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The best solution to the Asian American man’s dating dilemma (by my Expat Advisor)
A great expose by my Expat Advisor that puts the Asian American man’s dating situation in perspective and offers the best solution:
is no secret now that Asian men in
The deal seems
to be this: Many Caucasian women in the
English of the ‘flied lice’ variety”, noodle shop cooks or laundry managers, and not as being as powerful and confident as White or African American
males, or as
romantic as Hispanic men. Plus, throughout the
history of the
battlefield, and whose women were to be taken home to mom as war brides after their men lie dead in the jungle or at the bottom of the sea.
In other cases, Asian countries were often suppliers of poor workers or indigent immigrants of all kinds to provide cheap labors in developed, most often
Caucasian countries. Also, in the past, Asian Americans, period, were victims of serious discrimination coming from the government, a practice
which has since
been abolished but whose residues still
haunt Asian men even today as they are not seen as fully American by
With the great improvements in Civil Rights, and the general feeling of guilt coming from mainstream population groups (whoever they may be) the situation
of the Asian
minority has improved significantly, for sure.
The pejorative word “Oriental” has been stricken
down from printed materials
and is avoided in daily speech. The proud term “Asian
American” has been
born. Asian men are
in the government
and politics, they run successful businesses, they are achievers in the
of science and technology, law and medicine. However, as far as
of all colors seeing an Asian American man as a preferred dating and
partner goes, the state of affairs still leaves a lot to be desired. In
if you are an Asian man in
men, who feel that they are being discriminated
against on the
1) Ignoring it and playing the numbers game. If one goes through enough dating ads, attends enough parties and invites enough women out, there will be a number of women who will want to date, and possibly have a serious relationship with you. The men who go down the path of copious dating and selection will disregard any flak that comes their way in the process, and come out winners in the end. That is a good strategy except that it is not very likely that one could end up with a high quality female partner in the end if one stops his search too early. If one still continues dating, ignores numerous rejections, and sieves through any unreliable partners that appear in the process, one will end up with a prize- a good and honest woman to be one’s companion in life. But boy, it is going to take a really long time, believe me!
It is a rather daunting course of action, and is not suitable for every Asian man, especially not for those who come from a background that emphasizes
modesty and non-aggressiveness.
complex and hatred of American men of other races, particularly those
Caucasian race, and writing articles and posts on the Internet
bulletin boards complaining about lack of dates and the prejudice
American men. Interviews with commiserating media and videos on
also become a vent for the frustrations of such men. The hope is that
by other frustrated Asian men, or one is felt sorry for. In both cases, one still often remains dateless.
3) Bringing a female partner from the Old Country. For some reason, this approach is seen as un-cool by a big number of Asian American men. They see it as a step back, and feel that a woman from the Old Country will become a burden on the already Americanized husband, what with her old-fashioned customs and behavior which will interfere with the further acceptance of the couple and their children into the American society. Only very traditional, mature in age, or religious Asian men seem to opt for that route; not the majority of the Asian male population of the country.
4) Finally, there has recently been a trend among US citizens of Asian extraction to date internationally. One can call this trend Romantic
What happens is that after having discovered the
dating opportunities, such men have decided to
cross oceans and date in other countries. They have finally had the
claim a very important truth: It
their fault that the
world, one needs to find a culture in which such stereotypes have not yet spoiled things for Asian men.
The trend of Asian Americans traveling to other nations in search of romantic opportunities is growing as they are now discovering huge areas on Earth where they are seen for what most of them truly are: diligent, intelligent, honest and dependable Americans with excellent work and business ethics, a great deal of talent, gentleman-ness, decency and a sense of responsibility that should make any female proud.
Also, in many countries the stereotypes of Asian men are very positive to begin with. They are seen as smart, sexy, brave, adventurous and as excellent
providers, too. They are not viewed as poor immigrants running noodle shops, but as progressive and confident modern Alfa-males. Yes, it is true. Go
to such places and see for yourself.
dating also allows an Asian man to finally
meet numerous Caucasian women who look like
involved with the man romantically and look up to him
If you are an
Asian American man, I would urge you to
explore this past option. However, you will need to know where to go.
is a big place and it would make little sense to leave the
easy for you to compete with an army of several million bachelors scouting the Chinese countryside in search of brides.
The best places for Asian men are probably the following:
Asian men in ways that the
date beautiful women there.
Yes, this ostracism seems to be a sad reality for many an Asian man in the “Anglo Saxon” world, and it is high time for decisive steps be taken to solve that
insidious problem. Waiting around until the attitudes and stereotypes of the American society change for the better (which may take decades) does not seem to be an effective technique of solving it. Hence, such love travel appears to be a surgically efficient way of dealing with it.
So, maybe it is
time to do some research, save up some money
and buy that ticket. You will be able to solve the dateless-ness and
many Asian guys face in
It may not be an easy path to take, but the rewards will be tremendous. You may have to learn new languages, new rules and customs, and whole new ways of life. However, your own life will be rewarding beyond your wildest dreams. The only very important condition that you need to fulfill is to be able to support yourself while on the go, which is becoming more and more possible with the help of the Internet and the general globalization of the business environment. Becoming a computer programmer online, running a money-making website, living off rents, and doing similar things whereby you are able to create a cash flow from anywhere in the world, will liberate you from having to be located in the US all the time and depending on the unfriendly (to you) US (or the UK, Australian, etc.) love market.
Life in many
countries of the world is now very similar to
life in the
terms of the variety of products, services and business opportunities. You may even, one day, wish to open a business in one of those countries. One only
need to dare to
leave one’s 9-5 job in the
So, if you are
an Asian American man (or a citizen of any
other immigrant nation such as