree with that @hypermak? Why or why not?

I told him no one, not even God, can predict anything with certainty, and that the law of averages guarantees that some people I meet will turn into lasting friends. Even if it's only 1 in 20. There is no 100 percent absolutes when it comes to people and social situations. Don't you agree? Plus I'm outgoing and vibe well in Europe and am in my element there, so it brings out my best self too, all of which work to my advantage. Also I connect better with Europeans than I do with other nationalities, because my soul is European and I've had many past lives there I believe.

That's total BS. Nobody would put those chances to 0%, or 100%. I think it depends on who you are, what you do, maybe some luck, too. You're bumping into the right people who invite you to a house party and you're set!

I've repeated all this HUNDREDS of times. Don't you remember reading all this? I'm tired of repeating it as if you never saw it before and I never told you this before. You're not stupid right hypermak? Sure you've heard me explain all this before.

Moreover, when you are in your element, coincidences and synchronities start working in your favor. You start meeting people you connect with and things begin to happen. We all know that. Don't you? So a lot depends on chemistry and synergy. You know what I mean?

Don't patronise me please. I don't remember because I didn't have the time to read the endless posts between you and PD. I am basing my opinion on the little you told me and the (very) little PD mentioned when I met him and we talked, for a few minutes, about his experience on the forum and talking to you about that subject.

I understand about chemistry and synergy so yes, that could definitely happen. In the end, the proof is in the pudding. Once this nasty lockdown is over and it's possible to travel around, why don't you organise a nice trip around Europe. I heard great stuff from university towns like Wroclaw in Poland and Cluj-Napoca in Romania. Coimbra in Portugal, Leuven in Belgium. Basically any second-tier city in Europe that has a rich history and is home to a good university.

PD was also dumb to claim that since Eurobrat couldn't meet any girls in Italy, that I can't either, because he's better looking than me. But by that logic, every girl that likes me must like him too, because linear logic would predict that. But we all know that's not true. Love and attraction don't work that way, in such simple linear logic. I explained why above. Did you read it? Did you even read my post? Why do I have to retype everything over again? Should I just use copy and paste? Or can you look above at my previous post and save me the trouble?

I did go through some of the posts before typing this so yes, I did took (some) trouble. However, it looks like at some point you became very aggressive towards PD. You started using cuss words and belittling him, a little bit like you are starting to do towards me here. Does this topic hurt your sensitivity so much? Without going toxic like with PD, I could just put an end to the diatribe by saying what I said before: proof's in the pudding. Go to Europe and see for yourself.

Can you take my points into consideration? Do you even understand me? I'm speaking clear articulate English right?

Do you agree with my points? Isn't PD foolish to make absolute claims with certainty? Especially since the law of averages would say otherwise, and especially since in Europe I would be in my element where I felt comfortable and connected with the culture, etc. Europe fits intellectual types a lot better than USA or Asia does. I've explained why in many articles and posts.

Can you address my points @hypermak so I don't have to repeat them?

I have, now, and I promise you this is absolutely the last time I talk about this topic.

[Winston]

Hypermak,
But you forget something. Im not limited to hostels or parties or pubs in Europe for meeting people. I am able to meet people in Europe anywhere, such as streets, old towns, museums, restaurants, parks, buses, trains, etc. It all happens naturally remember? Just like in the movies. I have photos and videos and journal entries to prove it. Not so in America. That's the key difference. Don't you get it?

And no it is nothing like America. The vibe is 100 percent different. Didnt you know that? You obviously never been to America. We can tell. I can tell u that from firsthand experience.

So u agree with me now that PD was wrong to claim absolute certainties right? Thats my main point.

[hypermak]

Hypermak,
But you forget something. Im not limited to hostels or parties or pubs in Europe for meeting people. I am able to meet people in Europe anywhere, such as streets, old towns, museums, restaurants, parks, buses, trains, etc. It all happens naturally remember? Just like in the movies. I have photos and videos and journal entries to prove it. Not so in America. That's the key difference. Don't you get it?

And no it is nothing like America. The vibe is 100 percent different. Didnt you know that? You obviously never been to America. We can tell. I can tell u that from firsthand experience.

Good for you if you can make it happen naturally.

So u agree with me now that PD was wrong to claim absolute certainties right? Thats my main point.

