Should Public Duende be banned?

[publicduende]

I was in a WhatsApp group and someone told me that @publicduende was with @Rock in the Philippines and PD stepped in and saved Rock from having to experience some kind of event that would have put him in a bad situation there. I know what was told to me but I won't describe it in detail on here.

That should say something about his good character as a man and a friend to keep.

Ah haha, I remember. Embarrassing story not just for him, but for me as well. I really don't know if I saved him or not, as that "bad situation" might have never happened in the first place. Still, after that episode Rock probably thought that I did something to embarrass him and when I met him at his usual spot in Makati, he pretended to ignore me. When I got next to him, he shooed me off with an excuse.

I never spoke to him since. And it's too bad, because, despite his weird behaviours, I had a lot of respect for him, and still do.

[Winston]

I was in a WhatsApp group and someone told me that @publicduende was with @Rock in the Philippines and PD stepped in and saved Rock from having to experience some kind of event that would have put him in a bad situation there. I know what was told to me but I won't describe it in detail on here.

That should say something about his good character as a man and a friend to keep.

Yeah that was weird. The thing is, PD did Rock a favor. So I don't get why Rock holds a grudge against him? Maybe Rock felt that PD was taking the girl's side? Even so, why not? PD knew that girl too and she was a friend of his. I asked Rock about this a few times but he would never talk about it. He said he might tell me someday and that was that. Rock could be a little crazy. Who knows. Everyone here is a bit eccentric in some way.

I've met PD a few times at a restaurant for lunch with Rock. He is nice and intellectual but kind of rigid like most Italian men are. lol. And stubborn like Sophia Loren, the famous hotheaded Italian actress. lol

Why does this thread exist? PD is a normal guy and not a troll. He doesn't bash people with insults or mean nasty comments. Maybe he butt some heads with some posters and so they demonized him? That can happen too. Because we all like to see faults in others but never in ourselves.

[Winston]

I was in a WhatsApp group and someone told me that @publicduende was with @Rock in the Philippines and PD stepped in and saved Rock from having to experience some kind of event that would have put him in a bad situation there. I know what was told to me but I won't describe it in detail on here.

That should say something about his good character as a man and a friend to keep.

Ah haha, I remember. Embarrassing story not just for him, but for me as well. I really don't know if I saved him or not, as that "bad situation" might have never happened in the first place. Still, after that episode Rock probably thought that I did something to embarrass him and when I met him at his usual spot in Makati, he pretended to ignore me. When I got next to him, he shooed me off with an excuse.

I never spoke to him since. And it's too bad, because, despite his weird behaviours, I had a lot of respect for him, and still do.

PD do you remember if you ever said anything to Rock that he might have misinterpreted or misconstrued or taken the wrong way? Maybe he was mad that you took her side and betrayed him? That's the only thing I can think of.

Usually Rock will cool down and return to normal after an argument or flare up. But if something deeper happens, he cuts you off and sees that as a red line. He may have fragile emotions and beyond a certain point, he cannot tolerate them so he dumps them and ejects them from his life. He is autistic I heard and that may be a coping mechanism for him. Either way, it means he's not a real friend you can trust and rely on to be stable and loyal.

[Shemp]

Why does this thread exist?

If you really want to know, scroll up and see my initial comment in this thread where i linked to the infamous turd-flinging thread that resulted in PD's temporary banning. However, I suggest you do NOT scroll up and simply forget about that unpleasant incident.

[Winston]

Yeah, the whole argument was stupid. Winston was suggesting that he go settle down in Europe on a shoestring budget and find a white girlfriend. PD was suggesting that he was unlikely to succeed. That should have been the end of the matter, but they both doubled down and went into absolutist mode. PD is to some extent at fault. After the first couple of posts he should have said something like “OK Winston, I think this might be a waste of your time and money for the reasons previously given, but it is your time and money and maybe you are right and I wish you all the best”. He didn’t do that for some reason.

