Marriage is supposed to be lifelong and without divorce!

[traveller]

And that is how God created marriage in the beginning. Also, both Jesus and Paul said that anyone who divorces a first and original spouse causes both to become adulterer and adulteress, and if they marry someone else, they commit adultery. Paul even went on to explain it more. For example, we take a couple, John and Allison, and a single guy, Frank, and a single woman, Lisa. Allison divorces John because he can not hold a full time job, and then goes and marries Frank. According to Paul, Allison and Frank would be living in a continuous, nonstop state of adultery. But it get's worse. By divorcing John, Allison also makes John an adulterer. But knowing Allison will never come back, he marries Lisa. Now John and Lisa are living in a state of adultery. According to Paul, John has only 2 options. One is to remain single. Two is to return to Allison. John would have to divorce Lisa if he wanted to repent of his sin, and if he wanted marriage, he would have to go back to Allison. Likewise, if she wanted to repent, Allison would have to divorce Frank and either return to John, or remain single. And it is very sad but true; adulterers will not inherit Heaven, and whoever does not inherit Heaven is thrown into the other place. And believe me! You don't want to go to the other place!

Now, if John were, for instance, killed in a car crash or something, then Allison would be free and good to marry Frank. Likewise, if Allison passed away, then John would be free and good to marry Lisa.

The ideal marriage is a lifelong union without the possibility of divorce. And when and if I personally get married, I personally want a lifelong union without the possibility of divorce.

[Anatol]

Hello,

You are very correct but as long as feminism exists this is not possible.

[jamesbond]

The funny thing is, in America, 72% of all divorces are initiated by women! Also studies show that when women do file for divorce, most of the time it's because she is "bored" of her husband and want's a change! WTF?

It's women who DON'T want a commitment, even though women always say that it's men 'who don't want to commit.'

[MrMan]

I'm responding to the OP. The part about divorcing and remarrying being adultery comes from the sayings of Jesus in the Gospel, not Paul. And a lot of your interpretation about being in perpetual adultery forever is interpretation, not stated in the New Testament. Some people interpret divorce and remarriage for non-Biblical grounds only to be adultery the first time and then the couple can repent and stay together. It's a sticky issue. The Old Testament forbade a husband from taking his wife back after she remarried someone else.

But marriage is supposed to be for life. Neither party is supposed to commit adultery.

The challenge for a Christian young man is to find the rare young woman who takes Jesus' words seriously on this particular issue who really goes into marriage realizing she has to make a commitment like this. The sad thing is a lot of churches don't preach on remarriage being adultery in a lot of cases. If you date a young woman who is really serious about her faith, you can study these passages with her and see what her thoughts are as she reads them. You can also discuss the issue of whether marriage should be faced on feelings of being 'in love.'

For a lot of men, top criteria for selecting a wife are looks, enjoyable to be around, whether she makes you feel 'in love'. For fornicators, performance in the bedroom may be a criteria. But beliefs, values, and convictions need to be high on the list, including beliefs about divorce and remarriage.

I'm a Christian, and I definitely was looking for a woman who wouldn't divorce me, and prayed a lot to get some specific direction from God because of this. He was gracious to do that for me. I'd still have spent a little more time on the topic while I was dating if I had it to do over again. But I'm glad I married the one I did.

[MrMan]

Anatol, I am familiar with the fact that there are studies showing about 72% of no fault divorces are filed by women. Could you refer me to the research that says what percentage occurs because the woman is bored?

[Ghost]

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[Anatol]

Anatol, I am familiar with the fact that there are studies showing about 72% of no fault divorces are filed by women. Could you refer me to the research that says what percentage occurs because the woman is bored?

Hello,

I don't know and I don't care about this statistic. I'm certain of this ~ any man that has lost power over his wife is someone to be pitied.

[MrMan]

Some of the no-fault divorces could be cases of passive men saying, "you handle the paperwork." Some of the divorces could be women divorcing their husbands over adultery. If it's legally no fault, that doesn't mean there wasn't something that could serve as legal grounds back in the 1950's.

Anatol, you don't care about the statistics, but cared enough to cite it.

[Anatol]

Some of the no-fault divorces could be cases of passive men saying, "you handle the paperwork." Some of the divorces could be women divorcing their husbands over adultery. If it's legally no fault, that doesn't mean there wasn't something that could serve as legal grounds back in the 1950's.

Anatol, you don't care about the statistics, but cared enough to cite it.

Hello,

I did not. I think you are confusing my statements with some other man's.

[MrMan]

Sorry Anatol,

The way my screen layout is with my color schema, James Bond's posts look like yours. Sorry about that.

James Bond, do you have a source about women leaving because they are bored?

[yamalisdiaz]

Nowadays, Divorce has become very common.. For very silly reasons people use to take the divorce without thinking about their children future or anything.. Also see this

[AW Warning]

Nowadays, American women worship Satan the devil, and they totally hate both Jesus and God. America has become Satan's lair in terms of deceit and corruption of morals. Foreign women who relocate to America and attempt to retain their Godly hearts are bullied, alienated, deemed "losers," and heavily scolded by American society, just as Jesus was scolded for preaching about the Kingdom of God; in fact, Jesus was crucified because of his teachings! It is no wonder even Jesus himself said to enter through the narrow gate. And Jesus even said that the path to destruction is wide and broad, and many people enter through it. But the right way is narrow, and only a few people find it and/or even choose to walk it.

[newlifeinphilippines]

I'm responding to the OP. The part about divorcing and remarrying being adultery comes from the sayings of Jesus in the Gospel, not Paul. And a lot of your interpretation about being in perpetual adultery forever is interpretation, not stated in the New Testament. Some people interpret divorce and remarriage for non-Biblical grounds only to be adultery the first time and then the couple can repent and stay together. It's a sticky issue. The Old Testament forbade a husband from taking his wife back after she remarried someone else.

But marriage is supposed to be for life. Neither party is supposed to commit adultery.

The challenge for a Christian young man is to find the rare young woman who takes Jesus' words seriously on this particular issue who really goes into marriage realizing she has to make a commitment like this. The sad thing is a lot of churches don't preach on remarriage being adultery in a lot of cases. If you date a young woman who is really serious about her faith, you can study these passages with her and see what her thoughts are as she reads them. You can also discuss the issue of whether marriage should be faced on feelings of being 'in love.'

For a lot of men, top criteria for selecting a wife are looks, enjoyable to be around, whether she makes you feel 'in love'. For fornicators, performance in the bedroom may be a criteria. But beliefs, values, and convictions need to be high on the list, including beliefs about divorce and remarriage.

I'm a Christian, and I definitely was looking for a woman who wouldn't divorce me, and prayed a lot to get some specific direction from God because of this. He was gracious to do that for me. I'd still have spent a little more time on the topic while I was dating if I had it to do over again. But I'm glad I married the one I did.

I would assume that a one time repetance wouldn't work and the person would have to go back to their wife or become celibate until former wife died.