Yeah I agree that nobody can claim stuff with absolute certainty. But, honestly, were you asking me for an opinion or just a confirmation that PD was wrong?

[StanfordGuy]

I actually have a lot of fans. Smart/cool people like me.



However, we cannot co-exist with stupid lame people.

https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

That' why the Jews made Israel and why we built a platform 5x better than anyone else..

Is that from Rooshv forum or Swoop the World forum? Didn't you eventually get banned from both? Says something about your social skills or people skills.

I don't understand why women would like you. Do they like pompous narcissists like you? Is it because you keep putting them down and making them feel low and insecure, so they fight to gain your approval? Isn't that a PUA tactic called negging and way outdated too? It would only work on the most insecure girls. You'd also have to deal with a lot of drama too. You also don't have any charm or charisma on video. So why would any girls like you? What's your appeal PAG? I don't get it. You aren't even naturally likable like Morgan Freeman.

See: https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

Easy, I'm super sexy with a lot of charm / charisma and I'm not a narcissist at all: lol: I have a good sense of humor, a positive disposition, a healthy extroversion and confidence. That's why you don't really bother me with your petty insults (do you even know what insults are?) and arrogance. I remember when you said that I didn't know anything about computers, and that I was clueless?! Remember that? Now, five years on, who's clueless? You misread confidence / intelligence, which shows in the way someone walks, talks, and generally carry themselves as narcissism. Confident people have a very casual way of doing things without worrying everyone else. Imagine an elephant walking in the jungle that doesn't fear the lion, but isn't arrogant enough at the same time to think he's the king of the jungle. That's me.

Also, if you smile more than others, it seems that you enjoy life and that you are a confident person. It's not just your teeth and lips that look pretty. It's also your confidence that makes you attractive. If you have confidence in yourself, you don't need to be reassured by anyone who you are. Having a good balance of confidence / extroversion will help you to appear better socially, happier and more willing to explore opportunities. This all means that you're healthy and will produce good babies.

[Winston]

Btw @hypermak. Im not patronizing you. Im just tired of repeating things over and over again. There are so many dumb people in this world, even in this forum. Its exhausting to deal with them. You know what i mean? Try to understand me.

I also agree with you when you said:

"That's total BS. Nobody would put those chances to 0%, or 100%. I think it depends on who you are, what you do, maybe some luck, too. You're bumping into the right people who invite you to a house party and you're set!"

Yes exactly! Its BS. Thats my point. That's why i called PD on his BS! You get it now? Yes he DID claim 0 percent. He did! Thats what pissed me off. You can search his posts and see for yourself. Its there in his own words. Im not imagining it. Those are HIS words. Not mine.

Now do you understand my complaint? So u agree with me right? Thats all i wanna know. Im not trying to fight or argue. Just trying to make u understand what my beef was. So dont take it personally ok?

One more thing. Europe is not as toxic or competitive as America. Its more harmonious. The vibe is too. Europe is more for mature old souls like me. Not drama queens and white trash and toxic people who just wanna win and bring you down. Etc. Thats why the vibe is so much better.

I also agree with you that the proof is in the pudding. Thats why i speak from experience too when i was in Europe. Remember? Not just speculation. And also based on trip reports from other people too. And from general cultural knowledgeable as well. So yes i have seen and experienced the proof in the pudding.

Anyway, since we are in agreement on my bottom line points why argue or debate? I just wanted you to know my complaint and position. That's all. Comprehende?

Btw if someone as weird and negative as PAG can get girls in Europe then why cant me or you or anyone else here? He doesn't have any special likable traits or good qualities or charm or charisma that women like. So if he can get Euro girls then how hard can it be? Even PD is better looking than PAG. So why couldn't PD just go back to Europe and date girls and party with them too like PAG does?

[Winston]

One more thing hypermak. Regarding hostels. Even PD made a generalization about them when he said that 100 percent of the people i meet in them will just be friends for one or two days. While thats generally true, theres always 1 out of 10 or 1 out of 20 people you have more connection and camaraderie with that will turn into closer friends later on. So nothing in social affairs is 100 percent. Its always a mixed bag. Don't u agree?

Next time u see PD or talk to him you should explain that to him. That nothing is 100 percent one way or another. Its always a mixed bag. I tried to explain that to him but he wouldn't listen. Maybe he will listen to you?