That's a good point Cornfed. Yes PD should have said that. It would have been wise and reasonable. However, I was not in any absolutist mode. I am reasonable and see truth as being in the middle. My main argument to PD was that he was being too extreme and seeing 100 percent black and white. For example, he said that the people you meet while traveling are only superficial and do not result in lasting friendships. That may be true 90 percent of the time, but not 100 percent. Once in a while you will meet someone you have better chemistry and resonance with that will be a more real friend or relationship. That is how life works. Most girls I meet flake out yes, but a few do not and will see me again a second time or regularly. So nothing is 100 percent or 0 percent. That was my point. For some reason PD did not want to acknowledge that or accept that even though it's common sense. I never understood why. But that was my main point. I was not being absolutist at all if you think about it, just reasonable and going by past experience and common sense and the law of averages.

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me. That raises the law of averages I mentioned above and gives me some advantages that I would not otherwise have. When you resonate with a culture, you get more positive experiences there and more positive coincidences or synchronicities too. So that was the big picture I was conveying.

[publicduende]

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me. That raises the law of averages I mentioned above and gives me some advantages that I would not otherwise have. When you resonate with a culture, you get more positive experiences there and more positive coincidences or synchronicities too. So that was the big picture I was conveying.

I have never understood why you never took the plunge and moved to Europe. Another famous HAer of Italian ancestry (you know who he is) has been living in Bucharest, Romania, for at least a couple of years and has thoroughly enjoyed the culture, the food, the occasional encounters. He would swear that Bucharest is head & shoulders above any big US city, in terms of quality of life and quality of people.

Why don't you ever even think of leaving Taiwan or the Philippines and move to a place like that?

[kangarunner]

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me.

@Winston Have you ever been to a European country other than Russia which is not technically in Europe? The way you talk sometimes sounds so far-fetched and whimsical. How can you say that your soul is "more European" if you have never been to Europe? And Europe is many different countries, each with their own distinct cultural qualities and differences. There is no one "European soul".

I would agree though that Europeans are going to be much more open to reciprocating your style of conversation than anyone here in Asia will.

I have never understood why you never took the plunge and moved to Europe. Another famous HAer of Italian ancestry (you know who he is) has been living in Bucharest, Romania, for at least a couple of years and has thoroughly enjoyed the culture, the food, the occasional encounters. He would swear that Bucharest is head & shoulders above any big US city, in terms of quality of life and quality of people.

Why don't you ever even think of leaving Taiwan or the Philippines and move to a place like that?

Europe is a higher cost.
Women in Europe are much harder to get than women in Asia.
Europe is more formal and uptight than Asia is.
Places in SEA are like adult Disney Land (Pattaya, Angeles City, Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh).
Europe is for the aristocrats.

Furthermore, I don't think anyone can argue that certain countries in Asia literally have the most optimal women for marriage. Asian women have been genetically engineered to serve the pleasures of men.

[Winston]

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me.

@Winston Have you ever been to a European country other than Russia which is not technically in Europe? The way you talk sometimes sounds so far-fetched and whimsical. How can you say that your soul is "more European" if you have never been to Europe? And Europe is many different countries, each with their own distinct cultural qualities and differences. There is no one "European soul".

I would agree though that Europeans are going to be much more open to reciprocating your style of conversation than anyone here in Asia will.

I have never understood why you never took the plunge and moved to Europe. Another famous HAer of Italian ancestry (you know who he is) has been living in Bucharest, Romania, for at least a couple of years and has thoroughly enjoyed the culture, the food, the occasional encounters. He would swear that Bucharest is head & shoulders above any big US city, in terms of quality of life and quality of people.

Why don't you ever even think of leaving Taiwan or the Philippines and move to a place like that?

Europe is a higher cost.
Women in Europe are much harder to get than women in Asia.
Europe is more formal and uptight than Asia is.
Places in SEA are like adult Disney Land (Pattaya, Angeles City, Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh).
Europe is for the aristocrats.

