Welcome IraqVet. How did you find us? I'm glad you liked my ebook. I divided your post into paragraphs. Hope you don't mind.IraqVet2003 wrote:Hello Winston, I am new to this Happier Abroad forum. I'm a black single guy in his early 40's who has never been married and has no children. Also I'm a military veteran with 8yrs of active duty service. I currently live in Honolulu, Hawaii. I would like to say you (and poster JAMESBOND) are correct that in the U.S. the so-called "singles scene" doesn't really exist except for bars and clubs (or in T.V. shows/Hollywood films).
Winston you are also right about your observations of a man who is single would be "out of place" in the social scene/culture in modern America. Because I too have noticed that when I'm eating out at a restaurant such as Tony Roma's, Chili's, Outback, T.G.I Friday's,etc. I see either couples, groups, or families. But hardly anyone else eating alone. And it's pretty much the same everywhere else from the beach, movie theaters, shopping malls, amusement parks, tour groups/attractions, etc. However, I have no desire to go to bars or clubs (which I think are geared towards younger people) and I don't drink.
And as for online dating sites, I don't even bother with those. This is because I have checked out some these websites and many of the women have income requirements and expectations that are out of this world!!! And than I wonder if someone who is on those sites are they trying to get a date/marriage partner or applying for a job or bank loan!! But I noticed with the Foreign dating/marriage sites such as Christian Filipina.com and AmoLatina.com they don't have such requirements!!! The women on those sites care more about a man's CHARACTER not his CASHFLOW.
Anyway, Winston I have read your E-book "Happier Abroad-Why you would be happier abroad than in the U.S." and it has inspired me to pursue a degree in TESOL (Teaching English as a Second Language) so I could leave the U.S. to teach English abroad in places (such as Thailand, Japan, U.A.E., or in Europe). Hopefully to have a wider and a more inclusive social experience.
I'm glad you made it out of Iraq alive and well. Did you experience any culture or people in Iraq?
You've probably felt that something was very wrong in America for a long time but could not put your finger on it. Hopefully now you can.
There are a lot of black guys here, and asian guys too. That's because black guys tend to love truth for some reason. They can relate to feeling oppressed and like it when guys like me keep it real and do not bullshit.
Check out this new audio recording I did about the 5 benefits of leaving America that you might like:
http://www.happierabroad.com/podcasts/5 ... erseas.mp3