Taboo Observations and Truths About Taiwan
That No One Would Dare Say
By Winston Wu
(an oxymoron I know, but I’m a rare kind)
that counts for these people is food and making money...” - A
who lived in
Chinese version here (computer translated, not completely accurate)
Warning: These observations and truths are taboo and politically incorrect which may be offensive. Since this list was added to at different points in time, some of it may be redundant.
Intro and Disclaimer:
some reason, every article and website out there about
Why is that? Why am I the only one with guts? Why do people fear the truth? Why are they so programmed to be like the Travel Channel and say only polite noncontroversial things such as "Oh everything was so wonderful! The culture is amazing. The people were so friendly. The food was so good!" Etc. etc. Blah blah blah.
Why is truth often taboo, even when it's obviously?! What an insane world. Am I the only sane person left? No one has the courage to be honest anymore, cause the mainstream world is all about censorship. You are only allowed to say and think what you are programmed to, not the way things actually are. How sad.
Anyhow, here it is. One of the few (or only) articles about Taiwan that is truthful and accurate. These are the patterns and tendencies I've consistently observed in Taiwanese people in general. They do not apply to every Taiwanese individual of course, since there are always individual variations in any group. But they are consistent patterns I've seen in Taiwanese people. If you've ever wondered why many Chinese and Taiwanese you see are timid, shy, inhibited, robotic, unsmiling, and look very stern, serious and solemn, this will help explain why.
Note: Please do not accuse me of generalizing. Over 99 percent of Taiwanese people are pure conformists and followers who strive to be alike, not different. Therefore, it is logical and accurate to generalize them since they already “generalize themselves” by conforming to set societal standards. Also, since this list was added to at different points in time, some of it may be redundant.
The Observations (sorted in ascending order, newest on top)
- Even if you
make a lot of friends in Taiwan, you eventually realize that these
friends are really just casual acquaintances, because there is no real
connection with them. They are like empty shells with no soul or
emotions, like plastic caricatures or mannequins (similar to America,
but even worse). I've seen some of the older generation Taiwanese show
some semblance of having a soul or emotions, but the young adult
generation definitely seem empty and hollow, like plastic androids with
no soul or spirit. Thus, the friendships you make in Taiwan will
ultimately be unsatisfying.
It's also kind of
depressing when you see that people are empty shells here because it
leaves you wondering "How can humans descend into such a state of
being?" What's scary is that you know deep down that you don't want to
become like them, thus being around them could have a toxic negative
effect on you.
What's worse, most young Taiwanese are
duds with no personality and can't even hold a normal conversation.
There is nothing really there to connect with. They are the least
engaging youngsters I've ever met - usually quiet with nothing to say.
Asking them open ended questions about themselves, like interviewers
do, will not change any of this. (if it did, I wouldn't have a problem
engaging them) And even when they talk, they squeak to each other like
little mice, acting very fragile and insecure. Very weird.
What's worse, most young Taiwanese are duds with no personality and can't even hold a normal conversation. There is nothing really there to connect with. They are the least engaging youngsters I've ever met - usually quiet with nothing to say. Asking them open ended questions about themselves, like interviewers do, will not change any of this. (if it did, I wouldn't have a problem engaging them) And even when they talk, they squeak to each other like little mice, acting very fragile and insecure. Very weird.
The Siberian girl
I went out with in Taiwan, told me this after she returned to Siberia:
"Hello Winston! How are you doing? I dont
miss taiwan. I really do not miss it, maybe just tea ))))
As you can see,
she is saying that people in Siberia are "real people with real
emotions" where people in Taiwan are NOT "real people with real
American girl told me something interesting:
One point you should mention is many White men who come or live here
That's very true
and concurs with my observation as well. Most foreigners I see in
Taiwan only hang out with other foreigners, or with Westernized
Asians/Taiwanese sometimes. But not with local mainstream typical
Taiwanese. No way. So you gotta wonder, what's the point of coming to a
foreign country if you can only befriend or connect with other
Further, I don't
understand why any foreigner comes to Taiwan. If I were a foreigner who
wanted to study Chinese culture, I'd go to China. I don't see why I
would want to go to Taiwan. It doesn't make sense.
personalities commonly come in two weird extremes: 1) grumpy,
constipated, stern, strict facial expression (common among older
generation), and 2) fake innocent cheesy corny "hello kitty" facial
expression (common among young adults and teens). Ewww! Both of these
suck and are abnormal and unnatural. How do you vibe with such
unnatural personalities? I have no idea. Why can't Taiwanese just be
normal and natural? I often feel like I'm the only one that's "normal"
in Taiwan. It's like a Twilight Zone environment where normal is
abnormal, and abnormal is normal. Really weird.