Furthermore, I don't think anyone can argue that certain countries in Asia literally have the most optimal women for marriage. Asian women have been genetically engineered to serve the pleasures of men.

Yes I've been to the Baltic States - Latvia, Lithuania, Estonia - and to Poland and Ukraine. I'm sure I've been to Europe in many of my past lives too remember? I mentioned this many times. I have met many Europeans during my travels and I always vibe good with them. Much more than with Americans. Their souls are cut from the same cloth as mine. They are full of creativity and open mindedness like me. But Asians think more in a straight line with narrowness and rigidity, as my friend Jon said.

Europe is not formal or uptight. That's in the movies when they show the aristocracy. Watch any Andre Rieu concert and you will see how laid back and relaxed it is. Especially in the Old Town.

I told you many times. I don't have my free will because something supernatural keeps blocking me and hampering my free will. Ask God what it is. You aren't listening. If I had my free will open and unimpeded, I wouldn't be complaining.

Some parts of Europe are expensive and some aren't. Eastern Europe is cheaper. Czech Republic used to be dirt cheap in the 80s and 90s. We should have went then. Spain has lower cost of living too. So does Greece. Not all of Europe is expensive like UK or Switzerland. You forget Europe has a lot of p4p too so you can always pay for sex. Many guys say getting sex and women is easier in Europe than America. But it might not be easy for everyone. It's definitely easier to get dates and kisses there.

Remember this free kiss I got in Latvia with a girl I met at the train station? The kiss was longer than this but the girl recording it pushed the stop button accidentally.



Also this random girl on the street in Latvia that kissed me after I gave her a donation. I asked for a kiss in exchange and she said sure and kissed me on the lips. See below. That would never happen in the US. So you see it is easier to get kisses in Europe at least than the USA.

[Winston]

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me. That raises the law of averages I mentioned above and gives me some advantages that I would not otherwise have. When you resonate with a culture, you get more positive experiences there and more positive coincidences or synchronicities too. So that was the big picture I was conveying.

I have never understood why you never took the plunge and moved to Europe. Another famous HAer of Italian ancestry (you know who he is) has been living in Bucharest, Romania, for at least a couple of years and has thoroughly enjoyed the culture, the food, the occasional encounters. He would swear that Bucharest is head & shoulders above any big US city, in terms of quality of life and quality of people.

Why don't you ever even think of leaving Taiwan or the Philippines and move to a place like that?

I told you, something supernatural keeps blocking me. Remember? If I had my free will I would be galivanting all over the world. Which Italian friend of ours are you referring to? Alex is in Angeles City. Who else could it be? So you are pro-Europe now and advocate it now? Your mind is more clear now?

Btw did you get my main point to you above? Here it is again:

My main argument to PD was that he was being too extreme and seeing 100 percent black and white. For example, he said that the people you meet while traveling are only superficial and do not result in lasting friendships. That may be true 90 percent of the time, but not 100 percent. Once in a while you will meet someone you have better chemistry and resonance with that will be a more real friend or relationship. That is how life works. Most girls I meet flake out yes, but a few do not and will see me again a second time or regularly. So nothing is 100 percent or 0 percent. That was my point. For some reason PD did not want to acknowledge that or accept that even though it's common sense. I never understood why. But that was my main point. I was not being absolutist at all if you think about it, just reasonable and going by past experience and common sense and the law of averages.

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me. That raises the law of averages I mentioned above and gives me some advantages that I would not otherwise have. When you resonate with a culture, you get more positive experiences there and more positive coincidences or synchronicities too. So that was the big picture I was conveying.

[publicduende]

Europe is a higher cost.
Women in Europe are much harder to get than women in Asia.
Europe is more formal and uptight than Asia is.
Places in SEA are like adult Disney Land (Pattaya, Angeles City, Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh).
Europe is for the aristocrats.

Furthermore, I don't think anyone can argue that certain countries in Asia literally have the most optimal women for marriage. Asian women have been genetically engineered to serve the pleasures of men.

