Post subject: Love and
Adventure in the
"They all want to meet you"
guys, I am of foreign descent and I lived in the
The reason I am interested in Asian women is, paradoxically, because of my school days in a foreign country where I lived from age 4-15. There I discovered that I had a thing for Oriental looking girls.
1989 I dated this Filipina-American girl who was a knock out but a
person and she treated me like dirt. But I still got more and more
the SE Asian look. She
eventually dumped me and it was
then that I thought that maybe the problem was not me after all. So, I
1991 I finally went to the
arrived there a bit jittery- you always hear about how dangerous the
I arrived at the hotel where I was to stay, immediately I met a girl, a
manager and she seemed to be interested in me. We talked and I plucked
courage and asked her on a date- Guess what the answer was? "Yes!!!
can we go?"Wow! Just
like that! I was not used
to it. None of this- "I am busy, I have an appointment/headache"
stuff you hear in the
I went out with her and we went to the movies , then, a few days later, the beach and then we started swimming under the full moon and kissing- that was a total blast- just like a dream...
Then, the next day I left early to avoid her as I really did not want to get hooked on the first girl I met and just stepped out of the hotel and started walking. The streets were full of young college girls- all in really cute uniforms and every girl was cuter than the next. Some were looking at me. Then one girl blew me a kiss. I heard "Wow! Handsome" coming from some...Incredible!
I was shocked! This was unreal. I was even embarrased. I got into a jeepney- it is a vehicle that the Filipinos use for transporation: It looks like this:
as I sat down, one young guy told me: "Hey, you are new here, watch
out! ". I asked him why
I should watch out. He said:
"Because we are gonna
marry you to a
Filipina." I grunted something and off we went. I went to the beach and
then on the way back, these college girls just flooded into the jeepney. One really cute
creature just like one of those
dream Hawaiian girls from the movie Blue Hawaii just plopped right next
smiling. The driver said: "You like her? Ask her out!" I was blushing.
But since this was not the
This was just the beginning. Later I got on another jeepney and it was full of girls, too. One girl stared at me and asked me: "You got a wife?" I said "No". She pointed at her friends: "Well, choose one!" And they all roared with laughter.
The thing was the girls were all so cute and fresh-looking and appearing very happy. They were friendly. Modest, coquettish, feminine yet aggressive. Real girls.
The floor manager at the hotel met me again and we went out again but I told her " Baby, baby don't get hooked on me..." and just asked that we'd be just friends. Then the second girl called me and said these words:
"Hello, my name is Inday, we met in the jeepney. I told all the girls in college about you and they all want to meet you."
Yup! They ALL want to meet me.
I went to a department store and again it was chuck full of little miss Universes- sales girls. I approached a counter and they crowded me.
" You are so cute. Your face is so cute". Then on another occasion I was paying for some stuff that I bought and the cashiers started whispering something. I though something was wrong. The answer was: "Very handsome"." Who, me?" "Yes, you". "What is so handsome about me?" "I don't know, maybe it is your tantalizing eyes". And they started laughing.
I could go on and on and on. I would sit down and relax and girls would pass by and whisper to each other pointing me out. The word I learned was "gwapo"- handsome. Once I was just crossing the road. Four young ladies linked their hands and would not let me through. Sales girls from stalls would call out- "Hello, Darling!"
a few days, I noticed something different about me when I looked in the
My eyes were no longer sad as they used to be. I was smiling for real.
this was the way a man should be treated. Appreciated.
Desired. Women should
seek him out and not the other
way around. Rejections and maltreatment by women in the
A place like that was not planet Earth the way I knew it. At least it should not be planet Earth. It was a Shangri-lah.
At night, my nightlife would start. I would go to bars and karaoke establishments and there would be girls everywhere and not many guys. The girls would crowd me. They were so gorgeous I was out of breath.
I took three girls who were working in the karaoke and we went to a
where we rented a hut on the beach under palm trees. If there is a
situation that one can imagine, it would probably be falling alseep in a bamboo house while
listening to the surf and
the wind rustling in the
trees while being hugged by three angelic young ladies from the
That's living!. No amount of job satisfaction or professional achievement cannot bring you close to the sense of fullfilment that such experiences can bring.