- This might be personal and subjective, but Taiwan seems to have some kind of negative energy vortex. I sense a vibe of misery and repression everywhere I go in Taiwan, which is draining and undermines my self-confidence and self-esteem. I do not like it at all. It's feels horrible and draining, like some kind of toxic radiation. It's like there are hungry ghosts sucking your soul or something (in addition to the sterile environment). I feel like something is trying to choke me in Taiwan. Perhaps it's because I don't fit in or share the narrow repressiveness of the Taiwan vibe, so it has this effect on me? I guess if you are narrow and repressed yourself, then you won't notice anything it, but if you aren't, you will?
- Taiwanese are unnaturally closed, cold, repressed and narrow, which makes them seem almost inhuman. It's very weird. The thing is, I don't know how to act around people like that, especially when they expect me to be the same way as them. I guess if you are like them, you may not notice anything strange, but if you are not like them, then you will. This might sound bad, but in Taiwan, I feel like I'm the only one that's "normal". I know that sounds terrible, but I don't know how else to put it.
- Publicly, everyone says that "Taiwanese are very friendly". But they NEVER differentiate or specify what they mean, not even in blogs or websites. The term "friendly" is loosely used, even by people who don't mean it, just to appear nice. But in reality, the fact is, people do not generally smile or make eye contact with strangers in Taiwan. The only people that do are elderly or older folks, and customer service people (who are paid to be friendly and helpful). But definitely not young adults, especially females (since females are more guarded toward strangers than males are of course), who are more closed and excessively shy. If they don't know you, they will not acknowledge your existence or talk to you, unless you are introduced to them by a mutual friend.
This pattern is virtually 100 percent consistent throughout Taiwan. It's an obvious and consistent pattern that anyone can see, but no one talks about - probably because by bringing it up, you will appear to be saying that "Taiwanese are cold and unfriendly" which is negative and taboo/forbidden. This is true of multi-cultural social groups consisting of foreigners in Taiwan as well.
Yet I seem to be the only one who verbally differentiates and specifies such patterns and differences. No one else does, at least not publicly. So it's like telling the truth in Taiwan makes me a misfit. Weird. I guess most people are programmed to never say anything taboo or politically correct. They desperately want to fit in and be accepted by others, which is more important to them than telling the truth or being honest and aware. But as an intellectual and introvert, I am more apt to remain true to my "inner self/inner life" and tell the truth honestly and accurately, rather than be fake to follow the norm, which I see as inauthentic.
I guess that makes me different from others. But then again, if being honest and authentic makes me different from the crowd, and if telling the truth makes me a misfit, then that speaks volumes about what a dysfunctional society and social culture this is. And I am not afraid to say that. Where I come from, being brave, confident and courageous enough to follow your heart and tell the truth is encouraged and valued, and if that makes me a misfit in a repressed insular culture like Taiwan, then so be it. Many of the greatest writers, intellectuals and freethinkers throughout world history agree with me on this. To understand what I mean, see their quotes here: http://www.happierabroad.com/Quotes_Insanity.htm
- Although Taiwanese girls are comparable with the most beautiful females in the world, there are many major problems with them:
1) Taiwanese girls are extremely COLD and CLOSED. They are extremely stuck up and project an extreme cold wall around them that is very unnatural and inhuman. This is an inherent Taiwanese trait that makes them unapproachable, uptight and unwelcoming. They are not open or relaxed with strangers, like females in most countries are. Compared to Taiwanese women, even reptiles are warm-blooded.
2) The mentality of Taiwanese girls is very narrow, simple and primitive. Thus it's hard to connect or vibe with them. They are on a different wavelength, one that is far more insular than ours. They are the least capable of having intelligent deep conversations. The weird thing is, they expect me to be the same, but I'm not, so they don't know how to process that. This makes everything doubly difficult when combined with #1.
3) Taiwanese girls are very picky, shallow, superficial and judgmental. They have narrow standards and are very particular. It's hard to get them to respond on dating sites. They don't like guys who think for themselves or who are nonconformist in any way. In their mind, nonconformists are losers and intellectualism is weird and uncool. In my experience, as soon as I say something intelligent or deep, or show off that I am nonconformist in any way, many Taiwanese girls drop me and treat me as though I no longer exist to them. So much for being appreciated for being yourself. Add this to the above 2 problems, and the problems and obstacles to dating triple!
