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The best solution to the Asian American man’s dating dilemma (by my Expat Advisor)
A great expose by my Expat Advisor that puts the Asian American man’s dating situation in perspective and offers the best solution:
“It
is no secret now that Asian men in
The deal seems
to be this: Many Caucasian women in the
The
English of the
‘flied lice’ variety”, noodle shop cooks
or
laundry managers, and not as being as powerful and confident as White
or African
American
males, or as
romantic as Hispanic men. Plus, throughout the
history of the
battlefield,
and whose women were to be taken home to mom as
war brides after their men lie dead in the jungle or at the bottom of
the sea.
In other cases,
Asian countries were often suppliers of poor
workers or indigent immigrants of all kinds to provide cheap labors in
developed, most often
Caucasian
countries. Also, in the past, Asian Americans,
period, were victims of serious discrimination coming from the
government, a
practice
which has since
been abolished but whose residues still
haunt Asian men even today as they are not seen as fully American by
the
With the great
improvements in Civil Rights, and the general
feeling of guilt coming from mainstream population groups (whoever they
may be)
the situation
of the Asian
minority has improved significantly, for sure.
The pejorative word “Oriental” has been stricken
down from printed materials
and is avoided in daily speech. The proud term “Asian
American” has been
born. Asian men are
in the government
and politics, they run successful businesses, they are achievers in the
field
of science and technology, law and medicine. However, as far as
American women
of all colors seeing an Asian American man as a preferred dating and
marriage
partner goes, the state of affairs still leaves a lot to be desired. In
short,
if you are an Asian man in
Those Asian
men, who feel that they are being discriminated
against on the
1) Ignoring
it
and playing the numbers game. If one goes through enough dating ads,
attends enough
parties and invites enough women out, there will be a number of women
who will
want to date, and possibly have a serious relationship with you. The
men who go
down the path of copious dating and selection will disregard any flak
that
comes their way in the process, and come out winners in the end. That
is a good
strategy except that it is not very likely that one could end up with a
high
quality female partner in the end if one stops his search too early. If
one
still continues dating, ignores numerous rejections, and sieves through
any
unreliable partners that appear in the process, one will end up with a
prize- a
good and honest woman to be one’s companion in life. But boy,
it is going to
take a really long time, believe me!
It is a rather
daunting course of action, and is not
suitable for every Asian man, especially not for those who come from a
background that emphasizes
modesty and
non-aggressiveness.
2) Developing
a
complex and hatred of American men of other races, particularly those
of the
Caucasian race, and writing articles and posts on the Internet
newsgroups and
bulletin boards complaining about lack of dates and the prejudice
against Asian
American men. Interviews with commiserating media and videos on
youtube.com
also become a vent for the frustrations of such men. The hope is that
the
by other
frustrated Asian men, or one is felt sorry for. In
both cases, one still often remains dateless.
3) Bringing
a
female partner from the Old Country. For some reason, this approach is
seen as
un-cool by a big number of Asian American men.
They see it as a step back, and feel that a woman from the
Old Country
will become a burden on the already Americanized husband, what with her
old-fashioned customs and behavior which will interfere with the
further
acceptance of the couple and their children into the American society.
Only
very traditional, mature in age, or religious Asian men seem to opt for
that
route; not the majority of the Asian male population of the country.
4) Finally,
there
has recently been a trend among US citizens of Asian extraction to date
internationally. One can call this trend Romantic
Multi-Nationalization.
What happens is that after having discovered the
them with
dating opportunities, such men have decided to
cross oceans and date in other countries. They have finally had the
courage to
claim a very important truth: It
is not
their fault that the
world, one
needs to find a culture in which such stereotypes
have not yet spoiled things for Asian men.
The trend of
Asian Americans traveling to other nations in
search of romantic opportunities is growing as they are now discovering
huge
areas on Earth where they are seen for what most of them truly are:
diligent,
intelligent, honest and dependable Americans with excellent work and
business
ethics, a great deal of talent, gentleman-ness, decency and a sense of
responsibility that should make any female proud.
Also, in many
countries the stereotypes of Asian men are
very positive to begin with. They are seen as smart, sexy, brave,
adventurous
and as excellent
providers, too. They
are not viewed as poor immigrants running noodle shops, but as
progressive and
confident modern Alfa-males. Yes, it is true. Go
to such places
and see for yourself.
International
dating also allows an Asian man to finally
meet numerous Caucasian women who look like
involved with
the man romantically and look up to him
If you are an
Asian American man, I would urge you to
explore this past option. However, you will need to know where to go.
The world
is a big place and it would make little sense to leave the
easy for you to
compete with an army of several million
bachelors scouting the Chinese countryside in search of brides.
The best places
for Asian men are probably the following:
In
there, welcome
Asian men in ways that the
Parts of
Parts of
date beautiful
women there.
Yes, this
ostracism seems to be a sad reality for many an
Asian man in the “Anglo Saxon” world, and it is
high time for decisive steps be
taken to solve that
insidious
problem. Waiting around until the attitudes and
stereotypes of the American society change for the better (which may
take
decades) does not seem to be an effective technique of solving it.
Hence, such
love travel appears to be a surgically efficient way of dealing with it.
So, maybe it is
time to do some research, save up some money
and buy that ticket. You will be able to solve the dateless-ness and
gloom that
many Asian guys face in
It may not be
an easy path to take, but the rewards will be
tremendous. You may have to learn new languages, new rules and customs,
and
whole new ways of life. However, your own life will be rewarding beyond
your
wildest dreams. The only very important condition that you need to
fulfill is to
be able to support yourself while on the go, which is becoming more and
more
possible with the help of the Internet and the general globalization of
the
business environment. Becoming a computer programmer online, running a
money-making website, living off rents, and doing similar things
whereby you
are able to create a cash flow from anywhere in the world, will
liberate you
from having to be located in the US all the time and depending on the
unfriendly (to you) US (or the UK, Australian, etc.) love market.
Life in many
countries of the world is now very similar to
life in the
terms of the
variety of products, services and business
opportunities. You may even, one day, wish to open a business in one of
those
countries. One only
need to dare to
leave one’s 9-5 job in the
So, if you are
an Asian American man (or a citizen of any
other immigrant nation such as
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