Slow Death Through Loneliness

[yick]

Yeah, I kind of figured that out already. Are you just some kind of troll that wants to keep hammering on the same obvious notes? I know you're one of those "I can do anything" types of shitheads, so maybe you're just that dim-witted and single-minded.

Seeing as we are going for name calling, I might be dim witted but you are a wimp and think we are all as thick as you - entitled, soft, crappy, whiny personality probably scares them all off as well as your laziness because you can't be arsed to learn the language of the country you are in - 800 million women - around the same amount of women in Europe excluding the FSU and there isn't ONE woman you are compatible with - you complete and utter wanker.

Apparently you're mildly retarded,

And you are a soft wimp of a man.

so I'll explain it again. I like China fairly well. It's good for work, cost of living, food is fine, people are usually kind to me. It's just the one thing really - the women. And I don't dislike them. I've met plenty of sweet ones. I just don't have a connection with them.

How do you know when YOU CAN'T SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE.

Can't read them.

Because you don't know their language and you can't be arsed learning.

Can't perceive any romantic interest from them, with maybe a couple of small exceptions. I'm getting back to a good situation again here in China. Trying to rebuild my old life here. I threw away "good enough" last time. Maybe I should just be happy with that since what I want doesn't exist anymore.

Because you can't speak Chinese, it is too hard, too difficult so you don't bother and write whiny threads on here - wimp.

[Ghost]

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[Winston]

You are an idiot, Winston.

Listen, I am not Tapito, but I don't have much time for self pitying malcontents that fester your forum. Who think they are entitled to sex, even though they bring very little to the table, look - if you think I am a sock or I am another account then delete the account - I don't give a f**k.

The only thing is - I am 'Happier Abroad' one of the few who are. I hate to think I am polluting your precious forum by telling some of your whiny, entitled members to pull their socks up - if you want to leave it all to them then that is fine by me - delete my account.

Hey man. Calm down. I just asked a question. People here have used multiple usernames before. So it's not outside of the realm of possibility. For example, that troll Blue Murder was talking down on everyone here and using other usernames like Laboratory Mouse and Eightfold Path before. So you never know. Some forum members here even raised up the possibility that I post under different user names too. One guy even brought up the weird theory that I may be behind JamesBond too. lol.

Plus I don't know you. So anything is possible. I never accused you of being Tapiato. I merely asked if you were. Don't take offense to that. If you were a real man, you would not take offense so easily but be understanding that on a forum of strangers, such things are possible.

Remember, I don't know you. You haven't shown your photo or name here. So we can assume anything. You can't expect everyone to assume that an anonymous unnamed person like you must be credible and honest, just because he says he is. Every man claims to be honest, even the biggest con man does, but it doesn't make it true. Evidence is what counts, not words. Be realistic man.

So if you're a Brit, then why do you have a Mexican name in your email to me? Can you explain?

[Winston]

One more thing Yick.

You said: "I don't have much time for self pitying malcontents that fester your forum". Fine, if you don't have sympathy for people who are frustrated, confused or suffering, and aren't in perfect situations, then fine. But why don't you just ignore them then? WHY do you feel the need to put them down and insult them? Bashing someone is NOT going to help their situation at all. If you were a motivational speaker or therapist, you'd be fired instantly and booed off the stage. Your people skills seem to suck and you don't have tact. So I can't imagine you being socially successful wherever you go, even in China, because you appear to be lacking in social tact and people skills. We all know people with good people skills, and they talk nothing like you.

Talking down on people complaining isn't going to help them either, it's only going to make things worse. Wise aware people know this. You don't seem to be wise or sensitive. That makes you unlikable to good women in general and to people with good hearts. So I doubt that you are as socially successful as you claim. People who are well liked by others tend to have tact, and they try to brings others UP, NOT DOWN. They don't make problems worse for other people. No way. Such habits as yours tend to make others dislike and avoid you, because you only make their problems and difficulties worse. There are many suffering people in this world, and making it worse isn't going to help them. I'll bet you that your acquaintances and friends DO NOT come to you with their problems looking for a kind ear to hear them. So I highly doubt you have many friends who trust you and want to be around you to bathe in your "positive aura" (not).

There's an old adage: If you don't have something nice to say to someone, better not to say anything at all. Otherwise, you are only spreading negativity, hostility and antagonism. If you don't care about other people's problems, then leave them alone and don't get involved by insulting them or putting them down. Just ignore them and find other positive or meaningful ways to contribute in other areas. Let others who are better at helping people respond to them. Simple as that. You aren't cut out to be a counselor, mentor or advisor. So don't play the role you aren't suited for. Perhaps you are better suited to be a drill sergeant.