4) Taiwanese girls are extremely prudish and view flirtation as taboo and bad. Coming from a very prudish sterile culture, Taiwan girls are themselves very prudish. They won't let guys kiss their hand (like European girls would) and view flirting as a taboo, bad and negative. Taiwan is so prudish in fact, that movies made in Taiwan usually never show any kissing, whereas they do if they are made in mainland China. Thus it can be said that Taiwan is the most prudish country in Asia, and its women are indicative of that especially since women tend to conform to the culture. A culture where you can't even flirt simply SUCKS.
5) Taiwanese girls are very flaky and act like divas. Taiwanese females under 35 are anything but down to earth, and can flake out at any time for any reason, or even no reason. It's hard enough getting them to respond on dating sites. But even when they do, they can flake out suddenly. When they do, they disappear, forget you and ignore your emails/calls for trivial reasons or sometimes no reason.
6) Taiwanese girls tend to have this fake innocence and cheesy corny gay a** "hello kitty" expression. It's hard to explain what I mean. You have to be around them to see what I'm talking about. It's very unnatural, strange and inhuman. I have no idea how to jive with it. And I definitely wouldn't want to try to emulate it. Ewww! Ick! Weird!
7) In social groups and nightclubs in Taiwan, guys tend to outnumber girls, which creates scarcity. The guys who are in the group that the girls are in, are usually either dating the girls, or if not, then they are shielding the girls from being approached by other guys. Total cockblock. Again, this totally sucks, and when combined with the above, make the dating scene terrible beyond words and not even worth the effort.
So you see, all the above compounds to make Taiwan the WORST dating scene I've ever seen, as well as the most BORING uneventful place. It's like everything is against you. All Taiwan offers you is food and work. But for dating, love, romance and sex, it sucks and is very depriving. Terrible beyond words. In fact, no negative words in English that I can think of, can describe how terrible it is and how badly it sucks. Thus all I can say is that it is "terrible beyond words".
What's worse, you aren't allowed to say anything negative in Taiwan. The social culture is very politically correct. You are only allowed to say nice positive things about Taiwan. So you can't even tell the truth or express how you really feel without violating this social rule! Geez. At least let a guy have his free speech and honesty for crying out loud.
- Taiwan has a very politically correct
social culture that is
superficial, practical, conformist, insular, cliquish, repressed and
non-intellectual. There is an unspoken but obvious social rule that
around others, you are always expected to act positive and cheerful,
and only talk about superficial things. Anything to the contrary will
weird people out, especially young adults, and may ostracize you from
social groups. So you can't be negative (no matter how justified) or
talk about deep things in Taiwan without looking like a misfit.
What this means is that if you are unhappy or don't like something in Taiwan (and there is a lot to dislike in Taiwan, that's for sure) then no one wants to hear about it, unless you have a close and understanding friend. For example, even though it's obvious that Taiwanese are generally closed, repressed and narrow, you are not allowed to SAY that they are. It's like the Emperor's New Clothes syndrome. In that sense, you are not allowed to tell the truth in Taiwan.
This means that you often can't be yourself in Taiwan. You see, in truth, no one can be positive all the time, human nature doesn't work that way since everything is made up of a union of opposites, as the Chinese Ying Yang symbol signifies. What this means is that at least half the time, you will not be able to be yourself in Taiwan around other people - who expect you to only say positive and superficial things. What this also means is that if you are an honest truthful intellectual in Taiwan, you may find a few friends, but you will not fit into social groups or cliques, because they are strict about these social rules and political correctness.
However, I do not agree with this social rule mandating political correctness in Taiwan. You see, I don't believe that just because something is negative, that it should be denied simply because it is politically incorrect. You must understand that political correctness is about control, NOT truth. And control = loss of freedom to say and think what you want. So, since I'm a "freedom junkie" I do not believe in such control and censorship, especially when it conflicts with reality. But sadly, most people are the opposite. They prefer political correctness, control and censorship over the truth.
Even blogs and website about Taiwan follow this social rule. They only say superficial positive things about Taiwan, and give some tourist information, but nothing deeper. I would venture to guess that it's because either the authors of these blogs/sites are on a superficial wavelength themselves, or they've been to Taiwan and know the social rule there, and follow it even online for some reason. Or, of course, they genuinely like Taiwan and want to say only positive things about it. (But I honestly can't see why, since I see more negatives than positives about Taiwan)
Now you may be asking, "But isn't it like that everywhere?" The answer is a resounding NO! And if you are asking this, then you've probably never spent much time outside of Taiwan, Japan or North America. The world outside of these areas is very different. In most of Europe, young adults are intellectual, open minded and passionate, and so is the culture (in comparison to Taiwan and America at least). In Russia for example, young adults commonly speak 3 or 4 languages (German and English are usually among them) and enjoy history as a hobby, not just as a school subject. (I know because I've spent a lot of time there)
And in Italy, Greece and Spain, art and history are part of the culture and passion of the people. It is not something that they "have to study in school", rather it is something they love naturally. Love of philosophy and intellectual subjects is common even in young adults (in total contrast to Taiwan), so it is not something that only "misfits and weirdos" like (as it is in Taiwan). People are also more open and relaxed, even toward strangers, as opposed to the repressed, uptight, insular nature of the Taiwanese and its extremely shy youth.