@kangarunner

Asia is too big a place to generalize. Getting a girl in Japan or South Korea, who is not a prostitute or moonlighting as a prostitute, is even harder than in most of Europe. Even mainland Chinese girls are getting sky-high materialistic. They won't even entertain a man who doesn't have it all, in the looks, money and status departments.

The "adult Disneylands" of Pattaya, Angeles, Bangkok and HCM are the red light district. Again, strictly pay-4-play, nothing less, nothing more. If it's this kind of entertainment you're talking about, there are brothels and whore streets in almost every large city in the world. South East Asia happens to have some of the cheapest of the lot. One cannot generalize, though, by saying that "it's easy to hook up with cute girl in SEA". The correct sentence should be "it's super-easy to hook up with prostitutes in SEA". Or, anywhere in the world, for that matter.

[publicduende]

I told you, something supernatural keeps blocking me. Remember? If I had my free will I would be galivanting all over the world. Which Italian friend of ours are you referring to? Alex is in Angeles City. Who else could it be? So you are pro-Europe now and advocate it now? Your mind is more clear now?

I am beyond hope with this. I cannot understand your "supernatural" argument. You seem to plug it in every time your logic has a hole, or every time you cannot explain (or you don't want to admit to yourself) your failure to get some happiness, despite being single and with money.

I wasn't referring to Alex, by the way, but to our Italian-American friend.

I am not saying I am pro-Europe. I am saying that someone with a $200K/year job who is not tied to an US office, is having a very decent time in one of the European capitals. With that kind of money, he could have enjoyed many other cities, not only in Romania but in Czech Republic, Hungary and even Italy, Spain, and Portugal.

Btw did you get my main point to you above? Here it is again:

My main argument to PD was that he was being too extreme and seeing 100 percent black and white. For example, he said that the people you meet while traveling are only superficial and do not result in lasting friendships. That may be true 90 percent of the time, but not 100 percent. Once in a while you will meet someone you have better chemistry and resonance with that will be a more real friend or relationship. That is how life works. Most girls I meet flake out yes, but a few do not and will see me again a second time or regularly. So nothing is 100 percent or 0 percent. That was my point. For some reason PD did not want to acknowledge that or accept that even though it's common sense. I never understood why. But that was my main point. I was not being absolutist at all if you think about it, just reasonable and going by past experience and common sense and the law of averages.

Also my soul is much more European than Asian or American. And I've always felt that I've had some past lives there. So I have good energy in Europe and good vibes and feel more comfortable there and feel like people there are more closer to being kindred spirits with me. That raises the law of averages I mentioned above and gives me some advantages that I would not otherwise have. When you resonate with a culture, you get more positive experiences there and more positive coincidences or synchronicities too. So that was the big picture I was conveying.

I wasn't been black and white when I said that. I was (and still am) doubtful that a lifestyle of cheap hostels and the occasional prostitute is the way to go, when choosing to live in Europe. You base your experience on trips paid to Eastern Europe decades ago. Things have changed since then: people all over the world are much more isolated in their own mobile phone/social media cocoon, much less interested in casual conversations with strangers, especially strangers they don't find attractive or even just interesting. I am more and more pessimistic about the entire planet, not just the part of it called Europe.

Once in a while you meet someone with whom you feel you have a special connection, and you get along well. It might be the start of a friendship, a physical relationship or even the total relationship package. Yet, this might apply anywhere in the world. Let's not forget that you vibe with a person, not with a place in particular. I found a very good friend in Alex (and I thank you for being the common friend!), yet I found Alex here in the Philippines, not in Italy. I found someone who thinks and feels like an European, and Italian, all the way over here.

Same may happen to you. I think the key is not to close the door to opportunity. Which is why, as you may remember, I tried to suggest you widen your horizon and start joining social activities in Manila (or Taipei). The chance of finding better chats, better faces, better minds, is not guaranteed but certainly statistically higher.