Final solution of the Tsar problem

[Lucas88]

Particularly the whole offer of you potentially guiding him around in a more "boots on the ground" sort of way. That sounds like a dream.

My intention right now is to go to Colombia (perhaps Medellín or some other place in the temperate highlands) once I have recovered from my current health problems but now that I have spoken with Tsar about Peru I feel tempted to first spend an extended vacation in some quieter Peruvian city if not for any other reason than to score with some of the cute indiecitas and mestizas and make their fantasies come true. I know that Outcast wouldn't approve due to his traditionalist views but whenever I'm in Latin America all of the hot Latinas with their golden-brown complexion, big butts and passionate energy bring out a really sexually aggressive side in me and I just feel horny all of the time and want to get on so many of them. If I do go to Peru and Tsar is serious about coming to Peru and also ready to do so logistically then I will certainly receive him and do my best to orient him. The only condition that I put is that he enroll in an immersive language school and study the language seriously. A homestay program with a Peruvian family would be ideal since he would have ample opportunity to socialize and make new connections.

I, too, am grateful for the new offers to help Tsar. I truly hope they materialize into something, and soon. If not this year, than the next year. A year not traveled or spent by one's lonesome self is a year not truly lived. And at the end of the day, our troubled friend has plenty of good qualities left. Enough to appeal to a Peruvian girl, I'm sure, or an Indonesian were he to take my advice from last year. He looks youthful enough. But he would need to also approach men, I think, to form some sort of friendship. Practice social interaction with the same gender so there's no risk of romance and no fear of "failure", to help Tsar acquire those skills to chat up a stranger when needed.

Tsar does need to practice social skills with people of both genders and I think that a Latin culture could be an ideal training ground for him. In my experience people in Mediterranean/Latin cultures are more tolerant of individual differences. If you are socially awkward you can just be honest about it and most people will understand. Not everywhere is like America or the UK where everybody who is a bit different is quickly dismissed as a "weirdo". I often have conversations with Tsar about this. He asks me if such-and-such is acceptable in X country and I always tell him to forget about American social norms because Continental European is totally different and you are freer to be yourself.

@Lucas88I’m really impressed by the lengths you went to to help Tsar. If he sounded receptive to the idea then it’s great to see that he has a real chance. I wouldn’t have thought of Peru but I guess your expertise in Latin America really paid off here.

From what I understand you've also maintained contact with him too and given him advice so you deserve some credit too. Pixel--Dude and I are helping Tsar because he has shown himself to be a great person despite what some people here think about him, and we already regard him as a friend. We knew that our defense of Tsar in light of his ban would get us a lot of heat but we felt that it was the right thing to do.

@MarcosZeitola, this is another reason why I think that Tsar should be allowed back on the forum: here he has a lot of people who really care about him and are willing to help him. To enforce a permanent ban on him would only serve to cut him off from a large part of his online support network.

[WanderingProtagonist]

@MarcosZeitola, this is another reason why I think that Tsar should be allowed back on the forum: here he has a lot of people who really care about him and are willing to help him. To enforce a permanent ban on him would only serve to cut him off from a large part of his online support network.

I actually agree a lot with this. And lately the amount of goodwill shown towards him has been something else, hasn't it? It's almost as if HappierAbroad became "HelpTsarGetHappierAbroad" and it's kind of awesome and wholesome in a way to see that development, especially since this place has kind of a history of people just shitting on each other for no reason.

Gotta say I'm a little bit bummed out by @Winston for quietly banning Tsar without even notifying the rest of the forum. Usually the procedure when banning a long-standing member is for Winston to make a post in the "Banning and Warning Announcement" thread. He'll frequently cut a member some slack, too, even make posts and polls asking the forum for its imput before kicking someone off permanently, and even then, he'll frequently show mercy at the last minute.