In contrast, in Taiwan the culture and people revolve around basic practicality - such as food, making money and raising a family - and conversation revolves around light superficial topics. People are also more repressed, uptight and insular. And young adults and teens are overly shy to the extreme. Obviously, what this means is that if you are an intellectual and/or passionate type, then European countries are a much better fit for you than Taiwan. (Keep in mind though, that being a misfit somewhere will gradually decrease your level of happiness and well-being if you stay there long term)
If you are on a deep wavelength, like writers and intellectuals are, you won't find many people in Taiwan who you can talk to on your level, since everyone acts like they are on a superficial wavelength. (Even if they aren't, they will still act like it in order to fit in) Some people may be open minded enough to listen to you, but they will not be able to contribute anything back. Taiwan is not a place to find deep intellectual conversation, that's for sure. Not to brag, but as far as I know, I seem to be the only Taiwanese freethinker. I honestly don't know any others. I guess that makes me really unique, but uniqueness comes with loneliness too.
- The biggest problem in Taiwan is that the women are very closed, stuck up and antisocial. They have a "cold wall" around them and are anything but open and engaging with strangers. Wherever they go, they carry that "don't bother me look" on their face, which makes them very unapproachable. Yuck. It's very sad and depressing to see that everyday. I hate it. Taiwan has got to be one of the hardest places to approach and engage women. Their body language is cold, stuck up and cliquish.
Alongside Japan and Korea, Taiwan girls are among the least open and engaging of females in the 200+ countries of the world. Even in retail sales and customer service occupations, Taiwanese girls are cold and business-like, devoid of warmth. I don't know how they got that way, but their cold demeanor seems very inhuman.
Everywhere I go in Taiwan, the only people who will socialize with me are elderly Taiwanese and foreign travelers. That sucks, but that's how Taiwan is. The only way a stranger can get some attention from Taiwanese girls is to look like an Asian pop star, or be a foreign White guy. Otherwise, you'll have to meet women through organized activities, school, work, or through mutual friends. Taiwan is one of the few countries in the world where women are not open for casually chatting up, flirting, or "love at first sight" stares. That's the biggest downside of Taiwan. Other than that, Taiwan is a nice place overall, but there's nothing unique or special about it.
I know the problem is not me though, because women in the other 200 countries of the world (except for Japan and Korea) are not like that toward me. They are far more "normal", not like deer that spook easily as Taiwanese women do. So, if the problem were me, then all women would be antisocial and closed toward me, but they aren't (fortunately). Thus Taiwanese women are an abnormal quirk. This majorly sucks because it means that in general, Taiwanese women are "all look but no touch". So what's the point of them being hot then? All that does is exemplify the irony of Murphy's Law.
Moreover, even if you are lucky enough to get acquainted with a slippery standoff-ish modern Taiwanese girl, you will find that they usually have very difficult and complicated personalities. They are not simple, straightforward and direct like their counterparts in mainland China. Instead, they like to play games, give mixed messages, and flake out. They are selfish and narcissistic - and rotten and spoiled to the core. In short, all they are good for is "eye candy", nothing else. That's sad, but that's the truth, as politically incorrect as it may be.
Now, please don't flame me for saying all this. I didn't make Taiwanese girls the way they are, I'm just the only one brave enough to tell the politically incorrect truth about them. Therefore, by attacking me, you would not be doing so because I am wrong, but because I am the only one telling the truth. Thus, you would in effect be advocating the suppression of truth, and upholding the facade of political correctness. Is that what you want? Think about it.
- Taiwanese have a
on their face, and a cold, strict, stuck up expression.
closed in personality and social attitude,
and act overly serious and inhibited. If you look in their eyes, you
miserable repressed inner state of anxiety. This is apparent all over
- Being in
- Taiwanese are completely driven by fear and guilt. It's in their vibes and face to the nth degree, and will rub off on you if you are around them long. They are conditioned to be weak and insecure. Inside they are empty and miserable. These are the traits that drive them to be conformists and workaholics. Living in fear, weakness and having no identity, they badly need something to conform to and a structure in their lives for security and safety.