Also not all hostels are the same. The ones in asia dont have the camaraderie that the ones in Europe and Russia do. The ones i saw in China were different. In some of them everyone kept to themselves and were very serious. They didnt socialize or have fun. And in some, only 10 percent of the guests there were interested in meeting people. But I guess thats better than nothing. The best hostels i been to were in Moscow and St. Petersburg. The guys there were very social and talkative and invited me out for nights on the town and clubbing and stuff. Those were fun times. Very exciting. I never get that in the US.

So no. Not all hostels are the same. Also depends on who shows up. Last time i was in siem reap, cambodia i went to the hostel that rock and worldtraveler stayed at. It was popular and packed with lots of backpackers and masculine manly women. It was weird. Everyone kept to themselves and played on their phone and ignored others. Only one or two people talked to us. One guy even got mad and confronted rock for taking his photo. Lol. He looked like a libtard. Very uptight. Weird. Rock apologized and erased the photo. He could have restored it from the trash. But decided not to i guess. I guess not all hostels are friendly social environments.

Some guys claim to get sex in hostels too. They say they've shagged girls there. I dont know if its true or not. But like i said nothing is 100 percent in social affairs.

[Winston]

Hypermak,
But you forget something. Im not limited to hostels or parties or pubs in Europe for meeting people. I am able to meet people in Europe anywhere, such as streets, old towns, museums, restaurants, parks, buses, trains, etc. It all happens naturally remember? Just like in the movies. I have photos and videos and journal entries to prove it. Not so in America. That's the key difference. Don't you get it?

And no it is nothing like America. The vibe is 100 percent different. Didnt you know that? You obviously never been to America. We can tell. I can tell u that from firsthand experience.

Good for you if you can make it happen naturally.

So u agree with me now that PD was wrong to claim absolute certainties right? Thats my main point.

Yeah I agree that nobody can claim stuff with absolute certainty. But, honestly, were you asking me for an opinion or just a confirmation that PD was wrong?

Both actually. I just wanted you to understand why i was mad and what my position or argument was. Thats all. I wasnt trying to patronize you or start a debate. Hope you understand. PD obviously didnt understand me. So i was hoping you would at least. Its frustrating when people dont understand you after you've explained yourself very clearly. You know what i mean? Its also frustrating having to repeat things. Its like all the hours you put before into your posts were all for nothing. You know what i mean? I just want to be understood and acknowledged. That's all. PD clearly did not give me that.

[Winston]

I actually have a lot of fans. Smart/cool people like me.



However, we cannot co-exist with stupid lame people.

https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

That' why the Jews made Israel and why we built a platform 5x better than anyone else..

Is that from Rooshv forum or Swoop the World forum? Didn't you eventually get banned from both? Says something about your social skills or people skills.

I don't understand why women would like you. Do they like pompous narcissists like you? Is it because you keep putting them down and making them feel low and insecure, so they fight to gain your approval? Isn't that a PUA tactic called negging and way outdated too? It would only work on the most insecure girls. You'd also have to deal with a lot of drama too. You also don't have any charm or charisma on video. So why would any girls like you? What's your appeal PAG? I don't get it. You aren't even naturally likable like Morgan Freeman.

See: https://culturewhiz.org/comment/59#comment-59

Easy, I'm super sexy with a lot of charm / charisma and I'm not a narcissist at all: lol: I have a good sense of humor, a positive disposition, a healthy extroversion and confidence. That's why you don't really bother me with your petty insults (do you even know what insults are?) and arrogance. I remember when you said that I didn't know anything about computers, and that I was clueless?! Remember that? Now, five years on, who's clueless? You misread confidence / intelligence, which shows in the way someone walks, talks, and generally carry themselves as narcissism. Confident people have a very casual way of doing things without worrying everyone else. Imagine an elephant walking in the jungle that doesn't fear the lion, but isn't arrogant enough at the same time to think he's the king of the jungle. That's me.

Also, if you smile more than others, it seems that you enjoy life and that you are a confident person. It's not just your teeth and lips that look pretty. It's also your confidence that makes you attractive. If you have confidence in yourself, you don't need to be reassured by anyone who you are. Having a good balance of confidence / extroversion will help you to appear better socially, happier and more willing to explore opportunities. This all means that you're healthy and will produce good babies.