To have him not do so, in this case, is rather odd. I posted in the Banning-topic and asked Winston for his two cents. He doesn't seem to weigh in an awful lot on forum affairs lately, and seems rather absent as far as leaders go. Bit of a disappointment. I hope he'll see all the commotion and finally weigh in with his take on all this, and perhaps rectify things:

viewtopic.php?f=33&t=14395&p=378394#p378394

For now, we just, do what we can. The Latin America plan sounds great, and while learning Spanish may not be easy, few languages ever are. If you want to truly succeed at anything in life, it will inevitably take work. I don't know what health problem you suffer from, but here's hoping you recover quickly from whatever ails you and find a way to help our buddy in those lands of bronzed bubble butts and brilliantly white smiles!

Could just be that he has a very busy life now compared to all those times he had the freedom to be on here. I remember days when I use to visit this site almost every day, even at school just to read what the guy had to say. I didn't even make an account here until this year, but I've always been on the site, just never interacted with anybody or had an account. But I'd say he's probably just extremely busy with a lot of things. Hard to tell. I started viewing HA around 2012-2013 I believe.

[galii]

@MarcosZeitola, this is another reason why I think that Tsar should be allowed back on the forum: here he has a lot of people who really care about him and are willing to help him. To enforce a permanent ban on him would only serve to cut him off from a large part of his online support network.

I actually agree a lot with this. And lately the amount of goodwill shown towards him has been something else, hasn't it? It's almost as if HappierAbroad became "HelpTsarGetHappierAbroad" and it's kind of awesome and wholesome in a way to see that development, especially since this place has kind of a history of people just shitting on each other for no reason.

Gotta say I'm a little bit bummed out by @Winston for quietly banning Tsar without even notifying the rest of the forum. Usually the procedure when banning a long-standing member is for Winston to make a post in the "Banning and Warning Announcement" thread. He'll frequently cut a member some slack, too, even make posts and polls asking the forum for its imput before kicking someone off permanently, and even then, he'll frequently show mercy at the last minute.

To have him not do so, in this case, is rather odd. I posted in the Banning-topic and asked Winston for his two cents. He doesn't seem to weigh in an awful lot on forum affairs lately, and seems rather absent as far as leaders go. Bit of a disappointment. I hope he'll see all the commotion and finally weigh in with his take on all this, and perhaps rectify things:

viewtopic.php?f=33&t=14395&p=378394#p378394

For now, we just, do what we can. The Latin America plan sounds great, and while learning Spanish may not be easy, few languages ever are. If you want to truly succeed at anything in life, it will inevitably take work. I don't know what health problem you suffer from, but here's hoping you recover quickly from whatever ails you and find a way to help our buddy in those lands of bronzed bubble butts and brilliantly white smiles!

In the PH he has not to learn English. He did not go there so why would he do Peru which is 10 times more difficult? Btw if he gets back to the forum he will not change. He loves his 'fantasies'. Winston is I think is in the US and therefore busy with debunking tipping and other important stuff

[MrMan]

I appreciate your help a lot, too. Tsar is the one guy on this forum who I sort of felt compelled to help and who has, over the years, become a genuine friend. Which is odd because back in 2014 and 2015, I kind of "mocked" him a little bit. I tried to do the whole "tough love" thing, get him out of his mindset, break down some of his illusions. Didn't help and didn't really feel right to go about it that way. I then approached him, instead, from a position of genuine respect; he's a clever guy, obviously. Troubled, yes, but clever all the same. And I came up with a number of options for him to take. I particularly liked the Indonesia plan because it would require limited effort on his behalf and honestly, from all the people I know who married Indonesian girls, they make dream spouses. I'm sure @MrMan can attest to this: one does not easily get with a woman who can cook you satay babi and soto ajam or nasi goreng and... not love her to absolute pieces.

Women are women and while there might be some good wife-traits that are more common in Indonesia than in other countries, marrying an Indonesian does not guarantee hapiness, of course.