This is why so many of them are workaholics and often work 7 days a week. It's not just because they like to make money. That is just their excuse, for even wealthy retired Taiwanese are still workaholics. It's because working all the time gives their fearful empty selves some structure to conform to, which brings them a sense of safety and security. That's what makes them such willing slaves, and those who run the country love it. That's what drives Taiwanese to seek fixed structures and routines, as well as bondage and servitude. Their minds are not free at all, and neither are their lives. They don't want to be free. Freedom brings insecurity and loss of identity to the Taiwanese. Eric Fromm's "Escape from Freedom" treatise describes the Taiwanese psyche very well.
- On the surface,
appear very shy, especially young women. But that shyness is just a
not the root cause of people being difficult to meet in
And that's why Taiwanese girls in particular, are like deer and spook easily. They are the most frightened creatures on Earth, and have a fearful closed body language which is easily observable. They have no social skills, no confidence, and are the exact opposite of open and direct. They cannot deal with anything outside of their realm of familiarity and routine. These words may sound unkind or judgmental, but that is the obvious truth.
- Ironically, though the young generation of Taiwan considers itself to be more open, progressive and educated than the older generation, the reality is that young people in Taiwan do NOT smile or talk to strangers much, while the elderly/senior citizens of Taiwan are much more likely to smile and talk to strangers. It's a classic discrepancy between image/pride vs. reality.
you've never been outside
There is NO social energy at all in
- Taiwanese have a very cold exterior. They may be good, kind and caring on the inside, true, but their exterior is definitely cold, stoic, stern, grim. They do not make eye contact with strangers, or smile or say hi, especially the females. Elderly people sometimes smile at strangers, but young women, no way! This is a very obvious fact. But most do not dare admit it publicly because it is not politically correct to acknowledge this fact.
interesting difference between
those who argue that
Taiwanese are workaholics and work 6 or 7 days a week,
often with long hours til
late evening. To them, this
is normal and an honor. But in reality, they are giving away 80 to 90
of their lives in slavery rather than freedom or fulfilling rich
experiences. But to them, the money they make justifies the complete
freedom and the priceless 80 to 90 percent of their lives. To me, it is
and shallow, but that is their culture. That being said, you will not
is why you find many Taiwanese immigrants and workers
- Deep down, the Taiwanese mind and soul does not believe that life should be enjoyed, but should be suffered and toiled. Hence they lack an inability to truly enjoy life. This is why they seem so inhibited. It’s both in their genes and culture, and probably some of Confucius’ teachings had something to do with it too. Enjoying life and having fun makes them feel guilty. When they rest or go on vacation, they make sure that it is only for short and brief periods, cause too long causes guilt and anxiety.
This is why even wealthy Taiwanese people prefer to continue to work, even when they don’t have to, rather than enjoying their life or traveling the world. They simply can’t enjoy anything else and feel empty without laboring and toiling. And this is why on Christmas Day you will still find most Chinese restaurants to still be open.
Taiwanese culture, only two things are important –
MAKING MONEY and FOOD. Now there's nothing wrong with those
they are a part of life, but if all your interests are limited to ONLY
two things, then you become narrow, one dimensional, and no fun to be
with. And unfortunately, that’s how many Taiwanese
That's why the Night Market
in Taiwan is
mostly composed of FOOD, cause when they go out at night, it's to look
food, not fun (as if there were nothing to do at night except look for
what about fun, sex, adventure, and social interaction?)
one-dimensional existence, especially if you are coming from a more
In a Swiss article, a Swiss woman who lived in
- Though Taiwanese are good natured people, caring and sensitive deep down beneath their closed narrow exterior, unfortunately they can be a negative influence. This is because they are extremely fearful and weak deep down (conditioned to be that way by their culture and family), lacking any true confidence, and so if you hang around them too much it can rub off on you, making you weak and fearful as well. In the big picture that is not a good thing, because that is how the elite controls the population, by segregating the population and conditioning them to live in fear.
- Taiwanese are an odd blend of traits. Deep down, their basic nature is gentle, kind, generous, sensitive, caring, good natured, humble and moralistic. But they are also cold, strict, controlling, tense, high strung, quick to anger, narrow, closed-minded, non-expressive, uptight, strict, stern, solemn, rigid, fearful, and introverted.
- Beneath their closed exterior, Taiwanese and Chinese women deep down have a caring sensitive nature, as well as a delicacy in their touch that females of other races, especially white, do NOT have.