Well i agree with you PAG about true confidence vs fakery and narcissism and arrogance. I strive for what you describe too. However you can only be like that in a positive environment that allows you to be like that. And that is conducive to it. You cant do that in the US for instance. It wont work. Acting confident there is useless if youre not the girls type.

Also cities like seattle and portland do not like outgoing gregarious guys. They are super reserved and repressed and talking to girls is inappropriate and taboo. So being confident or good with girls there is useless. It doesnt jibe with the social culture at all. If you try to be charming there you will come off as creepy and perverted, even if you're handsome. Its not allowed there. I dare you to go there and try to be charming to girls. Lol. You're in for a shock and rude awakening.

You also cant be outgoing and gregarious in japan, taiwan, hong kong, korea or singapore either. Those cultures are super restrictive and will not allow you to be outgoing, charming or gregarious. Even if you are a Casanova or don juan you are not allowed to show it. Anything that is not square there is inappropriate and out of bounds. So being charming or confident is useless there. You either fit in or you dont.

You and i are probably a better fit for Europe or Eastern Europe. Or latin america or SE asia. Those cultures allow us to be ourselves.

But anyway PAG. All this is besides the point. The point is that the personality you show here on this forum is not true confidence at all. All you do is BRAG about yourself constantly and INFLATE yourself and put others down, including me. If you think so lowly of this site then why do u post here? That makes no sense? And why do u keep returning after being banned? Lol

No one here would call your personality here as true confidence. Self aggrandizing is not seen as true confidence. I dont know your offline personality or how you act around girls. But the way you act here does fit how i described you earlier. You know that? Do you even realize that all you do is brag and inflate yourself while putting others down? How is that true confidence? Pray tell

Watch some old movies with Chuck Norris or Charles Bronson. Notice how those men act. They never brag or show off. They never need to bully others or put others down to elevate themselves. They are firm and badass and know it. They dont need to prove it. They're not insecure. Now thats REAL confidence. Do you see the difference?

Its common knowledge that people who brag and put others down are insecure. So arent you insecure? Based on your behavior? Its basic psychology. Why dont girls around you see that? Why do they see a different PAG than what we see? Do you show them a different side? If so why cant you show us that side too? The charming side you speak of?

Im not trying to insult you or put you down PAG. Im just being honest and objective with my observations. That's all. What you say and how you act don't seem to match. Everyone else here sees you the same way. Why? How do you explain that?

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Both actually. I just wanted you to understand why i was mad and what my position or argument was. Thats all. I wasnt trying to patronize you or start a debate. Hope you understand. PD obviously didnt understand me. So i was hoping you would at least. Its frustrating when people dont understand you after you've explained yourself very clearly. You know what i mean? Its also frustrating having to repeat things. Its like all the hours you put before into your posts were all for nothing. You know what i mean? I just want to be understood and acknowledged. That's all. PD clearly did not give me that.

I didn't actually realise how "mad" you were until I read some of main 2 posts where you are debating with Publicduende about this whole Europe thing. I believe Publicduende was overly cynical to say that, categorically, you won't be able to find anyone: not a gf, not a fling, not a friend, not a dog. That's a bit too extreme!

The point remains that the entire conversation was kind of moot, since (I presume) you haven't been to Europe as you were saying, yet. Where I think he is right is that the Eastern European/baltic countries you visited 15+ years ago are probably not the same now.

When in Malta there was this absolutely drop dead gorgeous girl from Estonia. She was truly beautiful and she knew it and, although she was working there as a concierge (she spoke 4 languages fluently), not even one of the hotel partners could get a date with her. And this was a French-lebansese guy who was in his late 30s, handsome, outgoing, drove a Porsche Panamera and had a 3 bedroom flat smack in the centre of Manderaggio (that is the posh historical centre of La Valletta).

It also depends on what you are looking for. Casual sex with a random girl found in a hostel is one thing, having a serious relationship with a hot local is another. Talking about conspiracy theories and other deep topics you love with a man who you will not see again 2 days or a week from that is one thing, finding a last friendship with someone who you can trust and will pull you out of trouble if needed, is another.

Maybe you haven't really been to explicit when defining your expectations?