3 Taboo Q's Re: Making Friends, Meeting Women and NE Asians/Orientals

[Winston]

Question: How come in america cold approaching girls feels taboo? And even middle class people in the Philippines dont like it either. They only like to meet people through cliques. Being cliquish seems to be part of middle class culture and mores.

However when u watch sitcoms like friends or seinfeld in the 90s they make it look like cold approach is normal and everyone is doing it? This made me assume that cold approach was normal in america and i just lacked confidence. It kept me confused for a whole decade in the 90s. Why? How does america explain this discrepancy? They never do and no one asks this question even. Why?

Its weird how everyone has a false presupposition and no one calls it out or exposes it. Except for misfits and outcasts like me and steve hoca and the forum guys and TFL guys.

I got another question. How come in america if u are lonely or alienated or socially disconnected you are only allowed to say:

1. I am too shy and introverted and i dont know how to meet people. I lack social skills.
2. I work too much and dont have time to meet people.

However you are NOT allowed to say:

"I cant meet people because they are very closed and cliquish and dont talk to strangers."

You are definitely not allowed to say that even if its totally true and justified. So no one says it.

Even romance tour documentaries such as "Love Me" produced by AFA shows guys going on the tour as saying #1 or 2 above at the beginning of the film. No one dares to say the other quote. Why? Im sure these men know its the truth but they always stick to saying #1 or 2. Why?

Its like there is a false presupposition that americans and every country are very open and sociable and if u just "get out there and talk to people" you will meet people naturally and make friends and join social cliques as if it were easy and natural. All u need is some free time and basic social skills and conversation skills, and people will be open and friendly and social to u, just like in the movies. Thats the false assumption. No one questions it of course. You're not allowed to.

Why is that? Ive never understood that.

Another question. Have u noticed that Orientals and NE Asians (Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese, Koreans) are hard to get along with or vibe with? Most of them that is, unless they are very westernized. They seem to have a cold awkward vibe and body language. Its hard ro explain.

Someone in the Taiwan expat blog i cited said the same thing. They seem wired differently or conditioned differently by their culture.

Its hard to put into words. Its like they are in an alternate universe and are a different breed and beat to a different drum. You know what i mean?

They think differently and carry themselves differently. To me they seem cold and awkward and robotic and live in fear all the time. Its like there is a black hole inside them or vortex that sucks out their soul and keeps them living in fear so they are willing to be slaves and work for money all the time as if they were born to do that and never question it. Its like they were born to work and make money as if it were in their blood and soul and its not even a choice or free will. Kind of weird. Makes u wonder why u arent like that and they are. You guys know what i mean?

Even most Orientals and NE Asians in the USA are kind of like this too, unless they are highly westernized of course (like me). Have u guys noticed this? It makes it hard to vibe with them. Like someone is off and awkward.

Kind of like this: if u put ketchup on a chocolate chip cookie and eat it, its edible but tastes awkward and weird, like the flavors are off. Thats the best way to describe it. Its like even if u make friends with orientals or date them or hang out with them, it still feels awkward like something is off and isnt natural or smooth. U know what i mean? Its hard to put into words. Thats why i never recommend NE Asia in my articles or posts or podcasts.

[Joe_]

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[Gali]

Question: How come in america cold approaching girls feels taboo? And even middle class people in the Philippines dont like it either. They only like to meet people through cliques. Being cliquish seems to be part of middle class culture and mores.

However when u watch sitcoms like friends or seinfeld in the 90s they make it look like cold approach is normal and everyone is doing it? This made me assume that cold approach was normal in america and i just lacked confidence. It kept me confused for a whole decade in the 90s. Why? How does america explain this discrepancy? They never do and no one asks this question even. Why?

Its weird how everyone has a false presupposition and no one calls it out or exposes it. Except for misfits and outcasts like me and steve hoca and the forum guys and TFL guys.

I got another question. How come in america if u are lonely or alienated or socially disconnected you are only allowed to say:

1. I am too shy and introverted and i dont know how to meet people. I lack social skills.
2. I work too much and dont have time to meet people.

However you are NOT allowed to say:

"I cant meet people because they are very closed and cliquish and dont talk to strangers."

You are definitely not allowed to say that even if its totally true and justified. So no one says it.

Even romance tour documentaries such as "Love Me" produced by AFA shows guys going on the tour as saying #1 or 2 above at the beginning of the film. No one dares to say the other quote. Why? Im sure these men know its the truth but they always stick to saying #1 or 2. Why?

Its like there is a false presupposition that americans and every country are very open and sociable and if u just "get out there and talk to people" you will meet people naturally and make friends and join social cliques as if it were easy and natural. All u need is some free time and basic social skills and conversation skills, and people will be open and friendly and social to u, just like in the movies. Thats the false assumption. No one questions it of course. You're not allowed to.

Why is that? Ive never understood that.

Another question. Have u noticed that Orientals and NE Asians (Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese, Koreans) are hard to get along with or vibe with? Most of them that is, unless they are very westernized. They seem to have a cold awkward vibe and body language. Its hard ro explain.

Someone in the Taiwan expat blog i cited said the same thing. They seem wired differently or conditioned differently by their culture.

Its hard to put into words. Its like they are in an alternate universe and are a different breed and beat to a different drum. You know what i mean?

They think differently and carry themselves differently. To me they seem cold and awkward and robotic and live in fear all the time. Its like there is a black hole inside them or vortex that sucks out their soul and keeps them living in fear so they are willing to be slaves and work for money all the time as if they were born to do that and never question it. Its like they were born to work and make money as if it were in their blood and soul and its not even a choice or free will. Kind of weird. Makes u wonder why u arent like that and they are. You guys know what i mean?

Even most Orientals and NE Asians in the USA are kind of like this too, unless they are highly westernized of course (like me). Have u guys noticed this? It makes it hard to vibe with them. Like someone is off and awkward.

Kind of like this: if u put ketchup on a chocolate chip cookie and eat it, its edible but tastes awkward and weird, like the flavors are off. Thats the best way to describe it. Its like even if u make friends with orientals or date them or hang out with them, it still feels awkward like something is off and isnt natural or smooth. U know what i mean? Its hard to put into words. Thats why i never recommend NE Asia in my articles or posts or podcasts.

See the positive. They give you a reason to complain about it. That is the biggest thing that you enjoy.