Anyhow, for now please ease off on the insults. You seem to think this is the army and you are the drill sergeant. Well your way of talking down to others might be the way to do it in army boot camp. But this is not army boot camp. This is a community of frustrated people who are misfits in their own country who seek love and happiness overseas. It's more like a support group than a boot camp. So treat the other members here like members of a support group please. You need to distinguish the difference between the two. Your methods just don't work for this kind of environment and setting. A wise person should be able to see that.

Bottom line is that your belittling tactics and victim blaming mentality here doesn't help anyone. It only makes things worse. A wise and aware person can see this and realize the folly of their ways.

[gnosis]

Some forum members here even raised up the possibility that I post under different user names too. One guy even brought up the weird theory that I may be behind JamesBond too. lol.

It's possible.

[gsjackson]

So if you're a Brit, then why do you have a Mexican name in your email to me? Can you explain?

He did explain, Wink. He's of Spanish heritage, but was born and grew up in the UK. And he's an excellent poster, even if he is a bit over-enamored, like retiredfrank, with the 'tough love' approach to dealing with other posters, so don't run him off.

[yick]

Thank you gsjackson - much appreciated.

Now...

Plus I don't know you. So anything is possible. I never accused you of being Tapiato. I merely asked if you were. Don't take offense to that. If you were a real man, you would not take offense so easily but be understanding that on a forum of strangers, such things are possible.

And if you were a real man, you would be back in the Philippines, looking after your only son, you have a good father - that I do know, but happy to deny your son the same privilege, so let's just agree you are no arbiter on what behaviour constitutes a real man.

Remember, I don't know you. You haven't shown your photo or name here.

You haven't seen Ghosts name or face on here - or many of the posters now I think of it, I actually work, I don't actually have the luxury to be putting up my name and face on here. You have the luxury of banning my account and you are free to do so anytime.

So we can assume anything. You can't expect everyone to assume that an anonymous unnamed person like you must be credible and honest, just because he says he is. Every man claims to be honest, even the biggest con man does, but it doesn't make it true. Evidence is what counts, not words. Be realistic man.

And it is the same for everyone else, if we have a thread where all your posters put their real name and photo up then I will. But you know my real name anyway so I don't see why it needs to be put up on here.

So if you're a Brit, then why do you have a Mexican name in your email to me? Can you explain?

You are called Winston - you are an American of Chinese ethnicity? Why are you called Winston?

Why why why? I demand an explanation.

f**k off

Are you serious? You are meant to have a high IQ - act like it.

I have a Spanish name because my mum is from that particular linguistic culture. Nothing hard about it - Brits have all kinds of weird and wonderful names, not everyone in the UK is called Peter, John and Joseph - those fantastic (non) British names.

[Ghost]

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[gnosis]

My girl and I had a big argument last night. We also tend to have arguments once every day or two. Like I've said, it's all hanging by a thread. I'm pretty sure a breakup is imminent. She wanted to last night, but I convinced her not to. I'm not sure it was a good idea to continue this train wreck.

Don't torture yourself. If she said she wanted to break it off, then break it off. You deserve better than this. She should be 100% dedicated to you. And if she's not...Then throw her out (figuratively -- I know you are living apart).

Is there a filipino population in the Chinese city you live in?

[abcdavid01]

I should probably give this up and just try to find the most beautiful and nubile 19 year old pinay I can and go try to make babies with someone 100% family oriented.

Yes, you should do this. I was harsh on you before because it looked like you were giving up. I want you to succeed. You're probably one of my favorite posters here. You can be harsh too, I know you're like that with my friend Tsar, but it's like you said about seeing yourself in him. It looks like you're getting things together though and that's wonderful.

The best girl I ever knew was bipolar. She'd sing me love songs at 4AM and act like I'm the devil the next morning. I had to break it off and it was hard, but a man is measured by his strength. You deserve better Ghost.

[ethan_sg]

If a girl ever suggests breakup you need be the man and follow through with it. Convincing her not to breakup just comes across as weak and puts control in her hands. Remember you have better options out there and need to get out of this scarcity mindset.

My girl and I had a big argument last night. We also tend to have arguments once every day or two. Like I've said, it's all hanging by a thread. I'm pretty sure a breakup is imminent. She wanted to last night, but I convinced her not to. I'm not sure it was a good idea to continue this train wreck. When a woman gets corrupted, she never really gets deprogrammed. I kept asking her what her ultimate goal was with her career, but she couldn't answer me. Even smart women get sucked into this trap. It feels "good" to have a "career" so they assume that career = fulfillment. This girl logically understands that being a wife and mother is most fulfilling, but it also means sacrificing her career, which she doesn't want to do.

It's so strange with this girl. Sometimes she's like a Western female, then at other times she's like a pinay.

I should probably give this up and just try to find the most beautiful and nubile 19 year old pinay I can and go try to make babies with someone 100% family oriented.

[Adama]

Getting into arguments every day or two? It sounds like she's the same person he is. Like goes to like. That's what he managed to attract.

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