My wife made Thai fried rice recently, but skewering the meat is a bit of a hassle. She is a gourmet cook, so we get all kind of variety, and it is really good.

But for Tsar, he'd said if he went for a Filipina, he'd be going for second-best, settling, or whatever. He seemed to really want someone young and white, maybe Ukranian or Russian. At first, and occasionally later, he expressed an interest in a virgin. An 18-year-old eastern European sounded like what he wanted.

But I advised him to get established in a career. Women who are traditional want men to support them, and career women want men who are at least on the same level career-wise, usually.

[MrMan]

The title of this thread seems Hitleresque.

[publicduende]

[...] What's missing, until now, is proper guidance and a step-by-step course of action.

@MarcosZeitola

The man is in his 30s. He should be able to know what steps to take to improve his life, or at least know how to get it, from Google or a few friends. Despite his immaturity and his over-the-top statements, I see he does have a lot people here who seem to care about him doing well.

As @MrMan says, unless he is a model-like stud who is only seen (and f***ed!) at face value, Tsar should try to de-focus from his obsession about getting a hot teenager and get some real-life skills. You know, like learning a profession or trade that allows him to be financially stable. Chicks can always wait, his lack of stability is already damaging his life and the damage will be irreversible if he doesn't take steps now.

[publicduende]

I actually agree with that completely, and told Tsar as much. All a man needs in this world to get everything he desires, more or less, is some degree of wealth. Tsar is not a bad looking fellow, and unlike some men in their thirties, he is not yet balding. So chances are in ten years, when he's in his forties, he'll still look alright. He would also still be broke, and miserable, if he doesn't start making real money and gaining real life experience.

A man with some solid and stable income, a well-dressed, well-spoken man who maintains somewhat of a social life, will not have any trouble attracting a partner. Even a very young one, if he is so inclined, and knows the right places to go and the right avenues to take. But he'd have to be able to offer the girl something... and he'd have to convince her family, too. Saying: "I'm a self-made businessman/day trader/financial analyst/IT specialist" or what-have-you may pique the interest of his father-in-law-to-be. Whereas "I am 30+ and live off of government benefits from a country, the USA, that I despise" would cause them to lose interest or show him the door almost instantly.

Amen to all of the above!

I don't see him attracting the girl of his dreams right now. But I'd like for him to at the very least get laid, get some degree of experience through any means necessary, so that he would be able to have a sense of "victory" that may put him on a more positive trajectory going forward. He ought to know all of this, but he is stubborn. A psychiatrist might not be a bad idea at this point, either, or some sort of therapy group or something similar. More professional help than people on this forum are qualified to offer him.

That's where, if he really were smart(er) about his way of approaching life, he would act differently. He would forget about trophy teenagers that he would spend only a few weeks with, arguing most days and learning little, and maybe hook up with a nice MILF who can teach him a lot, about sex and more.

[Outcast9428]

@MrMan @MarcosZeitola and @publicduende my friend and I have tried to tell Tsar many times that simply getting a job would make his life 10x easier. He doesn't need that prestigious of a job but he does need a job. Having a job in general wins you a lot more respect in girls' eyes and especially in the eyes of their family. I just struggle to see him getting any girl, no matter where he goes, telling them that he is living off of disability checks. If he does go to Peru then I really think he should look for a way to get a job in whatever community he chooses to settle into. Getting a job is also a way of settling into the community and getting to know the people there.

[publicduende]

@MrMan @MarcosZeitola and @publicduende my friend and I have tried to tell Tsar many times that simply getting a job would make his life 10x easier. He doesn't need that prestigious of a job but he does need a job. Having a job in general wins you a lot more respect in girls' eyes and especially in the eyes of their family. I just struggle to see him getting any girl, no matter where he goes, telling them that he is living off of disability checks. If he does go to Peru then I really think he should look for a way to get a job in whatever community he chooses to settle into. Getting a job is also a way of settling into the community and getting to know the people there.

Yep.