Well dude all I can say is you can live in your reality and I'll live in mine and we'll call it at that. Others can decide for themselves as stated previously. Okay your half Asian, I got it. The Philippines doesn't have one culture it's a hodgepodge of various ones like what America is becoming. Learning Tagalog is only worth it if you love learning languages or are working regularly with the poor. I'd rather spend my time learning a more useful language if I'm gonna do that. Tagalog isn't even a full modern language, they have to use English with it just to be able to talk in modern day vernacular. They don't even have a broadsheet in Tagalog, only English. Does that show how much the educated classes respect their supposed national language? When you visit other parts of the Philippines they prefer using their own language or if educated, English. If they wanted to be a proper unified nation they should have long ago either modernized the Tagalog language or created an entirely new language based on a combination of the major ones already in existence.
As you state an Asian wife ruling the home is the norm, Westerners may not want that so they either have to accept it, retrain the girl to his liking or forgo getting with an Asian chick all together. I prefer retraining or forgoing, and others may too.
I'm not hell bent on English proficiency it's when the country markets itself as being a place that is tourist friendly and all that, when it isn't really is the problem.
This is a summary of the main problems with Filipinos as explained by a fellow Filipino national. It's not just ignorant Westerners pointing out various drawbacks of Filipinos:
http://getrealphilippines.com/blog/2013 ... pino-want/
What does the Filipino want?
January 21, 2013
by FallenAngel
The Filipino desperately declares to the rest of the world that he is the best among the lot, yet the current political, economic, and social states of his country, the mannerisms of his people, and the quality of his thinking prove otherwise.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino claims that being a colony for more than 400 years has been like shackles which keep him tied down. Yet now that he is no longer a colony or protectorate, he runs back to his former masters to give his own life definition.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino desperately wants the rest of the world to validate that his people and his country are respectable and important, yet when given a chance to step up, he squanders it.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino wants certain societal behaviors to be corrected, yet when rules and guidelines are set for him, he cries foul. He cries that his beloved “freedom� is being taken away.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino claims he is always a victim of circumstances, yet when he is given a chance to uplift himself to a better condition, he cries victim even harder and refuses to learn his lesson.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino wants others to understand him because he is “special�, he is “unique�, and he is Filipino. Yet when asked to understand others, he ignores it and resorts to being judgmental and holier-than-thou.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino cries out for change, yet when given suggestions on what needs to be changed, he cries persecution, racism, and lets his balat-sibuyas tendencies take over.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino does not like corruption displayed by his public officials, yet he will not hesitate to bend the rules for his own benefit and convenience.
What does the Filipino want?
The Filipino keeps hoping for a better future, yet when asked to plan for it, you will at best get a blank stare and head scratching.
What does the Filipino want?
Finally, the Filipino does not want a politician who has studied extensively; he is afraid that he/she would use his/her intellect to steal from the country’s coffers. Yet currently he is stuck with a whole bunch of mediocre politicians he himself voted into government, and now he finds himself complaining that they are all corrupt and/or incompetent just the same.
What does the Filipino want?
What the Filipino wants, quite simply, is this:
The Filipino wants to have his cake, and eat it too.
The Filipino wants all of the glory, none of the work.
The Filipino wants his life to get better without lifting a finger.
The Filipino wants to be spoon-fed and taken by the hand.
The Filipino wants to be babied and cajoled by the rest of the world.
The Filipino wants the fruit of hard work to fall from the tree into his gaping mouth.
The Filipino wants respect to be handed to him on a silver platter without the need to reciprocate it.
In short, the Filipino is lazy.
What does he plan to do about it, you might ask? That’s the problem; he has lived with his laziness so long that he has forgotten what it feels like to get up. He has lived in inhospitable conditions for so long that anything considered merely acceptable in other more developed places is a wonder to him. He has been told, more than once, that it takes discipline, hard work, and sustainable thinking to utilize his environment, his skills, and his resources properly.
The world is changing; Filipinos need to adapt to the ever-changing climate, environment, and times. The time has come for the three-headed dragon of pwede-na-yan, bahala-na, and impunity to lose its heads once and for all.
The Filipino needs to be deconstructed so he can be rebuilt anew, towards a more progressive path.
The Filipino needs to realize that once he changes his attitude, everything else becomes a lot easier.
The Filipino needs to get his act together.
The time to start is now.
"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor and stoic philosopher, 121-180 A.D.
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