- Taiwanese use NEGATIVE reinforcement to condition people, usually by instilling FEAR, GUILT and WEAKNESS in them. This is how Taiwanese parents usually are with their children. They use fear, guilt and scorn to motivate you. They actually believe that making you feel SMALL, WEAK and GUILTY helps improve you and makes you perform better! No kidding! It’s kind of demented, sick and twisted, of course, but that’s their philosophy, method and style. It's not deliberate, but a part of their inner personality, probably instinctual on some level. They themselves are weak and fearful deep down and were raised that way, so they try to transfer it to others.
- Taiwanese parents teach their offspring to FEAR their enemies rather than be strong and stand up to them. In other words, they teach that one should yield rather than fight or stand their ground. They instill the fear of consequences in you, and warn you of terrible things that will happen to you if you fight your adversaries, so you best yield or compromise to them. Simply put, they teach weakness rather than strength, and fear rather than courage. That's not good for many reasons, but that's what they do. Not only do they do that with your enemies, but with ANYONE you come into conflict with, even when you are in the RIGHT! It's like they always take the other side and side AGAINST their own! That's crazy and simply wrong and makes no logical sense!
Taiwanese people, like most in
- In public, Taiwanese people are extremely prudish, at least on the surface, so much in fact that they are proud of it. Even the friendly people there have a prudish vibe, body language and demeanor. So much in fact, that anyone who is NOT prudish is a strange misfit there. That is just really bizarre and creepy, that being “ice cold” is the norm. Ick.
Taiwanese people live in FEAR, are controlled by FEAR, and transfer the
FEAR in them to their children as well. It's in their facial
body language and personal vibes. People who are controlled
by fear exude a certain type of vibes that you can sense if you're
energies and auras. I sense it all the time and it makes me
because I refuse to live in fear. But be around it long enough,
and it rubs off on you.
Next time you're out in public or around Taiwanese people, watch their facial expressions and body language carefully. Or watch Taiwanese actors or news commentators on YouTube or TV. You will notice in their expressions that these people were raised, shaped and conditioned by FEAR. It becomes painfully obvious after some observation.
They also TRANSFER this fear and guilt within them to their children. Next time you see a parent scolding his/her child, watch both their faces and tone of voice. You will notice that during the scolding, there is a TRANSFERENCE of fear from the parent to the child. With a hypnotic gaze and voice, the parent INJECTS the child with the FEAR inside them, along with GUILT for misbehaving or being out of line. That is classic Chinese style conditioning. You can feel and sense this in the parent's voice as he/she is scolding or lecturing their child. FEAR is their primary motivator and GUILT is the consequence.
Taiwanese parents do not consciously choose to do this or rationally think it out. It’s mostly unconscious, like an instinctual habit that was passed on to them by their parents. It may even be genetic since it's so inherent and widespread among the Chinese population. Sadly though, they will even do this over trivial things, and you have to remember that the Chinese nature is highly picky and judgmental about little things.
I too was raised with fear/guilt instilling tactics like this, but I saw it for what it was and diffused it. Through traveling and spiritual exploration, my natural self came out as my mind became liberated. I learned to assert myself, be confident, have faith in the universe, and live in optimism, not fear or guilt. In effect, I've transcended this outdated and primitive form of mind control by the Taiwanese, the Christian Church and the Military.
Psychologically, they FEAR that if they aren't disciplined, organized and controlled, then chaos and evil will erupt, leading to the downfall of society as well as life itself. FEAR keeps them in line, and so it's useful, and they then in turn use FEAR to control their own children as well.
To make things worse, they also tend to be WORRYWARTS as well. Their parents constantly worry about every little thing and are very apprehensive. That of course, reinforces the FEAR that they already live under, since worry and fear perpetuates each other in a vicious cycle.
- In Taiwanese and classic Chinese conditioning, CONFIDENCE and ASSERTIVENESS are NOT valued or encouraged at all. People who are confident are harder to control, for they do not live in fear, and fear as you know, is the best control mechanism of a population. And assertiveness is a threat to authority, and therefore not good for orderly control and hierarchy. Instead, the primary traits instilled in classic Chinese conditioning are weakness, humility, obedience, practicality and filial piety.
- They also have no inner confidence or faith, but are weak and fearful deep down, thus they get offended and annoyed easily. When mad or insulted, they can erupt in a rage of fury. Watch the news, and you will see that their political commentators yell in a rage of fury all the time, as though it were their standard way of talking. It seems that there is a mixture of gentleness and intensity within them.
