Meeting women through your friends

[Winston]

How do most couples in america meet then? Have any of you asked american couples that question?

[dancilley]

It seems taboo to ask couples where they met. The truth is, they probably had met online, but there is still some stigma associated with meeting online, so the question is uncomfortable to answer.

People do not desire to be social these days. The truth is that speaking to someone is usually annoying to them because they are constantly receiving stimulation to their brain from their phone (videos, men messaging them), from caffeine, refined sugar, refined grains, chocolate, marijuana, illegal drugs, psychiatric medication, etc.

Please watch the "Social Animal" YouTube channel. He is coaching men to approach women in parks, on the street, etc. He records the interactions from a distance, and the interactions seem real and not fake. They are not actors, I don't think. None of their faces are blurred, so maybe after the interaction happens, he obtains the female's permission to post the video. You can see how many of the women treat the men. This is solid evidence that American women are cold and unapproachable. They treat the men like the men are homeless bums asking for spare change. The women get very little pleasure from being approached. When will society realize what has happened to women? When will men stand up and communicate that women are jaded and dysfunctional? The coach in the videos talks about "getting off of online dating apps" and getting out in public to meet women...but when will people coach girls and women to get off their phone and get in public?

[MrMan]

People have asked my wife and I where we met. Of course, since we are from different countries, maybe that question comes to mind. We have asked other couples that also. I had never thought of it as taboo.

[dancilley]

I had never thought of it as taboo.

Well, most people meet online now, but yet there still remains a stigma associated with meeting via online dating sites, I think. I'd bet most people would be ashamed to admit they had met on Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, and other free sites, definitely.

Anything that exposes a person is generally regarded as taboo. Any question that reveals a person in a negative way is taboo to ask. Even filming people is generally taboo. People are very insecure and unconfident these days. I feel that a few decades ago, people enjoyed to freely tell the truth about themselves and be in the moment and didn't care so much about the consequences. In general, people are very snowflakey, very emotionally fragile, nowadays.

It pisses me off how in public you can't just talk to people and share observations, share misery, share a complaint about the poor quality of customer service, etc. People are irritable, don't want to be bothered, etc. and are socially disconnected more than ever before.

I feel it is taboo to express normal emotions, grievances, etc. I am depressed because I cannot express myself and have people around me validate me and have camaraderie with them.

We need to fix this problem.

[jamesbond]

How do most couples in america meet then? Have any of you asked american couples that question?

I have asked people I know who are married how they met, most of them have said that they met their future spouse through their friends. Also, most of the people I know who have boyfriends or girlfriends met their significant other through their friends as well.

[jamesbond]

This dating coach explains why meeting through friends is the best way to meet people.

[jamesbond]

This dating coach encourages women to not use online dating and instead she tells women to try and meet men at bookstores and grocery stores.

[jamesbond]

This guy has an interesting way of meeting women, he used this method when he was in college.

[flowerthief00]

^ I dunno about in college, but outside of college I do not think that this works. Women have nothing better to do than hang out with a cool male friend? Is he kidding? Women can easily find a sleugh of things better to do (in their minds) than hang out with a male "friend".

[jamesbond]

^ I dunno about in college, but outside of college I do not think that this works. Women have nothing better to do than hang out with a cool male friend? Is he kidding? Women can easily find a sleugh of things better to do (in their minds) than hang out with a male "friend".

Overall after college it is very difficult to meet women. Your friends move away, get married and some friends you just loose touch with. I might start taking classes at a community college just so I can have a chance to make new friends and maybe meet some women.

[jamesbond]

I read a survey recently that said 67% of people in America met their significant other through their social circles (friends, family members, co-workers) and only 12% met through online dating.

[jamesbond]

If you are not able to meet women through your friends there is always the 'cold approach.'

[jamesbond]

Here is Stephan Erdman explaining to guys why they are not able to meet women.

[jamesbond]

Has anybody had any success meeting women through their friends? I have met a few girls through my friends, a couple of them became my girlfriend. It seems a lot better way to meet girls rather than doing cold approaching.

[jamesbond]

All of my American friends who are married tell me they met their wives this way. Either through a friend or another family member who knew an available woman. Only one met his future wife when he was conducting surveys at the mall.

It seems as if meeting women through your social circle is the only way to go in the USA. Everyone I know who is married or has a girlfriend met them through their friends or family members.