Any advice for a fillipina girlfriend?

ladislav · Post by **ladislav** » September 29th, 2010, 11:10 am

The virginity thing is this- some guys think it is important and some do not. It is a matter of taste. And there is simply no accounting over tastes.

In my opinion, there are advantages and disadvantages. Yes, some guys feel very good and very much at peace with a virgin and feel that they can trust her more and they do not feel at easy imagining how she was having sex with a different guy. You may call those guys insecure, but hey that is really a judgment call. Some guys do not mind or even prefer a non virgin. With a virgin a responsibility is greater since she will most probably feel a very special attachment to you and if you decide it is not working out the break up will be very painful for both and the pain will reverberate through years to come. She will feel the loss very acutely.
With a non virgin you will have fewer hangups and more experience and some guys like that and more power to them.
Whatever your preference or lack thereof is, ,it is the case of hey, whatever jerks your dodo.
Most women on planet Earth ( population-wise speaking) are still virgins and most local guys prefer it that way. Whether it is good or bad or right or wrong is again, an opinion. Many women feel that it is the only gift they can give to a guy, especially within the context of a traditional, poorer country.
So, I say, do what you wish and what you think is right for you and decide what you want.

For marriage, and only for me, I would feel better with a virgin. My mother was one when she got married and well, I feel it would be great if I could be the first, especially if the girl is from a non Western nation. I work under dangerous conditions in dangerous countries saving money to help the girl with many things and to build a future so I feel it would be a great reward for me. However, I am not getting married any time soon and probably won't ever get married so it is a moot point. But the possibility is not excluded and I would like an Asian girl and someone who is nice and fresh and waited for me, etc if that happened.

But that is just me and my logic and my emotional approach to the whole thing. What some other guy feels is his business.

I have seen guys who have married former hookers and bar girls who have been screwed by guys for money but I am not passing judgments and I do not condemn the other guys for marrying non virgins especially in the West. Actually I admire them because they are broad minded enough to put the past behind and move towards the future. I am not yet able to be so emotionally speaking although logically I can do it.

So, whatever anyone's cup of tea is, is his/their business.

pete98146 · Post by **pete98146** » September 29th, 2010, 12:01 pm

The lady I married from Philippines was a virgin. Keeping one's virginity until they get married shows a sense of self-respect and discipline. One way or another, I don't think it's a deal breaker if she is not a virgin but getting a girl who is a virgin is certainly nice. I can't think of any disadvantages in marrying one. Afterall, she is a filipina and they'll take to sex like a fish takes to water

E_Irizarry · Post by **E_Irizarry** » September 29th, 2010, 12:43 pm

I know a myriad of Filipinas are act mad goofy. ...meaning that they act too goofy for their own britches.
And these are the ones whom I have met in the Philippines itself.

However, the bottom-heavier they were, the better and wetter the snatchbox.

MrPeabody · Post by **MrPeabody** » September 29th, 2010, 1:44 pm

I never use to think much of virginity, but have changed my mind on the subject. I was married to a Latina who thouroughly convinced me that she loved me, but then changed after we moved to America. I think she was sincere at the time. But, she was not a virgin. I think the virginity may be valuable, since you are the first one that she really emotionally bonds with in a sexual way. And if she is not a virgin, it is highly likely that at some point she was deceived into sex which is going to create a trauma leading to a permanent lack of trust. When you marry her, you inherit everything that was done to her in her past relationships. I donâ€™t want to get divorced again and I have no desire to have more then one woman, so anything that secures the bond and makes it more stable sounds good to me.

E_Irizarry · Post by **E_Irizarry** » September 29th, 2010, 3:38 pm

catameran wrote:I never use to think much of virginity, but have changed my mind on the subject. I was married to a Latina who thouroughly convinced me that she loved me, but then changed after we moved to America. I think she was sincere at the time. But, she was not a virgin. I think the virginity may be valuable, since you are the first one that she really emotionally bonds with in a sexual way. And if she is not a virgin, it is highly likely that at some point she was deceived into sex which is going to create a trauma leading to a permanent lack of trust. When you marry her, you inherit everything that was done to her in her past relationships. I donâ€™t want to get divorced again and I have no desire to have more then one woman, so anything that secures the bond and makes it more stable sounds good to me.

You brought her to America to become skankified. Forget whether she was a virgin or not.

ladislav · Post by **ladislav** » September 29th, 2010, 10:15 pm

With a foreign woman from a poorer Catholic country virginity is preferable especially if you are taking her to the US and paying for her. Non virgins from those countries usually have suffered a trauma because that thing is highly valuable there. Loss of it affects them negatively.

momopi · Post by **momopi** » September 29th, 2010, 11:08 pm

Terrence wrote:100 years ago, marrying someone who was not a virgin was tantamount to marrying a working whore.

That was pretty much the reality of the time. In 1800's about 1/3rd of the lower working class brides in England were pregnant on their wedding day, and this was the obvious ones who couldn't hide their pregnancy. Premarital sex and prostitution were rampant, with estimated 80,000 prostitutes in London in 1850, and overall estimate of 1 prostitute for every 12 adult males in urban cities. There was a large demand for prostitutes from enlisted men, because up until 1847, enlisted men's service terms was life-long and they were not permitted to marry (except officers and special cases). From 1850-1870 the enlistment term was 21 years and only 3%-7% were given permission to marry and given room in married couple's quarters. Soldiers and sailors flocked to prostitutes in droves.

Although the age of consent at the time was 13, the typical prostitute was 18-22 years old and most formally worked at a low-wage job, where she probably worked 60 hours per week. A street prostitute charged sixpence for sex, and a high-end hooker charged 5-10 shillings for the night. Poorer prostitutes hope to marry a customer to get out of poverty, and many used pregnancy as means marriage or financial support. Prostitution was not illegal, but soliciting and pimping is. Thus, a girl can only quote prices for her time and "escort service" in public, the rest has to be done in private. The tradition continues to this day, if you consider all the escort services offered in US and UK. Also, brothels were usually illegal and defined as 2 or more girls working from the same facility. You'd still find this law in the former British colony of Hong Kong today, where it's illegal for 2 or more prostitutes to work in the same premises, and thus HK brothels are all one women per apartment.

Upper class men started f*cking their maids and servants from teenage years, resulting in illegitimate children and former maids expelled from the estate and now working on the street as prostitutes. A proper lady would not consider premarital sex to be acceptable, and she is escorted by an older relative on dates with a suitor to make sure that nothing undesirable happens.