- Generally, Taiwanese are practical, narrow and emotional, but not logical or rational. They think only in terms of PRACTICAL things. That's why conversations with them are not very broad or intellectual in scope. They are not used to intellectualizing over concepts and thus if you try that with them, you run into a dead wall, especially with the younger crowd. The older crowd have a better chance of being philosophical than the younger crowd does. In fact, the young crowd in Taiwan do not even use the word “spiritual” in their vocabulary, I’m told.
aren't knowledgeable about many topics and can't hold
conversations beyond practical things. To them, only practical things
like work, money, shelter, food, etc. Deep subjects like
Taoism, Eastern Philosophy, the Analects of Confucius, etc. are for
philosophers, and old retired people contemplating the meaning of their
and where they will go next. Young people should only be
practical things and necessities.
- Since they see only surface practicalities, and their minds are designed to conform and follow, they cannot think for themselves, or analyze and critique a system, idea or philosophy. For example, they like telling you whether they think you're more fat or skinny than before. But they can't open up the Bible or Communist Manifesto or read Sigmund Freud's theories and find contradictions, flaws or fallacies in them. Nor can they critique a theory or argument point by point, or analyze something deeply. This is because such things requires thinking outside the box and critical examination. But they are trained (and perhaps genetically inclined) to be followers who conform and think within a narrow spectrum. Plus they find intellectual, abstract or philosophical things to be useless and idle, and of no use in a practical world. If you attempt to discuss such things with them, they can only say "Oh ok" or "Oh really" or even "That's useless, why think about it?".
- If you tell a typical Taiwanese person something that is outside the box, unconventional, or critiques the system, they can only say "oh ok" or "oh really" and not much else because their brains can't really process something that's outside the box. All they can do is be polite at your attempt to share your ideas with them even though it's beyond them.
- From birth, they are taught that life is VERY serious. One is not to smile or be bubbly. One must be stern, solemn, reserved, humble, modest and work hard and diligently. That is how a good citizen behaves. Your opinions don't count, so don't bother expressing them. Only your conformity and work ethic matter and define you as a person. A good person follows and conforms, a bad person doesn't.
- People don't smile much, unless they are joking with their friends, paid to smile (e.g. customer service), or want you to buy something. The most genuine smiles you will see in
- Even though Taiwanese students study many hours of the day, in both their primary school and after school private classes (bu shi ban), they don’t seem to know much. This is because they do not study for the love of learning, nor are they taught how to think. They study only to memorize data to pass tests, and then afterward flush the data out of memory. So their heart is not really in it. They are motivated by fear and the hope of raising their status through academic achievement.
issue of whether Taiwanese people are generally
friendly or not is subjective, as each person has their own standards
“friendliness” is. I
would say that
Taiwanese people are only friendly in their own way, in a
rigid” manner within their inhibitions.
But they are not friendly in
an open, carefree, free-flowing, expressive
It’s not in their
This is difficult to explain
in words, as
you’d have to observe them on a regular basis to see what I
Most are polite and kind deep
down. But they
do not talk to strangers, only to people in their family, cliques and
they know at school or work. Strangers are basically ignored. One is
not to pursue a social life, but only work, work and work.
- For people like me who are open, direct, assertive, open/broad minded, freethinking, intellectual, and confident,
Being a workaholic is virtuous to them. It's not uncommon for Taiwanese to work 7 days a week. Even if they can take days off, they don't because they see taking days off as losing money. Without a job you are nothing. They revel in the wage slave routine and do not suffer in it. In fact, they suffer more when they don't work than when they do. They feel that they were not born to be free, but to work hard, obey and conform. Once in a while, they take a vacation, but they make sure it's short, controlled and doesn't get out of hand.
- When Taiwanese talk about freedom, they usually refer to political and nationalistic freedom from Mainland
Young girls in
- Since they are taught to be humble and quiet, not surprisingly they are not usually assertive. Thus, their communication skills are short and abrupt, not articulate or skillful at conveying meanings and details. This can lead to misunderstandings with people who prefer things to be well defined and specific, like me. This is why people in Asian commonly give bad directions. They can’t articulate well so they prefer to point to a general direction rather than give step by step directions with street names.
Typically, within families the older generation Taiwanese
act like are yelling and arguing as if it were a normal part of their
It’s very odd, like
have deep anger and intensity that needs to be released in such a
So either they are quiet and
humble, or talk
like they are fighting in casual situations.
This style of interacting is
not logical, but instinctive and serves no
purpose. Of course they don’t see that because their nature
is to follow what
they’ve always done, not to seek ways to improve and change.
- They are also taught to FEAR strangers and be paranoid of them, which is ironic because
That is one reason why young adults in
- They are NOT taught to be self-confident, assertive, courageous, or to have faith in themselves or life. Instead, they are taught to be weak, afraid, timid, reserved and humble. They are made dependent on guidance, correction and control. To them, confidence and assertiveness are not virtues, but meekness and filial piety are. In addition, they are often ridiculed and verbally abused by their parents, just for the heck of it. And when that happens, they are to take it without resistance.