1998 I took $14,000 I saved up and went to the
I have a girlfriend in the
invite all guys who are fed up with being lonely to experience what I
if you are not handsome in the
if the society in the
As that Inday girl said:" They ALL want to meet you!"
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I would say that about 30-40% will go all the way with you if you stick around long enough and pursue that particular goal. But that happens only after you have fully and officialy become her boyfriend and said : I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend " and she accepted.
The thing is with the money you bring and the things you buy for the girls, the activities that you offer-beach parties, dinners, trips to the country and all that, you knock them off their feet. No local guy has the money to do all that. They are so impressed that they forget caution.
So, yes, you can get that stuff. Beware afterwards, though. Better make sure that is exactly the girl you want because after you did it, she is yours. And she thinks you are hers. And she will not let you go. Filipina girls are very amorous and romantic. Their man is their whole life. So, if you do it and then dump her, she will be in an ocean of pain. All kinds of nasty things can result from that not excluding suicide on her part.
Again, every person is different, but this seems to be the general rule.
I left for
His answer was : "It's not 'getting them' that's the problem, it's 'getting rid of them'..."
That is why many White guys living there visit "ladies of the night" and bar girls for such purposes. There, no romance and/or pain is involved.
Comparison of women in Asian countries
subject: Where in
have already posted on
must begin by saying that everywhere in Asia you will have a better
finding a girlfriend/wife than in the
You will also have to get used to the fact that you will never be like them racially or treated as an equal. You will always stand out like a sore thumb and while the people who know you will respect you, there are another billion strangers there who do not know you and will treat you in all kinds of ways, some with surprise, some with admiration and friendliness and some with squeamishness and downright hostility. It is a land of contrasts and you will never understand it.
in many Asian countries there is no equality so you will have no choice
try to come off as being superior. Otherwise, they will see you as
Some places are exceptions:
OK, here they are:
of Japanese are wonderful people, kind and generous and very humble.
half are xenophobic and nationalistic. But most are polite, even if
they do not
like you. I had many wonderful friends in
landlords do not like to rent to foreigners, so getting settled there
problem. You will have to go to agencies that specialize in renting to
foreigners. If you want to bring a Japanese girl to the
you get a good job in
Many Japanese girls have bad teeth, are bow-legged and pale. Some are pretty, though. Getting a really pretty one is not easy. Better make sure you are a top brass executive and/or look like the above mentioned Master Race actors. Money and position are important to the girl because she wants to be proud she has someone like yourself.
Here are some ladies who want to meet Westerners:
above are Chinese- populated and run (
of course) and
if you are there, you better make sure you are successful financially
you live there or visit often in an important capacity. This will
counterbalance the nationalism factor. These are much more into
than the Japanese. If you want to take the girl to the
The Chinese are smart and intellectually stimulating.
Here are some of them:
mentioned in my previous posts, it is a good place to release one's
frustrations but culturally ,
not very compatible with
the West. IMHO, Americans are not very compatible with
Again, if you are not a CEO type, you will be scraping the bottom of the barrel.
read my posts below on
Here is also a very interesting link:
If you still want a Thai:
My obseravtion was that Thais generally do not like marrying Westerners and prefer other Thais or Asians. Thai men get the best girls first and then the Farang ( Whities) get the left-overs. A cruel statement but so true in many cases.
The level of education is not very high and intellectualism and knowledge are not pursued too much unless tied in with money. Hard to have a decent conversation. I have met some brainy people there but money and status seem to be of more importance than empty intellectualizing.
Not a bad place as the people are very smart and hard-working and they like Westerners. Most girls are virgins and are gorgeous. One can stay there if one does not mind living in Communist country which allows private enterprise. It would be better to take a VNese girl out:
Here are some sites:
Still very backward politically and economically with the former being a communist country ( sort of). I have not heard of many going there for wives but changes are apparently on the way. Wanna be one of the pioneers?
In the NE of Thailand most people are ethnically Laotian and IMHO make better wives than the straight Thais. If you want to get involved with Thais go to Isaan- the NE. There you can marry with less of a problem as people are very kind and have been marrying Westerners much more easily.
can go to Souther Isaan in
There are some Lao girls here:
Very good people, English-speaking,
classy and polite with an ancient
Some pretty women. A very bad government but it is possible to go there
live if you want to be an investor. Still
not a very popular
destination for love-starved Americans. Very very
cheap. I dated a Burmese girl in
There is no known form of racism that the Burmese people nurture against a Westerner unlike the Northern Asians which do that quite often.
