Could you love your kid if he/she turned out to be a douche?

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » January 25th, 2011, 4:05 pm

I mean... I saw Ron reagan the son of the president on tv the other day... and... wow, this guy is a douche. I heard his father was really disappointed at how he turned out. But I'm sure he still loved him, i mean it's his son, and I guess if he's your son you'd have to love him right?

keius · Post by **keius** » January 25th, 2011, 8:44 pm

It's possible to love someone and hate/dislike them.
I can say that i love my mom but i'd like to smack the hell out of her sometimes...most of the time...even. She's a good person but her personality stinks.

You will also notice that most mom's will vouch for their children even if there is certifiable video of them killing someone. They'll go on and on about what a good person he/she was...and even claim innocence..go into denial, etc. Men aren't quite so emotional

If my son turns out to be a bad seed, yeah, i'd still love him but i'd be sure to give him my my version of 'tough' love.

Adama · Post by **Adama** » January 25th, 2011, 9:49 pm

Is this the gay son?

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » January 25th, 2011, 11:14 pm

I don' t know if he's gay... I think he was into ballet which is prolly why people think he is.

yeah moms can be a pain in the ass but i'm talking more about you being the parent. What if you had a kid who turned out later in life to be a douche? ... I don't know if Id really feel like loving or caring for it very much. Maybe out of duty, but then why bother having a kid in the first place?

Adama · Post by **Adama** » January 26th, 2011, 7:31 am

Raising a kid is a joyful experience up until they turn age 12 or so.

Mr S · Post by **Mr S** » January 26th, 2011, 7:43 am

J.Adama wrote:Raising a kid is a joyful experience up until they turn age 12 or so.

Ugh, oh shit...

I remember how my sister was as a teen, wasn't fun times for me to say the least.

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » January 26th, 2011, 7:38 pm

so if your kid turned out to be a douche, would you be satisfied anyway because you have perpetuated the survival of your genes? isn't that really the whole purpose of reproduction anway?

Post by **Winston** » January 27th, 2011, 1:49 pm

I guess you can love someone out of obligation, but not like them much. You can't force yourself to really love or like someone anyway. But I guess you can feel the sort of love you'd be obligated to feel as a parent. lol

Are you saying that your kid is a douche, Boner Jones? In what way? It doesn't matter if he's chosen a "nonproductive life to the economy of enslavement" as long as he has a decent character and personality, in my book at least.

My kid is hyper and annoying compared to other kids his age. Sure I guess I love him in a general sense, but not enough to not be annoyed by his behavior or increase my tolerance level for it. The solution is to just not spend too much time around him if you don't get along. Of course, it's best to try to get along if you can.

MrPeabody · Post by **MrPeabody** » January 27th, 2011, 3:46 pm

The problem is that American culture has become a poisinous toxic soup. You really aren't raising your own kids. They are being raised by their peers, brainwashed liberal teachers, garbage mass media, MTV, etc. Raising kids outside the United States is a better option. Especially, go to a country where children still have to wear traditional school uniforms. That way you avoid a lot of the unhealthy status seeking which centers around clothing - i.e., your child being teased or humiliated because he isn't wearing the correct fashion shoes. The culture in America use to be such that you could just leave your kids alone and they would turn out right, because the culture was right and had a positive influence. But, today, that is like throwing your children to the wolves. It only takes one negative influence to break their loyalty to you. In the case of Ron Reagan, Jr., he was left to be raised by his mother. He never had a chance.

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » January 29th, 2011, 12:40 am

No I don't have kids. I don't think I'm cut out to be a parent yet... not mature or responsible enough... maybe your way is the way to go Winston, just have a kid in a poor third world country and let the mom take care of it... maybe give it some financial support once a month... that way you dont have to bust your ass taking care of it, but still feel satisfied knowing you will live beyond your life span through your kid and maybe his kids and so on...

then it doesnt matter how your kid turns out because parental love is stronger than anything, even rational thinking. I mean if your kid had a reputation for being a dick, it wouldnt matter to you because your love would overrule your objective view of him as a dick. Youd still invite him over and wanna hang out with him, give him money or help or whatever... and maybe if he's with you, he would be on his best behavior, but even if he wasn't what would you care as long as he wasn't wanted by the cops. it's your genes that matter not some individual human you created....

but that's assuming love is something you automatically feel like its an involuntary thing... I mean, who's to say you must love your kid just because you have one? So many parents abandon their kids, never seeing them again...

momopi · Post by **momopi** » January 29th, 2011, 12:51 am

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » February 15th, 2011, 11:22 am

I always thought a douchebag was more about an attitude than a look.. but i guess looks say a lot about attitude...

I dont know.. i mean if I had a kid who turned out like them... i think I'd sign away my legal rights as a father. If this is what it takes to get a gf then... i think Winston has the right idea

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