- If you are a guy who likes meeting beautiful women, there are many stunning lookers in
in public, most Taiwanese women wear this "don't
bother me" mask on their face, which is also in their body language and
vibe. Thus, even the bravest guy feels uncomfortable about
them cold. That's because doing so feels illegal and
far, every guy who has claimed that Taiwanese girls are open and
strangers has FAILED and chickened out when I ask them to approach
girls in public. Though they deny it verbally, deep down they
inappropriate and socially unacceptable in
- Taiwanese women are very commitment oriented. They do not date for fun or thrills, but purely for the goal of marriage. They thrive on commitment and rigid routine, NOT adventure, thrills, excitement, variety or imagination. In short, they are extremely boring compared to other foreign women I've experienced. Also, with their purely practical mindset, don't expect much creativity, imagination or philosophical insights from them.
- They are taught that being "open minded" is not a good thing either, for being too open can allow too many conflicting ideas to enter your head and confuse you, resulting in chaos, disorder and lack of discipline and control. So, one should be closed minded, and rigidly stick to the set ways that lead to success, like being practical, humble and working diligently to please others. It's a military style philosophy.
- Like the Christian fundamentalists, they believe that human nature is inherently evil and idle, and thus needs to be strictly controlled. "With too much time on your hands, the devil causes you to do mischief" so the saying goes. They believe that people need to be controlled and disciplined until they become hard working obedient humble people who are kept in line. And of course, they need to live in fear. Fear is seen as a good thing. It keeps people righteous and disciplined. Likewise, Christians also live in fear of divine punishment and hell. The church leaders see this as a good thing. There's a verse in the Book of Proverbs that says "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." (Proverbs 9:10) That's why many Taiwanese people convert easily into Evangelical Christianity. It contains all the inherent facets they were raised and conditioned with - black and white morality/thinking, strict control of human nature, fear as a disciplinary tool, strive for righteousness, condemnation of those who believe differently than you, a highly judgmental mentality, the inherent sinful nature of man, negative view of freedom and too much free time, puritannical values, etc.
- Ironically, even though Buddhism is supposed to be an Eastern religion, Taiwanese people do not have a Buddhist mentality at all. Most are nothing like "Kwai Chang Caine" (David Carradine in Kung Fu). They have a highly materialistic mentality coupled with a strict black and white Christian style morality, rigid thinking, righteousness, judgmental mindset, and live in fear and are controlled by it. They also have short fuses and get annoyed or angry quite easily (remember how easily pissed and angry Bruce Lee got in his films, that's how he was in real life too) Plus, contrary to the Buddhist concept of being nonjudgmental and nonattached, they are highly judgmental, controlling and picky about little things.
- Chinese people are commonly very picky and judgmental about little things, "anal retentive" in other words. It seems to be in their nature. This can be good for quality control and is one reason why Chinese food is so delicious and among the best in the world. But it's bad for human relations. This is why Chinese people often argue with each and sour their relations, even with relatives and close friends. They tend to make a big deal out of nothing. Their controlling nature is adamant about getting their way, and they lack people skills as well as the ability to compromise. Being highly tense, they are not at peace or at one with nature or the universe. As a result, Chinese couples tend to argue about little things over and over again, often for years without end. It's highly irrational of course, but this is the behavior of those who are petty, uptight and anal retentive. People who are closed minded, anal, rigid and judgmental will have trouble getting along even with their own kind, while open minded nonjudgmental types are much better at getting along without fussing over trivial things. The latter are more tolerant and usually have far better people skills and communication skills.
- Most Taiwanese families are very rigid in their routines. They go to bed and rise at the same time each day, even on weekends, and eat at the same time each day. They will never eat dinner in front of the TV like some American families do. Everything is set in a highly structured routine. There is little or no variety in their lives. But they like it that way. They thrive on rigid routines, and are squarer than a table.
Although there are individual variations and exceptions to the rule, in general Taiwanese people and culture in general is narrow, conservative, prudish and square. Only two things matter to them, food and making money, making them very one-dimensional and no fun. They do not live to enjoy life, but to be workaholics and are empty without work. They are also among the most prudish and square people I’ve ever met. And of course, they live in fear, weakness and have no self-confidence. Such traits are typical in societies where the elite need to keep people under control and servitude, in order to maintain their power and prevent any revolutions. Taiwanese need to wake up and realize that they are infinite consciousness at their root who can choose to live in love, oneness and spirituality, rather than remain subservient fearful drones who only live to produce and consume. As David Icke says, “Infinite Love is the only truth. All else is illusion.”
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