There are as of now no pen pal sites which make it possible to meet a nice Burmese lady through correspondence...Let's wait till Aung Sang Suu Kiy triumphs with her new democratic agenda.
These are Muslim countries. Women are OK but your best bet is to date the local ethnic Chinese. Because they are a minority, they are not as xenophobic and many speak English and are Christians. But as with most overseas Chinese, the want to find educated, successful men.
If you want to date Malays and native Indonesians, you can, but make sure you date the ones in the Christian areas or if you want a Muslim, you will have to become one yourself. You can then have more than one wife.
some areas of
Check this site for Indonesian girls with some Filipinas mixed in.
have written a lot about the
In short, the region abounds in women but one needs to know where to go in order to get the best possible deal. Every places has its advantages and disadvantages. It is important to research and even learn from others' mistakes. This way, one can come back ( or even not come back) and have no regrets.
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Really? Yup, you are right, they are down. They were there for years. Anyway, in that case, here are some alternative sites:
You will need to subscribe/fill in membership info and then use their search engine.
have search engine and you can pick "
Another site but I think you also need to fill out some info.
Hope you find these helpful
If you need info on other topics which may not be appropraite to post here, please email me privately at:
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The Malaysian Option
subject: I've been to
I met my girl online in a yahoo chatroom. I had just gone through a divorce a year ago and I had never dated an asian women before.
I had married a very very attractive white lady 5 years my junior. We were together for 7 years. I started losing interest in her when she went from 125lbs to almost 170lbs. Why is this story so typical? Why do white women "go to hell in a handbasket" once they get their wedding ring?
So getting back to my girl, she is 19 years younger than me, has her 4 year degree in biology, is REALLY beautiful and comes from a nice solid family, is catholic and yes....a virgin!
about 5 months of corresponding with her, I decided to go visit her in
arrival I checked into the Marriott. This hotel is situated in the
We did much of the touristy type activities. It was later that I realized, HEY...she never did take me to the mall or any of the nightclubs. See, she being the smart girl that she is, wanted me to stay away from all the competition, hehe. However, I was out and about enough to realize that the place is litterally crawling with young, polite, pretty, educated and ultra sexy girls any of whom would just love to go out with a nice western man. BTW, you do see quite a few 60 year old western guys walking around with 30 year old filipina.
guys, it's all about COMPETITION! The girls in
after doing a bit more research on
plan to marry my sweetheart, bring her back here for 10 years, work my
off and retire in
Thought I'd share my story....
are not that poor. They are poor compared to how much cash an average
has on hand- and that is considering the "absolute" exchange rate;
not the actual buying capacity of their money within their economy.
Everything ( except
Western electronics) is as much as six times
cheaper than in the
They all have food and most have a place to live. Even in the slums they have karaoke TV. And they do not need to pay rent in a slum.
In the countryside families live off the land and do not need but minimal amounts of cash.
A poor man can afford a wife and kids- I have seen the poorest (and ugliest) Filipino guys and not one was without a woman. Friends help each other and there are no lonely people there. Most look happy, especially the poor ones- they all have enough.
Tropical fruit and fresh fish. Gorgeous friendly girls- enough for everybody.
Poor? I think they are rich.
We are the ones who are poor.
Reasons for dating Filipinas
The main ones are these:
1) They are either drop-dead gorgeous or at worst, cute.
2) They have good characters and are modest and family oriented.
3) They speak English, are Christian and understand and like Western culture.
4) Race is not a factor for most of them. They are Asian Latinas. Spanish colonies are usually not into racialism. So, most people of most races can easily fit into their society and not be treated as "foreign devils". Other Asian countries are very ethnically fundamentalist and race is big deal.
6) They are just normal people that behave the way a human being is supposed to behave.
7) They appreciate a nice guy who treats them nice and do not treat him like sh!t in return.
8) They are inexpensive to support if you have to. $200 sent to your girlfriend every month will go a long way.
9) When they talk about me, they say " that man" instead of "that farang/foreign devil/outside person, etc.
10) They make love with great passion.